FabSwingers.com > Forums > Ireland > Just here for socials
Just here for socials
Jump to: Newest in thread
I’ve been here a good few years now and the whole one on one meeting has definitely lost it’s fun! The parties and socials are what keep me here. Anyone else finding that after a good while on the site? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Yes.
Finding it harder & harder to want to do one on one meets with new people. To many no shows. So much effort goes into chat etc & then they vanish or its last second cancellations.
At least at socials or party people turn up & u have better odds of even just a decent chat. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Yes.
Finding it harder & harder to want to do one on one meets with new people. To many no shows. So much effort goes into chat etc & then they vanish or its last second cancellations.
."
Couldn't agree more! I'm mostly here for the community these days, absolutely not holding my breath for meets cos the number of ghosts / flakes is overwhelming.
I actually DID have a meet today that actually happened and I was totally caught off guard when he said he was on his way, I had to get ready in like 20 mins... That's how used I am to being flaked on!!!!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
 |
By *asual777Man
over a year ago
i travel all over |
"Yes.
Finding it harder & harder to want to do one on one meets with new people. To many no shows. So much effort goes into chat etc & then they vanish or its last second cancellations.
.
Couldn't agree more! I'm mostly here for the community these days, absolutely not holding my breath for meets cos the number of ghosts / flakes is overwhelming.
I actually DID have a meet today that actually happened and I was totally caught off guard when he said he was on his way, I had to get ready in like 20 mins... That's how used I am to being flaked on!!!! "
Whilst parties are a very efficient use of one’s time (who said romance Is dead?) there is always a delicious anticipation about a new 1:1 meet |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ilderMan
over a year ago
dublin |
"I’ve been here a good few years now and the whole one on one meeting has definitely lost it’s fun! The parties and socials are what keep me here. Anyone else finding that after a good while on the site?"
I think both have their pluses and minuses with totally different vibes. With a one on one of course there are less distractions and it's much easier to focus on the job in hand (as it were  ) |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Yes.
Finding it harder & harder to want to do one on one meets with new people. To many no shows. So much effort goes into chat etc & then they vanish or its last second cancellations.
.
Couldn't agree more! I'm mostly here for the community these days, absolutely not holding my breath for meets cos the number of ghosts / flakes is overwhelming.
I actually DID have a meet today that actually happened and I was totally caught off guard when he said he was on his way, I had to get ready in like 20 mins... That's how used I am to being flaked on!!!! "
I know the feeling I am shocked when they turn up !!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Socials and parties never appealed to us anyway. One-on-one, honestly, left me wondering why when I could have spent the evening with Lee (no disr_spect to the meets who were lovely men). More interested in 3somes or couple swap (and a compatible couple is a needle in a haystack for us). Now with health issues and life demands which make it nigh on impossible to schedule anything should we feel so inclined....
As someone above said, couldn't be arsed at thus point |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Im not here that long, but the effort that goes into getting to know someone and arranging new meets has lost its appeal already I have to say!
Now that there are socials on I'm gonna take those opportunities to meet people in person and just enjoy the nights out. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I enjoy the socials and look forward to going to more, parties never been but don't think they for me, I prefer one to one meets but have lost interest in trying to arrange them as the effort isn't worth it |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
Im here over 6yrs or so and being honest play meets have lost all interest to me between one thing and another,however i do enjoy the socials side not that ive been to many but its one on one socials for me now till they resume....  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Ive been so busy with work and other stuff going on in my life i just dont have the time or the energy to invest into getting to know new guys. One on one meets lost their appeal for me long ago,for me to make an effort to meet a new guy now, he'd have to really impress me. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
At present new one on one meets are just too much effort. Life outside of fab is just too hectic and I don't have the time or energy to be arranging them right now .
I do enjoy socials and look forward to them again. I've never been to a party and wouldn't mind going to one at some point just to see if they are something that I'd like to explore more . |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I’ve been here a good few years now and the whole one on one meeting has definitely lost it’s fun! The parties and socials are what keep me here. Anyone else finding that after a good while on the site?"
This so Me for a long time now. It seems to much of same chat over and over so I don't get that same excited feeling I use to.
Maybe a partner in crime is the way forward for me all new experiences bringing the excitement of meets back.
For now it's definitely the parties and socials that keep me here. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
We've also struggled lately, and the excitement and anticipation in the run up to meeting new people has been replaced with doubt that they'll turn up and irritability when they inevitably don't.
I used to spend the day before a meet doing all my lady prep; it was all part of the thrill. Now it's been for nothing so often, my time the day before is better spent cracking on with the housework 
It does seep into my interactions with others too. I feel less motivated to make the effort with conversations with new people because I'm just so cynical.
Having said all that, I had my first solo meet with a guy a couple of weeks ago; it all went without a hiccup but he's someone we'd been talking to for the best part of two years. We don't have the time or energy for that kind of investment in every conversation that might potentially lead to a meet.
I've much more flexibility with my time than E so the social side is holding increasing appeal to me. We've never been to any parties though. There's certainly curiosity around whether they're something we'd enjoy but it's nigh on impossible for us to get away on weekends as I'm very much at "mum's taxi" stage of my children's lives.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
I've very little expectations of what I'll get out of fab so disappointment with it never happens. I have always found it difficult to get excited about meeting a stranger and even less excited about engaging with one via text. Fab isn't a format that suits me.
I still very much enjoy the website though and using it.
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I’m struggling to find someone who I click with enough to really want to organise a meet.
I definitely want to get back to meeting but it’s just not working at the min. "
Ah sure you can always meet me again.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Working 6 days a week in a small 2 person company leaves me with no time or energy to be driving around the country to meet others.
Even an overnight stay is nigh on impossible at the moment.
In saying that though, in four years here I'm still in single figures in regard to meets.
I often wonder how people are able to be so flexible with spontaneous meets or do they prioritise those above other less important things like their job? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"I’m struggling to find someone who I click with enough to really want to organise a meet.
I definitely want to get back to meeting but it’s just not working at the min.
Ah sure you can always meet me again. "
Cmere to me so  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"Working 6 days a week in a small 2 person company leaves me with no time or energy to be driving around the country to meet others.
Even an overnight stay is nigh on impossible at the moment.
In saying that though, in four years here I'm still in single figures in regard to meets.
I often wonder how people are able to be so flexible with spontaneous meets or do they prioritise those above other less important things like their job?"
My only r_sponsibility is my job so outside of that I can usually be fairly flexible around meets. Being single and childless is handy sometimes |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I’ve been here a good few years now and the whole one on one meeting has definitely lost it’s fun! The parties and socials are what keep me here. Anyone else finding that after a good while on the site?"
100% parties and socials are were its at and we prefer.
Meeting 2 on 2 is for us more stressful and awkward. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Working 6 days a week in a small 2 person company leaves me with no time or energy to be driving around the country to meet others.
Even an overnight stay is nigh on impossible at the moment.
In saying that though, in four years here I'm still in single figures in regard to meets.
I often wonder how people are able to be so flexible with spontaneous meets or do they prioritise those above other less important things like their job?"
Ive been out of work for ages  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *asual777Man
over a year ago
i travel all over |
"I’ve been here a good few years now and the whole one on one meeting has definitely lost it’s fun! The parties and socials are what keep me here. Anyone else finding that after a good while on the site?
