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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Fabbers the female in this couple is asking this, and both himself and myself are wondering about this, so any advice welcome..... How do I (female) give a vibe to a woman friend that i fancy some bi fun with her, as I think she fancies me, but not sure how to find out, thanks |
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By *asual777Man
over a year ago
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"Is the woman friend only in the vanilla world "
If she is a friend only in the vanilla world it is difficult and there is a risk of an impact on the friendship. I suppose all you can do is state that you’re bi openly to them and that you occasionally indulge and see their reaction without actually making a direct approach .
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"Is the woman friend only in the vanilla world
If she is a friend only in the vanilla world it is difficult and there is a risk of an impact on the friendship. I suppose all you can do is state that you’re bi openly to them and that you occasionally indulge and see their reaction without actually making a direct approach .
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Why not ask her out for a drink and the day ur going out text her and explain how excited u are to be going out with her,telling her u had even bought a new dress depending on her replys u could go as far as decribing the new matching set u bought to go under the dress. It might be possible to get her to meet u in the bar that way when u walk in u strut up to her confidently one hand on her arm as u lean in and give her a longer than usual peck on the lips. Telling her how excited u are to finally have her on her own gentle toutches on the arm or hand all the time looking into her eyes gauging her response. Doing the usual flirting a woman would do with a man should illicit the required response or totally freak her out and let u know she just isn't into you or women,but from ur question I am guessing she is.
By the way a detailed reply as to how it went will not be rejected either trough pm or the stories and fantasy section
Damm I love the excitment of a first date  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is the woman friend only in the vanilla world
If she is a friend only in the vanilla world it is difficult and there is a risk of an impact on the friendship. I suppose all you can do is state that you’re bi openly to them and that you occasionally indulge and see their reaction without actually making a direct approach .
Why not ask her out for a drink and the day ur going out text her and explain how excited u are to be going out with her,telling her u had even bought a new dress depending on her replys u could go as far as decribing the new matching set u bought to go under the dress. It might be possible to get her to meet u in the bar that way when u walk in u strut up to her confidently one hand on her arm as u lean in and give her a longer than usual peck on the lips. Telling her how excited u are to finally have her on her own gentle toutches on the arm or hand all the time looking into her eyes gauging her response. Doing the usual flirting a woman would do with a man should illicit the required response or totally freak her out and let u know she just isn't into you or women,but from ur question I am guessing she is.
By the way a detailed reply as to how it went will not be rejected either trough pm or the stories and fantasy section
Damm I love the excitment of a first date "
The thing is, our kids go to school together, so its when at the school dropping and collecting our kids, that we do engage in ordinary chat, and it's when we're talking that I get a vibe that she fancies me, I've to sus her in the correct way, without upsetting her, she's a private, pretty woman, and here's same |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"Is the woman friend only in the vanilla world
If she is a friend only in the vanilla world it is difficult and there is a risk of an impact on the friendship. I suppose all you can do is state that you’re bi openly to them and that you occasionally indulge and see their reaction without actually making a direct approach .
Why not ask her out for a drink and the day ur going out text her and explain how excited u are to be going out with her,telling her u had even bought a new dress depending on her replys u could go as far as decribing the new matching set u bought to go under the dress. It might be possible to get her to meet u in the bar that way when u walk in u strut up to her confidently one hand on her arm as u lean in and give her a longer than usual peck on the lips. Telling her how excited u are to finally have her on her own gentle toutches on the arm or hand all the time looking into her eyes gauging her response. Doing the usual flirting a woman would do with a man should illicit the required response or totally freak her out and let u know she just isn't into you or women,but from ur question I am guessing she is.
By the way a detailed reply as to how it went will not be rejected either trough pm or the stories and fantasy section
Damm I love the excitment of a first date
The thing is, our kids go to school together, so its when at the school dropping and collecting our kids, that we do engage in ordinary chat, and it's when we're talking that I get a vibe that she fancies me, I've to sus her in the correct way, without upsetting her, she's a private, pretty woman, and here's same"
So as above but ask her to coffee at yours after the school run u might not get the pre date build up but u will get her on her own in private and fingers crossed she will be reciptive maybe suggest a coffee the folowing day as ur busy today and ask her for her number
Its a big step but the excitment is so worth it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is the woman friend only in the vanilla world
If she is a friend only in the vanilla world it is difficult and there is a risk of an impact on the friendship. I suppose all you can do is state that you’re bi openly to them and that you occasionally indulge and see their reaction without actually making a direct approach .
Why not ask her out for a drink and the day ur going out text her and explain how excited u are to be going out with her,telling her u had even bought a new dress depending on her replys u could go as far as decribing the new matching set u bought to go under the dress. It might be possible to get her to meet u in the bar that way when u walk in u strut up to her confidently one hand on her arm as u lean in and give her a longer than usual peck on the lips. Telling her how excited u are to finally have her on her own gentle toutches on the arm or hand all the time looking into her eyes gauging her response. Doing the usual flirting a woman would do with a man should illicit the required response or totally freak her out and let u know she just isn't into you or women,but from ur question I am guessing she is.
