FabSwingers.com > Forums > Ireland > I'm going to be killed for this but....
I'm going to be killed for this but....
Jump to: Newest in thread
.....why is it that so many women on here equate "hello" or any kind of polite greeting as "I want to wear your ass as a hat" (or words to that effect). Is it not possible for a man to simply talk to a woman? I mean, what kind of man would want to sleep with someone he knows nothing about and in most cases hasn't met face to face. It takes time and a building of mutual trust to get to that point. Yes, I know what this site is about at its core but.....if it was purely about the old in out in out, then these forums would not exist. There is one characteristic which is a deal breaker for me as far as sex is concerned but it won't mean I'm unwilling to be civil and simply have a chat if she seems interesting. I don't mean to generalise women here. I am talking about a significant minority. Most of the women I have talked to are perfectly lively and take conversation as just that.
If I have offended anyone I have previously talked to on here, I beg your forgiveness. This is not aimed at any individual or any of you. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
 |
By *asual777Man
over a year ago
i travel all over |
".....why is it that so many women on here equate "hello" or any kind of polite greeting as "I want to wear your ass as a hat" (or words to that effect). Is it not possible for a man to simply talk to a woman? I mean, what kind of man would want to sleep with someone he knows nothing about and in most cases hasn't met face to face. It takes time and a building of mutual trust to get to that point. Yes, I know what this site is about at its core but.....if it was purely about the old in out in out, then these forums would not exist. There is one characteristic which is a deal breaker for me as far as sex is concerned but it won't mean I'm unwilling to be civil and simply have a chat if she seems interesting. I don't mean to generalise women here. I am talking about a significant minority. Most of the women I have talked to are perfectly lively and take conversation as just that.
If I have offended anyone I have previously talked to on here, I beg your forgiveness. This is not aimed at any individual or any of you."
I suspect the number of messages and dick pics received doesn’t help , so there is an onus on more respectful guys to show it . The ladies will be in a better position to answer this though than me |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
".....why is it that so many women on here equate "hello" or any kind of polite greeting as "I want to wear your ass as a hat" (or words to that effect). Is it not possible for a man to simply talk to a woman? I mean, what kind of man would want to sleep with someone he knows nothing about and in most cases hasn't met face to face. It takes time and a building of mutual trust to get to that point. Yes, I know what this site is about at its core but.....if it was purely about the old in out in out, then these forums would not exist. There is one characteristic which is a deal breaker for me as far as sex is concerned but it won't mean I'm unwilling to be civil and simply have a chat if she seems interesting. I don't mean to generalise women here. I am talking about a significant minority. Most of the women I have talked to are perfectly lively and take conversation as just that.
If I have offended anyone I have previously talked to on here, I beg your forgiveness. This is not aimed at any individual or any of you.
I suspect the number of messages and dick pics received doesn’t help , so there is an onus on more respectful guys to show it . The ladies will be in a better position to answer this though than me "
I'm not talking about dick pic messages or stuff like that. I'm asking why some automatically assume that whatever you say is code for I want to fuck you, when the reality can be the total opposite  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Why do you care?
Why do you think women should have to chat back to you?
Why do you care?
So many questions. "
Where did I say they have to reply. Silly lad, please read the post if you're going to respond to it. You literally just did a version of what I'm saying lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Personally, I wouldn't have the time or energy to hold down multiple conversations"
And that's your right. I am strictly talking about women who get a message with may a simple hello type greeting, nothing implied in it and respond as if you asked them to get their kit off and get ready for your arrival. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Personally, I wouldn't have the time or energy to hold down multiple conversations
And that's your right. I am strictly talking about women who get a message with may a simple hello type greeting, nothing implied in it and respond as if you asked them to get their kit off and get ready for your arrival."
Then you're going to have to explain exactly what you mean because I'm no longer sure I understand the question. So you send a message saying "Hello" and they reply...what? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
".....why is it that so many women on here equate "hello" or any kind of polite greeting as "I want to wear your ass as a hat" (or words to that effect). Is it not possible for a man to simply talk to a woman? I mean, what kind of man would want to sleep with someone he knows nothing about and in most cases hasn't met face to face. It takes time and a building of mutual trust to get to that point. Yes, I know what this site is about at its core but.....if it was purely about the old in out in out, then these forums would not exist. There is one characteristic which is a deal breaker for me as far as sex is concerned but it won't mean I'm unwilling to be civil and simply have a chat if she seems interesting. I don't mean to generalise women here. I am talking about a significant minority. Most of the women I have talked to are perfectly lively and take conversation as just that.
If I have offended anyone I have previously talked to on here, I beg your forgiveness. This is not aimed at any individual or any of you.
I suspect the number of messages and dick pics received doesn’t help , so there is an onus on more respectful guys to show it . The ladies will be in a better position to answer this though than me
I'm not talking about dick pic messages or stuff like that. I'm asking why some automatically assume that whatever you say is code for I want to fuck you, when the reality can be the total opposite "
I am glad you said some as a lot of us don't assume anything when we get messages.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
"Why do you care?
Why do you think women should have to chat back to you?
Why do you care?
So many questions.
Where did I say they have to reply. Silly lad, please read the post if you're going to respond to it. You literally just did a version of what I'm saying lol"
Well given no one seems to know what you are talking you might want to work on your communication skills. 
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Personally, I wouldn't have the time or energy to hold down multiple conversations
And that's your right. I am strictly talking about women who get a message with may a simple hello type greeting, nothing implied in it and respond as if you asked them to get their kit off and get ready for your arrival."
What kind of replies are you talking about. Give us an example of what a woman has said in reply to your hello. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Personally, I wouldn't have the time or energy to hold down multiple conversations
And that's your right. I am strictly talking about women who get a message with may a simple hello type greeting, nothing implied in it and respond as if you asked them to get their kit off and get ready for your arrival.
What kind of replies are you talking about. Give us an example of what a woman has said in reply to your hello."
Hello  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Personally, I wouldn't have the time or energy to hold down multiple conversations
And that's your right. I am strictly talking about women who get a message with may a simple hello type greeting, nothing implied in it and respond as if you asked them to get their kit off and get ready for your arrival.
Then you're going to have to explain exactly what you mean because I'm no longer sure I understand the question. So you send a message saying "Hello" and they reply...what?"
^^^^^^^ Do you honestly get a reply to an initial 1-liner-msg OP i.e an "hello" ...? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Personally, I wouldn't have the time or energy to hold down multiple conversations
And that's your right. I am strictly talking about women who get a message with may a simple hello type greeting, nothing implied in it and respond as if you asked them to get their kit off and get ready for your arrival.
Then you're going to have to explain exactly what you mean because I'm no longer sure I understand the question. So you send a message saying "Hello" and they reply...what?
^^^^^^^ Do you honestly get a reply to an initial 1-liner-msg OP i.e an "hello" ...? "
Only do one liners as messages to |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Personally, I wouldn't have the time or energy to hold down multiple conversations
And that's your right. I am strictly talking about women who get a message with may a simple hello type greeting, nothing implied in it and respond as if you asked them to get their kit off and get ready for your arrival.
Then you're going to have to explain exactly what you mean because I'm no longer sure I understand the question. So you send a message saying "Hello" and they reply...what?
^^^^^^^ Do you honestly get a reply to an initial 1-liner-msg OP i.e an "hello" ...?
Only do one liners as messages to"
Initially |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I never presume a guy wants to fuck me from an hello message, now the message that says I'm in your area can I pop over or I'm close by can I call and fill a condom. Them I would think is pretty clear. But if a guy says hello or how are you, and their profile draws me in I may message back. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
".....why is it that so many women on here equate "hello" or any kind of polite greeting as "I want to wear your ass as a hat" (or words to that effect). Is it not possible for a man to simply talk to a woman? I mean, what kind of man would want to sleep with someone he knows nothing about and in most cases hasn't met face to face. It takes time and a building of mutual trust to get to that point. Yes, I know what this site is about at its core but.....if it was purely about the old in out in out, then these forums would not exist. There is one characteristic which is a deal breaker for me as far as sex is concerned but it won't mean I'm unwilling to be civil and simply have a chat if she seems interesting. I don't mean to generalise women here. I am talking about a significant minority. Most of the women I have talked to are perfectly lively and take conversation as just that.
