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By *ilthyNights OP   Couple  over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Can I ask a quick question...

Do message openings like this work in getting you to reply and opening a conversation?

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By *rankbMan  over a year ago

around

Yes

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By *ustBoWoman  over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Nope not usually. Unless I am in chatty form but usually they don't actually ask a question I have found or if they do it's usually what size are my boobs so I rarely answer those opening messages now.

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By *ongueandgroove555Couple  over a year ago

Waterford


"Nope not usually. Unless I am in chatty form but usually they don't actually ask a question I have found or if they do it's usually what size are my boobs so I rarely answer those opening messages now. "

Bo, can I ask you a question...lol

We get these or the latest one...can I use the woman? .... well of course seeing as you asked so nicely !

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By *asual777Man  over a year ago

i travel all over

Always

Get those to the throuple profile a lot and they intrigue as they want to know specific things about what’s ok and what isn’t

But the follow up questions or responses are often far from great

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By *affa31Woman  over a year ago

Galway

Nope cause they’ve technically already asked a question

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Would it not depend on the rest of the message?

I'm pretty sure I could write write message with an opening line like that and ger a reply off a fair amount of people

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By *ustBoWoman  over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Would it not depend on the rest of the message?

I'm pretty sure I could write write message with an opening line like that and ger a reply off a fair amount of people"

Ye that's true but usually when I get a message like that it's does just say can I ask you something and that's the entire message.

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By *affa31Woman  over a year ago

Galway


"Would it not depend on the rest of the message?

I'm pretty sure I could write write message with an opening line like that and ger a reply off a fair amount of people"

Usually that’s all the message says. They use it as a way to get you to reply, they don’t actually have a proper question to ask.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Messages like this is an instant eye roll for me I just ignore them

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By *eralt80Man  over a year ago

cork


"Would it not depend on the rest of the message?

I'm pretty sure I could write write message with an opening line like that and ger a reply off a fair amount of people"

Report back and let us know how you get on

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Would it not depend on the rest of the message?

I'm pretty sure I could write write message with an opening line like that and ger a reply off a fair amount of people

Usually that’s all the message says. They use it as a way to get you to reply, they don’t actually have a proper question to ask. "

Agreed but that's more to do with the intend behind the message than the actual wording

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Can I ask a quick question...

Do message openings like this work in getting you to reply and opening a conversation?"

I've never been messaged first so I don't really know ,most if not all my messages are replies ...but ya l can imagine an opening line like that would get a person's attention from the normal.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Would it not depend on the rest of the message?

I'm pretty sure I could write write message with an opening line like that and ger a reply off a fair amount of people

Report back and let us know how you get on "

Drop your filters ffs

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By *ealitybitesMan  over a year ago

Belfast

It can often be a sign of a lack of confidence.

I've often seen it in work and/or social situations where someone isn't sure how to approach and doesn't have the confidence to just ask.

Similar to when they prefix a statement with phrases like, "I hope you don't mind me saying but....."

If doesn't always mean something negative so I wouldn't judge on that line alone

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By *ilthyNights OP   Couple  over a year ago

East / North, Cork

I see it as a deliberate manipulation to try and yet the first response and hoping that they will be able to continue the conversation. I fell for it a couple of times before I realised the intent behind it.

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By *ilthyNights OP   Couple  over a year ago

East / North, Cork

I guess guys dont get these messages so much.

We get very very regular "can I ask you something?" messages with no other text at all.

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By *Sparkie.Man  over a year ago

Ratoath

Perhaps they'll have to say "can I ask you a second question" as by asking can I ask a question, that itself was a question

Does that make sense?

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By *ittlekinks38Woman  over a year ago

outside belfast x

Recently got that message and my reply was "well thats depends if I wish to answer said question as I don't give out my secrets to complete strangers" lol still no reply!

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By *angero3aMan  over a year ago

swords

No I never get a reply to anything

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

If they like your pictures then you get a reply, everything on here seems to depend on your pictures and verifications otherwise you won't get a reply .

Tough love but it is a swingers website....

So put all your effort into having outstanding pictures and good verifications otherwise you have zero chance on here...

Just my experience from fab..

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By *ilthyNights OP   Couple  over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"If they like your pictures then you get a reply, everything on here seems to depend on your pictures and verifications otherwise you won't get a reply .

Tough love but it is a swingers website....

So put all your effort into having outstanding pictures and good verifications otherwise you have zero chance on here...

