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Do men on here not think?

By *ittlekinks38 OP Woman over a year ago

outside belfast x

Do men on here not think that if your gonna be a rude ass too one or two women they aren't gonna tell their 10/20 fab female friends!! And then wonder why you don't get messages just gotta ask yourself a question why? And if they don't reply or carry on a conversation they are obviously bored stupid!! Up our game or walk on! Simples ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fuck them, fuck them right in the ear...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was just thinking this earlier

a friend sent me some screenshots of some Fab mails. I used to be in a women's kik group and we'd share screenshots and let each other know who to be wary of.

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By *amalusMan over a year ago

Tullamore

I think a lot of men are under the impression that messages are kept private, which for the most part I believe to be true myself, but if someone is being a dick in your DMs and Mails then they deserve to be named and shamed, especially if they are being threatening about finding where you live, work etc etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Piss off one you piss off many but impress one and you also impress many!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some of these creatures are barely human. What did ye expect from fellas with their lad in their hand looking at pictures of spread fanny and tit close ups, youd get more sense from the chimpanzees in the zoo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

P s i like to turn the whole conversation around by getting them to tell me in explicit detail how they are going to pleasure me, then i demand several pics, reopeatedly ask them are they free now cos im in their area, ask them to wear something sexy like their wifes bra and meet me in ten mins at their local tesco/aldi car park, where if their good looking enough ill consider sitting on their face for 5 mins till i cum, wipe my juices on their jumper and kick them outa my car without as much as a thank you. Oh the last bit is a fib... I wont even turn up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would you rather people act differently to how they are because of the "Fab network".

Be grateful that they are upfront with their dickheadery.

It's very easy for the more clued in dickheads to play a part on here and seem like a nice person.

Also can people who start man bashing threads (however deserving and true they may be) please start using the word "some" as in SOME or even most if that is your expriance just not a general "men on here"

Thanks

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By *oserMan over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

"P s i like to turn the whole conversation around by getting them to tell me in explicit detail how they are going to pleasure me, then i demand several pics, reopeatedly ask them are they free now cos im in their area, ask them to wear something sexy like their wifes bra and meet me in ten mins at their local tesco/aldi car park, where if their good looking enough ill consider sitting on their face for 5 mins till i cum, wipe my juices on their jumper and kick them outa my car without as much as a thank you. Oh the last bit is a fib... I wont even turn up

Ah ffs,

I was all in there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ps the phrase up your game is condescending as fuck.

I'm assuming most of the lads on here doing well are being themselves and not relying on gaming people

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By *ilderMan over a year ago

dublin

I think... I think about things... and stuff... and sometimes other stuff

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do men on here not think that if your gonna be a rude ass too one or two women they aren't gonna tell their 10/20 fab female friends!! And then wonder why you don't get messages just gotta ask yourself a question why? And if they don't reply or carry on a conversation they are obviously bored stupid!! Up our game or walk on! Simples ..."
are you actually saying that you share private conversations that you have with men on here with your friends can you imagine if a man came on the forum and posted the exact same post only about women instead of men there would be absolute hell to pay and people would be asking for him to be banned. It is a holy disgrace that people would take screenshots of private conversations and post them to other people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree that the sharing of pvt convos is not on, however you have to balance the need for privacy with the sometimes dispicable behaviour here. I have no issue sharing details of dangerous muppets in the interest of protecting women from lunatics, stalkers and madonna/whore complex sufferers, there are a surprising amount of them on here!.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do men on here not think that if your gonna be a rude ass too one or two women they aren't gonna tell their 10/20 fab female friends!! And then wonder why you don't get messages just gotta ask yourself a question why? And if they don't reply or carry on a conversation they are obviously bored stupid!! Up our game or walk on! Simples ...are you actually saying that you share private conversations that you have with men on here with your friends can you imagine if a man came on the forum and posted the exact same post only about women instead of men there would be absolute hell to pay and people would be asking for him to be banned. It is a holy disgrace that people would take screenshots of private conversations and post them to other people "

I think the context of the message is important.

If your rude or abusive then you lose your right to discretion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I agree that the sharing of pvt convos is not on, however you have to balance the need for privacy with the sometimes dispicable behaviour here. I have no issue sharing details of dangerous muppets in the interest of protecting women from lunatics, stalkers and madonna/whore complex sufferers, there are a surprising amount of them on here!. "
report them to the admin of the site have them removed but sharing private conversations is not on. If an arsehole has messaged you send his name on to warn all your friends to stay away and delete messages if you receive any from said person

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do men on here not think that if your gonna be a rude ass too one or two women they aren't gonna tell their 10/20 fab female friends!! And then wonder why you don't get messages just gotta ask yourself a question why? And if they don't reply or carry on a conversation they are obviously bored stupid!! Up our game or walk on! Simples ...are you actually saying that you share private conversations that you have with men on here with your friends can you imagine if a man came on the forum and posted the exact same post only about women instead of men there would be absolute hell to pay and people would be asking for him to be banned. It is a holy disgrace that people would take screenshots of private conversations and post them to other people

I think the context of the message is important.

If your rude or abusive then you lose your right to discretion "
after that post how does anyone know that their private conversations aren't being shared alover this site

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do men on here not think that if your gonna be a rude ass too one or two women they aren't gonna tell their 10/20 fab female friends!! And then wonder why you don't get messages just gotta ask yourself a question why? And if they don't reply or carry on a conversation they are obviously bored stupid!! Up our game or walk on! Simples ...are you actually saying that you share private conversations that you have with men on here with your friends can you imagine if a man came on the forum and posted the exact same post only about women instead of men there would be absolute hell to pay and people would be asking for him to be banned. It is a holy disgrace that people would take screenshots of private conversations and post them to other people

I think the context of the message is important.

If your rude or abusive then you lose your right to discretion after that post how does anyone know that their private conversations aren't being shared alover this site "

Thats the chance you take on social media same with posting pics. I don't share my messages but if I receive abusive or nasty messages I will let my female friends on here know.

Not so long ago there was talk of a guys only group sharing pics of women they had chatted with hence why face pic Friday stopped

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By *affa31Woman over a year ago

Galway

"I agree that the sharing of pvt convos is not on, however you have to balance the need for privacy with the sometimes dispicable behaviour here. I have no issue sharing details of dangerous muppets in the interest of protecting women from lunatics, stalkers and madonna/whore complex sufferers, there are a surprising amount of them on here!. report them to the admin of the site have them removed but sharing private conversations is not on. If an arsehole has messaged you send his name on to warn all your friends to stay away and delete messages if you receive any from said person "

Admin don’t always remove abusive dopes. If anyone is abusive and exhibits dangerous behaviours their name and sometimes proof of that dangerous behaviour will be supplied to that persons fab friends. It’s a safety thing and it doesn’t just apply to men being abusive, women and couples will be treated the same.