If I have offended anyone I have previously talked to on here, I beg your forgiveness. This is not aimed at any individual or any of you.
I suspect the number of messages and dick pics received doesn’t help , so there is an onus on more respectful guys to show it . The ladies will be in a better position to answer this though than me
I'm not talking about dick pic messages or stuff like that. I'm asking why some automatically assume that whatever you say is code for I want to fuck you, when the reality can be the total opposite
I am glad you said some as a lot of us don't assume anything when we get messages. "
What do you assume? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Personally, I wouldn't have the time or energy to hold down multiple conversations
And that's your right. I am strictly talking about women who get a message with may a simple hello type greeting, nothing implied in it and respond as if you asked them to get their kit off and get ready for your arrival.
Then you're going to have to explain exactly what you mean because I'm no longer sure I understand the question. So you send a message saying "Hello" and they reply...what?
^^^^^^^ Do you honestly get a reply to an initial 1-liner-msg OP i.e an "hello" ...?
Only do one liners as messages to
Initially"
Really... & What would you say..."how are you"?
I think guys should know by now 1-liners don't work majority of the time going by some status updates & bios... 4 sentences max would suffice, Not unless maybe you have an outstanding profile & bio. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Personally, I wouldn't have the time or energy to hold down multiple conversations
And that's your right. I am strictly talking about women who get a message with may a simple hello type greeting, nothing implied in it and respond as if you asked them to get their kit off and get ready for your arrival.
Then you're going to have to explain exactly what you mean because I'm no longer sure I understand the question. So you send a message saying "Hello" and they reply...what?
^^^^^^^ Do you honestly get a reply to an initial 1-liner-msg OP i.e an "hello" ...?
Only do one liners as messages to
Initially
Really... & What would you say..."how are you"?
I think guys should know by now 1-liners don't work majority of the time going by some status updates & bios... 4 sentences max would suffice, Not unless maybe you have an outstanding profile & bio. "
Works just fine,,,in real life would just say how's you..don't see why it should be different
And if the lady wants an essay they not for me |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *asual777Man
over a year ago
i travel all over |
I really like OP’s profile .
I was chatting to someone last week and we talked about the snowball effect you sometimes get on fab. A critical point where you get to know enough people to generate social situations then meets then repeat meets .
There is actually a management book , a best seller , which describes a similar process in one’s work life or other areas. This chat reminded of this book I read years ago.
There is no telling how long that takes and it varies and sometimes it doesn’t happen. I think In its absence this place can be frustrating but an annoyed thread doesn’t solve it usually I think . |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Personally, I wouldn't have the time or energy to hold down multiple conversations
And that's your right. I am strictly talking about women who get a message with may a simple hello type greeting, nothing implied in it and respond as if you asked them to get their kit off and get ready for your arrival.
Then you're going to have to explain exactly what you mean because I'm no longer sure I understand the question. So you send a message saying "Hello" and they reply...what?
^^^^^^^ Do you honestly get a reply to an initial 1-liner-msg OP i.e an "hello" ...?
Only do one liners as messages to
Initially
Really... & What would you say..."how are you"?
I think guys should know by now 1-liners don't work majority of the time going by some status updates & bios... 4 sentences max would suffice, Not unless maybe you have an outstanding profile & bio.
Works just fine,,,in real life would just say how's you..don't see why it should be different
And if the lady wants an essay they not for me "
I detest essays...lol...I wouldn't read an essay type msg, & I've received some book type 1st msgs. I said 4 sentences Max. Anyway if "How's You" works for you, you must have something special  . But if it works for you that's good I guess |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Personally, I wouldn't have the time or energy to hold down multiple conversations
And that's your right. I am strictly talking about women who get a message with may a simple hello type greeting, nothing implied in it and respond as if you asked them to get their kit off and get ready for your arrival.
Then you're going to have to explain exactly what you mean because I'm no longer sure I understand the question. So you send a message saying "Hello" and they reply...what?
^^^^^^^ Do you honestly get a reply to an initial 1-liner-msg OP i.e an "hello" ...?
Only do one liners as messages to
Initially
Really... & What would you say..."how are you"?
I think guys should know by now 1-liners don't work majority of the time going by some status updates & bios... 4 sentences max would suffice, Not unless maybe you have an outstanding profile & bio.
Works just fine,,,in real life would just say how's you..don't see why it should be different
And if the lady wants an essay they not for me
I detest essays...lol...I wouldn't read an essay type msg, & I've received some book type 1st msgs. I said 4 sentences Max. Anyway if "How's You" works for you, you must have something special . But if it works for you that's good I guess "
How's you?  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *issusWoman
over a year ago
Belfast |
".....why is it that so many women on here equate "hello" or any kind of polite greeting as "I want to wear your ass as a hat" (or words to that effect). Is it not possible for a man to simply talk to a woman? I mean, what kind of man would want to sleep with someone he knows nothing about and in most cases hasn't met face to face. It takes time and a building of mutual trust to get to that point. Yes, I know what this site is about at its core but.....if it was purely about the old in out in out, then these forums would not exist. There is one characteristic which is a deal breaker for me as far as sex is concerned but it won't mean I'm unwilling to be civil and simply have a chat if she seems interesting. I don't mean to generalise women here. I am talking about a significant minority. Most of the women I have talked to are perfectly lively and take conversation as just that.
If I have offended anyone I have previously talked to on here, I beg your forgiveness. This is not aimed at any individual or any of you."
To be honest a lot of conversations I've replied to just for pure banter reasons have way too quickly turned into "so when are we meeting, can't wait to get my hands on you" so I'm really fuckitty really cautious to whom I ever say as much as "hi" as I honestly just can't be arsed at this point to explain to random strangers that me being polite or funny is an invitation to fuck me or as you put op wear an ass as a hat or vice versa. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Maybe try the ass hat intro as opposed to hello, might actually get a more positive reply
What's the "Ass Hat Intro"? Do tell
Pls"
Best to use your imagination there, much more fun that |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"This is a swinging site, why would you contact someone if you didn't want to fuck them?  "
To see what they look like so you can make an informed decision as to whether you want to fuck them or not... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Maybe try the ass hat intro as opposed to hello, might actually get a more positive reply
What's the "Ass Hat Intro"? Do tell
Pls
Best to use your imagination there, much more fun that "
Ara...I had to resort to Google & got 2 different meanings... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
on the hill NordWest of |
In general if someone's contacting me I assume that they regard me as a possible meet and unlikely to exchange crochet patterns, we're on a sex site after all. It might turn out that we're not compatible or the interest isn't mutual.
If someone is rude or up their own arse replying to your first message just take it that they're not interested in you and you made a lucky escape. Simples really. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I'm a single Mammy busy with life work being a taxi driver to teens and running a home. I don't have the time or the inclination to have penpals on here. My time is precious so I use it wisely. I don't have patience to have lots of conversations going so I just focus on the one or two people I'm interested in meeting. I've chatted politely in the past but then I was told I was giving off the wrong signals when I said I wasn't interested in meeting. They took me politeness as a sign I was interested in meeting. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
"Take one of the Bman79’s classic opening messages it works wonders
Alright there sugartits how’s the form with yourself
B
Always include the wink and your own initial "
Didn't read the last line...feck  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Why do you care?
Why do you think women should have to chat back to you?
Why do you care?
So many questions.
Where did I say they have to reply. Silly lad, please read the post if you're going to respond to it. You literally just did a version of what I'm saying lol
Well given no one seems to know what you are talking you might want to work on your communication skills.
"
Do you mean what I'm saying? You're difficult to understand fella lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Personally, I wouldn't have the time or energy to hold down multiple conversations
And that's your right. I am strictly talking about women who get a message with may a simple hello type greeting, nothing implied in it and respond as if you asked them to get their kit off and get ready for your arrival.
Then you're going to have to explain exactly what you mean because I'm no longer sure I understand the question. So you send a message saying "Hello" and they reply...what?
