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over a year ago
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I think fetishism is where sexual gratification is directly linked to a certain thing but to an abnormal extent. Preference is just that...it's desired but not required |
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By *indenMan
over a year ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
"I think fetishism is where sexual gratification is directly linked to a certain thing but to an abnormal extent. Preference is just that...it's desired but not required"
I think that’s just about as good an explanation as you could get.
The one persons vanilla is another persons kink or fetish, and where the lines between each will go will go on forever.
I thinks it’s about perception and preference. |
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By *R BxMan
over a year ago
wonderland |
"I think fetishism is where sexual gratification is directly linked to a certain thing but to an abnormal extent. Preference is just that...it's desired but not required
I think that’s just about as good an explanation as you could get.
The one persons vanilla is another persons kink or fetish, and where the lines between each will go will go on forever.
I thinks it’s about perception and preference."
yeah I think that sums it up pretty well from both of you. I have lots of different preferences or if you like kinks, but I don't necessarily need them all the time or eveytime to get off.But I prefer it I think a fetish is kinda more of a requirement (don't like to say an abnormal one because who can judge) like basically it's needed to be fully satisfied. That's always how I've seen it anyway |
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"I think fetishism is where sexual gratification is directly linked to a certain thing but to an abnormal extent. Preference is just that...it's desired but not required
I think that’s just about as good an explanation as you could get.
The one persons vanilla is another persons kink or fetish, and where the lines between each will go will go on forever.
I thinks it’s about perception and preference."
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That I think depends on the individual. A preference seems to go hand in hand with a choice to me. A "would be nice" .
A fetish is a bit less of a choice. Granted its something you learn to like or become aware of as you try and discover new things, but once you are, it's harder to ignore it.
To me, it's not innately sexual either and there's different degrees to it all.
There's mild Kinks and Quirks. Fetishes and then Taboos.
If it's at the point where it's not a preference, and it becomes a need or requirement, and absolute dealbreaker without it, you could be slipping into "obsession" territory than fetishism.
It's always fun to explore, but maybe check and evaluate your interests every now and then, as long as you're ethical moral and safe, no harm.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think a fetish is when you really crave something that brings you pure satisfaction and bliss. Preference is the choices you make to get to the fetish. |
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
Dunboyne |
And here was me thinking I was kinky 
Now I don't have any fetishes!
I enjoy most things equally ish and don't have anything in particular needed to get me off, other than stimulation, obviously.
Should I reclassify myself as Vanilla?
Oh the shame!
I'll never be pegged or milked    |
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"Following on from another thread, where does a preference end and a fetish begin?
Is there a clear cut line between the two?"
Preference and fetish are two different things and in a sexual/sexuality context, their meaning is very clearly defined.
A fetish is a sexual act or an object that is nearly always necessary for the person to become aroused and enjoy sex. If you have a fetish, unless certain objects or object, body parts or a specific sexual act are involved in the sex you’re having, chances are it won’t be satisfying for you.
A kink is something that arouses us that’s not considered the sexual norm, it is basically something that you really enjoy but isn’t necessary or even wanted during every single sex session.
A preference is just liking someone or something, better than other. A sexual preference for example is preferring kissing over touching during sexual intercourse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think fetishism is where sexual gratification is directly linked to a certain thing but to an abnormal extent. Preference is just that...it's desired but not required
I think that’s just about as good an explanation as you could get.
The one persons vanilla is another persons kink or fetish, and where the lines between each will go will go on forever.
I thinks it’s about perception and preference.
yeah I think that sums it up pretty well from both of you. I have lots of different preferences or if you like kinks, but I don't necessarily need them all the time or eveytime to get off.But I prefer it I think a fetish is kinda more of a requirement (don't like to say an abnormal one because who can judge) like basically it's needed to be fully satisfied. That's always how I've seen it anyway"
* Just to clarify I didn't mean the actual fetish was abnormal, but when the extent it's required for gratification is abnormal...maybe put better, when it's required almost always for true gratification * |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
on the hill NordWest of |
I distinguish between preference, fetish and fetishisation.
As someone said preferences is when is desirable but not necessary.
Fetish is a particular sexual desire that gives you an extra kick/arousal and you strive to get it wherever possible.
Finally fetishisation in a sexual context can easily become an obsession and result in objectification of a person based on one single characteristic. |
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By *affa31 OP Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"I distinguish between preference, fetish and fetishisation.
As someone said preferences is when is desirable but not necessary.
Fetish is a particular sexual desire that gives you an extra kick/arousal and you strive to get it wherever possible.
Finally fetishisation in a sexual context can easily become an obsession and result in objectification of a person based on one single characteristic. "
I couldn’t think of the words to describe the difference between fetish and fetishisation and you’ve done it perfectly! |
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
"If someone would only date a man taller than them or above a certain height - is that a fetish or preference? 
If body height gives you an extra sexual gratification than it's a fetish."
I'll have to expand my fetish list then.  |
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"Following on from another thread, where does a preference end and a fetish begin?
Is there a clear cut line between the two?
Preference and fetish are two different things and in a sexual/sexuality context, their meaning is very clearly defined.
A fetish is a sexual act or an object that is nearly always necessary for the person to become aroused and enjoy sex. If you have a fetish, unless certain objects or object, body parts or a specific sexual act are involved in the sex you’re having, chances are it won’t be satisfying for you.
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I agree they are totally different things but I don’t agree someone necessarily find it difficult to get aroused without the elements of their fetish being fulfilled. The fetish gives sexual gratification but, except in extreme examples, it’s not the only thing that does |
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