However, I really hope the abusive dopes don’t “up their game”, it’s nice being able to easily spot them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do men on here not think that if your gonna be a rude ass too one or two women they aren't gonna tell their 10/20 fab female friends!! And then wonder why you don't get messages just gotta ask yourself a question why? And if they don't reply or carry on a conversation they are obviously bored stupid!! Up our game or walk on! Simples ...are you actually saying that you share private conversations that you have with men on here with your friends can you imagine if a man came on the forum and posted the exact same post only about women instead of men there would be absolute hell to pay and people would be asking for him to be banned. It is a holy disgrace that people would take screenshots of private conversations and post them to other people

I think the context of the message is important.

If your rude or abusive then you lose your right to discretion after that post how does anyone know that their private conversations aren't being shared alover this site "

Trust me -they are!!

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By *ittlekinks38 OP Woman over a year ago

outside belfast x

"Do men on here not think that if your gonna be a rude ass too one or two women they aren't gonna tell their 10/20 fab female friends!! And then wonder why you don't get messages just gotta ask yourself a question why? And if they don't reply or carry on a conversation they are obviously bored stupid!! Up our game or walk on! Simples ...are you actually saying that you share private conversations that you have with men on here with your friends can you imagine if a man came on the forum and posted the exact same post only about women instead of men there would be absolute hell to pay and people would be asking for him to be banned. It is a holy disgrace that people would take screenshots of private conversations and post them to other people

I think the context of the message is important.

If your rude or abusive then you lose your right to discretion "

I do however share with ppl I trust and am sure plenty of them would value a girls honest opinion of a fella....if he's rude and obviously becomes abusive or calling all women uncalled names...and just down right rude? Wouldn't you think they would be grateful!...wouldn't it be better to be nice and then women will say nice things about you...then you'd have a better chance ...rather than non at all

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By *og-ManMan over a year ago

somewhere

To be honest i couldn't give a flying feck if someone is sharing stuff about me

I'm not worried if someone I dont know thinks I'm a dickhead or tells loads of their friends I'm a dickhead

I just try not to be a dickhead

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I agree that the sharing of pvt convos is not on, however you have to balance the need for privacy with the sometimes dispicable behaviour here. I have no issue sharing details of dangerous muppets in the interest of protecting women from lunatics, stalkers and madonna/whore complex sufferers, there are a surprising amount of them on here!. report them to the admin of the site have them removed but sharing private conversations is not on. If an arsehole has messaged you send his name on to warn all your friends to stay away and delete messages if you receive any from said person

However, I really hope the abusive dopes don’t “up their game”, it’s nice being able to easily spot them. "
I have no bother with people sharing arseholes names actually id encourage it we all want to be safe on here but sharing private conversations is not on

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By *affa31Woman over a year ago

Galway

"I agree that the sharing of pvt convos is not on, however you have to balance the need for privacy with the sometimes dispicable behaviour here. I have no issue sharing details of dangerous muppets in the interest of protecting women from lunatics, stalkers and madonna/whore complex sufferers, there are a surprising amount of them on here!. report them to the admin of the site have them removed but sharing private conversations is not on. If an arsehole has messaged you send his name on to warn all your friends to stay away and delete messages if you receive any from said person

However, I really hope the abusive dopes don’t “up their game”, it’s nice being able to easily spot them. I have no bother with people sharing arseholes names actually id encourage it we all want to be safe on here but sharing private conversations is not on "

Sometimes it’s a good idea to back up your claim that someone is abusive with proof

I’m not saying that anyone should be sharing personal details of someone they’re chatting to but a screenshot of the message where they’ve been abusive is fair game imo.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I agree that the sharing of pvt convos is not on, however you have to balance the need for privacy with the sometimes dispicable behaviour here. I have no issue sharing details of dangerous muppets in the interest of protecting women from lunatics, stalkers and madonna/whore complex sufferers, there are a surprising amount of them on here!. report them to the admin of the site have them removed but sharing private conversations is not on. If an arsehole has messaged you send his name on to warn all your friends to stay away and delete messages if you receive any from said person "

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By *hy NewbysCouple over a year ago

Maynooth

"I agree that the sharing of pvt convos is not on, however you have to balance the need for privacy with the sometimes dispicable behaviour here. I have no issue sharing details of dangerous muppets in the interest of protecting women from lunatics, stalkers and madonna/whore complex sufferers, there are a surprising amount of them on here!. report them to the admin of the site have them removed but sharing private conversations is not on. If an arsehole has messaged you send his name on to warn all your friends to stay away and delete messages if you receive any from said person

As long as it’s not their personal information fuck them, if anyone is worried about their conversations being shared then just converse like a normal human being.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I agree that the sharing of pvt convos is not on, however you have to balance the need for privacy with the sometimes dispicable behaviour here. I have no issue sharing details of dangerous muppets in the interest of protecting women from lunatics, stalkers and madonna/whore complex sufferers, there are a surprising amount of them on here!. report them to the admin of the site have them removed but sharing private conversations is not on. If an arsehole has messaged you send his name on to warn all your friends to stay away and delete messages if you receive any from said person

As long as it’s not their personal information fuck them, if anyone is worried about their conversations being shared then just converse like a normal human being. "
but how do we know they are not being shared. I can honestly say i have never taken a screenshot of any conversation I've had on here out of simple respect for the other person's privacy

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By *affa31Woman over a year ago

Galway

"I agree that the sharing of pvt convos is not on, however you have to balance the need for privacy with the sometimes dispicable behaviour here. I have no issue sharing details of dangerous muppets in the interest of protecting women from lunatics, stalkers and madonna/whore complex sufferers, there are a surprising amount of them on here!. report them to the admin of the site have them removed but sharing private conversations is not on. If an arsehole has messaged you send his name on to warn all your friends to stay away and delete messages if you receive any from said person

However, I really hope the abusive dopes don’t “up their game”, it’s nice being able to easily spot them.

I have no bother with people sharing arseholes names actually id encourage it we all want to be safe on here but sharing private conversations is not on

As long as it’s not their personal information fuck them, if anyone is worried about their conversations being shared then just converse like a normal human being.

but how do we know they are not being shared. I can honestly say i have never taken a screenshot of any conversation I've had on here out of simple respect for the other person's privacy "

If you converse with someone on the internet, you run the risk of the information you provide being shared. Thems the risks, it’s your choice how much information you provide if you’re concerned about it being shared.

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By *man79Man over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint

Whoa!!!!!!!!! Do women really talk ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Whoa!!!!!!!!! Do women really talk ?

Everyone knows your guilty pleasure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some of these creatures are barely human. What did ye expect from fellas with their lad in their hand looking at pictures of spread fanny and tit close ups, youd get more sense from the chimpanzees in the zoo

Crying here.... That's some funny stuff...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I agree that the sharing of pvt convos is not on, however you have to balance the need for privacy with the sometimes dispicable behaviour here. I have no issue sharing details of dangerous muppets in the interest of protecting women from lunatics, stalkers and madonna/whore complex sufferers, there are a surprising amount of them on here!. report them to the admin of the site have them removed but sharing private conversations is not on. If an arsehole has messaged you send his name on to warn all your friends to stay away and delete messages if you receive any from said person

I've reported plenty of profiles for being fake or sending abuse and let's be realistic Fab admin to f*uck all about it. What you are suggesting leaves it open to abuse. Someone could not like you and could lie and say avoid Worf he sent me abuse. So one person could ruin your reputation if they wanted. But if I see proof of said message that's different matter. Fab needs to be a safer community to meet and we will continue to warn each other. "
how would you like if intimate details of a conversation you had with me were spread alover this site without your consent or knowledge. It was said both good and bad are being shared. Fine if you are being an arsehole you deserve it but if you are not your conversations should NOT be shared

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Copy and paste always useful to have. Clears most things up instantly. Verifications are somewhat of a useful insight. Always better to keep original messages. Useful to have when it comes to fab court. Backups for your backs and all. After a while it becomes too much hard work.