^^^^^^^ Do you honestly get a reply to an initial 1-liner-msg OP i.e an "hello" ...? "
I never said one liner. I said simple as in non sexual and polite. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I never presume a guy wants to fuck me from an hello message, now the message that says I'm in your area can I pop over or I'm close by can I call and fill a condom. Them I would think is pretty clear. But if a guy says hello or how are you, and their profile draws me in I may message back. "
And you aren't one of those who assume every message is a proposition of some kind. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Since you pm'd your explanation OP, my original comment still stands. Also it's fairly safe to assume, given the nature of Fab that most will be contacting us with a view to meeting. I don't think there's anything wrong with anyone making it clear from the outset that they're not interested in meeting, especially when they're doing so politely. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I never presume a guy wants to fuck me from an hello message, now the message that says I'm in your area can I pop over or I'm close by can I call and fill a condom. Them I would think is pretty clear. But if a guy says hello or how are you, and their profile draws me in I may message back.
And you aren't one of those who assume every message is a proposition of some kind."
Nope definitely not |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"This is a swinging site, why would you contact someone if you didn't want to fuck them? "
That's a ridiculous statement.
How can you know you want to fuck someone based on a profile and a few cleavage pics. It takes a bit more for me. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Since you pm'd your explanation OP, my original comment still stands. Also it's fairly safe to assume, given the nature of Fab that most will be contacting us with a view to meeting. I don't think there's anything wrong with anyone making it clear from the outset that they're not interested in meeting, especially when they're doing so politely. "
I don't think you get what I was asking |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Maybe try the ass hat intro as opposed to hello, might actually get a more positive reply
What's the "Ass Hat Intro"? Do tell
Pls
Best to use your imagination there, much more fun that
Ara...I had to resort to Google & got 2 different meanings... "
Read the first post |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Since you pm'd your explanation OP, my original comment still stands. Also it's fairly safe to assume, given the nature of Fab that most will be contacting us with a view to meeting. I don't think there's anything wrong with anyone making it clear from the outset that they're not interested in meeting, especially when they're doing so politely.
I don't think you get what I was asking"
Obviously not. I really really don't understand what the problem is. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Personally, I wouldn't have the time or energy to hold down multiple conversations
And that's your right. I am strictly talking about women who get a message with may a simple hello type greeting, nothing implied in it and respond as if you asked them to get their kit off and get ready for your arrival.
Then you're going to have to explain exactly what you mean because I'm no longer sure I understand the question. So you send a message saying "Hello" and they reply...what?
^^^^^^^ Do you honestly get a reply to an initial 1-liner-msg OP i.e an "hello" ...?
I never said one liner. I said simple as in non sexual and polite."
Oooooooohhh ok I was thinking...that can't be right that you'd get replies from a simple "hello". Men have to stand out on Fab because of the vast ratio of Male:Female... & a Hi, Hey Or Hello ain't gonna work for most. I misinterpreted when you said "hello type greeting" |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
"Why do you care?
Why do you think women should have to chat back to you?
Why do you care?
So many questions.
Where did I say they have to reply. Silly lad, please read the post if you're going to respond to it. You literally just did a version of what I'm saying lol
Well given no one seems to know what you are talking you might want to work on your communication skills.
Do you mean what I'm saying? You're difficult to understand fella lol"
Talk about pot calling the kettle black. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
"Personally, I wouldn't have the time or energy to hold down multiple conversations
And that's your right. I am strictly talking about women who get a message with may a simple hello type greeting, nothing implied in it and respond as if you asked them to get their kit off and get ready for your arrival.
Then you're going to have to explain exactly what you mean because I'm no longer sure I understand the question. So you send a message saying "Hello" and they reply...what?
^^^^^^^ Do you honestly get a reply to an initial 1-liner-msg OP i.e an "hello" ...?
I never said one liner. I said simple as in non sexual and polite."
Why did you put the word "hello" in quotes in your opening post then? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
It's not just women who think that though. Im not arsed approaching random strangers in the shops or on the street to try make random pointless conversations, and I certainly don't do it here either.
If I send a random mail to you, you can assume the end goal in my mind, is getting the ride. And I only assume its the same for the majority of fellas here.
If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I never assume anything on here if a guy messages me with a polite hello I will have a look at his profile if I like what I read I will message back I never assume that he just wants to fuck me why would any sane person think that sure you are both strangers to each other know nothing about each other takes time and effort for me to want to meet people |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It's not just women who think that though. Im not arsed approaching random strangers in the shops or on the street to try make random pointless conversations, and I certainly don't do it here either.
If I send a random mail to you, you can assume the end goal in my mind, is getting the ride. And I only assume its the same for the majority of fellas here.
If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to."
So thats what you meant when you said my arse looked great in green |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It's not just women who think that though. Im not arsed approaching random strangers in the shops or on the street to try make random pointless conversations, and I certainly don't do it here either.
If I send a random mail to you, you can assume the end goal in my mind, is getting the ride. And I only assume its the same for the majority of fellas here.
If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to."
Yeah id tend to agree with this.
If a guy messaged me just to chat shit id find it very odd! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It's not just women who think that though. Im not arsed approaching random strangers in the shops or on the street to try make random pointless conversations, and I certainly don't do it here either.
If I send a random mail to you, you can assume the end goal in my mind, is getting the ride. And I only assume its the same for the majority of fellas here.
If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to.
Yeah id tend to agree with this.
If a guy messaged me just to chat shit id find it very odd! "
You never complained about me doing so yet |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It's not just women who think that though. Im not arsed approaching random strangers in the shops or on the street to try make random pointless conversations, and I certainly don't do it here either.
If I send a random mail to you, you can assume the end goal in my mind, is getting the ride. And I only assume its the same for the majority of fellas here.
If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to.
Yeah id tend to agree with this.
If a guy messaged me just to chat shit id find it very odd!
You never complained about me doing so yet "
Id agree that just a chat,and not hoping to meet as the end goal is odd. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It's not just women who think that though. Im not arsed approaching random strangers in the shops or on the street to try make random pointless conversations, and I certainly don't do it here either.
If I send a random mail to you, you can assume the end goal in my mind, is getting the ride. And I only assume its the same for the majority of fellas here.
If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to."
Yep |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It's not just women who think that though. Im not arsed approaching random strangers in the shops or on the street to try make random pointless conversations, and I certainly don't do it here either.
If I send a random mail to you, you can assume the end goal in my mind, is getting the ride. And I only assume its the same for the majority of fellas here.
If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to.
So thats what you meant when you said my arse looked great in green "
Great arse in fairness;-) |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I'm a creep so she says
Here I think I need serious help in messageing women in here.
Shut up creep
1 minute ago!Save
Happy to verify my self how ever you wish just look for some tight pussy to destroy.x
1 minute ago!
You Looking for front door service? Can fit you in at weekend? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Must try the "i want to wear your ass as a hat" line
I wont mean it literally ..... or will I??
You'd want to be a brave man to wear mine as a hat "
Red, you curvaceous minx...
God would love AND respect that trier |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Must try the "i want to wear your ass as a hat" line
I wont mean it literally ..... or will I??
You'd want to be a brave man to wear mine as a hat
Red, you curvaceous minx...
God would love AND respect that trier "
They wouldn't live to tell the tale..its the size of a small country. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It's not just women who think that though. Im not arsed approaching random strangers in the shops or on the street to try make random pointless conversations, and I certainly don't do it here either.
If I send a random mail to you, you can assume the end goal in my mind, is getting the ride. And I only assume its the same for the majority of fellas here.
If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to."
Agree or are married/attached like the op and they have their needs already sorted at home..perhaps chatting to as many women/men as possible is an ego trip to some..to prove they can still chat the ladies/gents.. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Must try the "i want to wear your ass as a hat" line
I wont mean it literally ..... or will I??
You'd want to be a brave man to wear mine as a hat
Red, you curvaceous minx...
God would love AND respect that trier
They wouldn't live to tell the tale..its the size of a small country. "
..... On the National Express |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Must try the "i want to wear your ass as a hat" line
I wont mean it literally ..... or will I??
You'd want to be a brave man to wear mine as a hat
Red, you curvaceous minx...
God would love AND respect that trier
They wouldn't live to tell the tale..its the size of a small country.