I think both have their pluses and minuses with totally different vibes. With a one on one of course there are less distractions and it's much easier to focus on the job in hand (as it were ) "
This is true. Last Wednesday I was trying to concentrate on the job at hand with 2 conversations either side of me one on Afghanistan and one on how someone became a veggie once they talked through how a duck’s leg was actually from an amputated duck . |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I've taken a break from meeting people for the past two months, and reviewing what I want from fab. I'm coming around to thinking, I want a community of friends, who think like me (around relationships) and are open minded around sexuality. I've had lots of very enjoyable meets, but i particularly cherish repeat meets, whether for massage, or a walk, or coffee,(or mint tea!). I want more of these. Friendship, thats what I want. I'm considering hosting socials aimed at fabbers who live a short drive from me, lets see what works. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
We agree totally.
One/one has lost its appeal, maybe because of all the lockdowns etc or that it can be difficult for us both to have a spark with a meet (But we won’t close that door just yet)…
Kind of the same with socials but with everything starting to open we’re looking forward to getting out and about to those nights again. We look at socials as a good night out with other like minded people, and if there’s a connection with someone then it’s a BRUCIE BONUS   Either way it’s always a good night out |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Im not here that long, but the effort that goes into getting to know someone and arranging new meets has lost its appeal already I have to say!"
that's why I find other sites much better. the effort u have to go through on here and the hoops u have to jump before u even get a meet is enormous.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *spMan
over a year ago
Who know's |
I so get what you are saying for sure. Hand on heart I’ll know I will enjoy socials again now that I know certain people run there own social evenings. And yes the one on ones are gone way too hit and miss |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
"Im not here that long, but the effort that goes into getting to know someone and arranging new meets has lost its appeal already I have to say!that's why I find other sites much better. the effort u have to go through on here and the hoops u have to jump before u even get a meet is enormous. "
I don't know other sites and I know you can't name them but why is that do you think |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"....at this rate the nuns should expect an influx of novices. Nuns in general appear very happy and content and.....didyasee their longevity!?  "
They're building a new convent in Galway
I have my name down |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"....at this rate the nuns should expect an influx of novices. Nuns in general appear very happy and content and.....didyasee their longevity!?
They're building a new convent in Galway
I have my name down"
Fabland's loss
Nunnery's gain |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
"....at this rate the nuns should expect an influx of novices. Nuns in general appear very happy and content and.....didyasee their longevity!?
They're building a new convent in Galway
I have my name down"
There's a few builders in here looking for fun with clients..... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"....at this rate the nuns should expect an influx of novices. Nuns in general appear very happy and content and.....didyasee their longevity!?
They're building a new convent in Galway
I have my name down
There's a few builders in here looking for fun with clients....."
That reminds me, anyone here with a long set of ladders to help Tabs paint the gable end of the house?  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"....at this rate the nuns should expect an influx of novices. Nuns in general appear very happy and content and.....didyasee their longevity!?
They're building a new convent in Galway
I have my name down
There's a few builders in here looking for fun with clients.....
That reminds me, anyone here with a long set of ladders to help Tabs paint the gable end of the house? "
Can she not use the one in her tights? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"....at this rate the nuns should expect an influx of novices. Nuns in general appear very happy and content and.....didyasee their longevity!?
They're building a new convent in Galway
I have my name down
There's a few builders in here looking for fun with clients.....
That reminds me, anyone here with a long set of ladders to help Tabs paint the gable end of the house? "
I'll supply the ladder. I'll even hold it for her if she wears a dress |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"....at this rate the nuns should expect an influx of novices. Nuns in general appear very happy and content and.....didyasee their longevity!?
They're building a new convent in Galway
I have my name down
There's a few builders in here looking for fun with clients.....
That reminds me, anyone here with a long set of ladders to help Tabs paint the gable end of the house?
Can she not use the one in her tights? "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"....at this rate the nuns should expect an influx of novices. Nuns in general appear very happy and content and.....didyasee their longevity!?
They're building a new convent in Galway
I have my name down
There's a few builders in here looking for fun with clients.....
That reminds me, anyone here with a long set of ladders to help Tabs paint the gable end of the house?
I'll supply the ladder. I'll even hold it for her if she wears a dress "
And there was me, thinking you’d be offering to trim her bush Mikey |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"....at this rate the nuns should expect an influx of novices. Nuns in general appear very happy and content and.....didyasee their longevity!?
They're building a new convent in Galway
I have my name down"
s1ren can I come too. Yes I must agree with all of the comments above, the appeal of 1 on 1 meets has certainly lost its appeal for me recently unless its a repeat. The time and effort isnt worth it! The lack of understanding is shocking as to peoples various situations Im sick of having to explain myself tbh. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"....at this rate the nuns should expect an influx of novices. Nuns in general appear very happy and content and.....didyasee their longevity!?
They're building a new convent in Galway
I have my name down
s1ren can I come too. Yes I must agree with all of the comments above, the appeal of 1 on 1 meets has certainly lost its appeal for me recently unless its a repeat. The time and effort isnt worth it! The lack of understanding is shocking as to peoples various situations Im sick of having to explain myself tbh."
Why explain yourself? If your profile says you aren't interested in something, you don't have to remotely entertain anyone's demands to know why not! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"....at this rate the nuns should expect an influx of novices. Nuns in general appear very happy and content and.....didyasee their longevity!?
They're building a new convent in Galway
I have my name down
There's a few builders in here looking for fun with clients.....
That reminds me, anyone here with a long set of ladders to help Tabs paint the gable end of the house?
I'll supply the ladder. I'll even hold it for her if she wears a dress
And there was me, thinking you’d be offering to trim her bush Mikey "
Well sure, I'd need to have a look at it first. It might need a full crew to sort it out but I'd do the surveying in advance myself first. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"....at this rate the nuns should expect an influx of novices. Nuns in general appear very happy and content and.....didyasee their longevity!?
They're building a new convent in Galway
I have my name down
s1ren can I come too. Yes I must agree with all of the comments above, the appeal of 1 on 1 meets has certainly lost its appeal for me recently unless its a repeat. The time and effort isnt worth it! The lack of understanding is shocking as to peoples various situations Im sick of having to explain myself tbh."
*Claps excitedly*
Come here my pretty and we will skip off to the convent together |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"....at this rate the nuns should expect an influx of novices. Nuns in general appear very happy and content and.....didyasee their longevity!?
They're building a new convent in Galway
I have my name down
s1ren can I come too. Yes I must agree with all of the comments above, the appeal of 1 on 1 meets has certainly lost its appeal for me recently unless its a repeat. The time and effort isnt worth it! The lack of understanding is shocking as to peoples various situations Im sick of having to explain myself tbh.
*Claps excitedly*
Come here my pretty and we will skip off to the convent together"
Fecking nuns on the run |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"....at this rate the nuns should expect an influx of novices. Nuns in general appear very happy and content and.....didyasee their longevity!?
They're building a new convent in Galway
I have my name down
s1ren can I come too. Yes I must agree with all of the comments above, the appeal of 1 on 1 meets has certainly lost its appeal for me recently unless its a repeat. The time and effort isnt worth it! The lack of understanding is shocking as to peoples various situations Im sick of having to explain myself tbh.
*Claps excitedly*
Come here my pretty and we will skip off to the convent together
Fecking nuns on the run "
I'm onto something here...