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By *ittlekinks38 OP Woman over a year ago

outside belfast x

"I agree that the sharing of pvt convos is not on, however you have to balance the need for privacy with the sometimes dispicable behaviour here. I have no issue sharing details of dangerous muppets in the interest of protecting women from lunatics, stalkers and madonna/whore complex sufferers, there are a surprising amount of them on here!. report them to the admin of the site have them removed but sharing private conversations is not on. If an arsehole has messaged you send his name on to warn all your friends to stay away and delete messages if you receive any from said person

As long as it’s not their personal information fuck them, if anyone is worried about their conversations being shared then just converse like a normal human being. "

Exactly then there would be no need to bring it to other ppls attention

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I agree that the sharing of pvt convos is not on, however you have to balance the need for privacy with the sometimes dispicable behaviour here. I have no issue sharing details of dangerous muppets in the interest of protecting women from lunatics, stalkers and madonna/whore complex sufferers, there are a surprising amount of them on here!. report them to the admin of the site have them removed but sharing private conversations is not on. If an arsehole has messaged you send his name on to warn all your friends to stay away and delete messages if you receive any from said person

I've reported plenty of profiles for being fake or sending abuse and let's be realistic Fab admin to f*uck all about it. What you are suggesting leaves it open to abuse. Someone could not like you and could lie and say avoid Worf he sent me abuse. So one person could ruin your reputation if they wanted. But if I see proof of said message that's different matter. Fab needs to be a safer community to meet and we will continue to warn each other. how would you like if intimate details of a conversation you had with me were spread alover this site without your consent or knowledge. It was said both good and bad are being shared. Fine if you are being an arsehole you deserve it but if you are not your conversations should NOT be shared "

No one said they were sharing private messages, it was said that nasty messages are shared. Not so long ago a list of names was shared about a party that people attended and thank god someone told me as my name was on that list and I hadn't attended the party. We have to watch put fir each other here and that goes for men and women. If someone shared a private message in a group that shouldn't be shared I would call them out on it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When men or women are sending abusive messages. They should remember one thing. Never put into a text what you would hate other people see.

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By *man79Man over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint

"Whoa!!!!!!!!! Do women really talk ?

Everyone knows your guilty pleasure

Justin timberlake?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Forums aren’t really something I bothered too much about. Heading back to work next week, night classes in September can’t see myself being on here to much after that. May will be relieved no doubt, as will I to a certain extent. Copy and paste are well utilised throughout fab so easy to spread the word. When posts to both threads and pm turn abusive. Less chance to use copy and paste when it comes to chat room though. Well depending on how many are in the room chatting at the time!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I agree that the sharing of pvt convos is not on, however you have to balance the need for privacy with the sometimes dispicable behaviour here. I have no issue sharing details of dangerous muppets in the interest of protecting women from lunatics, stalkers and madonna/whore complex sufferers, there are a surprising amount of them on here!. report them to the admin of the site have them removed but sharing private conversations is not on. If an arsehole has messaged you send his name on to warn all your friends to stay away and delete messages if you receive any from said person

I agree. If one is so worried about a message being shared one should be more careful in how one speaks to people.

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By *phrodite72Woman over a year ago

dublin/galway

"When men or women are sending abusive messages. They should remember one thing. Never put into a text what you would hate other people see. "

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By *igertigerCouple (MM) over a year ago

cc hotel

I'm sure it works the opposite way too, guys love to talk too. Another look at me post.

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By *affa31Woman over a year ago

Galway

I'm sure it works the opposite way too, guys love to talk too. Another look at me post. "

Everyone talks and fab is a very small community so word spreads quickly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm sure it works the opposite way too, guys love to talk too. Another look at me post. "

Tiger beer, lovely with a take out from either the Chinese or Indian. Your profile name just reminded me of it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Calm the feck down!!!! No one is suggesting that run of the mill convos are being shared here. Details of abusive dangerous muppets are shared, so if your not one youve nothing to worry about or be banging on about sone faux sense of privacy here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very very true

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By *onegal82Man over a year ago

letterkenny/Belfast

U shouldn't be a dick to a lady no matter if they chat or not if they reject u or ignore u. Take it and accept they ain't interested. Simples. Obviously they have taste and perfences. Personally id never be rude or a dick no mater whst they do or say. Smile and move on

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By *omDubCoupleCouple over a year ago

Cork

We’ve lost the count of how many times we’ve been offered money for stuff, so clearly no, they don’t fucking think and it’s actually disgusting at this stage.

Swinger site doesn’t equal Dial-A-Ride like ffs

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman over a year ago

lancashire

consider sitting on their face for 5 mins till i cum, wipe my juices on their jumper and kick them outa my car without as much as a thank you. Oh the last bit is a fib... I wont even turn up

Well reading this has me laughing so much...nice one....and some guys would actually love been treated like that.

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By *phrodite72Woman over a year ago

dublin/galway

consider sitting on their face for 5 mins till i cum, wipe my juices on their jumper and kick them outa my car without as much as a thank you. Oh the last bit is a fib... I wont even turn up

Well reading this has me laughing so much...nice one....and some guys would actually love been treated like that.

But then they wouid start a forum thread..she never texted back afterwards

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By *ofusplusCouple over a year ago

Limerick

Applies to ladies and couples also

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By *OCONO5Couple over a year ago

Sensual Center

"When men or women are sending abusive messages. They should remember one thing. Never put into a text what you would hate other people see. "

totally agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In my humble and personal experience. I’ve found Kik groups are the worst for sharing screenshots.

And not just about predators or abusive messages.

Just general bitchiness, back stabbing and slagging.

Really really horrible stuff - no need.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I agree that the sharing of pvt convos is not on, however you have to balance the need for privacy with the sometimes dispicable behaviour here. I have no issue sharing details of dangerous muppets in the interest of protecting women from lunatics, stalkers and madonna/whore complex sufferers, there are a surprising amount of them on here!. report them to the admin of the site have them removed but sharing private conversations is not on. If an arsehole has messaged you send his name on to warn all your friends to stay away and delete messages if you receive any from said person "

No!!!! Cause I seen so many man act so bad with me and so nice with others or other way around. It's not pics shared. It's abusive messages some even threatening. If you report nothing comes of it and you might allow other girls to get hurt in the future.

Miss_tattoo

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Why tell others to up their game when you can just ignore those that you don't like or even better just stop men from messaging you and go look and send first messages to those who catch your eye.