..... On the National Express "
But its hard to get by...
That will be stuck in my head now! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Must try the "i want to wear your ass as a hat" line
I wont mean it literally ..... or will I??
You'd want to be a brave man to wear mine as a hat
Red, you curvaceous minx...
God would love AND respect that trier
They wouldn't live to tell the tale..its the size of a small country.
..... On the National Express
But its hard to get by...
That will be stuck in my head now! "
You're welcome |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to."
Thats mean! Ive loads of normal friends but very few are male so I shamelessly say I am here for the chats and the craic with fellas not just sussing out the rideability. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
""If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to."
Thats mean! Ive loads of normal friends but very few are male so I shamelessly say I am here for the chats and the craic with fellas not just sussing out the rideability."
Ah, but you're a woman |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Must try the "i want to wear your ass as a hat" line
I wont mean it literally ..... or will I??
You'd want to be a brave man to wear mine as a hat "
Challenge accepted |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
From meeting and talking to women on a meet they’ve showed me the amount of txts they get sent….it used to frustrate the shit outta me but I suppose unless it’s something to catch there eye like (free cake) they just jump to the next one don’t envy there job but it does make it harder for us journeymen to actually meet someone… |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I assume most people message me because they want to chat & find out if we might be compatible. (Some exceptions, eg following up a forum post so as not to clog the thread with side bars)
But if the profile or message doesn't spark my interest then I won't reply.
A polite & respectful "hello" generally won't cut it. Give me a conversation starter, don't message me unsolicited & then expect me to do the labour of starting an actual conversation.
A bit of small talk that I would pass with a sales person in a shop or a work colleague is not what I'm going to waste my time with here. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
""If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to."
Thats mean! Ive loads of normal friends but very few are male so I shamelessly say I am here for the chats and the craic with fellas not just sussing out the rideability.
Ah, but you're a woman "
OK, correction... if a guy mails...  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
""If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to."
Thats mean! Ive loads of normal friends but very few are male so I shamelessly say I am here for the chats and the craic with fellas not just sussing out the rideability.
Ah, but you're a woman
OK, correction... if a guy mails... "
But my Puzzles |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
""If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to."
Thats mean! Ive loads of normal friends but very few are male so I shamelessly say I am here for the chats and the craic with fellas not just sussing out the rideability.
Ah, but you're a woman
OK, correction... if a guy mails...
But my Puzzles "
Definite exception to the "rules"  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
""If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to."
Thats mean! Ive loads of normal friends but very few are male so I shamelessly say I am here for the chats and the craic with fellas not just sussing out the rideability.
Ah, but you're a woman
OK, correction... if a guy mails...
But my Puzzles "
Puzzle schmuzzle, we know what you're up to |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
""If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to."
Thats mean! Ive loads of normal friends but very few are male so I shamelessly say I am here for the chats and the craic with fellas not just sussing out the rideability.
Ah, but you're a woman
OK, correction... if a guy mails...
But my Puzzles
Puzzle schmuzzle, we know what you're up to"
Can you tell me cause I haven't a clue |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
""If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to."
Thats mean! Ive loads of normal friends but very few are male so I shamelessly say I am here for the chats and the craic with fellas not just sussing out the rideability.
Ah, but you're a woman
OK, correction... if a guy mails...
But my Puzzles "
He he he |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Being polite to get into people’s knickers is an age old technique tbf "
^^^^^^^ Yup how did you guess...;-)& Don't forget...Flattery will get you everywhere |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
This is a swinging site and most peoples profiles are geared towards showing them in that light.
It would honestly be weird to assume a guy messaging you was looking to discuss politics and NOT interest in sex. Sure, people choose not to have sex until they get a better sense of you, but most often the assumption that they are hoping you WILL be sexually compatible is dead on.
You might want t try a dating site if your looking for something else.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
""If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to."
Thats mean! Ive loads of normal friends but very few are male so I shamelessly say I am here for the chats and the craic with fellas not just sussing out the rideability."
Being able to have a normal conversation just makes you a more interesting person. Far more attractive than someone who just assumes any guy who talks to her is immediately on the horn and looking for a place to park his cock. I've always found you to be really nice to talk to as it happens |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
""If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to."
Thats mean! Ive loads of normal friends but very few are male so I shamelessly say I am here for the chats and the craic with fellas not just sussing out the rideability.
Being able to have a normal conversation just makes you a more interesting person. Far more attractive than someone who just assumes any guy who talks to her is immediately on the horn and looking for a place to park his cock. I've always found you to be really nice to talk to as it happens "
Any guy ive met, ive had weeks, months of normal conversations about everything and anything. Any guy i have met would confirm that, a guy who only wants to talk filth is a massive turn off, but i still think tge guys have initially contacted me to get a ride at some point. Does that make me less attractive? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
""If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to."
Thats mean! Ive loads of normal friends but very few are male so I shamelessly say I am here for the chats and the craic with fellas not just sussing out the rideability.
Being able to have a normal conversation just makes you a more interesting person. Far more attractive than someone who just assumes any guy who talks to her is immediately on the horn and looking for a place to park his cock. I've always found you to be really nice to talk to as it happens
Any guy ive met, ive had weeks, months of normal conversations about everything and anything. Any guy i have met would confirm that, a guy who only wants to talk filth is a massive turn off, but i still think tge guys have initially contacted me to get a ride at some point. Does that make me less attractive? "
This is exactly on the money from my perspective...there are exceptions obviously, there always will be, but given the nature of this site, it's a fairly safe assumption to make for the majority of contacts. There will be a few that we chat away with who we'll probably never meet but taking it right back to my original answer OP, I don't have the time or energy to maintain multiple general conversations, not without it impacting upon my RL, or other interactions on here. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
""If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to."
Thats mean! Ive loads of normal friends but very few are male so I shamelessly say I am here for the chats and the craic with fellas not just sussing out the rideability.
Being able to have a normal conversation just makes you a more interesting person. Far more attractive than someone who just assumes any guy who talks to her is immediately on the horn and looking for a place to park his cock. I've always found you to be really nice to talk to as it happens
Any guy ive met, ive had weeks, months of normal conversations about everything and anything. Any guy i have met would confirm that, a guy who only wants to talk filth is a massive turn off, but i still think tge guys have initially contacted me to get a ride at some point. Does that make me less attractive? "
Absolutely not. Why? You accept normal conversation as just that. You can have a chat and a bit of banter and come to an opinion about him or her after many conversations. You are one of those forum users I mentioned who I love talking to on here. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
""If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to."
Thats mean! Ive loads of normal friends but very few are male so I shamelessly say I am here for the chats and the craic with fellas not just sussing out the rideability.
Being able to have a normal conversation just makes you a more interesting person. Far more attractive than someone who just assumes any guy who talks to her is immediately on the horn and looking for a place to park his cock. I've always found you to be really nice to talk to as it happens
Any guy ive met, ive had weeks, months of normal conversations about everything and anything. Any guy i have met would confirm that, a guy who only wants to talk filth is a massive turn off, but i still think tge guys have initially contacted me to get a ride at some point. Does that make me less attractive?
This is exactly on the money from my perspective...there are exceptions obviously, there always will be, but given the nature of this site, it's a fairly safe assumption to make for the majority of contacts. There will be a few that we chat away with who we'll probably never meet but taking it right back to my original answer OP, I don't have the time or energy to maintain multiple general conversations, not without it impacting upon my RL, or other interactions on here. "
You still don't get it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Then please please set out an example of what it is you mean. How do these interactions you're talking about pan out? Give me an example rather than telling me continually that I don't understand |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Then please please set out an example of what it is you mean. How do these interactions you're talking about pan out? Give me an example rather than telling me continually that I don't understand "
I did already. You must must be the man of the couple. Your attention span is like that of a goldfish. By the time you circle the bowl its all new to you again lol. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
Popcorn for one so!
My take on all this is unless it’s a conversation that’s come from a thread or opens with a very specific question which tells you the reason why they’re messaging you, it’s pretty safe to assume that someone contacting you is interested in figuring out if you’d be compatible for more eh adult fun.
