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What are they missing out on?
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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago
i travel all over |
Profiles who have filters which means you can’t contact them because of your age , not being a site supporter or aren’t verified . Those who haven’t responded to your message or did but where the chat didn’t progress to a social etc : what attributes could you have brought to the table but didn’t have the opportunity ? |
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If I'm outside their age limit I move on.
If they don't read my message or the chat dries up I move on.
I never see it as missed opportunities. A missed opportunity is when something is clearly available and I don't make use of it, not something that was never on the menu in the first place.
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"If I'm outside their age limit I move on.
If they don't read my message or the chat dries up I move on.
I never see it as missed opportunities. A missed opportunity is when something is clearly available and I don't make use of it, not something that was never on the menu in the first place.
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And the same in reverse. It's not a missed opportunity for them if it's never offered in the first place. I have filters in place and a profile that I expect people to read so they have to work to get and keep my attention. Hence the use of the word mutual.
I have numerous attributes but I keep my cards close to my chest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Filters are there because they dont want to buy anything in your shop...they're not interested in your merchandise...yes of course you can advertise your products all you want but if they're not interested in the first place they'll just walk on past your shop door...and its a very hard ask trying to sell a product to someone you know arent interested in it at all...complete waste of time and energy...so l suppose to answer your question..they 're not missing out on anything ..simply because they're not interested in the first place... |
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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago
i travel all over |
I don’t agree . On the couples profile i’ve added filters of no one under 45 to manage number of emails received . Does that mean 44 year olds are not worth meeting ? No. It’s just a sanity preserving measure which might mean the odd gem gets away |
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"I don’t agree . On the couples profile i’ve added filters of no one under 45 to manage number of emails received . Does that mean 44 year olds are not worth meeting ? No. It’s just a sanity preserving measure which might mean the odd gem gets away "
You should be focusing on the ones who didn't get away rather than worrying about those who you may have missed out on. Forget about the ifs and maybes. |
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"I don’t agree . On the couples profile i’ve added filters of no one under 45 to manage number of emails received . Does that mean 44 year olds are not worth meeting ? No. It’s just a sanity preserving measure which might mean the odd gem gets away "
You're filtering profiles that you think you might want to meet? That's pretty silly |
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By *iss3BWoman
over a year ago
north down |
"I don’t agree . On the couples profile i’ve added filters of no one under 45 to manage number of emails received . Does that mean 44 year olds are not worth meeting ? No. It’s just a sanity preserving measure which might mean the odd gem gets away
You should be focusing on the ones who didn't get away rather than worrying about those who you may have missed out on. Forget about the ifs and maybes."
100% this and if there is someone outside your set filters there is nothing to stop you trying to message them, unless they have filters and then it really is no point thinking about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From their perspective, they have no interest in us, to think they are missing out by this would be a little self-absorbed, or maybe just a deflection of a perceived rejection. It's not about us, it's about what they want. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
on the hill NordWest of |
I live in the now and enjoy every second of the encounters I have, I never break my little head over potential meets I could miss out on. If you apply that latter approach to everyday situations, you'll go crazy in no time.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Truthfully I'm not sure it's something we give much thought to. There is perhaps the occasional person who we get on with like a house on fire, or with whom there is mutual attraction but for practical reasons we probably will never be able to meet but we don't view it as them (or us) missing out...more something we might mention fleetingly that it would be great if circumstances were different. |
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It's like having a niche market in business, rather than being a generalist... it feels counterintuitive to "limit" yourself but it's easier to be an expert in a niche rather than trying, half arsed, to please everyone.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Profiles who have filters which means you can’t contact them because of your age , not being a site supporter or aren’t verified . Those who haven’t responded to your message or did but where the chat didn’t progress to a social etc : what attributes could you have brought to the table but didn’t have the opportunity ? "
You can’t bring any attributes to the table, basically they’re getting their kicks else where and you don’t fit in with what they want, hence the reason for the filters in the first place.  |
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This is a really odd question to me. I'm not missing out on anything by not meeting people who don't meet my preferences because they... don't meet my preferences. 'Giving someone a chance' that isn't what you want is just called settling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably easier just to ask what do people bring to the table in general. Rather than framing the question this way I guess.
I bring snacks.. is that an attribute? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably easier just to ask what do people bring to the table in general. Rather than framing the question this way I guess.
I bring snacks.. is that an attribute?
For yourself or to share??"
Share? I'm not a communist |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
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"Probably easier just to ask what do people bring to the table in general. Rather than framing the question this way I guess.
I bring snacks.. is that an attribute?
For yourself or to share??
Share? I'm not a communist "
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"If I'm outside their age limit I move on.
If they don't read my message or the chat dries up I move on.
I never see it as missed opportunities. A missed opportunity is when something is clearly available and I don't make use of it, not something that was never on the menu in the first place.
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I guess OP you're talking about women's profiles. I guess they're just filtering out what they are not interested in to limit the hundreds of messages they get. And of course if they know what they want and it's not me then that's that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm outside the age limit of quite and that's fine. But I don't think I'm missing out on anything, at the end of the day your meeting with people who want to meet you and vice versa, and that's the fun of it. |
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