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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Regrettably, Irish society has largely lost most of the sense of community that was evident decades ago; or is this a case of nostalgic naivete on my behalf? 
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The question is about treating yourself with love and care |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
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"Regrettably, Irish society has largely lost most of the sense of community that was evident decades ago; or is this a case of nostalgic naivete on my behalf?
The question is about treating yourself with love and care "
I think the societal context has a direct influence on how we treat each other and how we treat ourselves. Society has become more callous, selfish and self-interested; overall we were kinder to ourselves an others in the past. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""Treat yourself how you would treat a person you care about"
How many of you do?
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Yes I do, thankfully I started learning to do this after a big bad dose of depression  |
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
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""Treat yourself how you would treat a person you care about"
How many of you do?
Yes I do, thankfully I started learning to do this after a big bad dose of depression "
Glad you got past it |
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
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""Treat yourself how you would treat a person you care about"
How many of you do?
Yes I do, thankfully I started learning to do this after a big bad dose of depression
Glad you got past it "
Shame it seemed you need to hide your profile though 
Or maybe that's just me.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Regrettably, Irish society has largely lost most of the sense of community that was evident decades ago; or is this a case of nostalgic naivete on my behalf?
The question is about treating yourself with love and care
I think the societal context has a direct influence on how we treat each other and how we treat ourselves. Society has become more callous, selfish and self-interested; overall we were kinder to ourselves an others in the past."
I'm not sure thata 100% truethe callousness and self interest is just more evident and less subtle.
The "community" in Irish culture to me from speaking to older generations has always seemed like an information gathering exercise.
And let's face it there was alot going on in our communities that people wouldn't or couldn't speak about, that I wouldn't consider a community looking out for each other |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In relation to the OP.
I don't think that's a great definition of kindness.
There is a change in dynamics and relationships when you care about someone.
I try to be respectful and polite to randomness but I don't treat them the same as those I care about, it would come off as disingenuous to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I completely misread the OP 
I probably treat myself better than anyone I care about.
I think it would be hard to find a balance where you treat yourself exactly the same as others. And I'd much rather treat myself better than worse |
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""Treat yourself how you would treat a person you care about"
How many of you do?
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I don't. I'm too busy caring for others to put myself first. Be it with my time or financially. I know I should do more for myself because life is so short but it's often just not possible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have been working on it for the last 7 years before that i couldn't love myself all that great. I was so self centered now i just make sure to use more self care and not to be so hard on myself.
Saying no and people pleasing is gone from my life more or less now. I reach out and allow myself to be reached in return, a listen ear certainly can help others in strive. Giving back to society what society has given takes me out of the equation when i do this it helps me love myself more.  |
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