Plenty of conversations move towards the friendzone but they would wanna be damn entertaining to bother continuing. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *I TwoCouple
over a year ago
home sweet home |
".....why is it that so many women on here equate "hello" or any kind of polite greeting as "I want to wear your ass as a hat" (or words to that effect). Is it not possible for a man to simply talk to a woman? I mean, what kind of man would want to sleep with someone he knows nothing about and in most cases hasn't met face to face. It takes time and a building of mutual trust to get to that point. Yes, I know what this site is about at its core but.....if it was purely about the old in out in out, then these forums would not exist. There is one characteristic which is a deal breaker for me as far as sex is concerned but it won't mean I'm unwilling to be civil and simply have a chat if she seems interesting. I don't mean to generalise women here. I am talking about a significant minority. Most of the women I have talked to are perfectly lively and take conversation as just that.
If I have offended anyone I have previously talked to on here, I beg your forgiveness. This is not aimed at any individual or any of you.
I suspect the number of messages and dick pics received doesn’t help , so there is an onus on more respectful guys to show it . The ladies will be in a better position to answer this though than me
I'm not talking about dick pic messages or stuff like that. I'm asking why some automatically assume that whatever you say is code for I want to fuck you, when the reality can be the total opposite "
It's not Facebook, it's a swingers site ffs |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
So what sort of replies are you getting to your simple, more than one liner, non sexual, polite messages that prompted you to start this thread?
And just because you don't know if you wanna fuck someone because you haven't spoken to them and can't make a decision based on a profile and a few cleavage pics, should someone that's decided they're not interested in fucking you (yes, the profile and pics are because people make snap decisions based on that) keep replying just until you decide if you wanna fuck them or not?
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
".....why is it that so many women on here equate "hello" or any kind of polite greeting as "I want to wear your ass as a hat" (or words to that effect). Is it not possible for a man to simply talk to a woman? I mean, what kind of man would want to sleep with someone he knows nothing about and in most cases hasn't met face to face. It takes time and a building of mutual trust to get to that point. Yes, I know what this site is about at its core but.....if it was purely about the old in out in out, then these forums would not exist. There is one characteristic which is a deal breaker for me as far as sex is concerned but it won't mean I'm unwilling to be civil and simply have a chat if she seems interesting. I don't mean to generalise women here. I am talking about a significant minority. Most of the women I have talked to are perfectly lively and take conversation as just that.
If I have offended anyone I have previously talked to on here, I beg your forgiveness. This is not aimed at any individual or any of you.
I suspect the number of messages and dick pics received doesn’t help , so there is an onus on more respectful guys to show it . The ladies will be in a better position to answer this though than me
I'm not talking about dick pic messages or stuff like that. I'm asking why some automatically assume that whatever you say is code for I want to fuck you, when the reality can be the total opposite
It's not Facebook, it's a swingers site ffs"
Pmsl |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"This is a swinging site, why would you contact someone if you didn't want to fuck them?
That's a ridiculous statement.
How can you know you want to fuck someone based on a profile and a few cleavage pics. It takes a bit more for me."
A ridiculous statement says the guy on a swinging site who messages people to ask about the weather or current affairs! Lol
What exactly prompts you to mail someone, is it their pics or locations etc? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Defo more like uk POF tho well it is down my way fact ,more chance get the ride on uk POF than here to be fair. "
I get the impression you're here for the ride |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"Defo more like uk POF tho well it is down my way fact ,more chance get the ride on uk POF than here to be fair.
I get the impression you're here for the ride"
He’s here for front door advice…keep up |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Then please please set out an example of what it is you mean. How do these interactions you're talking about pan out? Give me an example rather than telling me continually that I don't understand
I did already. You must must be the man of the couple. Your attention span is like that of a goldfish. By the time you circle the bowl its all new to you again lol."
Nice...and actually no, it's not, it's the woman. But thanks for throwing insults just because I genuinely don't understand the question. You're a proper gem. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"Popcorn for one so!
My take on all this is unless it’s a conversation that’s come from a thread or opens with a very specific question which tells you the reason why they’re messaging you, it’s pretty safe to assume that someone contacting you is interested in figuring out if you’d be compatible for more eh adult fun.
Plenty of conversations move towards the friendzone but they would wanna be damn entertaining to bother continuing. "
yep this is pretty spot on . |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"Then please please set out an example of what it is you mean. How do these interactions you're talking about pan out? Give me an example rather than telling me continually that I don't understand
I did already. You must must be the man of the couple. Your attention span is like that of a goldfish. By the time you circle the bowl its all new to you again lol.
Nice...and actually no, it's not, it's the woman. But thanks for throwing insults just because I genuinely don't understand the question. You're a proper gem. "
Very interesting watching the differences between how he interacted with women asking him for clarification and how he interacted with you when he thought you were the male half. Tells quite the tale! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Defo more like uk POF tho well it is down my way fact ,more chance get the ride on uk POF than here to be fair.
I get the impression you're here for the ride
He’s here for front door advice…keep up"
Exsacly some people  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Defo more like uk POF tho well it is down my way fact ,more chance get the ride on uk POF than here to be fair.
I get the impression you're here for the ride
He’s here for front door advice…keep up
Exsacly some people "
Sorry man, I stand corrected. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Then please please set out an example of what it is you mean. How do these interactions you're talking about pan out? Give me an example rather than telling me continually that I don't understand
I did already. You must must be the man of the couple. Your attention span is like that of a goldfish. By the time you circle the bowl its all new to you again lol.
Nice...and actually no, it's not, it's the woman. But thanks for throwing insults just because I genuinely don't understand the question. You're a proper gem. "
But you hopped on me first. I'm not giving exact examples because I don't want to risk identifying anyone. They committed no crime against me and I wasn't insulted so they don't deserve that. That response just perplexed me.
I mean, say for example (and this is made up) you commented on here about some referendum or social issue and I thought it was an interesting viewpoint. If I then messaged you directly and talked about it in my message and your response was that you're only here to chat and not interested in meeting. Would that not seem odd to any normal person.
As for the golffish taunt.....if I wanted to be insulting then I could have said a lot worse. It was just a little jab. I apologise if you were genuinely offended. I'll send you a dick pic if you need cheering up, you'll get a great laugh out of it |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Defo more like uk POF tho well it is down my way fact ,more chance get the ride on uk POF than here to be fair.
I get the impression you're here for the ride
He’s here for front door advice…keep up
Exsacly some people
Sorry man, I stand corrected. "
All good man I mean any one would think this is ment to be fucking site. Oh wait a min it is ant it.fuck no's I'm still trying to work it out myself seem to be good at getting blocked anyways.pmsl |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"Then please please set out an example of what it is you mean. How do these interactions you're talking about pan out? Give me an example rather than telling me continually that I don't understand
I did already. You must must be the man of the couple. Your attention span is like that of a goldfish. By the time you circle the bowl its all new to you again lol.
Nice...and actually no, it's not, it's the woman. But thanks for throwing insults just because I genuinely don't understand the question. You're a proper gem.
But you hopped on me first. I'm not giving exact examples because I don't want to risk identifying anyone. They committed no crime against me and I wasn't insulted so they don't deserve that. That response just perplexed me.
I mean, say for example (and this is made up) you commented on here about some referendum or social issue and I thought it was an interesting viewpoint. If I then messaged you directly and talked about it in my message and your response was that you're only here to chat and not interested in meeting. Would that not seem odd to any normal person.
As for the golffish taunt.....if I wanted to be insulting then I could have said a lot worse. It was just a little jab. I apologise if you were genuinely offended. I'll send you a dick pic if you need cheering up, you'll get a great laugh out of it "
So now that you know you’re responding to a woman, you’re willing to properly explain your point. Interesting! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Popcorn for one so!
My take on all this is unless it’s a conversation that’s come from a thread or opens with a very specific question which tells you the reason why they’re messaging you, it’s pretty safe to assume that someone contacting you is interested in figuring out if you’d be compatible for more eh adult fun.
Plenty of conversations move towards the friendzone but they would wanna be damn entertaining to bother continuing.
yep this is pretty spot on ."
Very well said  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Popcorn for one so!
