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By *affa31 OP Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
According to some article I half read on IFL Science, some people don’t have an internal monologue i.e don’t play out conversations in their heads.
Not necessarily talking about rehashing conversations you’ve had with someone, more your own inner thoughts.
As a terribly scientific piece of research, please let me know if you do or don’t have one. |
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
I definitely have an internal monologue. I've multiple different voices that all are a representation of the different aspects of my personality actually. Sometimes it's great fun, other times, not so much. Still, I never get lonely.  |
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By *affa31 OP Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"I definitely have an internal monologue. I've multiple different voices that all are a representation of the different aspects of my personality actually. Sometimes it's great fun, other times, not so much. Still, I never get lonely. "
Agreed…it’s when they get louder at bedtime that it becomes annoying. They’re great conversationalists though |
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over a year ago
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"I definitely have an internal monologue. I've multiple different voices that all are a representation of the different aspects of my personality actually. Sometimes it's great fun, other times, not so much. Still, I never get lonely.
Agreed…it’s when they get louder at bedtime that it becomes annoying. They’re great conversationalists though "
Think that's the why alcohol was invented  |
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
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"I definitely have an internal monologue. I've multiple different voices that all are a representation of the different aspects of my personality actually. Sometimes it's great fun, other times, not so much. Still, I never get lonely.
Agreed…it’s when they get louder at bedtime that it becomes annoying. They’re great conversationalists though "
Worse for me if when they don't see to need much sleep, so I'm normally quite good at getting to sleep but I'll be woken early and then the voices are off and in just lying thinking "ffs guys, it's 330am!" |
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By *affa31 OP Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"I definitely have an internal monologue. I've multiple different voices that all are a representation of the different aspects of my personality actually. Sometimes it's great fun, other times, not so much. Still, I never get lonely.
Agreed…it’s when they get louder at bedtime that it becomes annoying. They’re great conversationalists though
Worse for me if when they don't see to need much sleep, so I'm normally quite good at getting to sleep but I'll be woken early and then the voices are off and in just lying thinking "ffs guys, it's 330am!" "
I feel your pain! I find that knocking one out shuts them up long enough to get back to sleep |
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Yes and it’s never ending. It’s usually pure rubbish but sometimes I’d be giggling away at myself. On the other hand that internal monologue is not helpful when it comes to anxiety, it’s a harsh critic |
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By *affa31 OP Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"Yes and it’s never ending. It’s usually pure rubbish but sometimes I’d be giggling away at myself. On the other hand that internal monologue is not helpful when it comes to anxiety, it’s a harsh critic"
Agreed, I certainly have both the comedian and the critic in play depending on my mood. Learning to quieten the critic is key. |
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"Yes and it’s never ending. It’s usually pure rubbish but sometimes I’d be giggling away at myself. On the other hand that internal monologue is not helpful when it comes to anxiety, it’s a harsh critic
Agreed, I certainly have both the comedian and the critic in play depending on my mood. Learning to quieten the critic is key. "
I don’t think quietening is good either, some criticism is ok and healthy but you need to learn to break it down and see what is constructive and you just being hard on yourself |
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By *affa31 OP Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"Yes and it’s never ending. It’s usually pure rubbish but sometimes I’d be giggling away at myself. On the other hand that internal monologue is not helpful when it comes to anxiety, it’s a harsh critic
Agreed, I certainly have both the comedian and the critic in play depending on my mood. Learning to quieten the critic is key.
I don’t think quietening is good either, some criticism is ok and healthy but you need to learn to break it down and see what is constructive and you just being hard on yourself "
That’s a good point. Silencing it isn’t healthy but knowing when to tell it to stfu and stop it’s nonsense is helpful. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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Yup, the home secretary, the one that checks, organises and filters all the stuff going through my mind and decides what will be published and what kept secret. The responsibilities are not to underestimate, it's a tough job, but it has to be done.  |
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"Yup, the home secretary, the one that checks, organises and filters all the stuff going through my mind and decides what will be published and what kept secret. The responsibilities are not to underestimate, it's a tough job, but it has to be done. "
I discovered recently that of someone tells me a secret (and it happens a lot) I somehow manage to forget it so I don't spill it
Which is odd, because my memory is usually pretty fantastic |
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"Yup, the home secretary, the one that checks, organises and filters all the stuff going through my mind and decides what will be published and what kept secret. The responsibilities are not to underestimate, it's a tough job, but it has to be done.
I discovered recently that of someone tells me a secret (and it happens a lot) I somehow manage to forget it so I don't spill it
Which is odd, because my memory is usually pretty fantastic"
Are you just trying to get us to tell you our deepest darkest secrets? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yup, the home secretary, the one that checks, organises and filters all the stuff going through my mind and decides what will be published and what kept secret. The responsibilities are not to underestimate, it's a tough job, but it has to be done.
