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"Good question I suppose it depends on the road you came from for me anyways Be a lone wolf has is plus but I surpose have a loyal companion for company can also be very good to. Its hard when u actually taste that new found freedom " Best of both worlds would be ideal, wouldn't it? I suppose this place can offer elements of that...at least physical side. With right partner in crime of course! | |||
"Question for the singles... How long has it been? Are u on the hunt or a happy lone wolf? " If you meet the right person you connect with in every way here...do yourself a HUGE favour and DO NOT let him/her go...because believe me you will regret it...because the price you pay for not following your heart is having to live with it for the rest of your life..DO NOT think you want to be the " Cock of the Walk " and think you can go around screwing who you like when you like when you should be with THE one you should be with because she truly wants to be with you....because if she moves on...she will never return..you know shes the Diamond...treat her like so...NEVER let her go... | |||
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But the odd weekend here and there, a night away every now and than and a bit of hot sex thrown in the middle would do me. | |||
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"Question for the singles... How long has it been? Are u on the hunt or a happy lone wolf? " I would imagine for singles who have been on Fab a long time that while it may be great to get into a relationship outside of Fab, it would be difficult to maintain monogamy in the long term? | |||
"Question for the singles... How long has it been? Are u on the hunt or a happy lone wolf? I would imagine for singles who have been on Fab a long time that while it may be great to get into a relationship outside of Fab, it would be difficult to maintain monogamy in the long term?" I doubt that's true if I'm honest. I don't see why it should be any different from anyone else getting into a relationship. | |||
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"Question for the singles... How long has it been? Are u on the hunt or a happy lone wolf? I would imagine for singles who have been on Fab a long time that while it may be great to get into a relationship outside of Fab, it would be difficult to maintain monogamy in the long term?" Disagree personally! I'm definitely monogamous but I'd have no issue being on the kink or swing scene with my partner, attending parties etc. You don't have to be non monogamous to be kinky. I'm also not looking for a relationship "outside of Fab" - the ideal would be to meet someone through Fab, so we're on the same page. I've been single 5 years, and it's 2 months since my last ride  | |||
"Single just over a year and a half now. Just before the first lockdown so timing wasn’t ideal. Quite happy being single at the moment and getting back to the person I was before my last relationship drained it out of me. With things opening up again now I’m finding there’s some adjusting to do. Most of my friends are all settled so there’s times when I want to do things but there’s nobody to do them with. So I just went off and booked a holiday for myself instead "Fair play on booking the holiday. The year before covid I had started to do a wee bit of travel alone hoping to get back to it later in the year | |||
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"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here. " You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless. | |||
"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here. You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless." I'm the same Bo definitely need chemistry with a guy , that cold sex isn't worth the effort | |||
"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here. You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless. I'm the same Bo definitely need chemistry with a guy , that cold sex isn't worth the effort" It's one of the biggest mistakes some guys make, because they don't understand women. I agree with you both. Mrs  | |||
"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here. You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless. I'm the same Bo definitely need chemistry with a guy , that cold sex isn't worth the effort It's one of the biggest mistakes some guys make, because they don't understand women. I agree with you both. Mrs "You all hit the nail on the head. Fab is different things to different people and it’s up to each of us to enjoy it. I want the chemistry and connection, the spark and build up to an amazing time and others may want to keep it cold, each to their own. | |||
"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here. You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless. I'm the same Bo definitely need chemistry with a guy , that cold sex isn't worth the effort It's one of the biggest mistakes some guys make, because they don't understand women. I agree with you both. Mrs
You all hit the nail on the head. Fab is different things to different people and it’s up to each of us to enjoy it. I want the chemistry and connection, the spark and build up to an amazing time and others may want to keep it cold, each to their own. "I also need the chemistry and connection but I know myself well enough to know that if I have that, I'm likely to want more. So it's really tricky to navigate that with someone who only wants casual! | |||