My take on all this is unless it’s a conversation that’s come from a thread or opens with a very specific question which tells you the reason why they’re messaging you, it’s pretty safe to assume that someone contacting you is interested in figuring out if you’d be compatible for more eh adult fun.
Plenty of conversations move towards the friendzone but they would wanna be damn entertaining to bother continuing.
yep this is pretty spot on .
Very well said "
Fat fingers wrong emoji |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Defo more like uk POF tho well it is down my way fact ,more chance get the ride on uk POF than here to be fair.
I get the impression you're here for the ride
He’s here for front door advice…keep up
Exsacly some people
Sorry man, I stand corrected.
All good man I mean any one would think this is ment to be fucking site. Oh wait a min it is ant it.fuck no's I'm still trying to work it out myself seem to be good at getting blocked anyways.pmsl "
One can only wonder why on earth people would block u..its quite the conundrum..maybe they just dont like doors |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
"
I mean, say for example (and this is made up) you commented on here about some referendum or social issue and I thought it was an interesting viewpoint. If I then messaged you directly and talked about it in my message and your response was that you're only here to chat and not interested in meeting. Would that not seem odd to any normal person."
Why don't you just respond to them on the thread?
Also, how often would you take that approach with men in the forum? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"In general if someone's contacting me I assume that they regard me as a possible meet and unlikely to exchange crochet patterns, we're on a sex site after all. It might turn out that we're not compatible or the interest isn't mutual.
If someone is rude or up their own arse replying to your first message just take it that they're not interested in you and you made a lucky escape. Simples really. "
Yeah probably this... Hehe sometimes the no reply, or reply you don't like is the exact signal you need to realise that they aren't the person you wanna chat with hehe |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Defo more like uk POF tho well it is down my way fact ,more chance get the ride on uk POF than here to be fair.
I get the impression you're here for the ride
He’s here for front door advice…keep up
Exsacly some people
Sorry man, I stand corrected.
All good man I mean any one would think this is ment to be fucking site. Oh wait a min it is ant it.fuck no's I'm still trying to work it out myself seem to be good at getting blocked anyways.pmsl
One can only wonder why on earth people would block u..its quite the conundrum..maybe they just dont like doors "
I no yer even tried NCT aproch still end up blocked I think theres lot women on here that are ment to be on POF.sure I'm not here to judge and can i fuck you is normally stright block on the Irish fab.. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
".....why is it that so many women on here equate "hello" or any kind of polite greeting as "I want to wear your ass as a hat" (or words to that effect). Is it not possible for a man to simply talk to a woman? I mean, what kind of man would want to sleep with someone he knows nothing about and in most cases hasn't met face to face. It takes time and a building of mutual trust to get to that point. Yes, I know what this site is about at its core but.....if it was purely about the old in out in out, then these forums would not exist. There is one characteristic which is a deal breaker for me as far as sex is concerned but it won't mean I'm unwilling to be civil and simply have a chat if she seems interesting. I don't mean to generalise women here. I am talking about a significant minority. Most of the women I have talked to are perfectly lively and take conversation as just that.
If I have offended anyone I have previously talked to on here, I beg your forgiveness. This is not aimed at any individual or any of you."
We get lots of guys sending us one line messages (despite us asking them not to via our profile). They're not rude or offensive, we just don't want to chat to someone who hasn't bothered to read our profile first because 99 times out of a 100 they're clearly not what we're looking for and we don't have the time or will to just engage in chat with someone we're never going to meet.
A good proportion of these messages, whether by PM or in chat, start with a 'hello how are you?' and then go down the dirty chat route very quickly. Yes there are loads of guys here who just want dirty chat and how are we to know who's who? Now that's fine for them but it's not what we want and that's why we don't engage with them anymore. There are just too many dirty talkers and wank seekers, who start with a hello and then if they get a reply, suddenly ask if the female is wearing any knickers or wants to be fucker up the arse. It's how they get their kicks but it's tiresome in the extreme and very common.
If you could spend a week as a couple or female here you'd better understand the flip side of this coin. Yes we can call the shots in one sense but we also get an awful lot of unwanted attention and hassle from that proportion of guys who never bother to read profiles, just want some wank material and somehow expect to us to provide it then whinge about it when we refuse to indulge them.
There are lots of nice guys here and their experience on this site is made all the harder not by couples/females but by those guys who behave in this boorish manner. They're the ones who cause the issues and make females/couples behave in the cautious manner they do.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Then please please set out an example of what it is you mean. How do these interactions you're talking about pan out? Give me an example rather than telling me continually that I don't understand
I did already. You must must be the man of the couple. Your attention span is like that of a goldfish. By the time you circle the bowl its all new to you again lol.
Nice...and actually no, it's not, it's the woman. But thanks for throwing insults just because I genuinely don't understand the question. You're a proper gem.
But you hopped on me first. I'm not giving exact examples because I don't want to risk identifying anyone. They committed no crime against me and I wasn't insulted so they don't deserve that. That response just perplexed me.
I mean, say for example (and this is made up) you commented on here about some referendum or social issue and I thought it was an interesting viewpoint. If I then messaged you directly and talked about it in my message and your response was that you're only here to chat and not interested in meeting. Would that not seem odd to any normal person.
As for the golffish taunt.....if I wanted to be insulting then I could have said a lot worse. It was just a little jab. I apologise if you were genuinely offended. I'll send you a dick pic if you need cheering up, you'll get a great laugh out of it
So now that you know you’re responding to a woman, you’re willing to properly explain your point. Interesting!"
Isn't it just!
OP I didn't hop on you. I responded to your question. Then you DM'd me to try to explain rather than do it in the thread. I replied in the thread. You told me I still didn't understand. In fact if you look back I was saying nothing different to any of the other women who responded but yet you felt the need to hop on me (to borrow your own phrase). And don't bother with that dick pic or continuing with the digs...I'm perfectly cheerful. I've had a very fulfilling evening and I'd rather it wasn't spoiled |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
""If someone mails with zero further intent, other than a bit of a chat, I'd find it a bit weird. And probably assume they didn't have any normal friends to chat to."
Thats mean! Ive loads of normal friends but very few are male so I shamelessly say I am here for the chats and the craic with fellas not just sussing out the rideability.
Being able to have a normal conversation just makes you a more interesting person. Far more attractive than someone who just assumes any guy who talks to her is immediately on the horn and looking for a place to park his cock. I've always found you to be really nice to talk to as it happens
Any guy ive met, ive had weeks, months of normal conversations about everything and anything. Any guy i have met would confirm that, a guy who only wants to talk filth is a massive turn off, but i still think tge guys have initially contacted me to get a ride at some point. Does that make me less attractive? "
Nah, we still love ya |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
can i just add this... i reacted to a message i got, i thought it was saracstic and this was the reponse
"Hi. I know U have no Interest. But I wanted to thank U, for all the Pics U post. I luv them anyway. Apologies if it came across as Sarcasm. Just wanted to Compliment and Thank U"
I hope he doesnt mind me sharing. but some guys just message to say 'nice one' and thats ok in my book. xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"can i just add this... i reacted to a message i got, i thought it was saracstic and this was the reponse
"Hi. I know U have no Interest. But I wanted to thank U, for all the Pics U post. I luv them anyway. Apologies if it came across as Sarcasm. Just wanted to Compliment and Thank U"
I hope he doesnt mind me sharing. but some guys just message to say 'nice one' and thats ok in my book. xx "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"can i just add this... i reacted to a message i got, i thought it was saracstic and this was the reponse
"Hi. I know U have no Interest. But I wanted to thank U, for all the Pics U post. I luv them anyway. Apologies if it came across as Sarcasm. Just wanted to Compliment and Thank U"
I hope he doesnt mind me sharing. but some guys just message to say 'nice one' and thats ok in my book. xx "
I'll do that too. If the recipient takes it as sarcasm, that's beyond my control. But, sometimes you've just got to compliment someone on their fine photos. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Then please please set out an example of what it is you mean. How do these interactions you're talking about pan out? Give me an example rather than telling me continually that I don't understand
I did already. You must must be the man of the couple. Your attention span is like that of a goldfish. By the time you circle the bowl its all new to you again lol.
