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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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She fell in love with her married boss, whose wife treated him badly and didn't understand him! So I got dumped in a rather unpleasant way-with such coldness it still makes me shudder ever after all this time. But she did me a favour-even if I did not see it as such at the time! |
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over a year ago
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"She fell in love with her married boss, whose wife treated him badly and didn't understand him! So I got dumped in a rather unpleasant way-with such coldness it still makes me shudder ever after all this time. But she did me a favour-even if I did not see it as such at the time! "
Similar story, now we are both single!! She "regrets" it but she can go and jump!!  
Bullet dodged! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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She wanted me to be faithful, said sorry I can't, it's just not in my nature to be monogamous and I needed the thrill of multiple partners and would die of boredom having sex with only woman. She called me a man slut, and I was freeeeeeee yippee ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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She fell in love with her work colleague and wanted to be with other men. I didn't end it either.. she did. Would not wish a separation on my worst enemy. Interesting fact, I would have being married 15 years ago today |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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She was quite controlling, borderline emotional abuse and over time picked my family off 1 by 1 as people she didn't want to be around and cut interaction with them where she could.
I bottled things up too much, didnt stand up for myself enough, tried to appease to keep the peace & my communication was poor for a long time before I tried to turn that around.
Im a work in progress now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Marriage ended 13 years ago cause he was abusive and controlling. One too many Garda visits finally listened and got me and my kids out under escort with just the clothes on our backs..   |
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We just fell out of love, having been together since we were teenagers. We're friends but I only tolerate him now really. He's getting nuttier as he gets older. That's my kind way of saying he's a f*cking idiot. |
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"Marriage ended 13 years ago cause he was abusive and controlling. One too many Garda visits finally listened and got me and my kids out under escort with just the clothes on our backs.. "
A big hug to all of you who made it through abusive and controlling relationships.
When you know abuse, in whatever form it takes, it makes a huge part of who and what you are today.
I hope it's been a journey that has empowered you to be stronger, to stand up for yourself and your right to be treated respectfully, not only by partners/spouses but by family, friends, colleagues and people in general.
My last relationship didn't end because of abuse, he was just another lying, cheating toe rag with no integrity or respect but I do know abuse from younger years.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hesitated to go full on into a full on relationship as l still had things to sort on my side of the line and she moved on ..100% my own fault..never experienced emotional pain like it, not a day goes by that l don't think of her, the saying of " he who hesitates is lost " is absolutely 100% correct and true. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A big hug to all of you who made it through abusive and controlling relationships.
When you know abuse, in whatever form it takes, it makes a huge part of who and what you are today.
I hope it's been a journey that has empowered you to be stronger, to stand up for yourself and your right to be treated respectfully, not only by partners/spouses but by family, friends, colleagues and people in general.
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100% echo this!! Abuse, in its various forms, can tear a person apart. It takes a massive amount of courage to leave and offer better to oneself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Marriage ended 13 years ago cause he was abusive and controlling. One too many Garda visits finally listened and got me and my kids out under escort with just the clothes on our backs..
A big hug to all of you who made it through abusive and controlling relationships.
When you know abuse, in whatever form it takes, it makes a huge part of who and what you are today.
I hope it's been a journey that has empowered you to be stronger, to stand up for yourself and your right to be treated respectfully, not only by partners/spouses but by family, friends, colleagues and people in general.
My last relationship didn't end because of abuse, he was just another lying, cheating toe rag with no integrity or respect but I do know abuse from younger years.
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xxxx exactly male and female who found the strength to get away |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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She moved to another country about three weeks ago. We talk on w,,,,app every evening. It's hard to let go .kept me sane all through covid .yeah miss her loads |
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Some really heavy responses here. Hugs to you all. My experience for what its worth, After a breakup, the loyal one stays single and deals with the damages until healed the other one is already in another relationship.
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
He was a guy who didn't understand the word no actually means no and decided he'd do what he wanted that night in particular. It was the awakening I needed to get out and away before it got even worse because guys (he doesn't deserve to be called a man) like him only ever get worse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"He was a guy who didn't understand the word no actually means no and decided he'd do what he wanted that night in particular. It was the awakening I needed to get out and away before it got even worse because guys (he doesn't deserve to be called a man) like him only ever get worse. "
You are a very strong woman and I salute you.  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"He was a guy who didn't understand the word no actually means no and decided he'd do what he wanted that night in particular. It was the awakening I needed to get out and away before it got even worse because guys (he doesn't deserve to be called a man) like him only ever get worse.
