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There’s this girl at work who completely annoys the fuck out of me. She monopolizes (popular) female workers so that they are her friends. Let me explain that one: she gets touchy feely with them the whole time... Big hugs non stop and touches their hands the whole time: gives complements and will always be involved in organizing stuff for them girls nights out: birthday parties etc, always, always, sits beside the female boss at work nights out.
She does not alienate the guys as such but no touchy feely tactility to the same extent and would always take a feminist perspective on literally any topic or conversation with men (especially if there’s other women present). Just to clarify: she’s not a lesbian but I had a bad experience lately of not being invited to a night out because I wasn’t friendly enough to her. I’m now trying to get my head around why she acts the way she does (apart from the obvious which is that she’s a dry lick-arse). Any thoughts guys? |
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"There’s this girl at work who completely annoys the fuck out of me. She monopolizes (popular) female workers so that they are her friends. Let me explain that one: she gets touchy feely with them the whole time... Big hugs non stop and touches their hands the whole time: gives complements and will always be involved in organizing stuff for them girls nights out: birthday parties etc, always, always, sits beside the female boss at work nights out.
She does not alienate the guys as such but no touchy feely tactility to the same extent and would always take a feminist perspective on literally any topic or conversation with men (especially if there’s other women present). Just to clarify: she’s not a lesbian but I had a bad experience lately of not being invited to a night out because I wasn’t friendly enough to her. I’m now trying to get my head around why she acts the way she does (apart from the obvious which is that she’s a dry lick-arse). Any thoughts guys?"
She thinks she's still at school? |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
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"There’s this girl at work who completely annoys the fuck out of me. She monopolizes (popular) female workers so that they are her friends. Let me explain that one: she gets touchy feely with them the whole time... Big hugs non stop and touches their hands the whole time: gives complements and will always be involved in organizing stuff for them girls nights out: birthday parties etc, always, always, sits beside the female boss at work nights out.
She does not alienate the guys as such but no touchy feely tactility to the same extent and would always take a feminist perspective on literally any topic or conversation with men (especially if there’s other women present). Just to clarify: she’s not a lesbian but I had a bad experience lately of not being invited to a night out because I wasn’t friendly enough to her. I’m now trying to get my head around why she acts the way she does (apart from the obvious which is that she’s a dry lick-arse). Any thoughts guys?"
Couple of questions…
Why did you feel the need to qualify her sexuality?
Do you feel her feminist perspective is not reflected in her conversations in general?
Perhaps she’s reluctant to be touchy feely with male coworkers as she’s concerned about it being taken the wrong way.
I understand that a coworker monopolising things can be extremely annoying. However, the second half of your post comes across as very bitter. |
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"There’s this girl at work who completely annoys the fuck out of me. She monopolizes (popular) female workers so that they are her friends. Let me explain that one: she gets touchy feely with them the whole time... Big hugs non stop and touches their hands the whole time: gives complements and will always be involved in organizing stuff for them girls nights out: birthday parties etc, always, always, sits beside the female boss at work nights out.
She does not alienate the guys as such but no touchy feely tactility to the same extent and would always take a feminist perspective on literally any topic or conversation with men (especially if there’s other women present). Just to clarify: she’s not a lesbian but I had a bad experience lately of not being invited to a night out because I wasn’t friendly enough to her. I’m now trying to get my head around why she acts the way she does (apart from the obvious which is that she’s a dry lick-arse). Any thoughts guys?
Couple of questions…
Why did you feel the need to qualify her sexuality?
Do you feel her feminist perspective is not reflected in her conversations in general?
Perhaps she’s reluctant to be touchy feely with male coworkers as she’s concerned about it being taken the wrong way.
I understand that a coworker monopolising things can be extremely annoying. However, the second half of your post comes across as very bitter. "
Can we just super clarify she isn't a lesbian cause that's really the key  |
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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago
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"There’s this girl at work who completely annoys the fuck out of me. She monopolizes (popular) female workers so that they are her friends. Let me explain that one: she gets touchy feely with them the whole time... Big hugs non stop and touches their hands the whole time: gives complements and will always be involved in organizing stuff for them girls nights out: birthday parties etc, always, always, sits beside the female boss at work nights out.
She does not alienate the guys as such but no touchy feely tactility to the same extent and would always take a feminist perspective on literally any topic or conversation with men (especially if there’s other women present). Just to clarify: she’s not a lesbian but I had a bad experience lately of not being invited to a night out because I wasn’t friendly enough to her. I’m now trying to get my head around why she acts the way she does (apart from the obvious which is that she’s a dry lick-arse). Any thoughts guys?