Nice...and actually no, it's not, it's the woman. But thanks for throwing insults just because I genuinely don't understand the question. You're a proper gem.
But you hopped on me first. I'm not giving exact examples because I don't want to risk identifying anyone. They committed no crime against me and I wasn't insulted so they don't deserve that. That response just perplexed me.
I mean, say for example (and this is made up) you commented on here about some referendum or social issue and I thought it was an interesting viewpoint. If I then messaged you directly and talked about it in my message and your response was that you're only here to chat and not interested in meeting. Would that not seem odd to any normal person.
As for the golffish taunt.....if I wanted to be insulting then I could have said a lot worse. It was just a little jab. I apologise if you were genuinely offended. I'll send you a dick pic if you need cheering up, you'll get a great laugh out of it
So now that you know you’re responding to a woman, you’re willing to properly explain your point. Interesting!"
No, now that you told me I offended you. If you v read my "insult" again, you'll see I was putting all men down, myself included. If you're not a man then you shouldn't take offense. It wasn't aimed at you (a woman) in any serious way. It was a light hearted, barbed response to something you said. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"
I mean, say for example (and this is made up) you commented on here about some referendum or social issue and I thought it was an interesting viewpoint. If I then messaged you directly and talked about it in my message and your response was that you're only here to chat and not interested in meeting. Would that not seem odd to any normal person.
Why don't you just respond to them on the thread?
Also, how often would you take that approach with men in the forum? "
I'd say about 20% of the time. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
".....why is it that so many women on here equate "hello" or any kind of polite greeting as "I want to wear your ass as a hat" (or words to that effect). Is it not possible for a man to simply talk to a woman? I mean, what kind of man would want to sleep with someone he knows nothing about and in most cases hasn't met face to face. It takes time and a building of mutual trust to get to that point. Yes, I know what this site is about at its core but.....if it was purely about the old in out in out, then these forums would not exist. There is one characteristic which is a deal breaker for me as far as sex is concerned but it won't mean I'm unwilling to be civil and simply have a chat if she seems interesting. I don't mean to generalise women here. I am talking about a significant minority. Most of the women I have talked to are perfectly lively and take conversation as just that.
If I have offended anyone I have previously talked to on here, I beg your forgiveness. This is not aimed at any individual or any of you.
We get lots of guys sending us one line messages (despite us asking them not to via our profile). They're not rude or offensive, we just don't want to chat to someone who hasn't bothered to read our profile first because 99 times out of a 100 they're clearly not what we're looking for and we don't have the time or will to just engage in chat with someone we're never going to meet.
A good proportion of these messages, whether by PM or in chat, start with a 'hello how are you?' and then go down the dirty chat route very quickly. Yes there are loads of guys here who just want dirty chat and how are we to know who's who? Now that's fine for them but it's not what we want and that's why we don't engage with them anymore. There are just too many dirty talkers and wank seekers, who start with a hello and then if they get a reply, suddenly ask if the female is wearing any knickers or wants to be fucker up the arse. It's how they get their kicks but it's tiresome in the extreme and very common.
If you could spend a week as a couple or female here you'd better understand the flip side of this coin. Yes we can call the shots in one sense but we also get an awful lot of unwanted attention and hassle from that proportion of guys who never bother to read profiles, just want some wank material and somehow expect to us to provide it then whinge about it when we refuse to indulge them.
There are lots of nice guys here and their experience on this site is made all the harder not by couples/females but by those guys who behave in this boorish manner. They're the ones who cause the issues and make females/couples behave in the cautious manner they do.
"
funny that....you talk about people not reading your profile. You didn't read the post. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"can i just add this... i reacted to a message i got, i thought it was saracstic and this was the reponse
"Hi. I know U have no Interest. But I wanted to thank U, for all the Pics U post. I luv them anyway. Apologies if it came across as Sarcasm. Just wanted to Compliment and Thank U"
I hope he doesnt mind me sharing. but some guys just message to say 'nice one' and thats ok in my book. xx "
One of the many voices of reason I have encountered here |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Then please please set out an example of what it is you mean. How do these interactions you're talking about pan out? Give me an example rather than telling me continually that I don't understand
I did already. You must must be the man of the couple. Your attention span is like that of a goldfish. By the time you circle the bowl its all new to you again lol.
Nice...and actually no, it's not, it's the woman. But thanks for throwing insults just because I genuinely don't understand the question. You're a proper gem.
But you hopped on me first. I'm not giving exact examples because I don't want to risk identifying anyone. They committed no crime against me and I wasn't insulted so they don't deserve that. That response just perplexed me.
I mean, say for example (and this is made up) you commented on here about some referendum or social issue and I thought it was an interesting viewpoint. If I then messaged you directly and talked about it in my message and your response was that you're only here to chat and not interested in meeting. Would that not seem odd to any normal person.
As for the golffish taunt.....if I wanted to be insulting then I could have said a lot worse. It was just a little jab. I apologise if you were genuinely offended. I'll send you a dick pic if you need cheering up, you'll get a great laugh out of it
So now that you know you’re responding to a woman, you’re willing to properly explain your point. Interesting!
Isn't it just!
OP I didn't hop on you. I responded to your question. Then you DM'd me to try to explain rather than do it in the thread. I replied in the thread. You told me I still didn't understand. In fact if you look back I was saying nothing different to any of the other women who responded but yet you felt the need to hop on me (to borrow your own phrase). And don't bother with that dick pic or continuing with the digs...I'm perfectly cheerful. I've had a very fulfilling evening and I'd rather it wasn't spoiled "
Did so.... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
".....why is it that so many women on here equate "hello" or any kind of polite greeting as "I want to wear your ass as a hat" (or words to that effect). Is it not possible for a man to simply talk to a woman? I mean, what kind of man would want to sleep with someone he knows nothing about and in most cases hasn't met face to face. It takes time and a building of mutual trust to get to that point. Yes, I know what this site is about at its core but.....if it was purely about the old in out in out, then these forums would not exist. There is one characteristic which is a deal breaker for me as far as sex is concerned but it won't mean I'm unwilling to be civil and simply have a chat if she seems interesting. I don't mean to generalise women here. I am talking about a significant minority. Most of the women I have talked to are perfectly lively and take conversation as just that.
If I have offended anyone I have previously talked to on here, I beg your forgiveness. This is not aimed at any individual or any of you.
I suspect the number of messages and dick pics received doesn’t help , so there is an onus on more respectful guys to show it . The ladies will be in a better position to answer this though than me
I'm not talking about dick pic messages or stuff like that. I'm asking why some automatically assume that whatever you say is code for I want to fuck you, when the reality can be the total opposite "
Well why else would you be on here and messaging women? I'm assuming we are all here for the one thing, and it's not for chatting and making friends to chat about the weather to.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"can i just add this... i reacted to a message i got, i thought it was saracstic and this was the reponse
"Hi. I know U have no Interest. But I wanted to thank U, for all the Pics U post. I luv them anyway. Apologies if it came across as Sarcasm. Just wanted to Compliment and Thank U"
I hope he doesnt mind me sharing. but some guys just message to say 'nice one' and thats ok in my book. xx "
In fairness you are right, this has happened on occasion, and it is ok. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"can i just add this... i reacted to a message i got, i thought it was saracstic and this was the reponse
"Hi. I know U have no Interest. But I wanted to thank U, for all the Pics U post. I luv them anyway. Apologies if it came across as Sarcasm. Just wanted to Compliment and Thank U"
I hope he doesnt mind me sharing. but some guys just message to say 'nice one' and thats ok in my book. xx
In fairness you are right, this has happened on occasion, and it is ok. "
I agree, and I fab pics a good bit and some of the guys in the UK and often get a message saying thanks for the fab. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"can i just add this... i reacted to a message i got, i thought it was saracstic and this was the reponse
"Hi. I know U have no Interest. But I wanted to thank U, for all the Pics U post. I luv them anyway. Apologies if it came across as Sarcasm. Just wanted to Compliment and Thank U"
I hope he doesnt mind me sharing. but some guys just message to say 'nice one' and thats ok in my book. xx
In fairness you are right, this has happened on occasion, and it is ok.
