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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why would someone read your message and not reply. Is it always as simple as they’re inundated with messages or because they’ve got better things to do? |
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Bluntly - if they were interested they would reply. They're not, so they don't.
And before we get into "manners cost nothing"... I actually agree, it's nice to be nice. But a polite refusal often leads to getting abusive messages, or someone questioning why you're not interested, or trying to argue you out of your own preference. So since not everyone has the manners to take a polite no thank you with grace, it's safer to not respond at all.
Not to mention the fact that some people get so many messages that to read and respond to them all would be a full time job.
PERSONALLY I would rather get no response than a rejection - partly because I am very prideful and if I don't get a response I can just imagine their phone fell down a well or they forgot how to read, and partly because I am forgetful and there is a high likelihood I won't remember messaging that person to begin with  |
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
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"Bluntly - if they were interested they would reply. They're not, so they don't.
And before we get into "manners cost nothing"... I actually agree, it's nice to be nice. But a polite refusal often leads to getting abusive messages, or someone questioning why you're not interested, or trying to argue you out of your own preference. So since not everyone has the manners to take a polite no thank you with grace, it's safer to not respond at all.
Not to mention the fact that some people get so many messages that to read and respond to them all would be a full time job.
PERSONALLY I would rather get no response than a rejection - partly because I am very prideful and if I don't get a response I can just imagine their phone fell down a well or they forgot how to read, and partly because I am forgetful and there is a high likelihood I won't remember messaging that person to begin with "
Funny and true.
Actually friend dropped phone in well before. There had been questions about messages beforehand in the day though, so we suspect that it wasn't accidentally
OP Fab rules clearly states No Reply equals No Interest.
Put up and shut up.
If they don't reply, they aren't interested.
Grow a pair and move on.
Sorry for being blunt but, having seen so many of these threads, my sympathies have dissolved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Frankly after receiving the 100th "hi how are you" message you lose the will to reply to a message that's saying nothing, put some effort in the message and it will normally get a response |
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Obviously not interested have you tried a better approach thats not the usual "hey hows you" .... just like if you message a larger lady and tell her weights a problem the chances are she's gonna tell 10/20 of her fab friends and no ones gonna reply to your messages cause your simply rude as fk...so just take it as a subtle hint and move on! Or change your attitude towards women! Simple ... |
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"Why would someone read your message and not reply. Is it always as simple as they’re inundated with messages or because they’ve got better things to do? "
I'd imagine because women get so many that they can be very selective in whom they reply to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just can't find enough time in the day to genuinely reply to the daily hundreds of them l receive so it's just easier if l paint them all with the " read but don't reply " brush ...said no guy on Fab...ever |
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Cause we get hundreds of messages most looking a quick fuck and sending a dick picture. Try and capture attention of the person u send the message too. Or perhaps they just don't want to talk to u. Its very simple. So build a bridge and walk on till the next one and keep walking till u get a reply |
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No reply is a reply.
Take the hint and move on.
Also threatening to show up at their house or work place because you didn't get the reply you want is creepy and scary.
Good luck fabbing, you'll certainly need it with that attitude
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No reply or message being delete means no interest
Replying and telling someone you’re not interested leads to their next message being why ?
And if you do reply for a couple of messages inevitably you get the can we meet for fun
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why would someone read your message and not reply. Is it always as simple as they’re inundated with messages or because they’ve got better things to do? "
It's nearly always down to lack of interest, although there can be many reasons for that. It's probably better not to know why for sure! Just move on to the next sure  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why would someone read your message and not reply. Is it always as simple as they’re inundated with messages or because they’ve got better things to do? "
Depends on the message. If it has no effort put in we ignore it. If it has effort we check the profile and see if it fits what we are looking for and if it does or doesn't we go from there. If we were to reply to every mail we get we would be all day and sorry we have other more important things to be dealing with daily |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I almost always end up regretting replying to the very odd message I would reply to, perhaps just to thank them for a nice compliment or to answer a tongue in cheek question I might find funny. Because they almost always assume I want to chat or that I'll change my mind on wanting to meet them even though my profile very clearly states I'm not meeting. Every single guy thinks they are special. What they don't realise is that they are 10 a penny on here. Hey, I say what I said!
So I just added to my profile that I don't respond to messages because that will surely keep them away, right??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bluntly - if they were interested they would reply. They're not, so they don't.