I discovered recently that of someone tells me a secret (and it happens a lot) I somehow manage to forget it so I don't spill it
Which is odd, because my memory is usually pretty fantastic
Are you just trying to get us to tell you our deepest darkest secrets? "
something tells me yours would be difficult to erase Mick |
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For many years it was the only voice I had.
Right up to the point that it broke and the needle got stuck and wouldn't go anywhere.
Hitting ctl, alt delete for 6 or 7 years eventually worked but with an upgrade.
The new version now has an internal bullshit monitor and tells me to shut up and get on with living my life and stop trying to rewrite history.
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By *affa31 OP Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
Your internal monologue is less the one that replays mistakes you’ve made/things you forgot to say in the heat of the moment and more the constant dialogue in your head as you go about daily life.
As in the one that is going ok you need to get off fab and do some work and what the hell are you going to have for lunch etc etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your internal monologue is less the one that replays mistakes you’ve made/things you forgot to say in the heat of the moment and more the constant dialogue in your head as you go about daily life.
As in the one that is going ok you need to get off fab and do some work and what the hell are you going to have for lunch etc etc "
Its also your thought process. Getting ready to go out, look in the mirror and say "not looking too bad" etc.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your internal monologue is less the one that replays mistakes you’ve made/things you forgot to say in the heat of the moment and more the constant dialogue in your head as you go about daily life.
As in the one that is going ok you need to get off fab and do some work and what the hell are you going to have for lunch etc etc
Its also your thought process. Getting ready to go out, look in the mirror and say "not looking too bad" etc.."
Can I borrow yours? Mine always tells me I look shite |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your internal monologue is less the one that replays mistakes you’ve made/things you forgot to say in the heat of the moment and more the constant dialogue in your head as you go about daily life.
As in the one that is going ok you need to get off fab and do some work and what the hell are you going to have for lunch etc etc
Its also your thought process. Getting ready to go out, look in the mirror and say "not looking too bad" etc..
Can I borrow yours? Mine always tells me I look shite"
maybe I could be yours?? I'd always tell you that you look great!!  |
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"Yup, the home secretary, the one that checks, organises and filters all the stuff going through my mind and decides what will be published and what kept secret. The responsibilities are not to underestimate, it's a tough job, but it has to be done.
I discovered recently that of someone tells me a secret (and it happens a lot) I somehow manage to forget it so I don't spill it
Which is odd, because my memory is usually pretty fantastic
Are you just trying to get us to tell you our deepest darkest secrets? something tells me yours would be difficult to erase Mick "
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"Your internal monologue is less the one that replays mistakes you’ve made/things you forgot to say in the heat of the moment and more the constant dialogue in your head as you go about daily life.
As in the one that is going ok you need to get off fab and do some work and what the hell are you going to have for lunch etc etc "
If that's the case then no I don't have one as I'm always at least 3 steps ahead of that type of monologue and it's playing catch-up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your internal monologue is less the one that replays mistakes you’ve made/things you forgot to say in the heat of the moment and more the constant dialogue in your head as you go about daily life.
As in the one that is going ok you need to get off fab and do some work and what the hell are you going to have for lunch etc etc
If that's the case then no I don't have one as I'm always at least 3 steps ahead of that type of monologue and it's playing catch-up. "
What thought process gets you 3 steps ahead though?
Like do you think to yourself I need to be 3 steps ahead of the future inner voice that hasn't happened yet by having lunches prepared and work up to date? |
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"Your internal monologue is less the one that replays mistakes you’ve made/things you forgot to say in the heat of the moment and more the constant dialogue in your head as you go about daily life.
As in the one that is going ok you need to get off fab and do some work and what the hell are you going to have for lunch etc etc
If that's the case then no I don't have one as I'm always at least 3 steps ahead of that type of monologue and it's playing catch-up.
What thought process gets you 3 steps ahead though?
Like do you think to yourself I need to be 3 steps ahead of the future inner voice that hasn't happened yet by having lunches prepared and work up to date?"
That my point. There is no conscious thought process. I just do things without debate and instinctively. I don't pre-plan. Whatever has to be done is done.
Even in a fab context, I don't fantasise, or get nervous and/or excited before a meet but I'm always in the moment when I'm with someone.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your internal monologue is less the one that replays mistakes you’ve made/things you forgot to say in the heat of the moment and more the constant dialogue in your head as you go about daily life.
As in the one that is going ok you need to get off fab and do some work and what the hell are you going to have for lunch etc etc
If that's the case then no I don't have one as I'm always at least 3 steps ahead of that type of monologue and it's playing catch-up.
What thought process gets you 3 steps ahead though?
Like do you think to yourself I need to be 3 steps ahead of the future inner voice that hasn't happened yet by having lunches prepared and work up to date?