There are plenty of decent men on here of course there are some assholes but to be fair that isn't restricted to just the men on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why tell others to up their game when you can just ignore those that you don't like or even better just stop men from messaging you and go look and send first messages to those who catch your eye.

There are plenty of decent men on here of course there are some assholes but to be fair that isn't restricted to just the men on here.

Well said justBo!

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By *1n_eaterMan over a year ago

Newcastle

Plenty of decent men on here. So what if women talk about other folk on fab in kik groups but as they say what's good for the goose is good for the gander so how do the women know there isn't kik groups that are only men that talk and share messages sent to them by the ladies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Plenty of decent men on here. So what if women talk about other folk on fab in kik groups but as they say what's good for the goose is good for the gander so how do the women know there isn't kik groups that are only men that talk and share messages sent to them by the ladies

Unlikely I’d say - however there most definitely should be.

And to chat about life, kids, mental / physical/sexual health,sport, etc

Life in general

There’s a number of women only kik groups, why not men’s only ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I agree that the sharing of pvt convos is not on, however you have to balance the need for privacy with the sometimes dispicable behaviour here. I have no issue sharing details of dangerous muppets in the interest of protecting women from lunatics, stalkers and madonna/whore complex sufferers, there are a surprising amount of them on here!. report them to the admin of the site have them removed but sharing private conversations is not on. If an arsehole has messaged you send his name on to warn all your friends to stay away and delete messages if you receive any from said person

As long as it’s not their personal information fuck them, if anyone is worried about their conversations being shared then just converse like a normal human being. "

This absolutely. I'd screenshot funny messages, but would block out usernames. Abusive messages? 100% I am warning my friends off you. Don't message like a dickhead.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At the end of the day, women don't share intimate conversations. We share the ones we think are dangerous. We share the ones we think we should avoid. So like other posters have said, maybe think twice before sending a message that fits the dangerous/avoid criteria. Because that is what we will share. Some of my best friends are on here and if I think a guy is dangerous, there is no way on earth I'm not going to warn my friends.

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By *phrodite72Woman over a year ago

dublin/galway

"At the end of the day, women don't share intimate conversations. We share the ones we think are dangerous. We share the ones we think we should avoid. So like other posters have said, maybe think twice before sending a message that fits the dangerous/avoid criteria. Because that is what we will share. Some of my best friends are on here and if I think a guy is dangerous, there is no way on earth I'm not going to warn my friends."

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I agree that the sharing of pvt convos is not on, however you have to balance the need for privacy with the sometimes dispicable behaviour here. I have no issue sharing details of dangerous muppets in the interest of protecting women from lunatics, stalkers and madonna/whore complex sufferers, there are a surprising amount of them on here!. report them to the admin of the site have them removed but sharing private conversations is not on. If an arsehole has messaged you send his name on to warn all your friends to stay away and delete messages if you receive any from said person

Miss_tattoo "

I agree hun xxx

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By *oserMan over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

"In my humble and personal experience. I’ve found Kik groups are the worst for sharing screenshots.

And not just about predators or abusive messages.

Just general bitchiness, back stabbing and slagging.

Really really horrible stuff - no need."

Oh you are soo on the money, I have seen some unreal stuff in groups, be under no illusions bitches be trippin

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

And yet according to some women who have posted on similar threads in the past they have left chat groups because intimate messages, facepics and personal details including real names were being shared not for safety reasons but as part of the networking and recommendations.

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By *oxyvixen99Woman over a year ago

Newtownabbey

"In my humble and personal experience. I’ve found Kik groups are the worst for sharing screenshots.

And not just about predators or abusive messages.

Just general bitchiness, back stabbing and slagging.

Really really horrible stuff - no need.

Oh you are soo on the money, I have seen some unreal stuff in groups, be under no illusions bitches be trippin "

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By *oserMan over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

Iss you make very valid points but as mentioned on other posts, some kick groups are rife with bitchin sessions where folk (guys & girls alike) share face pics, messages and personal details of fellow fabbers for nothing more than a gossip session.

To repeat, your points are 100%

folk should warn peeps off headbangers its the other gossip shar6thats shitty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From a personal point of view I never have and never will send rude messages to anyone on here.

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"In my humble and personal experience. I’ve found Kik groups are the worst for sharing screenshots.

And not just about predators or abusive messages.

Just general bitchiness, back stabbing and slagging.

Really really horrible stuff - no need."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To repeat, your points are 100%

folk should warn peeps off headbangers its the other gossip shar6thats shitty

Oh I believe 100% that it's poor form to share face pics, intimate details. I just thought the thread was about warning abusive men that the women on here do talk to each other.

I think the thread is getting bogged down in #NotAllMen. Obviously it's not all men. But it's enough men that we try and protect ourselves by sharing who has abused us.

No-one said it was a piss taking, face picking swapping thread. It's literally a thread about abusive mean getting outed.

Sorry @Yoser, I've hijacked my reply to you to do my TEDTalk

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To repeat, your points are 100%

folk should warn peeps off headbangers its the other gossip shar6thats shitty

It's just says more about person that's does share for wrong reason... have been in groups and unwarranted pics shared I found unacceptable behaviour I simply called it out as it is and unless they left group, I left it .... unfortunately its the world these days but all we can do is live by our own morals....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I thought most women did indeed think most men don't think fullstop!

Sure in all seriousness I don't think type of person who acts like that will get far on here or in life. Very entitled standpoint and hopefully not one most men share but does seem to be a few too many comments like that every so often

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why tell others to up their game when you can just ignore those that you don't like or even better just stop men from messaging you and go look and send first messages to those who catch your eye.

There are plenty of decent men on here of course there are some assholes but to be fair that isn't restricted to just the men on here.

So you want people to just ignore abusive messages? And then run the risk that that person is abusive to your friend, or some other woman?

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By *oghunter33Woman over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Bottom line those nasty messages are actually quite handy and I do not understand threads like this, because they actually can be counterproductive.

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By *oserMan over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

To repeat, your points are 100%

folk should warn peeps off headbangers its the other gossip shar6thats shitty

Oh I believe 100% that it's poor form to share face pics, intimate details. I just thought the thread was about warning abusive men that the women on here do talk to each other.

I think the thread is getting bogged down in #NotAllMen. Obviously it's not all men. But it's enough men that we try and protect ourselves by sharing who has abused us.

No-one said it was a piss taking, face picking swapping thread. It's literally a thread about abusive mean getting outed.

Sorry @Yoser, I've hijacked my reply to you to do my TEDTalk"

Pmsl

You're correct it started and continues to be about warmings but we did take a ramble around the scenic route as well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To repeat, your points are 100%

folk should warn peeps off headbangers its the other gossip shar6thats shitty

Oh I believe 100% that it's poor form to share face pics, intimate details. I just thought the thread was about warning abusive men that the women on here do talk to each other.

I think the thread is getting bogged down in #NotAllMen. Obviously it's not all men. But it's enough men that we try and protect ourselves by sharing who has abused us.

