"Though frowned on by many. They do serve a purpose!!!!"
I wouldn't say they are frowned on by many. It's just that many people have busy lives and need babysitting (or sneaking away from a hubby/wife) so last min meets are tricky to do. |
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over a year ago
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We have had a few spontaneous meets over the years,last minute meets on a weekend when we suddenly felt the urge.
Not frowned upon by ourselves or those we met,and that's what matters,not what others may think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not the spontaneity we have issue with...it's people off their face at stupid o'clock in the morning who have the horn & message (having had zero contact with us before) saying come to ours that make me roll my eyes hard.
Aye right. We'll just abandon the children here and do a 60 mile round trip in the middle of the night just for the ride with people we known zilch about 
Reading profiles and compatibility still have a place in spontaneous meets |
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We had a spontaneous meet last weekend, couple we were to meet for cold feet, another couple in similar situation contacted have a met had a couple of drinks and then some fun, nothing wrong with spontaneous for us. Sometimes the energy in setting up a meet is wasted. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I don't know why they would be frowned upon .
I don't do them I prefer to get to know someone before arranging to meet. The only time I met faster and it was after chatting a couple of days was the worst meet I've had on here so I won't do it again.
But it has worked out well for plenty on here and I really don't see why they are frowned upon if both parties are happy to meet. It's only annoying if someone is sending I'm in your area or FAF messages to people who state they aren't interested . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing wrong with them, per se. They just don't really work for us and people messaging out of the blue with "meet now" is a bit irritating, some of us have lives. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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Spontaneous as in meeting someone you know already but it wasn't planned, just very short notice, no prob if it suits both.
Someone new - I wouldn't frown upon it - but for me as a woman I'd rate it at higher risk for a mismatch or worse, cos there's not enough time to get a feel for the person. |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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My first meet broke all the rules that people normally mention on here
Totally spontaneous
To be honest I'm delighted it happened that way because I didnt get a chance to worry or be anxious beforehand
Now I prefer to chat for a while but not against a spontaneous one again as long as we get on and there's some attraction between us |
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Had once but was just a few drinks.
We were out drinking.whos near on left on fab. Got a message . Couple were actually in same late bar.nice couple but no sexual attraction. |
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I've had one spontaneous social meet and one play meet.
I remained fully dressed throughout both and the social meet lasted longer.
Broke my own rules and no regrets but not something I'd be doing often. |
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I've had one or two, including ones that were meant to be a social meet but one or the other of us went 'let's take it further' and it went from there. Generally, though, I prefer to get to know someone first. |
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Didnt think the comments would be as positive when I read the post ..had 2 socials that turned spontaneous n still in touch with both to this day..probably prefer to chat n get to know first but they do have good outcomes for some |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've had one or two, including ones that were meant to be a social meet but one or the other of us went 'let's take it further' and it went from there. Generally, though, I prefer to get to know someone first. "
Ah, having a social meet that turns into a sex meet isn't really "spontaneous" if the social was pre-planned |
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"I've had one or two, including ones that were meant to be a social meet but one or the other of us went 'let's take it further' and it went from there. Generally, though, I prefer to get to know someone first.
Ah, having a social meet that turns into a sex meet isn't really "spontaneous" if the social was pre-planned"
I suppose, though when you're sitting chatting and having what just seems to be a pleasant first chat and coffee and she goes 'so will we get a room?' it feels pretty spontaneous! |
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"I've had one or two, including ones that were meant to be a social meet but one or the other of us went 'let's take it further' and it went from there. Generally, though, I prefer to get to know someone first.
Ah, having a social meet that turns into a sex meet isn't really "spontaneous" if the social was pre-planned
I suppose, though when you're sitting chatting and having what just seems to be a pleasant first chat and coffee and she goes 'so will we get a room?' it feels pretty spontaneous!"
Hehe I've sprung that one on a guy, made him wait 3 hours though until the hotel bar closed  |
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"I've had one or two, including ones that were meant to be a social meet but one or the other of us went 'let's take it further' and it went from there. Generally, though, I prefer to get to know someone first.
Ah, having a social meet that turns into a sex meet isn't really "spontaneous" if the social was pre-planned
I suppose, though when you're sitting chatting and having what just seems to be a pleasant first chat and coffee and she goes 'so will we get a room?' it feels pretty spontaneous!
Hehe I've sprung that one on a guy, made him wait 3 hours though until the hotel bar closed "
I'm sure you're worth that wait and more! |
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"I've had one or two, including ones that were meant to be a social meet but one or the other of us went 'let's take it further' and it went from there. Generally, though, I prefer to get to know someone first.
Ah, having a social meet that turns into a sex meet isn't really "spontaneous" if the social was pre-planned
I suppose, though when you're sitting chatting and having what just seems to be a pleasant first chat and coffee and she goes 'so will we get a room?' it feels pretty spontaneous!
Hehe I've sprung that one on a guy, made him wait 3 hours though until the hotel bar closed
I'm sure you're worth that wait and more!"
The amount of Heineken Zero a man is prepared to consume in one sitting has got to count for something!! |
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"I've had one or two, including ones that were meant to be a social meet but one or the other of us went 'let's take it further' and it went from there. Generally, though, I prefer to get to know someone first.
Ah, having a social meet that turns into a sex meet isn't really "spontaneous" if the social was pre-planned
I suppose, though when you're sitting chatting and having what just seems to be a pleasant first chat and coffee and she goes 'so will we get a room?' it feels pretty spontaneous!
Hehe I've sprung that one on a guy, made him wait 3 hours though until the hotel bar closed
I'm sure you're worth that wait and more!
The amount of Heineken Zero a man is prepared to consume in one sitting has got to count for something!!"
I'm glad he had better taste in women than he had in beer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've had one or two, including ones that were meant to be a social meet but one or the other of us went 'let's take it further' and it went from there. Generally, though, I prefer to get to know someone first.
Ah, having a social meet that turns into a sex meet isn't really "spontaneous" if the social was pre-planned
I suppose, though when you're sitting chatting and having what just seems to be a pleasant first chat and coffee and she goes 'so will we get a room?' it feels pretty spontaneous!
Hehe I've sprung that one on a guy, made him wait 3 hours though until the hotel bar closed
I'm sure you're worth that wait and more!
The amount of Heineken Zero a man is prepared to consume in one sitting has got to count for something!!
I'm glad he had better taste in women than he had in beer. "
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
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"I've had one or two, including ones that were meant to be a social meet but one or the other of us went 'let's take it further' and it went from there. Generally, though, I prefer to get to know someone first.
Ah, having a social meet that turns into a sex meet isn't really "spontaneous" if the social was pre-planned
I suppose, though when you're sitting chatting and having what just seems to be a pleasant first chat and coffee and she goes 'so will we get a room?' it feels pretty spontaneous!
Hehe I've sprung that one on a guy, made him wait 3 hours though until the hotel bar closed "
Tease or what! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Spontaneous as in meeting someone you know already but it wasn't planned, just very short notice, no prob if it suits both.
Someone new - I wouldn't frown upon it - but for me as a woman I'd rate it at higher risk for a mismatch or worse, cos there's not enough time to get a feel for the person."
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