She thinks she's still at school?"
Yep. Sounds like school. |
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"There’s this girl at work who completely annoys the fuck out of me. She monopolizes (popular) female workers so that they are her friends. Let me explain that one: she gets touchy feely with them the whole time... Big hugs non stop and touches their hands the whole time: gives complements and will always be involved in organizing stuff for them girls nights out: birthday parties etc, always, always, sits beside the female boss at work nights out.
She does not alienate the guys as such but no touchy feely tactility to the same extent and would always take a feminist perspective on literally any topic or conversation with men (especially if there’s other women present). Just to clarify: she’s not a lesbian but I had a bad experience lately of not being invited to a night out because I wasn’t friendly enough to her. I’m now trying to get my head around why she acts the way she does (apart from the obvious which is that she’s a dry lick-arse). Any thoughts guys?
She thinks she's still at school?
Yep. Sounds like school."
Definitely.
OP have you discussed this with your teacher? |
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I know what you mean about annoying work mates.. Try not to let it get to you.. Remember why you are there to pick up your wages and go home every evening.. Think of it like that.. Even better ignore her  |
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They way you say that she "monopolises" your female colleagues makes it sound like you might be a teeny bit jealous perhaps of her relationship with the girls in the office.
It's pretty shitty not to invite you to a social event without reason. Does she perhaps have a reason of some kind? |
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over a year ago
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So many things you could have said about annoying workmates but feel you made a mess of this one!
List:
People eating at their desks especially when it's smelly
People who take their shoes off at their desk with smelly feet
Men who wear the same shirt in for 2/3 days in a row
The break and lunch clock nazis
The ones who complain about people who leave at 5 but don't actually do much work even tho they stay on until 530/6
The company man who's a manager and expects you to pick up your phone anytime of day
The teachers pet and arselick
The ones who's always right about any topic and is normally nailed on for 40 years old virgin
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Well my impression just based on what you have mentioned is that it is possible you a teeny tiny crush on this colleague and a slight chance she may like you a bit.This could be the reason she did nt invite you to said event as it sounds like you have been giving off the wrong vibe.
I don't understand why it gets to you so much that she hugs and touches other female staff as this is quite a normal thing for some ladies in a workplace.She may not be hugging you or other male staff incase she gives off the wrong idea,could also have a partner outside of work or maybe just doesn't want to have that awkward i fancy you and you fancy me silence when she has to hug you after another male colleague.Ha ha but all joking aside....just be honest and upfront with her.Approach her after downing a litre of ketel one at the next event you get invited too and tell her you fancy the pants off her!!
P.S. She could want to climb the career ladder by getting close to the Boss.Maybe you should give that a shot too!! |
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"There’s this girl at work who completely annoys the fuck out of me. She monopolizes (popular) female workers so that they are her friends. Let me explain that one: she gets touchy feely with them the whole time... Big hugs non stop and touches their hands the whole time: gives complements and will always be involved in organizing stuff for them girls nights out: birthday parties etc, always, always, sits beside the female boss at work nights out.
She does not alienate the guys as such but no touchy feely tactility to the same extent and would always take a feminist perspective on literally any topic or conversation with men (especially if there’s other women present). Just to clarify: she’s not a lesbian but I had a bad experience lately of not being invited to a night out because I wasn’t friendly enough to her. I’m now trying to get my head around why she acts the way she does (apart from the obvious which is that she’s a dry lick-arse). Any thoughts guys?"
So what are you trying to say?
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"Well my impression just based on what you have mentioned is that it is possible you a teeny tiny crush on this colleague and a slight chance she may like you a bit.This could be the reason she did nt invite you to said event as it sounds like you have been giving off the wrong vibe.
I don't understand why it gets to you so much that she hugs and touches other female staff as this is quite a normal thing for some ladies in a workplace.She may not be hugging you or other male staff incase she gives off the wrong idea,could also have a partner outside of work or maybe just doesn't want to have that awkward i fancy you and you fancy me silence when she has to hug you after another male colleague.Ha ha but all joking aside....just be honest and upfront with her.Approach her after downing a litre of ketel one at the next event you get invited too and tell her you fancy the pants off her!!
P.S. She could want to climb the career ladder by getting close to the Boss.Maybe you should give that a shot too!!"