By the way a detailed reply as to how it went will not be rejected either trough pm or the stories and fantasy section
Damm I love the excitment of a first date
The thing is, our kids go to school together, so its when at the school dropping and collecting our kids, that we do engage in ordinary chat, and it's when we're talking that I get a vibe that she fancies me, I've to sus her in the correct way, without upsetting her, she's a private, pretty woman, and here's same
So as above but ask her to coffee at yours after the school run u might not get the pre date build up but u will get her on her own in private and fingers crossed she will be reciptive maybe suggest a coffee the folowing day as ur busy today and ask her for her number
Its a big step but the excitment is so worth it "
We have each others numbers, and don't want to actually text, as rather speak in person. So was thinking strongly of asking if she'd like to go out for a meal sone night and a drink or 2 afterwards, and try sus her out, that way there's nothing in text. Its how to say the right thing is my main concern |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"I think sending out a clear message that a) you dabble and b) she is lovely , without directly asking is a good start
This might be more of a marathon than a race "
I think ur right bud but I like the excitment of the chase maybe in this case it be easier to be up front without frightening her off then ask her to dinner and drinks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ask her does she want to go out for a few drinks, say its a girls night out away from the kids. See what vibe you get from her when chatting for the night. |
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Think u should start with suggesting the coffee some morn after the school meet ..n drop some hints on how well she looks n general praise when ye alone. she how she receives the compliments n does she reciprocate them if it goes well then suggest the dinner together ..be great to hear how it goes |
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Interesting how all the replies are from men. OP you're being open minded in a swinging/ cpl environment which rarely transfers to vanilla environments. I've been where you are  it didn't end well because I mixed Fab situations with real life ones.
What is your gut telling you?xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is the woman friend only in the vanilla world
If she is a friend only in the vanilla world it is difficult and there is a risk of an impact on the friendship. I suppose all you can do is state that you’re bi openly to them and that you occasionally indulge and see their reaction without actually making a direct approach .
Why not ask her out for a drink and the day ur going out text her and explain how excited u are to be going out with her,telling her u had even bought a new dress depending on her replys u could go as far as decribing the new matching set u bought to go under the dress. It might be possible to get her to meet u in the bar that way when u walk in u strut up to her confidently one hand on her arm as u lean in and give her a longer than usual peck on the lips. Telling her how excited u are to finally have her on her own gentle toutches on the arm or hand all the time looking into her eyes gauging her response. Doing the usual flirting a woman would do with a man should illicit the required response or totally freak her out and let u know she just isn't into you or women,but from ur question I am guessing she is.
By the way a detailed reply as to how it went will not be rejected either trough pm or the stories and fantasy section
Damm I love the excitment of a first date "
Stories and fantasies is probably exactly where this suggestion belongs  Can you even begin to imagine the fall-out if this went tits up?
I'm inclined to say leave well alone OP and keep a clear boundary between the two lives, especially when you have children in the same class at school as ultimately if any approach was not well received it could impact negatively on them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'd say this should be mostly ladies advice who were in same situation before.lads are programmed differently. Also what is you gut feeling telling you. My tuppence worth is it same school kids in same class and if it goes wrong will impact kids and may become school gate gossip. Leave well enough alone and fill your fantasy in a safer way for all. Keep the door step clean. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Interesting how all the replies are from men. OP you're being open minded in a swinging/ cpl environment which rarely transfers to vanilla environments. I've been where you are it didn't end well because I mixed Fab situations with real life ones.
What is your gut telling you?xx"
My guy feeling is telling me, she likes me in an intimate way, simply because when I'm speaking to her, her eyes are set on my eyes with a naughty stern look |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting how all the replies are from men. OP you're being open minded in a swinging/ cpl environment which rarely transfers to vanilla environments. I've been where you are it didn't end well because I mixed Fab situations with real life ones.
What is your gut telling you?xx
My guy feeling is telling me, she likes me in an intimate way, simply because when I'm speaking to her, her eyes are set on my eyes with a naughty stern look"
But maybe that's how she looks at her friends, be careful and consider is the friendship worth losing if you put her on an awkward situation |
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I'd you are SURE you want to take it further then reciprocate the flirting, but don't overshoot and go into the aggressor role. Let her take the lead. If nothing happens find you gained a flirt buddy. If SHE makes a move then she is the one taking the risk and not you, and you can decide at that point if you want to accept the offer.
There are other much safer ways of exploring your bi side. Do those. |
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"Interesting how all the replies are from men. OP you're being open minded in a swinging/ cpl environment which rarely transfers to vanilla environments. I've been where you are it didn't end well because I mixed Fab situations with real life ones.
What is your gut telling you?xx
My guy feeling is telling me, she likes me in an intimate way, simply because when I'm speaking to her, her eyes are set on my eyes with a naughty stern look"
Therein lies your answer then |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"Ask her in conversation “has she ever kissed a woman before” see what see says
Good idea...would u ask a fella at the school gates if he ever kissed a bloke??  "
Id kiss u  and maybe suck on ur honeytoes 
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"Ask her in conversation “has she ever kissed a woman before” see what see says
Good idea...would u ask a fella at the school gates if he ever kissed a bloke??
Id kiss u and maybe suck on ur honeytoes
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Awww shucks CJ  I almost melted there  |
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By *j47Man
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"Ask her in conversation “has she ever kissed a woman before” see what see says
Good idea...would u ask a fella at the school gates if he ever kissed a bloke??
Id kiss u and maybe suck on ur honeytoes
Awww shucks CJ I almost melted there "
Almost there is still hope |
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