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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago
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So many Fabbers have gotten together through the scene over the years...there have been a few weddings and some babies 
Wouldn't it be the perfect match two open minded people getting together
I have seen a few Fabbers dating threads recently OP if you are interested... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So many Fabbers have gotten together through the scene over the years...there have been a few weddings and some babies
Wouldn't it be the perfect match two open minded people getting together
I have seen a few Fabbers dating threads recently OP if you are interested..."
I would be very interested in dating  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course!
Awk sure so often it's about wanting/needing a connection before anything else, feeling that chemistry! Everyone, to differing extents, opens themselves up and makes themselves vulnerable on here
Then you can throw in the horizontal salsa and sure who knows!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of course!
Awk sure so often it's about wanting/needing a connection before anything else, feeling that chemistry! Everyone, to differing extents, opens themselves up and makes themselves vulnerable on here
Then you can throw in the horizontal salsa and sure who knows! "
The horizontal salsa pmsl
I missed out that one on my list of fornication synonyms last week |
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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago
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"Yup it happens , 9 years together and counting  met on a different swingers site thou
Mrs crazy
Has it been 9 years?  . I guess it has alright . Well done ye  "
It has Wilder , time flys i guess
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By *sMinxWoman
over a year ago
Dublin |
"So many Fabbers have gotten together through the scene over the years...there have been a few weddings and some babies
Wouldn't it be the perfect match two open minded people getting together
I have seen a few Fabbers dating threads recently OP if you are interested..."
Where please?! Asking for a friend  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So many Fabbers have gotten together through the scene over the years...there have been a few weddings and some babies
Wouldn't it be the perfect match two open minded people getting together
I have seen a few Fabbers dating threads recently OP if you are interested...
Where please?! Asking for a friend "
If find out can ya pass on , also asking for a friend |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know of at least 5 couples who have met through fab a d still going strong and as from thread there's a few loved up and happy out. Can meet your soul mate anyway just cause its a swingers site doesn't mean it can happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Know several long term couples and have been to 1 wedding from here and other sites...
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Does falling in love mean coupling up?
That seems to be the general interpretation here.
I know thats a bit 'late night philosophical' but im just thinking outside the box a bit I guess |
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
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"Know several long term couples and have been to 1 wedding from here and other sites...
Does falling in love mean coupling up?
That seems to be the general interpretation here.
I know thats a bit 'late night philosophical' but im just thinking outside the box a bit I guess "
I'd like to think it's the same as falling in love anywhere/anyhow.
Coupling up is basically just public declaration of FWB who want to meet others together, presumably as they enjoy playing together with others more than separately.
Falling in love is a whole other ballgame and profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Know several long term couples and have been to 1 wedding from here and other sites...
Does falling in love mean coupling up?
That seems to be the general interpretation here.
I know thats a bit 'late night philosophical' but im just thinking outside the box a bit I guess "
Do you mean does it always culminate in coupling up?
I'd imagine if two people fall in love and they both feel the same about each other and the direction in which they see their relationship going, the most likely outcome is they become a couple...same as anyone not involved in the swinging scene.
But I guess it's equally possible for someone to fall in love with another in the scene and its perhaps not reciprocated...when just one person catches the feelings what do you do with that. |
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Undoubtedly people can fall in love on here ! Irrelevant of the barriers a lot of singles put up when joining fab deep down we are all probably looking for that special person ! Sex is obviously only a facet of the relationships people can build up when spending a lot of time chatting and getting to know eachother. Unfortunately the leap between falling in love and making it work because of distance, situations etc can just be too much as it can be in any relationship that can develop outside fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Undoubtedly people can fall in love on here ! Irrelevant of the barriers a lot of singles put up when joining fab deep down we are all probably looking for that special person ! Sex is obviously only a facet of the relationships people can build up when spending a lot of time chatting and getting to know eachother. Unfortunately the leap between falling in love and making it work because of distance, situations etc can just be too much as it can be in any relationship that can develop outside fab. "
Yeah I was thinking of scenarios like what if one, or both, are 'playing away' and cant go down the path of becoming a couple, its still love. Or if they are single and want to remain so, or are polyamorous....
Most people still do seem to aim for the traditional 'primary pairing' if I can call it that, or special someone as you say.
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By *asual777Man
over a year ago
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"Undoubtedly people can fall in love on here ! Irrelevant of the barriers a lot of singles put up when joining fab deep down we are all probably looking for that special person ! Sex is obviously only a facet of the relationships people can build up when spending a lot of time chatting and getting to know eachother. Unfortunately the leap between falling in love and making it work because of distance, situations etc can just be too much as it can be in any relationship that can develop outside fab.