Will gather myself a nice little harem |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I have never been a No Show but have had some last minute cancellations...definitely the meet & greet socials are preferable in many cases to 1 on 1 meets...being in a venue with like mi ded people for chat & craic certainly beats a coffee meet. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"....at this rate the nuns should expect an influx of novices. Nuns in general appear very happy and content and.....didyasee their longevity!?
They're building a new convent in Galway
I have my name down
s1ren can I come too. Yes I must agree with all of the comments above, the appeal of 1 on 1 meets has certainly lost its appeal for me recently unless its a repeat. The time and effort isnt worth it! The lack of understanding is shocking as to peoples various situations Im sick of having to explain myself tbh.
*Claps excitedly*
Come here my pretty and we will skip off to the convent together
Fecking nuns on the run
I'm onto something here...
Will gather myself a nice little harem "
There's always an ulterior motive |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Hopefully people’s opinions of meets will change because sadly this thread is unfortunate. It is not in any way a criticism, I guess it’s the way it is for these people who have gotten fed up.
I know I’d always show when I’d say I would, if I were fortunate to get that cup of coffee meet!
I also am under no illusion that a meet entails a journey to the bedroom. It doesn’t work that way.. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *atiePWoman
over a year ago
Secret Location |
Definitely interested in this nunnery, need to practice my kneeling and praying first though
I’ve had 1 last minute cancellation and 1 no show, but I made alternative plans which ended up more than making up for it |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Definitely interested in this nunnery, need to practice my kneeling and praying first though
I’ve had 1 last minute cancellation and 1 no show, but I made alternative plans which ended up more than making up for it "
Oh and another fine recruit for the convent |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Definitely interested in this nunnery, need to practice my kneeling and praying first though
I’ve had 1 last minute cancellation and 1 no show, but I made alternative plans which ended up more than making up for it
Oh and another fine recruit for the convent "
You're going to be acting all superior now aren't you? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I don't even think its about no shows. The last year and a bit has made meeting a little bit harder for most people. Some just think if they send a message that the person should drop all and meet to satisfy them straight away. ( that's men, women and couples).
I get messages from guys from Cork etc and they may be lovely but realistically I'm not going to chat as chances of meeting are slim to none and as I always have a social meet first I wouldn't expect anyone to travel that far.
I do think things will improve in a few months and hopefully more socials start up and the fun of fab can start again. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ilderMan
over a year ago
dublin |
"Definitely interested in this nunnery, need to practice my kneeling and praying first though
I’ve had 1 last minute cancellation and 1 no show, but I made alternative plans which ended up more than making up for it
Oh and another fine recruit for the convent "
Nobody would believe either of ye were nuns by looking into your eyes |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Im not here that long, but the effort that goes into getting to know someone and arranging new meets has lost its appeal already I have to say!that's why I find other sites much better. the effort u have to go through on here and the hoops u have to jump before u even get a meet is enormous.
I don't know other sites and I know you can't name them but why is that do you think "
Why what? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *asual777Man
over a year ago
i travel all over |
Do you think we should allocate a week in the near future , then have a top 10 forum contributors social based on that week’s contributions ? 5 lads 5 ladies or something . Get a bit of forum mojo back
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"Do you think we should allocate a week in the near future , then have a top 10 forum contributors social based on that week’s contributions ? 5 lads 5 ladies or something . Get a bit of forum mojo back
"
Cue everyone going quiet that week |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
the site should be fun but for eg, if u sign up here looking for meets, chatting with lovely polite mails and getting nowhere. thats not fun and the novelty will wane very quickly. I have seen numerous lads on here say they have been here for 3/4 months sending nice mails and can't get meets. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Do you think we should allocate a week in the near future , then have a top 10 forum contributors social based on that week’s contributions ? 5 lads 5 ladies or something . Get a bit of forum mojo back
"
Like a keyboard warrior challenge? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Do you think we should allocate a week in the near future , then have a top 10 forum contributors social based on that week’s contributions ? 5 lads 5 ladies or something . Get a bit of forum mojo back
Like a keyboard warrior challenge?"
It would depend on interplanetary travel restrictions as some would have further to come. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Do you think we should allocate a week in the near future , then have a top 10 forum contributors social based on that week’s contributions ? 5 lads 5 ladies or something . Get a bit of forum mojo back
"
I hope top refers to quality, not quantity |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Yes def find parties much easier and less pressure.. If you feel the connection then fun happens and if not no one is offended... But still have a few scenarios woukd like to act out in a more intimate way as well |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Definitely interested in this nunnery, need to practice my kneeling and praying first though
I’ve had 1 last minute cancellation and 1 no show, but I made alternative plans which ended up more than making up for it
Oh and another fine recruit for the convent
Nobody would believe either of ye were nuns by looking into your eyes "
 they scream come to bed |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Do you think we should allocate a week in the near future , then have a top 10 forum contributors social based on that week’s contributions ? 5 lads 5 ladies or something . Get a bit of forum mojo back
I hope top refers to quality, not quantity "
Lmao |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *asual777Man
over a year ago
i travel all over |
"Do you think we should allocate a week in the near future , then have a top 10 forum contributors social based on that week’s contributions ? 5 lads 5 ladies or something . Get a bit of forum mojo back
I hope top refers to quality, not quantity "
Subjective though |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I'm going to reserve judgement anymore till I see who sparks my fancy.. ?? I discovered that I really need to fancy someone & have chemistry or else I'm just going through the motions.Its not about someone looking like Brad pit.. back in the day, cause what I find sexy is hard to put my finger on.. Having a cock & knowing how to use it doesn't quite cut it for me...my mind has to be sparked too.. maybe I'm just weirder than I thought.. lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Do you think we should allocate a week in the near future , then have a top 10 forum contributors social based on that week’s contributions ? 5 lads 5 ladies or something . Get a bit of forum mojo back
I hope top refers to quality, not quantity
Subjective though "
I quite agree, so who's going to decide who they are? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"Do you think we should allocate a week in the near future , then have a top 10 forum contributors social based on that week’s contributions ? 5 lads 5 ladies or something . Get a bit of forum mojo back
I hope top refers to quality, not quantity
Subjective though
I quite agree, so who's going to decide who they are? "
Me |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Do you think we should allocate a week in the near future , then have a top 10 forum contributors social based on that week’s contributions ? 5 lads 5 ladies or something . Get a bit of forum mojo back
I hope top refers to quality, not quantity
Subjective though
I quite agree, so who's going to decide who they are? "
I'll take one for the team and decide...
Mind you, wouldn't it be tragic if my favourite five ladies turned up to find only me waiting for them,jocks around my ankles!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ilderMan
over a year ago
dublin |
"Definitely interested in this nunnery, need to practice my kneeling and praying first though
I’ve had 1 last minute cancellation and 1 no show, but I made alternative plans which ended up more than making up for it
Oh and another fine recruit for the convent
Nobody would believe either of ye were nuns by looking into your eyes
they scream come to bed"
Or 'oh I'm a divil ' |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Do you think we should allocate a week in the near future , then have a top 10 forum contributors social based on that week’s contributions ? 5 lads 5 ladies or something . Get a bit of forum mojo back
I hope top refers to quality, not quantity
Subjective though
I quite agree, so who's going to decide who they are?
