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Mfm threesome amongst friends?
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
limerick |
"Friends as in house mates or life long can't be without friends
It has a big impact on the decision process
Lifelong 20+ years"
Married to each other
Friends on an exploration
Fwb
Theres so many complications to weigh up its a decision only u can make if it goes tits up u loose if it becomes the best experience of all your life's its a win win all round |
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"Friends as in house mates or life long can't be without friends
It has a big impact on the decision process
Lifelong 20+ years
Married to each other
Friends on an exploration
Fwb
Theres so many complications to weigh up its a decision only u can make if it goes tits up u loose if it becomes the best experience of all your life's its a win win all round "
Not married but they are together 4-5 years, it came up omin conversation few weeks back that I was on this site and it got them thinking, they don’t want a stranger to join them for their first time |
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By *ilderMan
over a year ago
dublin |
"Friends as in house mates or life long can't be without friends
It has a big impact on the decision process
Lifelong 20+ years
Married to each other
Friends on an exploration
Fwb
Theres so many complications to weigh up its a decision only u can make if it goes tits up u loose if it becomes the best experience of all your life's its a win win all round
Not married but they are together 4-5 years, it came up omin conversation few weeks back that I was on this site and it got them thinking, they don’t want a stranger to join them for their first time "
I get their hesitation in getting a stranger but you have to ask yourself how this may change how they look at you in the future? What if their first experience makes them realise they should have keep their fantasies to just fantasy after all. It's a hard thing to 'reset' your relationship. Perhaps mention this and other concerns to them. If they aren't experienced themselves they may not have considered all the positives and negatives...
Life is unfortunately not like a porn movie, things can be complicated. I'd thread carefully on this one if I were you. |
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"Friends as in house mates or life long can't be without friends
It has a big impact on the decision process
Lifelong 20+ years
Married to each other
Friends on an exploration
Fwb
Theres so many complications to weigh up its a decision only u can make if it goes tits up u loose if it becomes the best experience of all your life's its a win win all round
Not married but they are together 4-5 years, it came up omin conversation few weeks back that I was on this site and it got them thinking, they don’t want a stranger to join them for their first time
I get their hesitation in getting a stranger but you have to ask yourself how this may change how they look at you in the future? What if their first experience makes them realise they should have keep their fantasies to just fantasy after all. It's a hard thing to 'reset' your relationship. Perhaps mention this and other concerns to them. If they aren't experienced themselves they may not have considered all the positives and negatives...
Life is unfortunately not like a porn movie, things can be complicated. I'd thread carefully on this one if I were you. "
maybe time for another convo with them about it yeah. As you say , weigh up the pos and negs  |
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By *ilderMan
over a year ago
dublin |
"Friends as in house mates or life long can't be without friends
It has a big impact on the decision process
Lifelong 20+ years
Married to each other
Friends on an exploration
Fwb
Theres so many complications to weigh up its a decision only u can make if it goes tits up u loose if it becomes the best experience of all your life's its a win win all round
Not married but they are together 4-5 years, it came up omin conversation few weeks back that I was on this site and it got them thinking, they don’t want a stranger to join them for their first time
I get their hesitation in getting a stranger but you have to ask yourself how this may change how they look at you in the future? What if their first experience makes them realise they should have keep their fantasies to just fantasy after all. It's a hard thing to 'reset' your relationship. Perhaps mention this and other concerns to them. If they aren't experienced themselves they may not have considered all the positives and negatives...
Life is unfortunately not like a porn movie, things can be complicated. I'd thread carefully on this one if I were you. maybe time for another convo with them about it yeah. As you say , weigh up the pos and negs "
Yeah, I've been the 3rd party in a couples first mfm with 4 different couples at least. I didnt know them in advance though. This was all meetings arranged here or on other sites. It's very important to talk it all out in advance and get wants, limits, expectations etc. Knowing them in advance just adds more things to be clarified and to be prepared for if it should go t*ts up (despite your best efforts). |
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I wouldn't ever knowingly agree to be a couple's first open experience. The potential for disaster is astronomical.