No-one said it was a piss taking, face picking swapping thread. It's literally a thread about abusive mean getting outed.

Sorry @Yoser, I've hijacked my reply to you to do my TEDTalk

Pmsl

You're correct it started and continues to be about warmings but we did take a ramble around the scenic route as well.

Welcome to the internet! Hold on to your socks / Cause a random guy just kindly sent you photos of his cock

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

So you want people to just ignore abusive messages? And then run the risk that that person is abusive to your friend, or some other woman? "

Yes actually ignoring abusive messages is easy .ignore and block it's that simple .

Like DH has said it's good for highlighting them and easy to avoid them .

And anyhow a guy who has given me abuse won't necessarily give the next woman it . Other wise none of these guys would be veried and plenty have them .

I don't get upset about what strangers on the internet say why would I FFS. It's like the rubbish taking itself out.

Different if someone has met a person and they have gotten abuse on a meet or something like that then ye by all means share their names with friends and warn them but someone calling me a fat bitch cos I said no thanks nah I don't give them a second thought .

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By *3nsesMan over a year ago

Dublin

"Bottom line those nasty messages are actually quite handy and I do not understand threads like this, because they actually can be counterproductive.

Spot on.

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By *rmrspumpCouple over a year ago

narnia

"I agree that the sharing of pvt convos is not on, however you have to balance the need for privacy with the sometimes dispicable behaviour here. I have no issue sharing details of dangerous muppets in the interest of protecting women from lunatics, stalkers and madonna/whore complex sufferers, there are a surprising amount of them on here!. report them to the admin of the site have them removed but sharing private conversations is not on. If an arsehole has messaged you send his name on to warn all your friends to stay away and delete messages if you receive any from said person

As long as it’s not their personal information fuck them, if anyone is worried about their conversations being shared then just converse like a normal human being.

This absolutely. I'd screenshot funny messages, but would block out usernames. Abusive messages? 100% I am warning my friends off you. Don't message like a dickhead."

No one on this site should have any expectation of privacy, its not in the terms and conditions or site rules and its frankly a bit silly to expect that it would be.

Reporting dickheads (male or female) to admin is an absolute waste of time. People behaving like dickheads should absolutely expect to be exposed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So you want people to just ignore abusive messages? And then run the risk that that person is abusive to your friend, or some other woman?

Yes actually ignoring abusive messages is easy .ignore and block it's that simple .

Like DH has said it's good for highlighting them and easy to avoid them .

And anyhow a guy who has given me abuse won't necessarily give the next woman it . Other wise none of these guys would be veried and plenty have them .

I don't get upset about what strangers on the internet say why would I FFS. It's like the rubbish taking itself out.

So you don't want to help and protect other women. Got it

If someone is abusive to you they will 100% be abusive to other women. Its cute that you don't think that's a problem.

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

So you want people to just ignore abusive messages? And then run the risk that that person is abusive to your friend, or some other woman?

Yes actually ignoring abusive messages is easy .ignore and block it's that simple .

Like DH has said it's good for highlighting them and easy to avoid them .

And anyhow a guy who has given me abuse won't necessarily give the next woman it . Other wise none of these guys would be veried and plenty have them .

I don't get upset about what strangers on the internet say why would I FFS. It's like the rubbish taking itself out.

So you don't want to help and protect other women. Got it

If someone is abusive to you they will 100% be abusive to other women. Its cute that you don't think that's a problem."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So you want people to just ignore abusive messages? And then run the risk that that person is abusive to your friend, or some other woman?

Yes actually ignoring abusive messages is easy .ignore and block it's that simple .

Like DH has said it's good for highlighting them and easy to avoid them .

And anyhow a guy who has given me abuse won't necessarily give the next woman it . Other wise none of these guys would be veried and plenty have them .

I don't get upset about what strangers on the internet say why would I FFS. It's like the rubbish taking itself out.

So you don't want to help and protect other women. Got it

If someone is abusive to you they will 100% be abusive to other women. Its cute that you don't think that's a problem.

Roll your eyes all you want, thar kind of thinking will hurt other people. But keep up your "not like the other girls!" antics if you want

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By *aid backMan over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

Of course friends should keep eachother in the loop about dangerous or creepy men/women.

I used to be in a similar group and I'd ban them from events I even kept a spreadsheet of names

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By *3nsesMan over a year ago

Dublin

/gets popcorn

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So you want people to just ignore abusive messages? And then run the risk that that person is abusive to your friend, or some other woman?

Yes actually ignoring abusive messages is easy .ignore and block it's that simple .

Like DH has said it's good for highlighting them and easy to avoid them .

And anyhow a guy who has given me abuse won't necessarily give the next woman it . Other wise none of these guys would be veried and plenty have them .

I don't get upset about what strangers on the internet say why would I FFS. It's like the rubbish taking itself out.

So you don't want to help and protect other women. Got it

If someone is abusive to you they will 100% be abusive to other women. Its cute that you don't think that's a problem.

Roll your eyes all you want, thar kind of thinking will hurt other people. But keep up your "not like the other girls!" antics if you want

Why are you getting aggressive with someone, who's opinion is different or dealings with abusive messages to yours...???

Because "just move on, he was only like this with me" is harmful. I'm not getting aggressive, I'm genuinely wondering why someone would want to warn their friends about predators. I have so many amazing friends on here. It would absolutely harm them for me to just block and move on.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

So you want people to just ignore abusive messages? And then run the risk that that person is abusive to your friend, or some other woman?

Yes actually ignoring abusive messages is easy .ignore and block it's that simple .

Like DH has said it's good for highlighting them and easy to avoid them .

And anyhow a guy who has given me abuse won't necessarily give the next woman it . Other wise none of these guys would be veried and plenty have them .

I don't get upset about what strangers on the internet say why would I FFS. It's like the rubbish taking itself out.

So you don't want to help and protect other women. Got it

If someone is abusive to you they will 100% be abusive to other women. Its cute that you don't think that's a problem.

Roll your eyes all you want, thar kind of thinking will hurt other people. But keep up your "not like the other girls!" antics if you want"

Exactly how will it hurt other people? There are lots of things that happen on fab that people conveniently ignore when it suits them and the girl power approach is tiresome and laughable because it only applies up to the point where the backstabbing starts.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So if someone doesn't tell Fab world that they received an abusive mail then there are cause of another person getting hurt ???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm thinking about posting here but the words won't come out. Let me think about it some more

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So you want people to just ignore abusive messages? And then run the risk that that person is abusive to your friend, or some other woman?

Yes actually ignoring abusive messages is easy .ignore and block it's that simple .

Like DH has said it's good for highlighting them and easy to avoid them .

And anyhow a guy who has given me abuse won't necessarily give the next woman it . Other wise none of these guys would be veried and plenty have them .

I don't get upset about what strangers on the internet say why would I FFS. It's like the rubbish taking itself out.

So you don't want to help and protect other women. Got it

If someone is abusive to you they will 100% be abusive to other women. Its cute that you don't think that's a problem.

