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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, there’s a couple that I know and I’d love to have sex with the lady of the couple ( they are married by the way ).
We get on great. Anytime I’m drinking with them, I feel as if she is trying to flirt a small bit with me. Doing stuff like bending over in front of me to pick things up, inviting me to sit beside her etc. Maybe it’s all in my own head and I’m just wishing it. But here’s the problem, if anything was to happen it would possibly make things very awkward 
If she does make a move I won’t be able bring myself around to saying no, so if it happens I will have to hope she can keep it a secret.
But in the meantime - has anyone got any tips or advice that I could use to try and get rid of these thoughts so that I don’t make the first move and end up possibly looking like a right clown and getting my wires crossed?
Thanks
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Concentrate your attention elsewhere
When she does the things you are taking as signals don't respond.
If she asks you to sit near make an excuse etc...
If she is making the moves she will get the message get bored and move on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Concentrate your attention elsewhere
When she does the things you are taking as signals don't respond.
If she asks you to sit near make an excuse etc...
If she is making the moves she will get the message get bored and move on "
I’ve being trying to do this, but it’s not easy because she is very easy on the eye and is full of sex appeal  .. I know the obvious answer would be to distance myself from them but this ain’t really something I can do without others raising an eyebrow thinking that there’s something wrong.
I’m probably totally wrong thinking that she is doing these things on purpose but still, that don’t help me from thinking about it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe just choose not to act on your fantasies?
Everything in your life is just that straight forward is it? "
Went through a few months ago. Same situation. I couldn’t stop thinking about her. So I’ve kept away and I’m over it. Lol. Only thing now is I’ve lost total interest in sex. Consequence of a roller coaster of mid life shit! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But in the meantime - has anyone got any tips or advice that I could use to try and get rid of these thoughts so that I don’t make the first move and end up possibly looking like a right clown and getting my wires crossed?
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Castration? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it not just called being flirty and friendly and having a laugh with you
Dont lose a friendship over a ride "
Maybe that’s all it is, but the fact that I know they have a profile on here makes me think that possibly she would like to be more than just flirty and friendly |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe just choose not to act on your fantasies?
Everything in your life is just that straight forward is it?
When it comes to fantasies, yup.
Keep them for the wank bank  "
Glad it’s that simple for you, enjoy your wank bank |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe just choose not to act on your fantasies?
Everything in your life is just that straight forward is it?
When it comes to fantasies, yup.
Keep them for the wank bank
Glad it’s that simple for you, enjoy your wank bank "
Is it really that hard not to act on lust for someone though?
Like you might not want to resist fair enough but let's not make out its some insurmountable challenge |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Thoughts are okay, they can be hard to control. However actions are not.
A friend of mines partner is always touchy feely with me, and it's clear she flirts, I feel awkward and don't reciprocate. I'd never flirt with someone else's partner without consent |
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"Is it not just called being flirty and friendly and having a laugh with you
Dont lose a friendship over a ride
Maybe that’s all it is, but the fact that I know they have a profile on here makes me think that possibly she would like to be more than just flirty and friendly "
What are they looking for on their profile on here?
If it isn't single men then I would agree with the others and it would be best to leave things as they are with your friendship  |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
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"Maybe just choose not to act on your fantasies?
Everything in your life is just that straight forward is it?
When it comes to fantasies, yup.
Keep them for the wank bank
Glad it’s that simple for you, enjoy your wank bank
Is it really that hard not to act on lust for someone though?
Like you might not want to resist fair enough but let's not make out its some insurmountable challenge "
Apart from your lust for me obvs…you’d wanna get over it already  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agree with all the above. If they are on fabs and she wants to make it happen, she would discuss it openly with her other half and plan a fun night.
So seems to me it’s all a fantasy in your head and she might just be a bit flirty.
Don’t get friendship ruined by some wil fantasy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks all for your opinions. I don’t intend on being the first to act upon it, so will just see if anything does happen. Maybe there’s nothing in it at all and it might just be her personality. Time will tell |
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