And before we get into "manners cost nothing"... I actually agree, it's nice to be nice. But a polite refusal often leads to getting abusive messages, or someone questioning why you're not interested, or trying to argue you out of your own preference. So since not everyone has the manners to take a polite no thank you with grace, it's safer to not respond at all.
Not to mention the fact that some people get so many messages that to read and respond to them all would be a full time job.
PERSONALLY I would rather get no response than a rejection - partly because I am very prideful and if I don't get a response I can just imagine their phone fell down a well or they forgot how to read, and partly because I am forgetful and there is a high likelihood I won't remember messaging that person to begin with "
Yes to all of this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If message someone and get no response, I just put private note don't message again saves ya sending another. Don't take offence to no responses as Fab rules state no response means no interest why get offended by it can't be everyone's cup of tea.... |
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I've had a couple of recent messages that I've replied to positively and that has been the end of the conversation.
I don't understand messaging someone in the first place if you have no intention of chatting.
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"Bluntly - if they were interested they would reply. They're not, so they don't.
And before we get into "manners cost nothing"... I actually agree, it's nice to be nice. But a polite refusal often leads to getting abusive messages, or someone questioning why you're not interested, or trying to argue you out of your own preference. So since not everyone has the manners to take a polite no thank you with grace, it's safer to not respond at all.
Not to mention the fact that some people get so many messages that to read and respond to them all would be a full time job.
PERSONALLY I would rather get no response than a rejection - partly because I am very prideful and if I don't get a response I can just imagine their phone fell down a well or they forgot how to read, and partly because I am forgetful and there is a high likelihood I won't remember messaging that person to begin with "
100% in agreement with this   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This morning I was called a fake scum wannabe because I politely took the time to reply to someone. On Fab you don't know who is going to throw their toys out of the cot when you politely say no. They say good manners cost nothing that's bullshit good manners costs me my precious time and leaves me open to abuse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Awk, Ohpee, there's a lot of reasons as to why that might be the case that even go beyond 'interest' and are just practical!
For example, say you were out and about and opened a message but didn't have the time or privacy to respond properly!
Or, specifically for couples, imagine one reads the message but their partner isn't able to so they have to wait until a more opportune time
The above could even lead to a message being 'read' and then marked 'unread' so that the person remembers to look again!
As already said though, some people receive an inordinate amount of messages and simply can't reply to them all or they're just not interested; in that case no reply means "no thanks"!
Honestly, the best advice I ever received was to delete any and all sent messages! That way you don't find yourself fixating over whether it's been 'read', 'deleted' or whatever it may be!
It doesn't do you or your mind any good to be worrying about a message's status; if someone wants to reply, they always will! 
Best of luck, Ohpee  |
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
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If I've sent a message I tend to just forget about it. Spending time thinking about if they respond etc won't have any influence on whether they respond so seems wasteful of my time and energy. Also, at the end of the day the person I'm messaging is a complete stranger who I know nothing about so I don't invest much thought about them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Belfast or Lisburn
The last time I was in Belfast was about 3 years ago after the accidental fire in Primark. Got the bus in case I’d get lost, got lost anyway. Not I the slightest bit attracted to the bright light of Belfast, though I did do a welding class at night I Newtownabbey back in 2013/14.
Can’t remember the last time I was even in Lisburn. Needless to say what I know about either place you could write on the back of a stamp. Home bird and happy to stay that way. Passing comment on someone’s appearance in my case would be like the pot calling the kettle black.
In other words I’d need to change so much about my own appearance myself. Thanks for the reply folks. In some cases I’ve amended my profile purely due to posts on this thread. Other posts I’ve ignored and some I’ve replied to privately. Thanks to one and all, sadly there’s not going to be a deleted profile any time soon. xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Awk, Ohpee, there's a lot of reasons as to why that might be the case that even go beyond 'interest' and are just practical!
For example, say you were out and about and opened a message but didn't have the time or privacy to respond properly!
Or, specifically for couples, imagine one reads the message but their partner isn't able to so they have to wait until a more opportune time
The above could even lead to a message being 'read' and then marked 'unread' so that the person remembers to look again!
As already said though, some people receive an inordinate amount of messages and simply can't reply to them all or they're just not interested; in that case no reply means "no thanks"!