Me "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Do you think we should allocate a week in the near future , then have a top 10 forum contributors social based on that week’s contributions ? 5 lads 5 ladies or something . Get a bit of forum mojo back
I hope top refers to quality, not quantity
Subjective though
I quite agree, so who's going to decide who they are?
I'll take one for the team and decide...
Mind you, wouldn't it be tragic if my favourite five ladies turned up to find only me waiting for them,jocks around my ankles! "
To quote yourself Mick
Phwoar!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *asual777Man
over a year ago
i travel all over |
"Do you think we should allocate a week in the near future , then have a top 10 forum contributors social based on that week’s contributions ? 5 lads 5 ladies or something . Get a bit of forum mojo back
I hope top refers to quality, not quantity
Subjective though
I quite agree, so who's going to decide who they are?
I'll take one for the team and decide...
Mind you, wouldn't it be tragic if my favourite five ladies turned up to find only me waiting for them,jocks around my ankles! "
That’s quite a visual you have painted |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Yeah I find one on one meets aren't doing it for me either! Haven't done for a longtime! Am definitely here for group socials not only am I out with friends but also making new ones along the way! That keeps me here! Social groups and meet & greets...anyone who isn't for that kinda night out they probably not for me! Am a social butterfly even arranging my own socials is great too xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *asual777Man
over a year ago
i travel all over |
"the site should be fun but for eg, if u sign up here looking for meets, chatting with lovely polite mails and getting nowhere. thats not fun and the novelty will wane very quickly. I have seen numerous lads on here say they have been here for 3/4 months sending nice mails and can't get meets. "
I have literally never encountered such enthusiasm on the site . It’s like everyone is making up for lost covid time . I think they need to come to the forum so problem receiving tonnes of emails can at least recognise them and consider a coffee . Who wants to turn down a cappuccino anyway ? You d be mad too . With no obligations. Can’t think of a better way to spend an hour . Well I can but not In Costa |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *asual777Man
over a year ago
i travel all over |
"the site should be fun but for eg, if u sign up here looking for meets, chatting with lovely polite mails and getting nowhere. thats not fun and the novelty will wane very quickly. I have seen numerous lads on here say they have been here for 3/4 months sending nice mails and can't get meets.
I have literally never encountered such enthusiasm on the site . It’s like everyone is making up for lost covid time . I think they need to come to the forum so problem receiving tonnes of emails can at least recognise them and consider a coffee . Who wants to turn down a cappuccino anyway ? You d be mad too . With no obligations. Can’t think of a better way to spend an hour . Well I can but not In Costa "
Sorry two typos
People not problem
To not too |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
"Do you think we should allocate a week in the near future , then have a top 10 forum contributors social based on that week’s contributions ? 5 lads 5 ladies or something . Get a bit of forum mojo back
I hope top refers to quality, not quantity
Subjective though
I quite agree, so who's going to decide who they are?
I'll take one for the team and decide...
Mind you, wouldn't it be tragic if my favourite five ladies turned up to find only me waiting for them,jocks around my ankles! "
Dont be silly, I'd say they'd love to peg you. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Do you think we should allocate a week in the near future , then have a top 10 forum contributors social based on that week’s contributions ? 5 lads 5 ladies or something . Get a bit of forum mojo back
I hope top refers to quality, not quantity
Subjective though
I quite agree, so who's going to decide who they are?
I'll take one for the team and decide...
Mind you, wouldn't it be tragic if my favourite five ladies turned up to find only me waiting for them,jocks around my ankles!
Dont be silly, I'd say they'd love to peg you. "
Did someone say peg? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
"Do you think we should allocate a week in the near future , then have a top 10 forum contributors social based on that week’s contributions ? 5 lads 5 ladies or something . Get a bit of forum mojo back
I hope top refers to quality, not quantity
Subjective though
I quite agree, so who's going to decide who they are?
I'll take one for the team and decide...
Mind you, wouldn't it be tragic if my favourite five ladies turned up to find only me waiting for them,jocks around my ankles!
Dont be silly, I'd say they'd love to peg you.
Did someone say peg? "
Yes, Michael did. Lube it up for him. actually no wait, I think he prefers it without. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Working 6 days a week in a small 2 person company leaves me with no time or energy to be driving around the country to meet others.
Even an overnight stay is nigh on impossible at the moment.
In saying that though, in four years here I'm still in single figures in regard to meets.
I often wonder how people are able to be so flexible with spontaneous meets or do they prioritise those above other less important things like their job?"
Much the same as that, don't see myself doing a social as im off the drink over a year now and unfortunately what's offered here is nights out in pubs/hotels. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Working 6 days a week in a small 2 person company leaves me with no time or energy to be driving around the country to meet others.
Even an overnight stay is nigh on impossible at the moment.
In saying that though, in four years here I'm still in single figures in regard to meets.
I often wonder how people are able to be so flexible with spontaneous meets or do they prioritise those above other less important things like their job?
Much the same as that, don't see myself doing a social as im off the drink over a year now and unfortunately what's offered here is nights out in pubs/hotels. "
Don't have to drink at the socials , last one I was at I had 4 drinks |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Tbh i cant even get a conversation to start to get as far as a meet 1:1, constantly messaging ladies and couples but either not being read or left on read but no replies. would be no harm to give a lad a shot anyway ha |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I'm going to reserve judgement anymore till I see who sparks my fancy.. ?? I discovered that I really need to fancy someone & have chemistry or else I'm just going through the motions.Its not about someone looking like Brad pit.. back in the day, cause what I find sexy is hard to put my finger on.. Having a cock & knowing how to use it doesn't quite cut it for me...my mind has to be sparked too.. maybe I'm just weirder than I thought.. lol"
Nope, you're not....the best sex starts in the brain
L |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I'm going to reserve judgement anymore till I see who sparks my fancy.. ?? I discovered that I really need to fancy someone & have chemistry or else I'm just going through the motions.Its not about someone looking like Brad pit.. back in the day, cause what I find sexy is hard to put my finger on.. Having a cock & knowing how to use it doesn't quite cut it for me...my mind has to be sparked too.. maybe I'm just weirder than I thought.. lol"
Same here. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Working 6 days a week in a small 2 person company leaves me with no time or energy to be driving around the country to meet others.
Even an overnight stay is nigh on impossible at the moment.
In saying that though, in four years here I'm still in single figures in regard to meets.
I often wonder how people are able to be so flexible with spontaneous meets or do they prioritise those above other less important things like their job?
Much the same as that, don't see myself doing a social as im off the drink over a year now and unfortunately what's offered here is nights out in pubs/hotels.
Don't have to drink at the socials , last one I was at I had 4 drinks "
True, for me though its either all out or no out, I don't often have the luxury of a morning off due to work and other commitments so a night out is a rare thing |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
"Working 6 days a week in a small 2 person company leaves me with no time or energy to be driving around the country to meet others.
Even an overnight stay is nigh on impossible at the moment.
In saying that though, in four years here I'm still in single figures in regard to meets.
I often wonder how people are able to be so flexible with spontaneous meets or do they prioritise those above other less important things like their job?
Much the same as that, don't see myself doing a social as im off the drink over a year now and unfortunately what's offered here is nights out in pubs/hotels.
Don't have to drink at the socials , last one I was at I had 4 drinks
True, for me though its either all out or no out, I don't often have the luxury of a morning off due to work and other commitments so a night out is a rare thing "
Try and see if anyone organises a daytime social just for coffees |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Working 6 days a week in a small 2 person company leaves me with no time or energy to be driving around the country to meet others.