That my point. There is no conscious thought process. I just do things without debate and instinctively. I don't pre-plan. Whatever has to be done is done.
Even in a fab context, I don't fantasise, or get nervous and/or excited before a meet but I'm always in the moment when I'm with someone.
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Ah gotcha.. so acting on impulse or instinct all the time.
I would have thought everyone had different levels of balance between planning and instinct.
I couldn't imagine living my whole life acting on the moment. That's fascinating |
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By *affa31 OP Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"Your internal monologue is less the one that replays mistakes you’ve made/things you forgot to say in the heat of the moment and more the constant dialogue in your head as you go about daily life.
As in the one that is going ok you need to get off fab and do some work and what the hell are you going to have for lunch etc etc
If that's the case then no I don't have one as I'm always at least 3 steps ahead of that type of monologue and it's playing catch-up.
What thought process gets you 3 steps ahead though?
Like do you think to yourself I need to be 3 steps ahead of the future inner voice that hasn't happened yet by having lunches prepared and work up to date?
That my point. There is no conscious thought process. I just do things without debate and instinctively. I don't pre-plan. Whatever has to be done is done.
Even in a fab context, I don't fantasise, or get nervous and/or excited before a meet but I'm always in the moment when I'm with someone.
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Another tick for the “no internal monologue” box  |
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"Your internal monologue is less the one that replays mistakes you’ve made/things you forgot to say in the heat of the moment and more the constant dialogue in your head as you go about daily life.
As in the one that is going ok you need to get off fab and do some work and what the hell are you going to have for lunch etc etc
If that's the case then no I don't have one as I'm always at least 3 steps ahead of that type of monologue and it's playing catch-up.
What thought process gets you 3 steps ahead though?
Like do you think to yourself I need to be 3 steps ahead of the future inner voice that hasn't happened yet by having lunches prepared and work up to date?
That my point. There is no conscious thought process. I just do things without debate and instinctively. I don't pre-plan. Whatever has to be done is done.
Even in a fab context, I don't fantasise, or get nervous and/or excited before a meet but I'm always in the moment when I'm with someone.
Ah gotcha.. so acting on impulse or instinct all the time.
I would have thought everyone had different levels of balance between planning and instinct.
I couldn't imagine living my whole life acting on the moment. That's fascinating "
I suffer from anhedonia which you can Google as I wouldn't explain it properly here but it's an inability to experience pleasure. I didn't even know it was a thing until a couple of years ago despite having it for most of my life.
Personally it means no anticipation or excitement and while i do experience pleasure it's only in the moment with no after effect.
Hence the always living in the moment and doing everything on instinct. |
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By *affa31 OP Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"Your internal monologue is less the one that replays mistakes you’ve made/things you forgot to say in the heat of the moment and more the constant dialogue in your head as you go about daily life.
As in the one that is going ok you need to get off fab and do some work and what the hell are you going to have for lunch etc etc
If that's the case then no I don't have one as I'm always at least 3 steps ahead of that type of monologue and it's playing catch-up.
What thought process gets you 3 steps ahead though?
Like do you think to yourself I need to be 3 steps ahead of the future inner voice that hasn't happened yet by having lunches prepared and work up to date?
That my point. There is no conscious thought process. I just do things without debate and instinctively. I don't pre-plan. Whatever has to be done is done.
Even in a fab context, I don't fantasise, or get nervous and/or excited before a meet but I'm always in the moment when I'm with someone.
Ah gotcha.. so acting on impulse or instinct all the time.
I would have thought everyone had different levels of balance between planning and instinct.
I couldn't imagine living my whole life acting on the moment. That's fascinating
I suffer from anhedonia which you can Google as I wouldn't explain it properly here but it's an inability to experience pleasure. I didn't even know it was a thing until a couple of years ago despite having it for most of my life.
Personally it means no anticipation or excitement and while i do experience pleasure it's only in the moment with no after effect.
Hence the always living in the moment and doing everything on instinct. "
That’s fascinating…I’ll have to have a read up on it. |
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By *affa31 OP Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"Your internal monologue is less the one that replays mistakes you’ve made/things you forgot to say in the heat of the moment and more the constant dialogue in your head as you go about daily life.
As in the one that is going ok you need to get off fab and do some work and what the hell are you going to have for lunch etc etc
If that's the case then no I don't have one as I'm always at least 3 steps ahead of that type of monologue and it's playing catch-up.
What thought process gets you 3 steps ahead though?
Like do you think to yourself I need to be 3 steps ahead of the future inner voice that hasn't happened yet by having lunches prepared and work up to date?
That my point. There is no conscious thought process. I just do things without debate and instinctively. I don't pre-plan. Whatever has to be done is done.
Even in a fab context, I don't fantasise, or get nervous and/or excited before a meet but I'm always in the moment when I'm with someone.
Ah gotcha.. so acting on impulse or instinct all the time.