Honestly, the best advice I ever received was to delete any and all sent messages! That way you don't find yourself fixating over whether it's been 'read', 'deleted' or whatever it may be!
It doesn't do you or your mind any good to be worrying about a message's status; if someone wants to reply, they always will!
Best of luck, Ohpee "
Couldn’t have put it better myself, no point in waiting for a reply that’s not coming, pointless. Thanks for the reply. Take err handy ole Han. |
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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago
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I don't get many messages or im not to busy to reply with me it's simply if it doesn't grab my attention from the getgo I won't open or reply,try take something from there profile at least it looks like you made an effort... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Bluntly - if they were interested they would reply. They're not, so they don't.
And before we get into "manners cost nothing"... I actually agree, it's nice to be nice. But a polite refusal often leads to getting abusive messages, or someone questioning why you're not interested, or trying to argue you out of your own preference. So since not everyone has the manners to take a polite no thank you with grace, it's safer to not respond at all.
Not to mention the fact that some people get so many messages that to read and respond to them all would be a full time job.
PERSONALLY I would rather get no response than a rejection - partly because I am very prideful and if I don't get a response I can just imagine their phone fell down a well or they forgot how to read, and partly because I am forgetful and there is a high likelihood I won't remember messaging that person to begin with
Funny and true.
Actually friend dropped phone in well before. There had been questions about messages beforehand in the day though, so we suspect that it wasn't accidentally
OP Fab rules clearly states No Reply equals No Interest.
Put up and shut up.
If they don't reply, they aren't interested.
Grow a pair and move on.
Sorry for being blunt but, having seen so many of these threads, my sympathies have dissolved."
Seems to be a regular thing threads like this one. Keep err cutting, thanks for the reply. Just what’s you favourite AC/DC song? Might need to start a new thread for this one. |
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I've sent my share of messages that haven't been replied to. It's not a nice feeling but the bottom line is that I took it on myself to send the messages and nobody asked me to. I'm not entitled to a reply. It's great if I get one, but people are entitled not to reply to me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"SSS said it bud,if they like they like if they don't they don't.ANY woman can pick and choose on this you need to leave the ego at the door lol. "
What ego! |
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"No reply is a reply.
Take the hint and move on.
Also threatening to show up at their house or work place because you didn't get the reply you want is creepy and scary.
Good luck fabbing, you'll certainly need it with that attitude
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Are you being serious, who in there right mind would do something like that. The mind boggles. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No reply is a reply.
Take the hint and move on.
Also threatening to show up at their house or work place because you didn't get the reply you want is creepy and scary.
Good luck fabbing, you'll certainly need it with that attitude
Are you being serious, who in there right mind would do something like that. The mind boggles."
Nobody I know. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't get many messages or im not to busy to reply with me it's simply if it doesn't grab my attention from the getgo I won't open or reply,try take something from there profile at least it looks like you made an effort...
Thanks for the reply, I’ll catch you in the pub or supermacs some time for a lock of pints and fish n chips. Don’t tell me, I really know how to spoil a woman.     
Snackbox and a garlic dip and your on
Your easily please are you sure you don’t want to up the bar ever so slightly and throw in a portion of onion rings or something.
Ah sure if your offering be rude not to except  "
With a mesmerising pair off boobs kind yours Lolly your wish is my command, if I fell down in there don’t think I’d ever want to get out. What a way to go, it would be like a moth to a flame. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you walk up to someone in a bar and they ignore you or give you the brush off, signifying lack of interest, do you walk up to another person and ask their option?
Build it and they will come.
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"Why would someone read your message and not reply. Is it always as simple as they’re inundated with messages or because they’ve got better things to do? "
With us I like to wait for other half to see who we're talking to & other times the message was so non specific, or people have no photos, or verifications. |
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By *oserMan
over a year ago
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"No reply is a reply.
Take the hint and move on.
Also threatening to show up at their house or work place because you didn't get the reply you want is creepy and scary.
Good luck fabbing, you'll certainly need it with that attitude
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WTF |
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By *ara198Woman
over a year ago
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I never reply to profiles with no photos, or to people who clearly haven't read my profile. It says this on my profile but they haven't read it! I've also been verbally abused when I've said I'm not interested 'what's your fucking problem etc etc' and that's putting it mildly. |
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