I agree, and I fab pics a good bit and some of the guys in the UK and often get a message saying thanks for the fab. "
Likewise, we've no problem giving and receiving compliments that are just that, with no agenda |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
"
I mean, say for example (and this is made up) you commented on here about some referendum or social issue and I thought it was an interesting viewpoint. If I then messaged you directly and talked about it in my message and your response was that you're only here to chat and not interested in meeting. Would that not seem odd to any normal person.
Why don't you just respond to them on the thread?
Also, how often would you take that approach with men in the forum?
I'd say about 20% of the time. "
And why don't you respond to people's posts on the forum instead of PMing them? Well, apart from the obvious. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
".....why is it that so many women on here equate "hello" or any kind of polite greeting as "I want to wear your ass as a hat" (or words to that effect). Is it not possible for a man to simply talk to a woman? I mean, what kind of man would want to sleep with someone he knows nothing about and in most cases hasn't met face to face. It takes time and a building of mutual trust to get to that point. Yes, I know what this site is about at its core but.....if it was purely about the old in out in out, then these forums would not exist. There is one characteristic which is a deal breaker for me as far as sex is concerned but it won't mean I'm unwilling to be civil and simply have a chat if she seems interesting. I don't mean to generalise women here. I am talking about a significant minority. Most of the women I have talked to are perfectly lively and take conversation as just that.
If I have offended anyone I have previously talked to on here, I beg your forgiveness. This is not aimed at any individual or any of you.
I suspect the number of messages and dick pics received doesn’t help , so there is an onus on more respectful guys to show it . The ladies will be in a better position to answer this though than me
I'm not talking about dick pic messages or stuff like that. I'm asking why some automatically assume that whatever you say is code for I want to fuck you, when the reality can be the total opposite
Well why else would you be on here and messaging women? I'm assuming we are all here for the one thing, and it's not for chatting and making friends to chat about the weather to. "
Yes, perhaps, but if I message you (and we have chatted briefly) do you take the first message to be a request for sex, regardless of the wording? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"can i just add this... i reacted to a message i got, i thought it was saracstic and this was the reponse
"Hi. I know U have no Interest. But I wanted to thank U, for all the Pics U post. I luv them anyway. Apologies if it came across as Sarcasm. Just wanted to Compliment and Thank U"
I hope he doesnt mind me sharing. but some guys just message to say 'nice one' and thats ok in my book. xx
In fairness you are right, this has happened on occasion, and it is ok.
I agree, and I fab pics a good bit and some of the guys in the UK and often get a message saying thanks for the fab.
Likewise, we've no problem giving and receiving compliments that are just that, with no agenda"
Well then Molly, why are we in disagreement? You are not someone I would be referring to in my post. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
There is of course the others scenerio of those who message and know from the start that you don't have any interest in meeting them but say it would be nice to chat so you give them the benefit of the doubt and chat a bit. A few messages in you get the sex chat trying to happen and the so we chatted now when can we meet. That happens quite a bit .Then they get annoyed when you remind them you already said you don't want to meet. So it's almost easier not to chat on here. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"
I mean, say for example (and this is made up) you commented on here about some referendum or social issue and I thought it was an interesting viewpoint. If I then messaged you directly and talked about it in my message and your response was that you're only here to chat and not interested in meeting. Would that not seem odd to any normal person.
Why don't you just respond to them on the thread?
Also, how often would you take that approach with men in the forum?
I'd say about 20% of the time.
And why don't you respond to people's posts on the forum instead of PMing them? Well, apart from the obvious. "
Perhaps only one person make a comment that interests me. What does it matter to you or anyone but the other individual if I message them here or in private? Perhaps I message someone to show support if they make an unpopular post. That's my business to do that. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"There is of course the others scenerio of those who message and know from the start that you don't have any interest in meeting them but say it would be nice to chat so you give them the benefit of the doubt and chat a bit. A few messages in you get the sex chat trying to happen and the so we chatted now when can we meet. That happens quite a bit .Then they get annoyed when you remind them you already said you don't want to meet. So it's almost easier not to chat on here. "
I assume every woman doesn't want to sleep with me lol but I can understand how that can irritate. I just talk as a normal person. I am an undeniable flirt but I don't even like sex chat myself. I find it boring. I do hope I'm not in the group of guys you just described. I don't mean to be. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
"
I mean, say for example (and this is made up) you commented on here about some referendum or social issue and I thought it was an interesting viewpoint. If I then messaged you directly and talked about it in my message and your response was that you're only here to chat and not interested in meeting. Would that not seem odd to any normal person.
Why don't you just respond to them on the thread?
Also, how often would you take that approach with men in the forum?
I'd say about 20% of the time.
And why don't you respond to people's posts on the forum instead of PMing them? Well, apart from the obvious.
Perhaps only one person make a comment that interests me. What does it matter to you or anyone but the other individual if I message them here or in private? Perhaps I message someone to show support if they make an unpopular post. That's my business to do that."
It doesn't matter to me. I was just curious as to why you are so eager to take conversations to private message with mainly women. As you said though, that's your business. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"can i just add this... i reacted to a message i got, i thought it was saracstic and this was the reponse
"Hi. I know U have no Interest. But I wanted to thank U, for all the Pics U post. I luv them anyway. Apologies if it came across as Sarcasm. Just wanted to Compliment and Thank U"
I hope he doesnt mind me sharing. but some guys just message to say 'nice one' and thats ok in my book. xx
In fairness you are right, this has happened on occasion, and it is ok.
I agree, and I fab pics a good bit and some of the guys in the UK and often get a message saying thanks for the fab.
Likewise, we've no problem giving and receiving compliments that are just that, with no agenda
Well then Molly, why are we in disagreement? You are not someone I would be referring to in my post."
Because that's just one scenario. Its not a random hello.
Here's what my takeaway is from this...you can't please some people on here. If someone messages with a hello and you don't reply you get slated for it. If someone messages with a hello and you reply that you're not interested in meeting them you get slated for that too. It seems that some people will only be happy when every person they message engages in conversation with them |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"There is of course the others scenerio of those who message and know from the start that you don't have any interest in meeting them but say it would be nice to chat so you give them the benefit of the doubt and chat a bit. A few messages in you get the sex chat trying to happen and the so we chatted now when can we meet. That happens quite a bit .Then they get annoyed when you remind them you already said you don't want to meet. So it's almost easier not to chat on here. "
This happened recently I was polite told him not interested but kept messaging, than used my actual name in a message, but wouldn't say how he know me, lastvweek than told to check out his latest veri. BLOCKED |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"So what sort of replies are you getting to your simple, more than one liner, non sexual, polite messages that prompted you to start this thread?
And just because you don't know if you wanna fuck someone because you haven't spoken to them and can't make a decision based on a profile and a few cleavage pics, should someone that's decided they're not interested in fucking you (yes, the profile and pics are because people make snap decisions based on that) keep replying just until you decide if you wanna fuck them or not "
^^This. If you are getting a response that lays out in no uncertain terms that, no matter how the conversation goes, they won't be meeting you - it's because they've made a decision based on the available information & they are being polite by being upfront about it.
They may well be up for a chat about whatever the topic is. Previous experience probably leads them to put that proviso in place at the beginning so they aren't later accused of leading someone on/being a timewaster/fake* when the conversation inevitably turns to, "So, we've exchanged 5 friendly messages, you owe me a meet now"
*delete as appropriate |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"There is of course the others scenerio of those who message and know from the start that you don't have any interest in meeting them but say it would be nice to chat so you give them the benefit of the doubt and chat a bit. A few messages in you get the sex chat trying to happen and the so we chatted now when can we meet. That happens quite a bit .Then they get annoyed when you remind them you already said you don't want to meet. So it's almost easier not to chat on here.
This happened recently I was polite told him not interested but kept messaging, than used my actual name in a message, but wouldn't say how he know me, lastvweek than told to check out his latest veri. BLOCKED"
FFS seriously and yet people who do that don't believe it is creepy or anything.
I've had the 'have you not seen who has veried me line" as well funny how they think it will sway someone to meet them when it usually has the opposite effect . |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