Roll your eyes all you want, thar kind of thinking will hurt other people. But keep up your "not like the other girls!" antics if you want

It will harm someone because a lot of predators are able to keep their less desirable traits hidden until a meet. You can at least let a mate know that a guy was a dick over text. It's kind of a precursor to them being a dick in person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So if someone doesn't tell Fab world that they received an abusive mail then there are cause of another person getting hurt ???"

I never said that. The whole thread is about women sharing people who they think aren't safe. And yeah,an abusive mail is usually the start.

Why should someone sending an abusive mail get the benefit of the doubt??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think theres a common sense approach to this in fairness.

If someone threatened me, even in a message, with harm or similar yes i would tell others.

Because thats scary, and I would want to share that for safety reasons, my own and others.

If someone is just namecalling to vent their petty frustrations id just block them.

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By *indenMan over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

So I guess the simple answer is if you want people to say nice thing about you, you should say nice things to them, if you don’t say nice things that’s what may be said about you, or shown……

Having said that, while i understand the need to occasionally share information, I would assume all personal details beyond that are available on the persons profile here, would be handled accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So if someone doesn't tell Fab world that they received an abusive mail then there are cause of another person getting hurt ???

I never said that. The whole thread is about women sharing people who they think aren't safe. And yeah,an abusive mail is usually the start.

Why should someone sending an abusive mail get the benefit of the doubt??"

No the thread started as lady saying why are guys Rude which is far from being Abusive it was yourself that then brought in abusive men and would.make people wary...

Which honestly I understand and agree if you feel someone is abusive personality then share to heart content to friends...

But being rude , name calling etc then someone just ignoring and blocking without telling the world is totally understandable response as well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So if someone doesn't tell Fab world that they received an abusive mail then there are cause of another person getting hurt ???

I never said that. The whole thread is about women sharing people who they think aren't safe. And yeah,an abusive mail is usually the start.

Why should someone sending an abusive mail get the benefit of the doubt??

No the thread started as lady saying why are guys Rude which is far from being Abusive it was yourself that then brought in abusive men and would.make people wary...

Which honestly I understand and agree if you feel someone is abusive personality then share to heart content to friends...

But being rude , name calling etc then someone just ignoring and blocking without telling the world is totally understandable response as well

No. It started with OP saying lads don't realise we talk. I didn't call names. I didn't block anyone. I pointed out that women share assholes texting them as a form of protection.

I want to look after my friends. If someone is awful, I will tell them.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

So you want people to just ignore abusive messages? And then run the risk that that person is abusive to your friend, or some other woman?

Yes actually ignoring abusive messages is easy .ignore and block it's that simple .

Like DH has said it's good for highlighting them and easy to avoid them .

And anyhow a guy who has given me abuse won't necessarily give the next woman it . Other wise none of these guys would be veried and plenty have them .

I don't get upset about what strangers on the internet say why would I FFS. It's like the rubbish taking itself out.

So you don't want to help and protect other women. Got it

If someone is abusive to you they will 100% be abusive to other women. Its cute that you don't think that's a problem.

Roll your eyes all you want, thar kind of thinking will hurt other people. But keep up your "not like the other girls!" antics if you want

But this was a thread telling men to up their game and nothing to do with physical threads of harm.

Sticks and stones etc.

Every single thread started by a man complaining about things not going the way he expects he is told to stop whinging, block and move on. The same should apply to all site users

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By *oghunter33Woman over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

So you want people to just ignore abusive messages? And then run the risk that that person is abusive to your friend, or some other woman?

Yes actually ignoring abusive messages is easy .ignore and block it's that simple .

Like DH has said it's good for highlighting them and easy to avoid them .

And anyhow a guy who has given me abuse won't necessarily give the next woman it . Other wise none of these guys would be veried and plenty have them .

I don't get upset about what strangers on the internet say why would I FFS. It's like the rubbish taking itself out.

So you don't want to help and protect other women. Got it

If someone is abusive to you they will 100% be abusive to other women. Its cute that you don't think that's a problem.

Roll your eyes all you want, thar kind of thinking will hurt other people. But keep up your "not like the other girls!" antics if you want

I think you've missed the point there. You're clever lady, just let it run through your mind again.

verbal dickheads are just verbal dickheads.

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By *eijaWoman over a year ago

City Centre

As with any vanilla friends I would definitely warn my Fab friends of any potential abusive situation or person. The swing community is small and we have to look out for each other.

I also have no problem recommending people to others especially when I know they could get on very well

B x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So you want people to just ignore abusive messages? And then run the risk that that person is abusive to your friend, or some other woman?

Yes actually ignoring abusive messages is easy .ignore and block it's that simple .

Like DH has said it's good for highlighting them and easy to avoid them .

And anyhow a guy who has given me abuse won't necessarily give the next woman it . Other wise none of these guys would be veried and plenty have them .

I don't get upset about what strangers on the internet say why would I FFS. It's like the rubbish taking itself out.

So you don't want to help and protect other women. Got it

If someone is abusive to you they will 100% be abusive to other women. Its cute that you don't think that's a problem."

I gave received abuse from another fabber quite openly on the forums and he is well verified and he is still here. Hasn't been abusive to any other women but actually told people to avoid me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As with any vanilla friends I would definitely warn my Fab friends of any potential abusive situation or person. The swing community is small and we have to look out for each other.

I also have no problem recommending people to others especially when I know they could get on very well

B x"

100% B

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So you want people to just ignore abusive messages? And then run the risk that that person is abusive to your friend, or some other woman?

Yes actually ignoring abusive messages is easy .ignore and block it's that simple .

Like DH has said it's good for highlighting them and easy to avoid them .

And anyhow a guy who has given me abuse won't necessarily give the next woman it . Other wise none of these guys would be veried and plenty have them .

I don't get upset about what strangers on the internet say why would I FFS. It's like the rubbish taking itself out.

So you don't want to help and protect other women. Got it

If someone is abusive to you they will 100% be abusive to other women. Its cute that you don't think that's a problem.

I gave received abuse from another fabber quite openly on the forums and he is well verified and he is still here. Hasn't been abusive to any other women but actually told people to avoid me. "

That is a complete idiot. Who in all fairness should be banned from Fab.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So you want people to just ignore abusive messages? And then run the risk that that person is abusive to your friend, or some other woman?

Yes actually ignoring abusive messages is easy .ignore and block it's that simple .

Like DH has said it's good for highlighting them and easy to avoid them .

And anyhow a guy who has given me abuse won't necessarily give the next woman it . Other wise none of these guys would be veried and plenty have them .

I don't get upset about what strangers on the internet say why would I FFS. It's like the rubbish taking itself out.

So you don't want to help and protect other women. Got it

If someone is abusive to you they will 100% be abusive to other women. Its cute that you don't think that's a problem.

I gave received abuse from another fabber quite openly on the forums and he is well verified and he is still here. Hasn't been abusive to any other women but actually told people to avoid me. "

I'm very sorry to hear that. That is not on. But I do think its important to warn people so they can make up their own minds at the least? I had an awful experience with a well-verified guy from here for a one off a year or so ago. Judging from his veris you'd think I'd met someone come different! I think in the interests of safety, it's best to forewarn.