Even an overnight stay is nigh on impossible at the moment.
In saying that though, in four years here I'm still in single figures in regard to meets.
I often wonder how people are able to be so flexible with spontaneous meets or do they prioritise those above other less important things like their job?
Much the same as that, don't see myself doing a social as im off the drink over a year now and unfortunately what's offered here is nights out in pubs/hotels.
Don't have to drink at the socials , last one I was at I had 4 drinks
True, for me though its either all out or no out, I don't often have the luxury of a morning off due to work and other commitments so a night out is a rare thing
Try and see if anyone organises a daytime social just for coffees "
Would be good yeah, but, priorities, no shit I've checked my calender and looking at a potential day off around about December sometime |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I'm going to reserve judgement anymore till I see who sparks my fancy.. ?? I discovered that I really need to fancy someone & have chemistry or else I'm just going through the motions.Its not about someone looking like Brad pit.. back in the day, cause what I find sexy is hard to put my finger on.. Having a cock & knowing how to use it doesn't quite cut it for me...my mind has to be sparked too.. maybe I'm just weirder than I thought.. lol
Same here. "
I thought that read "my mind has to be spanked" ye lot and this place have my mind corrupted |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Working 6 days a week in a small 2 person company leaves me with no time or energy to be driving around the country to meet others.
Even an overnight stay is nigh on impossible at the moment.
In saying that though, in four years here I'm still in single figures in regard to meets.
I often wonder how people are able to be so flexible with spontaneous meets or do they prioritise those above other less important things like their job?
Much the same as that, don't see myself doing a social as im off the drink over a year now and unfortunately what's offered here is nights out in pubs/hotels.
Don't have to drink at the socials , last one I was at I had 4 drinks
True, for me though its either all out or no out, I don't often have the luxury of a morning off due to work and other commitments so a night out is a rare thing
Try and see if anyone organises a daytime social just for coffees
Would be good yeah, but, priorities, no shit I've checked my calender and looking at a potential day off around about December sometime "
See you for Christmas dindins so |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"I'm going to reserve judgement anymore till I see who sparks my fancy.. ?? I discovered that I really need to fancy someone & have chemistry or else I'm just going through the motions.Its not about someone looking like Brad pit.. back in the day, cause what I find sexy is hard to put my finger on.. Having a cock & knowing how to use it doesn't quite cut it for me...my mind has to be sparked too.. maybe I'm just weirder than I thought.. lol"
I don't think there is anything weird about that at all unless I'm weird as well |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Working 6 days a week in a small 2 person company leaves me with no time or energy to be driving around the country to meet others.
Even an overnight stay is nigh on impossible at the moment.
In saying that though, in four years here I'm still in single figures in regard to meets.
I often wonder how people are able to be so flexible with spontaneous meets or do they prioritise those above other less important things like their job?
Much the same as that, don't see myself doing a social as im off the drink over a year now and unfortunately what's offered here is nights out in pubs/hotels.
Don't have to drink at the socials , last one I was at I had 4 drinks
True, for me though its either all out or no out, I don't often have the luxury of a morning off due to work and other commitments so a night out is a rare thing
Try and see if anyone organises a daytime social just for coffees
Would be good yeah, but, priorities, no shit I've checked my calender and looking at a potential day off around about December sometime
See you for Christmas dindins so "
What's for dessert |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *asual777Man
over a year ago
i travel all over |
"Working 6 days a week in a small 2 person company leaves me with no time or energy to be driving around the country to meet others.
Even an overnight stay is nigh on impossible at the moment.
In saying that though, in four years here I'm still in single figures in regard to meets.
I often wonder how people are able to be so flexible with spontaneous meets or do they prioritise those above other less important things like their job?"
People’s circumstances are different, but also their priorities . A few weeks ago a lady suggested a coffee and actually we ended meeting for about 5 minutes as the coffee shop was closed and the weather wasn’t good enough for outdoor dining etc. It took me about 15 minutes to drive there and back . It was great use of 35 minutes because we had established a rapport online and she just wanted to know what I look like , that I turn up and get a sense that I wasn’t odd (given some of my impulsive posting I don’t blame her). If that 35 minutes hasn’t happened the subsequent meet wouldn’t have happened and now there is a possibility of repeat future meets who knows . But I think if you don’t put yourself out there then you won’t meet . That’s not the fault of the site . It’s not your fault either if you’re busy or not in the zone mind you |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Working 6 days a week in a small 2 person company leaves me with no time or energy to be driving around the country to meet others.
Even an overnight stay is nigh on impossible at the moment.
In saying that though, in four years here I'm still in single figures in regard to meets.
I often wonder how people are able to be so flexible with spontaneous meets or do they prioritise those above other less important things like their job?
People’s circumstances are different, but also their priorities . A few weeks ago a lady suggested a coffee and actually we ended meeting for about 5 minutes as the coffee shop was closed and the weather wasn’t good enough for outdoor dining etc. It took me about 15 minutes to drive there and back . It was great use of 35 minutes because we had established a rapport online and she just wanted to know what I look like , that I turn up and get a sense that I wasn’t odd (given some of my impulsive posting I don’t blame her). If that 35 minutes hasn’t happened the subsequent meet wouldn’t have happened and now there is a possibility of repeat future meets who knows . But I think if you don’t put yourself out there then you won’t meet . That’s not the fault of the site . It’s not your fault either if you’re busy or not in the zone mind you "
I get really fucking sick of guys asking for an impulsive coffee meet. I work 12-14 hours a day and can't just flit off for a coffee. Persistent pushiness around this is my biggest reason for liberally using the block button of late. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Working 6 days a week in a small 2 person company leaves me with no time or energy to be driving around the country to meet others.
Even an overnight stay is nigh on impossible at the moment.
In saying that though, in four years here I'm still in single figures in regard to meets.
I often wonder how people are able to be so flexible with spontaneous meets or do they prioritise those above other less important things like their job?
Much the same as that, don't see myself doing a social as im off the drink over a year now and unfortunately what's offered here is nights out in pubs/hotels.
Don't have to drink at the socials , last one I was at I had 4 drinks "
And the more drink taken the more it is for a person to get somewhat irrational |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Reading the replies I wonder if people are even taking time out for themselves, never mind time out for meets... all work may pay the bills but mentally & physically we need down time to recover & rest... to continue working we also need to look after ourselves ... ourselves & family 1st not always the job 1st |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Reading the replies I wonder if people are even taking time out for themselves, never mind time out for meets... all work may pay the bills but mentally & physically we need down time to recover & rest... to continue working we also need to look after ourselves ... ourselves & family 1st not always the job 1st"
Right at this moment unfortunately it is all about the job. I've done all the crazy 60-80 hour weeks and driving 1000 miles with no down time.
That changed due to covid and losing my job.
The one I have now was initially to help a friend keep his business afloat during an uncertain year.
Due to hard work, word of mouth and fortunate circumstance, turnover has increased by 100% while competitors have closed their doors.