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I don't know I mean she don't sound as bad as your making her out to be so she's touchy feely with the female staff so what women do that i don't get how that would annoy someone
I wonder would you be saying the same thing if she was touchy feely with the guys too and planned nights out with the guys instead of the girls and so what she didn't invite you to a night out I'm sure your not the only one she didn't invite it's not expected to get along with everyone and if she is as bad as your making her out to be why would you attend these nights out in the 1st place
Move on I'd say and ignore her |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't know I mean she don't sound as bad as your making her out to be so she's touchy feely with the female staff so what women do that i don't get how that would annoy someone
I wonder would you be saying the same thing if she was touchy feely with the guys too and planned nights out with the guys instead of the girls and so what she didn't invite you to a night out I'm sure your not the only one she didn't invite it's not expected to get along with everyone and if she is as bad as your making her out to be why would you attend these nights out in the 1st place
Move on I'd say and ignore her "
I would think he has the thread is over a year old |
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"I don't know I mean she don't sound as bad as your making her out to be so she's touchy feely with the female staff so what women do that i don't get how that would annoy someone
I wonder would you be saying the same thing if she was touchy feely with the guys too and planned nights out with the guys instead of the girls and so what she didn't invite you to a night out I'm sure your not the only one she didn't invite it's not expected to get along with everyone and if she is as bad as your making her out to be why would you attend these nights out in the 1st place
Move on I'd say and ignore her
I would think he has the thread is over a year old "
For fecksake literally just realized that I don't know some likes holding to grudges |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So Op ...how do you get on with her now
Say he does what she says now "
I predict they are married with one kid on the way it was the Ross and Rachel will they or won't they dynamic |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"So Op ...how do you get on with her now
Say he does what she says now
I predict they are married with one kid on the way it was the Ross and Rachel will they or won't they dynamic "
So they were just on a break |
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
Is she still not a lesbian?
But more importantly, I'm surprised how someone can't workout why a women in work would be touchy female with their female work colleagues while not being the same with their male ones. I didn't think that one would have needed explaining. |
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"Is she still not a lesbian?
But more importantly, I'm surprised how someone can't workout why a women in work would be touchy female with their female work colleagues while not being the same with their male ones. I didn't think that one would have needed explaining. "
I think it's because she isn't a lesbian is why this is still going on |
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"So Op ...how do you get on with her now
Say he does what she says now
I predict they are married with one kid on the way it was the Ross and Rachel will they or won't they dynamic "
Think he's the Manny now |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is she still not a lesbian?
But more importantly, I'm surprised how someone can't workout why a women in work would be touchy female with their female work colleagues while not being the same with their male ones. I didn't think that one would have needed explaining. "
Totally this.
You sound really bitter OP. If you dislike her so much surely you'd be glad she didn't ask you to go on a night out? Conversely, if you've made your dislike of her obvious, why would she invite you? Of course, if you were the only person in the firm/your department that was excluded then that might be different and you may want to make an appointment with your HR team  |
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A person who's as phoney as a 3 quid note usually gets sussed out eventually. You're not in her immediate circle so you're getting a perspective that other people will only get to see a few months down the line. So you're not missing out on anything much there Op
Anyway, question is do you really want to be invited on a night out with someone like that hosting anyway? Myself, I like to keep a good relationship with my work colleagues but I'll be fooked to invite out everybody from work as let's face it, your mates are your mates but most of your work colleagues ain't necessarily your closest friends.
Anyway, best steer clear of her, do your own thing, organise a good lads night out and watch the unfolding sh1t show when she oversteps the mark...
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By (user no longer on site)
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I work with males and females and would never hug any of my male colleagues,
If she didn't invite you on a night out maybe its the vibe you give off and you'd only bring the night out down
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"There’s this girl at work who completely annoys the fuck out of me. She monopolizes (popular) female workers so that they are her friends. Let me explain that one: she gets touchy feely with them the whole time... Big hugs non stop and touches their hands the whole time: gives complements and will always be involved in organizing stuff for them girls nights out: birthday parties etc, always, always, sits beside the female boss at work nights out.
She does not alienate the guys as such but no touchy feely tactility to the same extent and would always take a feminist perspective on literally any topic or conversation with men (especially if there’s other women present). Just to clarify: she’s not a lesbian but I had a bad experience lately of not being invited to a night out because I wasn’t friendly enough to her. I’m now trying to get my head around why she acts the way she does (apart from the obvious which is that she’s a dry lick-arse). Any thoughts guys?"
Tbh , l wouldn't give a f**k that l wasn't invited but you seem to be upset because of it , enjoy yourself , do not let not being invited upset or worry you , do not let something like that inside your head. |
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