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By *man79Man over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint

Make love not War

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So you want people to just ignore abusive messages? And then run the risk that that person is abusive to your friend, or some other woman?

Yes actually ignoring abusive messages is easy .ignore and block it's that simple .

Like DH has said it's good for highlighting them and easy to avoid them .

And anyhow a guy who has given me abuse won't necessarily give the next woman it . Other wise none of these guys would be veried and plenty have them .

I don't get upset about what strangers on the internet say why would I FFS. It's like the rubbish taking itself out.

So you don't want to help and protect other women. Got it

If someone is abusive to you they will 100% be abusive to other women. Its cute that you don't think that's a problem.

I gave received abuse from another fabber quite openly on the forums and he is well verified and he is still here. Hasn't been abusive to any other women but actually told people to avoid me.

Totally agree and that's across the board, men, women and couples. We need to be careful at end of day this place should be about fun, making friends and memories.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's up to yourself to keep safe by blocking it deleting these messages .Sharing with other is totally wrong. what one person don't like do not mean another won't like each to their owb and this apply to both genders .As always in this site the male is the offender . Mention sex on a swingers site and it's a sin or taboo subject . Please people what are you on here for to talk about the weather

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By *rmrspumpCouple over a year ago

narnia

"It's up to yourself to keep safe by blocking it deleting these messages .Sharing with other is totally wrong. what one person don't like do not mean another won't like each to their owb and this apply to both genders .As always in this site the male is the offender . Mention sex on a swingers site and it's a sin or taboo subject . Please people what are you on here for to talk about the weather

Utter shite

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By *indenMan over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

…………. Hammer time…

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

For an adult site there are a serious amount of people who constantly need their hand held and are incapable of making their own decisions without involving others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No. You keep yourself safe, and you keep your friends safe. We're not talking about a guy messaging a girl saying "Oh I have this total ear fetish, let me fuck your ear". We're talking about guys who are straight up abusive. Death threats, r*pe threats. 100% I will tell my friends if someone does this. Because A) I don't want them subjected to the same messages and B) I don't want them meeting abusive people. I will always say "Do what you want" but I could never sit back and not warn them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For record again I will say 100% agree and say mostly everyone else 100% agree but you got derailed back there when a fellow fabber was discussing the thread as it started with lady talking about rude messages and telling others which she is entitled to do if she wishes but lady said she prefer to.ignore rude messages , block and just leave it at that again very natural reaction... but think you tagged it to her not telling others about abusive threating messages which I found unfair and completely wrong representation of what she was saying... hope you read back and see that.

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By *issusWoman over a year ago

Belfast

This whole thing reminds me of being kind to the writer scenario.

If you're out with an aquatance for lunch, they are nice to you and are extremely rude to the person who's serving you both, would you be comfortable being in that person's company? Do you think that person is a good person?

If a guy thinks he's gods gift, finds large women repulsive and enjoys telling them how disgusting they are and that nobody will ever want to touch them. Or another guy calls you a slag because you have more than 2 veris in last six months. Or a guy who calls you a slag for being here with your other half. Or a guy calls you a slag and a tramp not worth bothering with because you didn't reply to him.

Meanwhile chirping sweet little words to your friend and being the perfect gentleman at the same time . Does your friend not deserve to know what kind of individual is "charming" them up?

Yes, not all men, just some men all that ladeeda

I am not chatting to any women or couples on a daily basis, so not much to say about it (I'm sure they're all the same).

I'm not saying all men either.

Some men. But none of us know WHICH men.

Sharing is caring.

And if you have nothing to be ashamed of (like shitty behaviour) you won't have anything to worry about

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This whole thing reminds me of being kind to the writer scenario.

Meanwhile chirping sweet little words to your friend and being the perfect gentleman at the same time . Does your friend not deserve to know what kind of individual is "charming" them up?

Yes, not all men, just some men all that ladeeda

I am not chatting to any women or couples on a daily basis, so not much to say about it (I'm sure they're all the same).

I'm not saying all men either.

Some men. But none of us know WHICH men.

Sharing is caring.

And if you have nothing to be ashamed of (like shitty behaviour) you won't have anything to worry about

THE END

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By *phrodite72Woman over a year ago

dublin/galway

Exactly this isnt about hand holding its about keeping people safe..there are dangerous predators on here...as there are in every walk of life..and thankfully they are rare but they do exist so its perfectly reasonable for people to b able to warn others about this minority

Its part of the benefit of this being a community cos these guys are on pof and tinder etc too and there is no such protection there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its part of the benefit of this being a community cos these guys are on pof and tinder etc too and there is no such protection there"

Thankfully they are a minority, albeit a very very dangerous minority.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well I think you need to go back and reread. I know who and what you're talking about. Of course she can do what she wants. But she can be called out if doing what she wants affects other people. Women on here get hurt because other women don't speak out. We get hurt when we don't talk to each other.

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By *indenMan over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

THE END "

I should have put the STOP in front of the “hammer time” in my last post….

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its part of the benefit of this being a community cos these guys are on pof and tinder etc too and there is no such protection there"

100% agree with that ... there is mental and physical predators of many genders and hope all people will acknowledge and respond in same way.

If they see a person doesn't matter gender being Abusive threatening behaviour they will call it out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No I read it exactly how it was written and your response was not on the point she was making.

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By *1n_eaterMan over a year ago

Newcastle

Feck is this still going... I'm blaming the meteor show tonight.

If this thread had a soundtrack it would be AC/DCs who made who. The soundtrack to maximum overdrive where the machines went loopy because of green glow in the sky.

Be nice folks everyone is intitled to a opinion. We the people are better than this !!!

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I never tagged her in anything, best of luck to her. I just find it completely callous when you don't do anything cos someone might not do it to someone else. MIGHT NOT. She doesn't care about anyone else and that's a fact."
I wasn't going to reply anymore on this thread bit that is a load of crap .I do care about others on here and as I said if someone is threatening etc then I have no issue telling friends about them .Someone giving me random abuse because I say no is just the crap you get on here at times and I block and move on. Do not put words in my mouth to suit your agenda .That's is my last comment on this as I'm sure you won't agree with me but I have no interest in getting into an argument with someone because we have differing opinions.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

No that's an opinion and not even close to being a fact.

If you can't see the difference between ignoring RUDE comments and what you are talking about there's not much more to be said on the subject.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is why I am always polite when talking to anyone on here. A very small community everyone talks

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By *man79Man over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint

I'm bringing sexy back

Them other boys don't know how to act

I think you're special, what's behind your back?

So turn around and I'll pick up the slack

Take 'em to the bridge

Dirty babe

You see these shackles

Baby I'm your slav3

I'll let you whip me if I misbehave

It's just that no one makes me feel this way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm bringing sexy back

Them other boys don't know how to act

I think you're special, what's behind your back?

