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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
Nope not usually. Unless I am in chatty form but usually they don't actually ask a question I have found or if they do it's usually what size are my boobs so I rarely answer those opening messages now. |
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"Nope not usually. Unless I am in chatty form but usually they don't actually ask a question I have found or if they do it's usually what size are my boobs so I rarely answer those opening messages now. "
Bo, can I ask you a question...lol
We get these or the latest one...can I use the woman? .... well of course seeing as you asked so nicely ! |
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By *asual777Man
over a year ago
i travel all over |
Always
Get those to the throuple profile a lot and they intrigue as they want to know specific things about what’s ok and what isn’t
But the follow up questions or responses are often far from great |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would it not depend on the rest of the message?
I'm pretty sure I could write write message with an opening line like that and ger a reply off a fair amount of people |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"Would it not depend on the rest of the message?
I'm pretty sure I could write write message with an opening line like that and ger a reply off a fair amount of people"
Ye that's true but usually when I get a message like that it's does just say can I ask you something and that's the entire message. |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"Would it not depend on the rest of the message?
I'm pretty sure I could write write message with an opening line like that and ger a reply off a fair amount of people"
Usually that’s all the message says. They use it as a way to get you to reply, they don’t actually have a proper question to ask. |
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"Would it not depend on the rest of the message?
I'm pretty sure I could write write message with an opening line like that and ger a reply off a fair amount of people"
Report back and let us know how you get on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would it not depend on the rest of the message?
I'm pretty sure I could write write message with an opening line like that and ger a reply off a fair amount of people
Usually that’s all the message says. They use it as a way to get you to reply, they don’t actually have a proper question to ask. "
Agreed but that's more to do with the intend behind the message than the actual wording |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can I ask a quick question...
Do message openings like this work in getting you to reply and opening a conversation?"
I've never been messaged first so I don't really know ,most if not all my messages are replies ...but ya l can imagine an opening line like that would get a person's attention from the normal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would it not depend on the rest of the message?
I'm pretty sure I could write write message with an opening line like that and ger a reply off a fair amount of people
Report back and let us know how you get on "
Drop your filters ffs |
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It can often be a sign of a lack of confidence.
I've often seen it in work and/or social situations where someone isn't sure how to approach and doesn't have the confidence to just ask.
Similar to when they prefix a statement with phrases like, "I hope you don't mind me saying but....."
If doesn't always mean something negative so I wouldn't judge on that line alone |
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By *ilthyNights OP Couple
over a year ago
East / North, Cork |
I see it as a deliberate manipulation to try and yet the first response and hoping that they will be able to continue the conversation. I fell for it a couple of times before I realised the intent behind it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they like your pictures then you get a reply, everything on here seems to depend on your pictures and verifications otherwise you won't get a reply .
Tough love but it is a swingers website....
So put all your effort into having outstanding pictures and good verifications otherwise you have zero chance on here...
Just my experience from fab..
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By *ilthyNights OP Couple
over a year ago
East / North, Cork |
"If they like your pictures then you get a reply, everything on here seems to depend on your pictures and verifications otherwise you won't get a reply .
Tough love but it is a swingers website....
So put all your effort into having outstanding pictures and good verifications otherwise you have zero chance on here...
Just my experience from fab..
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Agreed... and there's nothing wrong with that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see it as a deliberate manipulation to try and yet the first response and hoping that they will be able to continue the conversation. I fell for it a couple of times before I realised the intent behind it.
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Yep. I always ignore these messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see it as a deliberate manipulation to try and yet the first response and hoping that they will be able to continue the conversation. I fell for it a couple of times before I realised the intent behind it.
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I understand where you're coming from cause of the feeling you get but I'd say any message whether it is short or long is designed to get a response in a hope that a conversation would start, so would that not mean every single first message you get is deliberate manipulation? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they like your pictures then you get a reply, everything on here seems to depend on your pictures and verifications otherwise you won't get a reply .
Tough love but it is a swingers website....
So put all your effort into having outstanding pictures and good verifications otherwise you have zero chance on here...
Just my experience from fab..
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That's not entirely true. Obviously pics are very important here and great pics will attract more attention to a profile but i met a guy a while back who had one normal fully clothed pic on his profile,no other pics at all. Im also hoping to meet a guy this week and he has no verifications. |
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By *ilthyNights OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I see it as a deliberate manipulation to try and yet the first response and hoping that they will be able to continue the conversation. I fell for it a couple of times before I realised the intent behind it.
I understand where you're coming from cause of the feeling you get but I'd say any message whether it is short or long is designed to get a response in a hope that a conversation would start, so would that not mean every single first message you get is deliberate manipulation? "
A thoughtful response!
Not necessarily true though. I don't feel like I manipulate anyone into the sack. Ideally it's a mutual thing and both partners are looking for something that the other has to offer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can I ask a quick question...
Do message openings like this work in getting you to reply and opening a conversation?"
They're annoying messages is what they are, if answered its question after question....yawn block
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is it not the case that the sender thinks that its a clever/witty intro by leading with the Title Question "Can I ask you a Question", leaving the message empty, which is in itself the question? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My ones are usually the so called "straights" guys saying
'Can I ask you something?...Would you like a discreet BJ cum and Go nothing in return'
Always something along those lines lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they like your pictures then you get a reply, everything on here seems to depend on your pictures and verifications otherwise you won't get a reply .
Tough love but it is a swingers website....
So put all your effort into having outstanding pictures and good verifications otherwise you have zero chance on here...
Just my experience from fab..
That's not entirely true. Obviously pics are very important here and great pics will attract more attention to a profile but i met a guy a while back who had one normal fully clothed pic on his profile,no other pics at all. Im also hoping to meet a guy this week and he has no verifications. "
I agree with you fully.
I had no public pics at all and no veris and my first message that I got a reply to was "can I please as you a question?".
I messaged a well verified lady who seemed like a great lady to ask for advice on how to get conversation flowing. I assumed there were levels on Fab and she would at best give me some advice I never expected her to offer a coffee meet and to give me my first Veri. She gave me great advice and I get on really well here on Fab. Still no public pics. However I always send a pic or two with a first message.
Just some women are nicer or more approachable than others. |
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