I would have thought everyone had different levels of balance between planning and instinct.
I couldn't imagine living my whole life acting on the moment. That's fascinating
I suffer from anhedonia which you can Google as I wouldn't explain it properly here but it's an inability to experience pleasure. I didn't even know it was a thing until a couple of years ago despite having it for most of my life.
Personally it means no anticipation or excitement and while i do experience pleasure it's only in the moment with no after effect.
Hence the always living in the moment and doing everything on instinct. "
How were you diagnosed with it?
Every days a school day on fab! |
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"Your internal monologue is less the one that replays mistakes you’ve made/things you forgot to say in the heat of the moment and more the constant dialogue in your head as you go about daily life.
As in the one that is going ok you need to get off fab and do some work and what the hell are you going to have for lunch etc etc
If that's the case then no I don't have one as I'm always at least 3 steps ahead of that type of monologue and it's playing catch-up.
What thought process gets you 3 steps ahead though?
Like do you think to yourself I need to be 3 steps ahead of the future inner voice that hasn't happened yet by having lunches prepared and work up to date?
That my point. There is no conscious thought process. I just do things without debate and instinctively. I don't pre-plan. Whatever has to be done is done.
Even in a fab context, I don't fantasise, or get nervous and/or excited before a meet but I'm always in the moment when I'm with someone.
Ah gotcha.. so acting on impulse or instinct all the time.
I would have thought everyone had different levels of balance between planning and instinct.
I couldn't imagine living my whole life acting on the moment. That's fascinating
I suffer from anhedonia which you can Google as I wouldn't explain it properly here but it's an inability to experience pleasure. I didn't even know it was a thing until a couple of years ago despite having it for most of my life.
Personally it means no anticipation or excitement and while i do experience pleasure it's only in the moment with no after effect.
Hence the always living in the moment and doing everything on instinct.
How were you diagnosed with it?
Every days a school day on fab!"
As I said I didn't know it was a condition. It was only about 3 years ago when reading a book that one of the characters described how he got through each day and it was as if he was describing me.
I had discussed it many times with my GP but it was treated as general depression. When I went back armed with the new info she agreed immediately and sent me for CBT. 10 weeks later after some lovely discussions about this that and everything I came out the other end feeling exactly the same way I had gone in.
I don't spend much time analysing it now and prefer just to get on and do. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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" Apparently some people don’t experience an internal monologue which baffles me "
Yup, I know a person like that. Everything that goes through that person's head comes out as talk, there's no filter, reflection, nothing. It just talks. |
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" Apparently some people don’t experience an internal monologue which baffles me
Yup, I know a person like that. Everything that goes through that person's head comes out as talk, there's no filter, reflection, nothing. It just talks. "
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By *affa31 OP Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
" Apparently some people don’t experience an internal monologue which baffles me
Yup, I know a person like that. Everything that goes through that person's head comes out as talk, there's no filter, reflection, nothing. It just talks. "
I wonder are people who post 10 threads a day on the forum indulging their inner monologues need to express themselves |
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" Apparently some people don’t experience an internal monologue which baffles me
Yup, I know a person like that. Everything that goes through that person's head comes out as talk, there's no filter, reflection, nothing. It just talks.
I wonder are people who post 10 threads a day on the forum indulging their inner monologues need to express themselves "
If that's true some of those monologues are stuck in a loop. |
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By *affa31 OP Woman
over a year ago
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" Apparently some people don’t experience an internal monologue which baffles me
Yup, I know a person like that. Everything that goes through that person's head comes out as talk, there's no filter, reflection, nothing. It just talks.
I wonder are people who post 10 threads a day on the forum indulging their inner monologues need to express themselves
If that's true some of those monologues are stuck in a loop. "
Well mine is still singing “I want you to want me” since last night |
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"According to some article I half read on IFL Science, some people don’t have an internal monologue i.e don’t play out conversations in their heads.
Not necessarily talking about rehashing conversations you’ve had with someone, more your own inner thoughts.
As a terribly scientific piece of research, please let me know if you do or don’t have one. "
Wouldn't that be great.. At least you wouldn't be tormented... |
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By *affa31 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"According to some article I half read on IFL Science, some people don’t have an internal monologue i.e don’t play out conversations in their heads.
Not necessarily talking about rehashing conversations you’ve had with someone, more your own inner thoughts.
As a terribly scientific piece of research, please let me know if you do or don’t have one.
Wouldn't that be great.. At least you wouldn't be tormented... "
I couldn’t fathom not having one…I’d be bored senseless if it disappeared |
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By *affa31 OP Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"And there was me thinking i was nuts talking to my self reliving every thing scrutinizing what I had said and should have said "
Nope not nuts but it’s worth trying to get the voices that make you rehash things that you can’t change to take a backseat to the entertaining ones. |
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