Yeah I was thinking of scenarios like what if one, or both, are 'playing away' and cant go down the path of becoming a couple, its still love. Or if they are single and want to remain so, or are polyamorous....
Most people still do seem to aim for the traditional 'primary pairing' if I can call it that, or special someone as you say.
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I think you’re talking about longing . God I love longing for people and things |
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"Undoubtedly people can fall in love on here ! Irrelevant of the barriers a lot of singles put up when joining fab deep down we are all probably looking for that special person ! Sex is obviously only a facet of the relationships people can build up when spending a lot of time chatting and getting to know eachother. Unfortunately the leap between falling in love and making it work because of distance, situations etc can just be too much as it can be in any relationship that can develop outside fab.
Yeah I was thinking of scenarios like what if one, or both, are 'playing away' and cant go down the path of becoming a couple, its still love. Or if they are single and want to remain so, or are polyamorous....
Most people still do seem to aim for the traditional 'primary pairing' if I can call it that, or special someone as you say.
I think you’re talking about longing . God I love longing for people and things "
Why can't it be love? Love can blossom in the most inappropriate of places and end up leaving people in a right mess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course it can happen on Fab.
I unexpectedly met and fell in love with a very special woman on here. Things didn’t work out unfortunately.
But never, say never about anybody falling in love with Someone on here.
Stranger things have happened.
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"Good morning fab ladies and gents, I was just wondering has anybody ever stumbled across love on this platform?"
Yes, it didn't work out though. We left it in the past with no hard feelings.
And I surprise myself at how hard I fall when I do fall considering past relationships.
And those who were important in my life taught me valuable life lessons (regardless of where I met them). |
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"Undoubtedly people can fall in love on here ! Irrelevant of the barriers a lot of singles put up when joining fab deep down we are all probably looking for that special person ! Sex is obviously only a facet of the relationships people can build up when spending a lot of time chatting and getting to know eachother. Unfortunately the leap between falling in love and making it work because of distance, situations etc can just be too much as it can be in any relationship that can develop outside fab.
Yeah I was thinking of scenarios like what if one, or both, are 'playing away' and cant go down the path of becoming a couple, its still love. Or if they are single and want to remain so, or are polyamorous....
Most people still do seem to aim for the traditional 'primary pairing' if I can call it that, or special someone as you say.
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Maybe a contradictory note to my post may be that I’m sure quite a few fab members have been in or are still possibly in poor relationships. Meeting someone on fab even if it’s only messaging at first could inject sone excitement in people’s lives and could well become a very important part of that persons life very quickly. Perhaps those people meet and all of a sudden the is attraction and maybe a sense of affection which could have been missing from that persons life for years ! Those feelings can be mistaken for love and possibly the bigger picture overlooked ? In no way would I question people that have met and genuinely fallen in love ! Maybe it’s easier to fall in love on fab but I wonder sometimes if it’s genuine love for genuine reasons |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good morning fab ladies and gents, I was just wondering has anybody ever stumbled across love on this platform?
Yes, it didn't work out though. We left it in the past with no hard feelings.
And I surprise myself at how hard I fall when I do fall considering past relationships.
And those who were important in my life taught me valuable life lessons (regardless of where I met them)."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Undoubtedly people can fall in love on here ! Irrelevant of the barriers a lot of singles put up when joining fab deep down we are all probably looking for that special person ! Sex is obviously only a facet of the relationships people can build up when spending a lot of time chatting and getting to know eachother. Unfortunately the leap between falling in love and making it work because of distance, situations etc can just be too much as it can be in any relationship that can develop outside fab.
Yeah I was thinking of scenarios like what if one, or both, are 'playing away' and cant go down the path of becoming a couple, its still love. Or if they are single and want to remain so, or are polyamorous....
Most people still do seem to aim for the traditional 'primary pairing' if I can call it that, or special someone as you say.