Just my experience from fab..

"

Agreed... and there's nothing wrong with that

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman  over a year ago

in the waves


"Can I ask a quick question...

Do message openings like this work in getting you to reply and opening a conversation?"

Instant delete from me.

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By *s LollyWoman  over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Eye roll back and forth a few times then delete

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

The last few times a person asked that we blocked them as we knew exactly what they were going to ask. Clue is female wrestling

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I see it as a deliberate manipulation to try and yet the first response and hoping that they will be able to continue the conversation. I fell for it a couple of times before I realised the intent behind it.

"

Yep. I always ignore these messages

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I'm sure Dale Carnegie had some ideas on how to get an answer

L

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By *3nsesMan  over a year ago

Dublin

Currently testing this method.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I never get messages so dont know.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I see it as a deliberate manipulation to try and yet the first response and hoping that they will be able to continue the conversation. I fell for it a couple of times before I realised the intent behind it.

"

I understand where you're coming from cause of the feeling you get but I'd say any message whether it is short or long is designed to get a response in a hope that a conversation would start, so would that not mean every single first message you get is deliberate manipulation?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If they like your pictures then you get a reply, everything on here seems to depend on your pictures and verifications otherwise you won't get a reply .

Tough love but it is a swingers website....

So put all your effort into having outstanding pictures and good verifications otherwise you have zero chance on here...

Just my experience from fab..

"

That's not entirely true. Obviously pics are very important here and great pics will attract more attention to a profile but i met a guy a while back who had one normal fully clothed pic on his profile,no other pics at all. Im also hoping to meet a guy this week and he has no verifications.

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By *ilthyNights OP   Couple  over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"I see it as a deliberate manipulation to try and yet the first response and hoping that they will be able to continue the conversation. I fell for it a couple of times before I realised the intent behind it.

I understand where you're coming from cause of the feeling you get but I'd say any message whether it is short or long is designed to get a response in a hope that a conversation would start, so would that not mean every single first message you get is deliberate manipulation? "

A thoughtful response!

Not necessarily true though. I don't feel like I manipulate anyone into the sack. Ideally it's a mutual thing and both partners are looking for something that the other has to offer.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Can I ask a quick question...

Do message openings like this work in getting you to reply and opening a conversation?"

They're annoying messages is what they are, if answered its question after question....yawn block

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Is it not the case that the sender thinks that its a clever/witty intro by leading with the Title Question "Can I ask you a Question", leaving the message empty, which is in itself the question?

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By *13_hercMan  over a year ago

Blackrock

I'd love to say No, but then this post would make a liar of me, so it must be a Yes....

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By *Belfast_FellaMan  over a year ago

belfast

Depends on the question!

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By *ilderMan  over a year ago

dublin

Can I ask you a question is in itself a question so if I got a message like that I'd more than likely ignore it

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By *elle xWoman  over a year ago

Doire Theas

Nope

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By *rmrs1234Couple  over a year ago

Waterford

I did a couple of times. One fella was looking for help on what to do with his profile and such. The others were a nightmare so never again

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By *inaandterryCouple  over a year ago

Westmeath

Not a hope

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By *eijaWoman  over a year ago

City Centre

I usually ignore as usually from blank profiles who obviously have no interest in the lifestyle

B x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

My ones are usually the so called "straights" guys saying

'Can I ask you something?...Would you like a discreet BJ cum and Go nothing in return'

Always something along those lines lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If they like your pictures then you get a reply, everything on here seems to depend on your pictures and verifications otherwise you won't get a reply .

Tough love but it is a swingers website....

So put all your effort into having outstanding pictures and good verifications otherwise you have zero chance on here...

Just my experience from fab..

That's not entirely true. Obviously pics are very important here and great pics will attract more attention to a profile but i met a guy a while back who had one normal fully clothed pic on his profile,no other pics at all. Im also hoping to meet a guy this week and he has no verifications. "

I agree with you fully.

I had no public pics at all and no veris and my first message that I got a reply to was "can I please as you a question?".

I messaged a well verified lady who seemed like a great lady to ask for advice on how to get conversation flowing. I assumed there were levels on Fab and she would at best give me some advice I never expected her to offer a coffee meet and to give me my first Veri. She gave me great advice and I get on really well here on Fab. Still no public pics. However I always send a pic or two with a first message.

Just some women are nicer or more approachable than others.

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