Add in that they are friends and you'd have to witness the fallout if it causes issues between them (never mind with you)... Nope. Run, don't walk. |
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"I wouldn't ever knowingly agree to be a couple's first open experience. The potential for disaster is astronomical.
Add in that they are friends and you'd have to witness the fallout if it causes issues between them (never mind with you)... Nope. Run, don't walk. "
Gotcha, yeah the more I think about it, the more I’m inclined to decline the offer. If it was a strange couple asking me I’d have no hesitation in accepting. The rogue in me wants to though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would avoid it like the plague pal. Sex can happen regularly with anyone. Long term friendships don't.
Explain that a stranger although frightening is the best option because if they regret their decision they don't have to see him again. |
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While it sounds perfect you know one another you can both relax no nerves.
It could lead to the downfall of a good friendship.
The fantasy in there head is one thing the reality could be losing a great friendship, ask yourself is it worth it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's just sex. Not worth ruining a good friendship over."
This, as someone else said also, sex is easy to come by, good friends aren't. If you value their friendship and respect their relationship, decline politely and explain why. And introduce them to fab  |
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By *asual777Man
over a year ago
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Will the friendship be exactly like it was after you turn down their proposition ? If they have a regular plus one will you feel any jealousy which will impact on your rapport ? I don’t think the options are exactly the same Vs loads of risks |
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"Will the friendship be exactly like it was after you turn down their proposition ? If they have a regular plus one will you feel any jealousy which will impact on your rapport ? I don’t think the options are exactly the same Vs loads of risks "
If the friendship is that flakey are they really friends at all?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Will the friendship be exactly like it was after you turn down their proposition ? If they have a regular plus one will you feel any jealousy which will impact on your rapport ? I don’t think the options are exactly the same Vs loads of risks
If the friendship is that flakey are they really friends at all?
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Have to agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Long story short, couple ( my friends ) have propositioned me to join them in a threesome. I’m torn, good move ,bad move? Anyone had any good/ bad experiences of same ?"
Don't do it mate. Make friends out of swingers, not swingers out of friends! I ruined a friendship a few years back by inviting her for a threesome. It's just a bad idea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doing it with friends carries the risk of potentially losing that friendship so at the end of the day the question you gotta ask yourself is “is it worth ruining a friendship for the sake of sex?” |
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"Don't shit on your own doorstep it always comes back to haunt you!"
I think my mind is made up and conversation to be had with them soon. I value their friendship way too much so I will be asking them to seek their 3rd elsewhere. Some lucky man on here may benefit  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't shit on your own doorstep it always comes back to haunt you!
I think my mind is made up and conversation to be had with them soon. I value their friendship way too much so I will be asking them to seek their 3rd elsewhere. Some lucky man on here may benefit "
Well maybe as a friend give them some advice and guidance on who to meet.It's pretty nerve racking your first time. |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
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"Don't shit on your own doorstep it always comes back to haunt you!
I think my mind is made up and conversation to be had with them soon. I value their friendship way too much so I will be asking them to seek their 3rd elsewhere. Some lucky man on here may benefit "
Introduce them to the site, show them the filters etc and let them find their way. You don’t want to be blamed for things going tits up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't shit on your own doorstep it always comes back to haunt you!
I think my mind is made up and conversation to be had with them soon. I value their friendship way too much so I will be asking them to seek their 3rd elsewhere. Some lucky man on here may benefit
Introduce them to the site, show them the filters etc and let them find their way. You don’t want to be blamed for things going tits up"
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"Don't shit on your own doorstep it always comes back to haunt you!