So turn around and I'll pick up the slack

Take 'em to the bridge

Dirty babe

You see these shackles

Baby I'm your slav3

I'll let you whip me if I misbehave

It's just that no one makes me feel this way

Misbehave all you want I bought a new whip

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never tagged her in anything, best of luck to her. I just find it completely callous when you don't do anything cos someone might not do it to someone else. MIGHT NOT. She doesn't care about anyone else and that's a fact.I wasn't going to reply anymore on this thread bit that is a load of crap .I do care about others on here and as I said if someone is threatening etc then I have no issue telling friends about them .Someone giving me random abuse because I say no is just the crap you get on here at times and I block and move on. Do not put words in my mouth to suit your agenda .That's is my last comment on this as I'm sure you won't agree with me but I have no interest in getting into an argument with someone because we have differing opinions.

Of course I'm not going to agree with you, given at the start of you commenting you were clearly advocating for a block and move along policy. Regardless of how that might hurt other people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm bringing sexy back

Them other boys don't know how to act

I think you're special, what's behind your back?

So turn around and I'll pick up the slack

Take 'em to the bridge

Dirty babe

You see these shackles

Baby I'm your slav3

I'll let you whip me if I misbehave

It's just that no one makes me feel this way

Misbehave all you want I bought a new whip

Now this is the content I want x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes agreed 100 percent if any nasty treat's are mentioned and should be reported and shared to protect others Any other messages should not be shared each to their own

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So if someone doesn't tell Fab world that they received an abusive mail then there are cause of another person getting hurt ???

I never said that. The whole thread is about women sharing people who they think aren't safe. And yeah,an abusive mail is usually the start.

Why should someone sending an abusive mail get the benefit of the doubt??"

So.clearly you are saying that anyone on here who doesn't tell Fab world about abusive mail are the cause of people to get hurt going by words above in last comment....

???? Or am I reading it wrong like earlier

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do men on here not think that if your gonna be a rude ass too one or two women they aren't gonna tell their 10/20 fab female friends!!"

If you were telling all your friends about all the rude ass messages you get you'd never have time for chatting to real decent people.

Like i said earlier, and others too, theres a time to just block and a time to alert. Like in real life, some idiots you ignore, some red flags you report.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Note to self when someone calls you Dense Jock they are not calling you Dense they are saying don't be Dense which is not same as you are Dense.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think perhaps the average normal decent bloke on here will not understand a girls reason for giving a heads up to fellow ladies, simply because the average fella here hasnt been stalked, ra*ed, had a condom removed sneakily, had hard limit violated, been beaten up, been outed to family and friends but the average female fabber, if actively meeting will have come across one if not several of those scenarios here. Harsh but true.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Calm the feck down!!!! No one is suggesting that run of the mill convos are being shared here. Details of abusive dangerous muppets are shared, so if your not one youve nothing to worry about or be banging on about sone faux sense of privacy here. "
I think everyone needs to be a bit nicer and respect each other's views opions and what people on the site are looking for. It would be a lot nicer environment for everyone then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Think what some of you on here don't understand is that there are some seriously dangerous people on here. Some have been charged with serious crimes some just twisted in the head, but enough to ruin someone's life. So of course we need to warn others. I have seen profiles with 40+ verifications that have seriously dangerous ppl behind them that even when reported still on fab. So yes I can't just sit around and let others be hurt just cause some have had good experiences with them...

I have had friends verify profiles as being best person alive kinda thing that have sent me some seriously messed up dangerous messages. So yes warning is a must. I can't just ignore and block those people

Miss_tattoo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The OP initially spoke of men sending rude ass messages. If someone is being rude I block and ignore. I don't alert a network of people (not that I have a network anyway). If someone is abusive I'll report them. If someone is menacing or threatening or made me feel at risk then yes, I'd alert others.

It's a bit like when I worked in a shop. If a customer was generally rude I just ignored them. If they were abusive I'd call my manager. If they threatened me to the extent I was fearful then the police might be involved, and we may have alerted other local shops to watch out for that person.

People are rude all the time in all areas of our lives. Doesn't make it OK, but is every encounter with rudeness really a precursor to worse and needs to be broadcast to all and sundry?

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"The OP initially spoke of men sending rude ass messages. If someone is being rude I block and ignore. I don't alert a network of people (not that I have a network anyway). If someone is abusive I'll report them. If someone is menacing or threatening or made me feel at risk then yes, I'd alert others.

People are rude all the time in all areas of our lives. Doesn't make it OK, but is every encounter with rudeness really a precursor to worse and needs to be broadcast to all and sundry?

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By *aider190Man over a year ago

swords

Manners make the man....why be rude to anyone one ...life is too short

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By *affa31Woman over a year ago

Galway

People are rude all the time in all areas of our lives. Doesn't make it OK, but is every encounter with rudeness really a precursor to worse and needs to be broadcast to all and sundry?

My opinion on it would be that normal rudeness doesn’t need to be shared. Someone who is nice as pie and then turns on you when they don’t get their way needs to be shared as that, to me, is a huge red flag.

I’m not talking about someone calling someone names when they’re rejected but someone you’ve been chatting away to normally and then a switch is flipped for some reason.

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By *eterdunneMan over a year ago

leixlip

They make things easier for everyone though right? Those of us who know how to speak with respect have a better chance of even being responded to and the ladies all know who they are immediately. Please don't let them know you all talk to each other. They will learn to hide their true selves and make it harder for everyone.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

This would not be allowed on the site, nor would what you describe on your previous post of arranging a meet and not turning up.

If a man did this they would be vilified.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

Just to clarify, bad mouthing other people in mail or arranging meets without any intention of turning up is not allowed on the site.

If you have an issue with someone's mail you should just report it instead

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

Here is an explanation from Admin from another thread on how they deal with reports.

******Just a quick note. If people report others and we can verify that they have broken site rules, we always take action (either a first and final warning, partially suspended account, fully suspended, mixture of the above).

Every single report sent via the REPORT link is reviewed. Clearly it's not in our interests to have people on here who are bad for the site. Equally we need to verify what has been reported and be fair to those who have been reported.

Admin

PS. we never provide feedback on what has happened. It's just not practical given that we get 100s of reports a day.

Here is what the page says after a report has been submitted:

Your feedback has been saved.

A website admin will shortly review your feedback and take the necessary action. After reviewing the evidence available to us, we may disable an account, remove a user, disable certain aspects of that user's account or issue a warning.

By leaving feedback you help improve the site for everyone who uses it. Thank you.******

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

After reading the rest of the thread can I just remind people that if this was discussed by men about women there would be an uproar. I appreciate abusive mails are sent on here, but it isn't only by men. Women and couples can be abusive too and are then surprised when others answer back the same way.

Admin would rather people report any abusive messages on the site and let them deal with it and yes contrary to people saying they do sod all, this isn't true, they just might not do what you want then to do.

There is a mixture of ways they deal with reports, people may get a warning first before being chucked off depending on the report. If everyone got chucked off straight away only half of the forum would be posting. I will paste onto the next post what happens with reports.

None of the people who have made allegations of " dangerous people" are on this site have reported anyone of that nature, so if you really do have information of people like this please report as if it is true, Admin can't check it out without a report.

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