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"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here. You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless. I'm the same Bo definitely need chemistry with a guy , that cold sex isn't worth the effort" Agreed, and ive had some lovely lovely cuddles, giggles and no-sex times with friends ive met here. Those times go beyond the physical need, and meet my need for intimacy and connection and feeling valued as a person. | |||
"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here. You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless. I'm the same Bo definitely need chemistry with a guy , that cold sex isn't worth the effort Agreed, and ive had some lovely lovely cuddles, giggles and no-sex times with friends ive met here. Those times go beyond the physical need, and meet my need for intimacy and connection and feeling valued as a person. " Cant beat a good hug or cuddle or a snuggle | |||
"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here. You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless. I'm the same Bo definitely need chemistry with a guy , that cold sex isn't worth the effort Agreed, and ive had some lovely lovely cuddles, giggles and no-sex times with friends ive met here. Those times go beyond the physical need, and meet my need for intimacy and connection and feeling valued as a person. " Just to chime in that I'm in a similar boat. Just because I want ethically non-monogamous partnerships & can't see me ever living with someone again doesn't mean I'm not seeking intimacy & friendship from people I meet. | |||
! Wouldn't rule out a relationship if met a female connected with personality wise. | |||
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"Single just over a year and a half now. Just before the first lockdown so timing wasn’t ideal. Quite happy being single at the moment and getting back to the person I was before my last relationship drained it out of me. With things opening up again now I’m finding there’s some adjusting to do. Most of my friends are all settled so there’s times when I want to do things but there’s nobody to do them with. So I just went off and booked a holiday for myself instead
Fair play on booking the holiday. The year before covid I had started to do a wee bit of travel alone hoping to get back to it later in the year"Travelling alone was actually the one thing I was most excited about when my last relationship ended. Unfortunately the world had other plans. Hoping this short trip away will get the ball rolling for more solo travels. | |||
"NSA is a term that think kinda hard to achieve as when ya crave intimacy and affection then feelings do become apparent... more apparent when havin regular fun with someone.... and ya can be straight upfront but guarantee someone is going to think more about whats going on than the other... " I have to disagree. I feel that is a common misconception and many people can separate the two. I've been meeting a guy from here for almost 3 years and there's no feelings there on either side. Is the sex great, yes.. Do I want more, no.. Does he, nope.. I think many people (not all) partaking in "swinging" lifestyle (or casual sex if single and here) can make that divide. | |||
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" Just to chime in that I'm in a similar boat. Just because I want ethically non-monogamous partnerships & can't see me ever living with someone again doesn't mean I'm not seeking intimacy & friendship from people I meet. " This pretty much sums up exactly exactly why I joined fab and I've been lucky to find on here as well. | |||
"NSA is a term that think kinda hard to achieve as when ya crave intimacy and affection then feelings do become apparent... more apparent when havin regular fun with someone.... and ya can be straight upfront but guarantee someone is going to think more about whats going on than the other... I have to disagree. I feel that is a common misconception and many people can separate the two. I've been meeting a guy from here for almost 3 years and there's no feelings there on either side. Is the sex great, yes.. Do I want more, no.. Does he, nope.. I think many people (not all) partaking in "swinging" lifestyle (or casual sex if single and here) can make that divide. " I'm with you, been meeting someone regularly for many years. I consider him a mate, so there's 'feelings' to that extent, but neither of us are interested in escalating beyond what it is. | |||
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"I'm single about 20 years now..altho I do love being able to do and go where I want there are also times when I miss the little things like just chilling with someone doing normal stuff etc.." That's why ya have 3 husbands | |||
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"Question for the singles... How long has it been? Are u on the hunt or a happy lone wolf? " I'm not really looking for a relationship although saying that a certain special someone could easily change my mind I've been single for 2 years being honest I'm actually happy with it at the moment when it comes to the bedroom would over a year be considered a long time story of my life really  | |||