I think my mind is made up and conversation to be had with them soon. I value their friendship way too much so I will be asking them to seek their 3rd elsewhere. Some lucky man on here may benefit
Well maybe as a friend give them some advice and guidance on who to meet.It's pretty nerve racking your first time. "
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Think it would be easier with friends but suppose has its up and downs..I tend to make friends with ppl and feel comfortable before I'd go to the next stage of booking a hotel and having fun! It is what you make it! It'll either be a good or bad idea! |
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"Will the friendship be exactly like it was after you turn down their proposition ? If they have a regular plus one will you feel any jealousy which will impact on your rapport ? I don’t think the options are exactly the same Vs loads of risks "
My thoughts exactly! It’s already been changed by the invitation.
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"Will the friendship be exactly like it was after you turn down their proposition ? If they have a regular plus one will you feel any jealousy which will impact on your rapport ? I don’t think the options are exactly the same Vs loads of risks
My thoughts exactly! It’s already been changed by the invitation.
I have to disagree there, the invite changes nothing, they will still be great friends even if they opt for someone else. I’m not the jealous type and if they go with another then good luck to them and whoever they pick. I’ll actually be interested to hear about their experience if it happens
Schrodingers mfm "
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
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Stay clear and keep the friendship
As said above, guide them on how to use the site best and also, show them guys you may have been in group situations with, who were respectful and personable. That should give them a good start |
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"great experience for us....as a friend to join us ...he nearly fainted...he said yes ...mrs was delighted...so it happened...more than once ..we progress to here "
Glad to hear it all worked out for ye |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends, do you think things would change?
I personally wouldn't with someone I was lifelong friends with, even with the temptation and desire too. It's just not messing up a friendship and things can certainly get messy. |
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By *ara198Woman
over a year ago
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If you have an honest and open relationship with these people, so much so that this conversation came up then I think if you want to you should go for it. Have a big chat and lay out clear boundaries and how things will work afterwards. Will both parties be ok afterwards? Is it totally no strings on everyone's part etc, |
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"F**k it go for it things may change a bit after but you only love once and if you are up for it go for it!!!"
Cheers , it’s hard to argue with a bit of positivity and good honest opinion which is the route I’m take king on this one too I think. Life’s too short but there is a long conversation between all 3 to be had first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most ppl on fab are very private and discreet about being on fab in the 1st place. So if ye have a 3 sum, and let's say, you have a falling out with them somewhere/sometime, well that's leaving the door open for you or for the couple to talk in public, regardless whether ppl believe it or not. So a bit of wise advice, don't do the 3 sum, keep it as a friendship |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first MFM, and swinger experience was with friends/neighbors, bumped into them in a super market, in Gibraltar of all places, and they propositioned me there, something along the lines of
Husband: I'm after talking the wife into a 3some
Me: That's awesome, your a lucky man, your wife is gorgeous and she's inviting another woman to join you.
Husband: No not that kind of threesome, and we actually thought of you
Me: ohhhhhh     
And that was the start of a long, joyful and eventful journey into the lifestyle, and I never looked back. I think it was around 2006/7
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"Long story short, couple ( my friends ) have propositioned me to join them in a threesome. I’m torn, good move ,bad move? Anyone had any good/ bad experiences of same ?"
Have done with friends. No issues after |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Its really down to how strong their relationship is and how well you know then. would there be any risk of jealousy creeping in if it did work and she wanted it again/regularly or worse could be a freak out when faced with the reality of a fantasy, your the one who knows these people best so your the only one who can weigh up the potential outcome good or bad |
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"Its really down to how strong their relationship is and how well you know then. would there be any risk of jealousy creeping in if it did work and she wanted it again/regularly or worse could be a freak out when faced with the reality of a fantasy, your the one who knows these people best so your the only one who can weigh up the potential outcome good or bad"
They are solid and not the jealous type at all, I’m far from the jealous type so I don’t see that being a problem down the line. I did mention to them about joining here over the weekend and they both took it on board but I got the feeling they wouldn’t be comfortable with a stranger for their first time but they are gonna mull over it for a while. There’s no rush. I’ve left it with them now and I’ll be happy with whatever they decide |
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