You are a very strong woman and I salute you. "
Thank yo, it's long in the past now no point in dwelling on it. As they say what doesn't break us makes us stronger and wiser. |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
"He was a guy who didn't understand the word no actually means no and decided he'd do what he wanted that night in particular. It was the awakening I needed to get out and away before it got even worse because guys (he doesn't deserve to be called a man) like him only ever get worse. "
That is horrendous. Regrettably individuals like that have tendency to repeat that type of behaviour, until they are brought to account. And the damage to the victim can be long lasting: loss of trust, potentially PTSD symptoms, fear, etc.
Shocking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some really heavy responses here. Hugs to you all. My experience for what its worth, After a breakup, the loyal one stays single and deals with the damages until healed the other one is already in another relationship.
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OMG !!! that is just so true ..WOW ..l really thought l would be on my own in that camp of thought but l fully agree with you ,the one that loved the most stays single until healed , the other is already long gone into another relationship . |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
The completion was of superior quality, but I had decided that I preferred NSA sex with single women and MF couples.
Relationships have a natural rhythm and a finite duration. If the other party wants to move on, give them their freedom to do so. P of F!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Both Great Parents but just nothing between us , so why make each other sad staying just for kids , both happier and the kids are growing up happy as well.  |
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By *ubeMan
over a year ago
Drogheda |
We split because in my job I get sent overseas for a few months at a time, she wanted me to quit my job, but that was never going to happen as I'm one of the lucky ones I love my job. It's just life and we moved on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No joint hobbies, serious lack of effective communication and control and other things but couldn't be talking on here about them really. There was sex issues and i always had a desire for more and someone else more than he did. We discussed the fantasies but never followed through and i always wanted to but there was the jealousy thing then aswell as control so it just wasn't working out. |
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
Dunboyne |
At the time, I was young dumb and full of cum. Busy spreading myself on the side.
She realised eventually and then did same but found the guy she's now married to and has gorgeous kids with.
I still regret my actions and wish I'd known about swinging then as it might have been our solution.
Hey ho!
She's happy and for that I'm thankful
I also have 2 great kids myself, whom I adore, despite almost sexless marriage, so we both almost won in the end 
Yes! I still think she was my forever partner, in my silly dreams, but more than one person told me she wasn't even when I was going out with her for 5yrs, so they must have been right eh! |
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By *ara198Woman
over a year ago
maynooth |
He had a serious illness. Refused to get help. Struggled on for a few years, 3 kids, over 12 years, then no sex for 5 years, no support at home or with kids tried counselling x 3 times. Sad times. |
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"He was a complete narcissist and couldn’t keep his pants on.
As a narcissist, how did he behave?
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Everything was my fault, I had to massage his ego for him to be somewhat civil to me. Left me to look after kids while he lived the high life.
He wasn’t happy with his lot including his family. He always had to have the best of the best.
Made me feel guilty over the slightest things.
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By *I_BlueMan
over a year ago
Belfast |
Last one just ran its course. She was a bit strange, used to ring me at work gurning because I hadn't text enough or I hadn't rang that day. Used to completely freak out around my parents, friends, brother etc.... Was worse than a mouse at times.
Not my kinda girl but it all ended ok. She's a lovely person honestly wish nothing but the best for her. |
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She was diagnosed with split personality disord and both of her got on my nerves.
I kid you not.
Invites me over one night and then refuses to answer the door. Sends me a text saying stay away or I call the police.
I hit eject on that pretty quickly. I found our about the mental issues afterwards so I hold no bitterness but, could never go back there. |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
From the get go, I knew it wasn't going to last, so I protected my sensitive internal soul by not becoming emotionally invested in her.
The sex was amazing for both of us, and we stayed in touch,but I wisely stayed my distance.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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She very sadly passed away from cancer. One month, one week and a day after diagnosis ??
Previous relationship to that she left after many affairs. Taking my inheritance home and leaving a €55k debt which the courts decided I had to pay. Now she regrets everything and wants me back…… is she for real????….. not if she was the last woman on Earth |
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She didn't love anymore and wanted me to leave
She told me with tears in her eyes, it was hard 14 years together, lot of of up and down s
Mostly downs.
I sat quietly when she told me, but in my mind, was doing summer saults of joy.
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"Some really heavy responses here. Hugs to you all. My experience for what its worth, After a breakup, the loyal one stays single and deals with the damages until healed the other one is already in another relationship.
OMG !!! that is just so true ..WOW ..l really thought l would be on my own in that camp of thought but l fully agree with you ,the one that loved the most stays single until healed , the other is already long gone into another relationship ."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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He was a selfish prick that tried to bleed me dry in any way possible.. thankfully after 3 years I saw the light and ended it.. can’t stand the sight of him to this day! |
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