Maybe a contradictory note to my post may be that I’m sure quite a few fab members have been in or are still possibly in poor relationships. Meeting someone on fab even if it’s only messaging at first could inject sone excitement in people’s lives and could well become a very important part of that persons life very quickly. Perhaps those people meet and all of a sudden the is attraction and maybe a sense of affection which could have been missing from that persons life for years ! Those feelings can be mistaken for love and possibly the bigger picture overlooked ? In no way would I question people that have met and genuinely fallen in love ! Maybe it’s easier to fall in love on fab but I wonder sometimes if it’s genuine love for genuine reasons "
Thats an interesting perspective. As you say the thrill of feeling desire and being desired can be intoxicating if one has had a passionless, loveless life for a while. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Undoubtedly people can fall in love on here ! Irrelevant of the barriers a lot of singles put up when joining fab deep down we are all probably looking for that special person ! Sex is obviously only a facet of the relationships people can build up when spending a lot of time chatting and getting to know eachother. Unfortunately the leap between falling in love and making it work because of distance, situations etc can just be too much as it can be in any relationship that can develop outside fab.
Yeah I was thinking of scenarios like what if one, or both, are 'playing away' and cant go down the path of becoming a couple, its still love. Or if they are single and want to remain so, or are polyamorous....
Most people still do seem to aim for the traditional 'primary pairing' if I can call it that, or special someone as you say.
Maybe a contradictory note to my post may be that I’m sure quite a few fab members have been in or are still possibly in poor relationships. Meeting someone on fab even if it’s only messaging at first could inject sone excitement in people’s lives and could well become a very important part of that persons life very quickly. Perhaps those people meet and all of a sudden the is attraction and maybe a sense of affection which could have been missing from that persons life for years ! Those feelings can be mistaken for love and possibly the bigger picture overlooked ? In no way would I question people that have met and genuinely fallen in love ! Maybe it’s easier to fall in love on fab but I wonder sometimes if it’s genuine love for genuine reasons "
What is genuine love though? Surely something like love is so abstract that there can be no one single definition that fits all? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Undoubtedly people can fall in love on here ! Irrelevant of the barriers a lot of singles put up when joining fab deep down we are all probably looking for that special person ! Sex is obviously only a facet of the relationships people can build up when spending a lot of time chatting and getting to know eachother. Unfortunately the leap between falling in love and making it work because of distance, situations etc can just be too much as it can be in any relationship that can develop outside fab.
Yeah I was thinking of scenarios like what if one, or both, are 'playing away' and cant go down the path of becoming a couple, its still love. Or if they are single and want to remain so, or are polyamorous....
Most people still do seem to aim for the traditional 'primary pairing' if I can call it that, or special someone as you say.
I think you’re talking about longing . God I love longing for people and things "
Im the opposite, i hate longing for someone. All it does is frustrate me. |
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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago
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"Irrelevant of the barriers a lot of singles put up when joining fab deep down we are all probably looking for that special person ! "
I think what we are looking for, deep down, is actually unconditional love and contentment.
I think we're *conditioned* into thinking 'that special person', 'the one' will 'make us complete' the one who will bring fulfilment to our lives.
It's understandable, of course, but looking for happiness and fulfilment in people, places, or things is doomed to failure bcos all things change, decay, and die. So, they are not a sound basis for happiness.
That feeling we are looking for deep down is actually there, deep down, it's just become obscured by our conditioning and perceptions. If we examine our self-perception and how we perceive the world around us we can break our attachment to those perceptions and realise that deep down feeling. We can then bring that into our relationships, both platonic and sexual.
That turned into a lot more than I had intended. Not to say that I have reached this exalted state or anything. #WorkInProgress
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"Undoubtedly people can fall in love on here ! Irrelevant of the barriers a lot of singles put up when joining fab deep down we are all probably looking for that special person ! Sex is obviously only a facet of the relationships people can build up when spending a lot of time chatting and getting to know eachother. Unfortunately the leap between falling in love and making it work because of distance, situations etc can just be too much as it can be in any relationship that can develop outside fab.
Yeah I was thinking of scenarios like what if one, or both, are 'playing away' and cant go down the path of becoming a couple, its still love. Or if they are single and want to remain so, or are polyamorous....
Most people still do seem to aim for the traditional 'primary pairing' if I can call it that, or special someone as you say.
Maybe a contradictory note to my post may be that I’m sure quite a few fab members have been in or are still possibly in poor relationships. Meeting someone on fab even if it’s only messaging at first could inject sone excitement in people’s lives and could well become a very important part of that persons life very quickly. Perhaps those people meet and all of a sudden the is attraction and maybe a sense of affection which could have been missing from that persons life for years ! Those feelings can be mistaken for love and possibly the bigger picture overlooked ? In no way would I question people that have met and genuinely fallen in love ! Maybe it’s easier to fall in love on fab but I wonder sometimes if it’s genuine love for genuine reasons
Thats an interesting perspective. As you say the thrill of feeling desire and being desired can be intoxicating if one has had a passionless, loveless life for a while. "
And maybe that’s what love is to some people ? Maybe for that couple the desire never leaves their relationship ! Maybe it fades slightly ? Or maybe it almost disappears but it’s enough to sustain their love ? Or maybe they make the tiniest positives enough to stay together because it’s just easier ? Possibly coming out of terrible relationships and don’t want to go through the same thing again ? Settling for eachother? |
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"Irrelevant of the barriers a lot of singles put up when joining fab deep down we are all probably looking for that special person !