Therefore until we find our natural level in this new world that has to be the focus right now. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I wonder do newbies who are told that they should try to get to socials in order to increase their chances of meets, get frustrated to hear that people who don’t meet are filling up socials. "
Wouldn't see why, it's not a prerequisite that you are meeting to go to a social. I'm sure for parties it's different |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
on the hill NordWest of |
"I wonder do newbies who are told that they should try to get to socials in order to increase their chances of meets, get frustrated to hear that people who don’t meet are filling up socials. "
Hmmm yes I think you're onto something there, imagine as a single lad fetching on of those social invites, dreaming of endless sex, only to find out at the social that most don't meet. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"I wonder do newbies who are told that they should try to get to socials in order to increase their chances of meets, get frustrated to hear that people who don’t meet are filling up socials.
Hmmm yes I think you're onto something there, imagine as a single lad fetching on of those social invites, dreaming of endless sex, only to find out at the social that most don't meet. "
Hearts broken and cocks wilting all across the land |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I wonder do newbies who are told that they should try to get to socials in order to increase their chances of meets, get frustrated to hear that people who don’t meet are filling up socials.
Hmmm yes I think you're onto something there, imagine as a single lad fetching on of those social invites, dreaming of endless sex, only to find out at the social that most don't meet.
Hearts broken and cocks wilting all across the land "
The End is Nigh  it was fun while it lasted |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *atiePWoman
over a year ago
Secret Location |
"I wonder do newbies who are told that they should try to get to socials in order to increase their chances of meets, get frustrated to hear that people who don’t meet are filling up socials.
Hmmm yes I think you're onto something there, imagine as a single lad fetching on of those social invites, dreaming of endless sex, only to find out at the social that most don't meet.
Hearts broken and cocks wilting all across the land "
Expectations - the cause of all disappointment |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Attending socials is meeting though. Those who go regularly are there to meet old and new friends without the hassle of having to organise one on one meets.
Newbies are still in with a chance of an aul roide as long as they tick the right boxes. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Attending socials (not parties) is chance to meet people , friends
etc you wouldn't have many chances to due to distance, real life etc ... Normal fun night out drinking, dancing and making new connections... If you wanna have Fun after then that's what hotel rooms are for ... should never assume anything different |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I wonder do newbies who are told that they should try to get to socials in order to increase their chances of meets, get frustrated to hear that people who don’t meet are filling up socials. "
Ah but it means you are meeting lots of people at once. Like a big coffee meet, not guaranteed to get a meet but definitely in your favour for attending oh and not being a knobend on the night |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"I wonder do newbies who are told that they should try to get to socials in order to increase their chances of meets, get frustrated to hear that people who don’t meet are filling up socials.
Ah but it means you are meeting lots of people at once. Like a big coffee meet, not guaranteed to get a meet but definitely in your favour for attending oh and not being a knobend on the night "
Oh I know that, I mean more that there’s very few places left for newbies when guest lists are full of the regulars. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *pin21Man
over a year ago
Killarney |
Each to their own. To all the people flaking without genuine excuses, shame on you. Granted life can sometimes get in the way, but I've heard stories of people that have no real intentions of meeting and are just time-wasters. IMO socials are great if you go with no preconceived expectation. You will encounter a good mixture of people and any playmates you engage with tend to come as a sort of sexy surprise, as you may not have arranged a specific meet with someone pre-social. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"Each to their own. To all the people flaking without genuine excuses, shame on you. Granted life can sometimes get in the way, but I've heard stories of people that have no real intentions of meeting and are just time-wasters. IMO socials are great if you go with no preconceived expectation. You will encounter a good mixture of people and any playmates you engage with tend to come as a sort of sexy surprise, as you may not have arranged a specific meet with someone pre-social. "
And what is a genuine excuse and by flaking do you mean not fucking all around them or what exactly ?
It's a pity people don't pay more attention to their own fab journey and less time giving out about what they think others should do on here . |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *pin21Man
over a year ago
Killarney |
"Each to their own. To all the people flaking without genuine excuses, shame on you. Granted life can sometimes get in the way, but I've heard stories of people that have no real intentions of meeting and are just time-wasters. IMO socials are great if you go with no preconceived expectation. You will encounter a good mixture of people and any playmates you engage with tend to come as a sort of sexy surprise, as you may not have arranged a specific meet with someone pre-social.
And what is a genuine excuse and by flaking do you mean not fucking all around them or what exactly ?
It's a pity people don't pay more attention to their own fab journey and less time giving out about what they think others should do on here . "
As in people that never had any real intention of meeting and were just leading people on. Its not about fucking everybody all around them, it's just about basic common r_spect. Well I suppose it's hard to know if an excuse is genuine or not, but I've heard stories where people have offered to pay half or all of cost of hotel/dinner/coffee because something came up last minute. It might be a made up excuse, but at least it's better than people who just go MIA without any communication, or reason for a no show. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Each to their own. To all the people flaking without genuine excuses, shame on you. Granted life can sometimes get in the way, but I've heard stories of people that have no real intentions of meeting and are just time-wasters. IMO socials are great if you go with no preconceived expectation. You will encounter a good mixture of people and any playmates you engage with tend to come as a sort of sexy surprise, as you may not have arranged a specific meet with someone pre-social.
And what is a genuine excuse and by flaking do you mean not fucking all around them or what exactly ?
It's a pity people don't pay more attention to their own fab journey and less time giving out about what they think others should do on here .
As in people that never had any real intention of meeting and were just leading people on. Its not about fucking everybody all around them, it's just about basic common r_spect. Well I suppose it's hard to know if an excuse is genuine or not, but I've heard stories where people have offered to pay half or all of cost of hotel/dinner/coffee because something came up last minute. It might be a made up excuse, but at least it's better than people who just go MIA without any communication, or reason for a no show."
Its all part of fab and life in general, having a go at people here I a waste of time. Some people are on here to meet some aren't , the best plan is do what you want and stick with people who are here for the same reasons. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *pin21Man
over a year ago
Killarney |
"Each to their own. To all the people flaking without genuine excuses, shame on you. Granted life can sometimes get in the way, but I've heard stories of people that have no real intentions of meeting and are just time-wasters. IMO socials are great if you go with no preconceived expectation. You will encounter a good mixture of people and any playmates you engage with tend to come as a sort of sexy surprise, as you may not have arranged a specific meet with someone pre-social.
And what is a genuine excuse and by flaking do you mean not fucking all around them or what exactly ?
It's a pity people don't pay more attention to their own fab journey and less time giving out about what they think others should do on here .
As in people that never had any real intention of meeting and were just leading people on. Its not about fucking everybody all around them, it's just about basic common r_spect. Well I suppose it's hard to know if an excuse is genuine or not, but I've heard stories where people have offered to pay half or all of cost of hotel/dinner/coffee because something came up last minute. It might be a made up excuse, but at least it's better than people who just go MIA without any communication, or reason for a no show.