I think what we are looking for, deep down, is actually unconditional love and contentment.
I think we're *conditioned* into thinking 'that special person', 'the one' will 'make us complete' the one who will bring fulfilment to our lives.
It's understandable, of course, but looking for happiness and fulfilment in people, places, or things is doomed to failure bcos all things change, decay, and die. So, they are not a sound basis for happiness.
That feeling we are looking for deep down is actually there, deep down, it's just become obscured by our conditioning and perceptions. If we examine our self-perception and how we perceive the world around us we can break our attachment to those perceptions and realise that deep down feeling. We can then bring that into our relationships, both platonic and sexual.
That turned into a lot more than I had intended. Not to say that I have reached this exalted state or anything. #WorkInProgress
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I've wondered and thought about unconditional love over the years.
I know what you're saying. We have for the most part through the institution of marriage been conditioned that there is The One.
I didn't read fairytales to my children like my parents did to me funny enough. I'm glad now I didn't because I want to instill different values in my children.
Yet we change over time and our partners aren't necessarily growing with us and don't necessarily remain compatible - that's if they were genuinely compatible in the first place.
I don't think I believe in unconditional love. Merely for the fact that we all have boundaries. With boundaries come conditions. Hence your opposite needs to accept you for who you are, with your boundaries, without trying to change you and your faults and quirks. The opposite is obviously true too.
In the more recent past, when I have told a special someone I love them, it would have been because of his flaws and faults, not despite of them - because it's another person's flaws and imperfections that makes them who they are. As infuriating as some of these flaws might be - if you can't accept and love the faults and flaws, it's not love. |
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"Undoubtedly people can fall in love on here ! Irrelevant of the barriers a lot of singles put up when joining fab deep down we are all probably looking for that special person ! Sex is obviously only a facet of the relationships people can build up when spending a lot of time chatting and getting to know eachother. Unfortunately the leap between falling in love and making it work because of distance, situations etc can just be too much as it can be in any relationship that can develop outside fab.
Yeah I was thinking of scenarios like what if one, or both, are 'playing away' and cant go down the path of becoming a couple, its still love. Or if they are single and want to remain so, or are polyamorous....
Most people still do seem to aim for the traditional 'primary pairing' if I can call it that, or special someone as you say.
Maybe a contradictory note to my post may be that I’m sure quite a few fab members have been in or are still possibly in poor relationships. Meeting someone on fab even if it’s only messaging at first could inject sone excitement in people’s lives and could well become a very important part of that persons life very quickly. Perhaps those people meet and all of a sudden the is attraction and maybe a sense of affection which could have been missing from that persons life for years ! Those feelings can be mistaken for love and possibly the bigger picture overlooked ? In no way would I question people that have met and genuinely fallen in love ! Maybe it’s easier to fall in love on fab but I wonder sometimes if it’s genuine love for genuine reasons
Thats an interesting perspective. As you say the thrill of feeling desire and being desired can be intoxicating if one has had a passionless, loveless life for a while. And maybe that’s what love is to some people ? Maybe for that couple the desire never leaves their relationship ! Maybe it fades slightly ? Or maybe it almost disappears but it’s enough to sustain their love ? Or maybe they make the tiniest positives enough to stay together because it’s just easier ? Possibly coming out of terrible relationships and don’t want to go through the same thing again ? Settling for eachother? "
I think you have very wise insights here. I certainly identify with this.
As time goes by, routine and children and monotony sets in, the necessary work isn't put into a relationship and before you know it, it's too late and the ship has sailed! I take my hat off to couples going strong long term, with children, with the ups and downs of years and years gone by and the right amount of work put in by all involved!
I agree that love means different things for different people. There is no one fits all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's just lovely and heart warming to have read this thread and the various viewpoints. Love is definitely an enigma and deep embedded desire or want in all of us. But sex for sex sake is brilliant too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yup l would think so , l think sex and a person's attitude to sex is a huge factor in any relationship and if two people can have the exact same sexual mental attitude towards sex and to each other then just watch the sparks fly . |
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