Its all part of fab and life in general, having a go at people here I a waste of time. Some people are on here to meet some aren't , the best plan is do what you want and stick with people who are here for the same reasons. "
Lol that's not having a go at people, that's just my own observation that I'm pretty sure 99% don't care about either way. Eamon Dunphy would be insulted if that was classified as "having a go", haha. I'm not here to change Fab, or the world |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
In r_sponse to the OP
I can't agree or disagree since I've not had the good fortune to arrange an intimate meet. I have had two social ones and would never arrange one unless I was sure I could be there. No showing is just pure bad manners. I hope you girls all talk behind the scenes about guys like that |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"How does one apply for this nunnery?? asking for a Friend
I heard its in the Midlands
Oooh close enough to me so i always fancied wearing a habit "
I reckon you look well in a habit |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"How does one apply for this nunnery?? asking for a Friend
I heard its in the Midlands
Oooh close enough to me so i always fancied wearing a habit
I reckon you look well in a habit "
U will have me whipped into shape to b sure i do lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"How does one apply for this nunnery?? asking for a Friend
I heard its in the Midlands
Oooh close enough to me so i always fancied wearing a habit
I reckon you look well in a habit
U will have me whipped into shape to b sure i do lol"
I bought skipping rope and all |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"How does one apply for this nunnery?? asking for a Friend
I heard its in the Midlands
Oooh close enough to me so i always fancied wearing a habit
I reckon you look well in a habit
U will have me whipped into shape to b sure i do lol
I bought skipping rope and all "
Woohoo |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
This is certainly an interesting thread!
I'm shocked at the amount of people that think 1-1 meets are too much effort!
There's lads crying out for meets on the forums, and the advice they get as to what way to have their profile and then to put the 'effort' in to get what they want - by people that aren't arsed putting in the effort 
I do think if you are repeatedly getting last minute cancellations and no shows from loads of different members of the site then you need to look at your own profile / meet criteria and figure out why it's constantly happening to you. There's loads here that are meeting 1-1 without any of that happening.
I do agree that socials are a great way to meet a number of new people at once, but there's still room for the 1-1 imo |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"This is certainly an interesting thread!
I'm shocked at the amount of people that think 1-1 meets are too much effort!
There's lads crying out for meets on the forums, and the advice they get as to what way to have their profile and then to put the 'effort' in to get what they want - by people that aren't arsed putting in the effort
I do think if you are repeatedly getting last minute cancellations and no shows from loads of different members of the site then you need to look at your own profile / meet criteria and figure out why it's constantly happening to you. There's loads here that are meeting 1-1 without any of that happening.
I do agree that socials are a great way to meet a number of new people at once, but there's still room for the 1-1 imo"
Of course one to ones are important as well but sometimes life outside of fab is too hectic to do them _specially new ones. They're are always plenty of people doing one on one meets. Just because people are willing to actually say it on the forums that they aren't for whatever reasons is no need for little digs at them.Like I have said numerous times concentrate on your own fab journey and do things your own way .
Or do you expect people on here to do pity shags/meets just to keep others happy ?
Most of the people who give advice on those threads are people who have been on here a good while and are actually giving good advice which actually is rarely taken anyhow by the person posting .Just because some are not doing one on one meets at the that time does not mean the advice is invalid. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"This is certainly an interesting thread!
I'm shocked at the amount of people that think 1-1 meets are too much effort!
There's lads crying out for meets on the forums, and the advice they get as to what way to have their profile and then to put the 'effort' in to get what they want - by people that aren't arsed putting in the effort
I do think if you are repeatedly getting last minute cancellations and no shows from loads of different members of the site then you need to look at your own profile / meet criteria and figure out why it's constantly happening to you. There's loads here that are meeting 1-1 without any of that happening.
I do agree that socials are a great way to meet a number of new people at once, but there's still room for the 1-1 imo
Of course one to ones are important as well but sometimes life outside of fab is too hectic to do them _specially new ones. They're are always plenty of people doing one on one meets. Just because people are willing to actually say it on the forums that they aren't for whatever reasons is no need for little digs at them.Like I have said numerous times concentrate on your own fab journey and do things your own way .
Or do you expect people on here to do pity shags/meets just to keep others happy ?
Most of the people who give advice on those threads are people who have been on here a good while and are actually giving good advice which actually is rarely taken anyhow by the person posting .Just because some are not doing one on one meets at the that time does not mean the advice is invalid. "
We agree on a few things so, but I didn't make any 'little digs' at anyone! I just replied to a thread giving my opinion, same way you and everyone else has!
And no, I do not expect people to do pity shags/meets. I don't know where you got that idea from my comment? As you say, concentrate on your own fab journey and do things your own way.
I do agree with you about the advice, it's given in good faith and rarely ever followed.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"This is certainly an interesting thread!
I'm shocked at the amount of people that think 1-1 meets are too much effort!
There's lads crying out for meets on the forums, and the advice they get as to what way to have their profile and then to put the 'effort' in to get what they want - by people that aren't arsed putting in the effort
I do think if you are repeatedly getting last minute cancellations and no shows from loads of different members of the site then you need to look at your own profile / meet criteria and figure out why it's constantly happening to you. There's loads here that are meeting 1-1 without any of that happening.
I do agree that socials are a great way to meet a number of new people at once, but there's still room for the 1-1 imo
Of course one to ones are important as well but sometimes life outside of fab is too hectic to do them _specially new ones. They're are always plenty of people doing one on one meets. Just because people are willing to actually say it on the forums that they aren't for whatever reasons is no need for little digs at them.Like I have said numerous times concentrate on your own fab journey and do things your own way .
Or do you expect people on here to do pity shags/meets just to keep others happy ?
Most of the people who give advice on those threads are people who have been on here a good while and are actually giving good advice which actually is rarely taken anyhow by the person posting .Just because some are not doing one on one meets at the that time does not mean the advice is invalid.
We agree on a few things so, but I didn't make any 'little digs' at anyone! I just replied to a thread giving my opinion, same way you and everyone else has!
And no, I do not expect people to do pity shags/meets. I don't know where you got that idea from my comment? As you say, concentrate on your own fab journey and do things your own way.
I do agree with you about the advice, it's given in good faith and rarely ever followed.
"
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"This is certainly an interesting thread!
I'm shocked at the amount of people that think 1-1 meets are too much effort!
There's lads crying out for meets on the forums, and the advice they get as to what way to have their profile and then to put the 'effort' in to get what they want - by people that aren't arsed putting in the effort
I do think if you are repeatedly getting last minute cancellations and no shows from loads of different members of the site then you need to look at your own profile / meet criteria and figure out why it's constantly happening to you. There's loads here that are meeting 1-1 without any of that happening.
I do agree that socials are a great way to meet a number of new people at once, but there's still room for the 1-1 imo
Of course one to ones are important as well but sometimes life outside of fab is too hectic to do them _specially new ones. They're are always plenty of people doing one on one meets. Just because people are willing to actually say it on the forums that they aren't for whatever reasons is no need for little digs at them.Like I have said numerous times concentrate on your own fab journey and do things your own way .
Or do you expect people on here to do pity shags/meets just to keep others happy ?
Most of the people who give advice on those threads are people who have been on here a good while and are actually giving good advice which actually is rarely taken anyhow by the person posting .Just because some are not doing one on one meets at the that time does not mean the advice is invalid.
We agree on a few things so, but I didn't make any 'little digs' at anyone! I just replied to a thread giving my opinion, same way you and everyone else has!
And no, I do not expect people to do pity shags/meets. I don't know where you got that idea from my comment? As you say, concentrate on your own fab journey and do things your own way.
I do agree with you about the advice, it's given in good faith and rarely ever followed.
"
Your comment about the people giving advice not being arsed to make an effort isn't correct though.
Most of the people giving advice have made the effort and often got little in return.
Life moves on, priorities change and people adapt.
Where once people may have had the time to chat to numerous people in the hope of making that one connection and taking it further now they may find it less hassle to go to a social and use that to narrow the field.
I agree about the way some people vet those they are chatting to and I often wonder how the same people can have so many no shows or are ghosted when others don't have any of those issues.
It's no coincidence that I've never been a no show or never had someone not turn up and at the same time the vast majority of women I have chatted to have never had that happen either. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"This is certainly an interesting thread!
I'm shocked at the amount of people that think 1-1 meets are too much effort!
There's lads crying out for meets on the forums, and the advice they get as to what way to have their profile and then to put the 'effort' in to get what they want - by people that aren't arsed putting in the effort
I do think if you are repeatedly getting last minute cancellations and no shows from loads of different members of the site then you need to look at your own profile / meet criteria and figure out why it's constantly happening to you. There's loads here that are meeting 1-1 without any of that happening.
I do agree that socials are a great way to meet a number of new people at once, but there's still room for the 1-1 imo
Of course one to ones are important as well but sometimes life outside of fab is too hectic to do them _specially new ones. They're are always plenty of people doing one on one meets. Just because people are willing to actually say it on the forums that they aren't for whatever reasons is no need for little digs at them.Like I have said numerous times concentrate on your own fab journey and do things your own way .
Or do you expect people on here to do pity shags/meets just to keep others happy ?
Most of the people who give advice on those threads are people who have been on here a good while and are actually giving good advice which actually is rarely taken anyhow by the person posting .Just because some are not doing one on one meets at the that time does not mean the advice is invalid.
We agree on a few things so, but I didn't make any 'little digs' at anyone! I just replied to a thread giving my opinion, same way you and everyone else has!
And no, I do not expect people to do pity shags/meets. I don't know where you got that idea from my comment? As you say, concentrate on your own fab journey and do things your own way.
I do agree with you about the advice, it's given in good faith and rarely ever followed.
Your comment about the people giving advice not being arsed to make an effort isn't correct though.
Most of the people giving advice have made the effort and often got little in return.
Life moves on, priorities change and people adapt.
Where once people may have had the time to chat to numerous people in the hope of making that one connection and taking it further now they may find it less hassle to go to a social and use that to narrow the field.
I agree about the way some people vet those they are chatting to and I often wonder how the same people can have so many no shows or are ghosted when others don't have any of those issues.
It's no coincidence that I've never been a no show or never had someone not turn up and at the same time the vast majority of women I have chatted to have never had that happen either. "
Sweets tells me I’m picking the wrong people all the time I really should listen to her more |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"This is certainly an interesting thread!
I'm shocked at the amount of people that think 1-1 meets are too much effort!
There's lads crying out for meets on the forums, and the advice they get as to what way to have their profile and then to put the 'effort' in to get what they want - by people that aren't arsed putting in the effort
I do think if you are repeatedly getting last minute cancellations and no shows from loads of different members of the site then you need to look at your own profile / meet criteria and figure out why it's constantly happening to you. There's loads here that are meeting 1-1 without any of that happening.
I do agree that socials are a great way to meet a number of new people at once, but there's still room for the 1-1 imo
Of course one to ones are important as well but sometimes life outside of fab is too hectic to do them _specially new ones. They're are always plenty of people doing one on one meets. Just because people are willing to actually say it on the forums that they aren't for whatever reasons is no need for little digs at them.Like I have said numerous times concentrate on your own fab journey and do things your own way .
Or do you expect people on here to do pity shags/meets just to keep others happy ?
Most of the people who give advice on those threads are people who have been on here a good while and are actually giving good advice which actually is rarely taken anyhow by the person posting .Just because some are not doing one on one meets at the that time does not mean the advice is invalid.
We agree on a few things so, but I didn't make any 'little digs' at anyone! I just replied to a thread giving my opinion, same way you and everyone else has!
And no, I do not expect people to do pity shags/meets. I don't know where you got that idea from my comment? As you say, concentrate on your own fab journey and do things your own way.
I do agree with you about the advice, it's given in good faith and rarely ever followed.
Your comment about the people giving advice not being arsed to make an effort isn't correct though.
Most of the people giving advice have made the effort and often got little in return.
Life moves on, priorities change and people adapt.
Where once people may have had the time to chat to numerous people in the hope of making that one connection and taking it further now they may find it less hassle to go to a social and use that to narrow the field.
I agree about the way some people vet those they are chatting to and I often wonder how the same people can have so many no shows or are ghosted when others don't have any of those issues.
It's no coincidence that I've never been a no show or never had someone not turn up and at the same time the vast majority of women I have chatted to have never had that happen either.
Sweets tells me I’m picking the wrong people all the time I really should listen to her more "
You just need a few more birthday parties |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Yes.
Finding it harder & harder to want to do one on one meets with new people. To many no shows. So much effort goes into chat etc & then they vanish or its last second cancellations.
.
Couldn't agree more! I'm mostly here for the community these days, absolutely not holding my breath for meets cos the number of ghosts / flakes is overwhelming.
I actually DID have a meet today that actually happened and I was totally caught off guard when he said he was on his way, I had to get ready in like 20 mins... That's how used I am to being flaked on!!!! "
Oh nice hope that went well |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"This is certainly an interesting thread!
I'm shocked at the amount of people that think 1-1 meets are too much effort!
There's lads crying out for meets on the forums, and the advice they get as to what way to have their profile and then to put the 'effort' in to get what they want - by people that aren't arsed putting in the effort
I do think if you are repeatedly getting last minute cancellations and no shows from loads of different members of the site then you need to look at your own profile / meet criteria and figure out why it's constantly happening to you. There's loads here that are meeting 1-1 without any of that happening.
I do agree that socials are a great way to meet a number of new people at once, but there's still room for the 1-1 imo
Of course one to ones are important as well but sometimes life outside of fab is too hectic to do them _specially new ones. They're are always plenty of people doing one on one meets. Just because people are willing to actually say it on the forums that they aren't for whatever reasons is no need for little digs at them.Like I have said numerous times concentrate on your own fab journey and do things your own way .
Or do you expect people on here to do pity shags/meets just to keep others happy ?
Most of the people who give advice on those threads are people who have been on here a good while and are actually giving good advice which actually is rarely taken anyhow by the person posting .Just because some are not doing one on one meets at the that time does not mean the advice is invalid.
We agree on a few things so, but I didn't make any 'little digs' at anyone! I just replied to a thread giving my opinion, same way you and everyone else has!
And no, I do not expect people to do pity shags/meets. I don't know where you got that idea from my comment? As you say, concentrate on your own fab journey and do things your own way.
I do agree with you about the advice, it's given in good faith and rarely ever followed.
Your comment about the people giving advice not being arsed to make an effort isn't correct though.
Most of the people giving advice have made the effort and often got little in return.
Life moves on, priorities change and people adapt.
Where once people may have had the time to chat to numerous people in the hope of making that one connection and taking it further now they may find it less hassle to go to a social and use that to narrow the field.
I agree about the way some people vet those they are chatting to and I often wonder how the same people can have so many no shows or are ghosted when others don't have any of those issues.
It's no coincidence that I've never been a no show or never had someone not turn up and at the same time the vast majority of women I have chatted to have never had that happen either.
Sweets tells me I’m picking the wrong people all the time I really should listen to her more
You just need a few more birthday parties "
That was a good party hopefully get back to them soon |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