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"Good question I suppose it depends on the road you came from for me anyways Be a lone wolf has is plus but I surpose have a loyal companion for company can also be very good to. Its hard when u actually taste that new found freedom " Does a relationship mean losing your freedom? Doesn't it depend entirely on the person you're in a relationship with? Do they respect your space, your boundaries, your right to some "me time"? Does a relationship necessarily entail living together? I'm separated over 3 years after a lifetime with one man and it nearly broke me not being able to make it work, have had a couple of short term relationships since, one which broke my heart. Am I lonely? Yes, at times. I miss the intimacy of a loving relationship, being able to spend time with a special someone, be that hot, passionate love making, a quickie in the car, sitting in front of the fire watching a movie, going to a gig or the cinema, even having that squabble about who's turn it is to put the bin out... Being in a relationship doesn't mean living together. It can be had living in separate households, no matter your age. Being in a relationship doesn't mean losing any freedoms, it's about being supportive of another person you care for and receiving that support in return, it's about sharing the good, the bad and the indifferent times in life, while boundaries and personal time is respected without jealousy by the other half. This can only be established over time with open, honest communication. Me times and me hobbies are partly what add topics of conversation to a relationship so it doesn't go stale. If you feel you are giving up "freedoms" in a relationship, you're in the wrong relationship! However, being in a loving relationship, does come with an aspect of "selflessness" as give and take goes both ways. And if you are committed to a relationship, be that monogamous or not, there is the need for that selflessness to look out for each other through not only the good times, but also the bad times... and it does take effort, dedication, honesty and communication to get through times...if that means you feel you are losing freedoms, then relationships are maybe not for you (I mean "you" as in any single person out there, rather than you specifically)... We get older and more set in our ways, less tolerant of other people's behaviour, particularly if we've had relationships gone wrong, where we learned a thing or two about our own boundaries. Now, that is - if this post is about relationships rather than sex, which, as a single person, might be more scarce in the times we live in compared to those in well working established relationships
The man for the relationship has to be the right man...but the man for NSA sex - also has to be the right man...one isn't necessarily equal to the other | |||
"Good question I suppose it depends on the road you came from for me anyways Be a lone wolf has is plus but I surpose have a loyal companion for company can also be very good to. Its hard when u actually taste that new found freedom Does a relationship mean losing your freedom? Doesn't it depend entirely on the person you're in a relationship with? Do they respect your space, your boundaries, your right to some "me time"? Does a relationship necessarily entail living together? I'm separated over 3 years after a lifetime with one man and it nearly broke me not being able to make it work, have had a couple of short term relationships since, one which broke my heart. Am I lonely? Yes, at times. I miss the intimacy of a loving relationship, being able to spend time with a special someone, be that hot, passionate love making, a quickie in the car, sitting in front of the fire watching a movie, going to a gig or the cinema, even having that squabble about who's turn it is to put the bin out... Being in a relationship doesn't mean living together. It can be had living in separate households, no matter your age. Being in a relationship doesn't mean losing any freedoms, it's about being supportive of another person you care for and receiving that support in return, it's about sharing the good, the bad and the indifferent times in life, while boundaries and personal time is respected without jealousy by the other half. This can only be established over time with open, honest communication. Me times and me hobbies are partly what add topics of conversation to a relationship so it doesn't go stale. If you feel you are giving up "freedoms" in a relationship, you're in the wrong relationship! However, being in a loving relationship, does come with an aspect of "selflessness" as give and take goes both ways. And if you are committed to a relationship, be that monogamous or not, there is the need for that selflessness to look out for each other through not only the good times, but also the bad times... and it does take effort, dedication, honesty and communication to get through times...if that means you feel you are losing freedoms, then relationships are maybe not for you (I mean "you" as in any single person out there, rather than you specifically)... We get older and more set in our ways, less tolerant of other people's behaviour, particularly if we've had relationships gone wrong, where we learned a thing or two about our own boundaries. Now, that is - if this post is about relationships rather than sex, which, as a single person, might be more scarce in the times we live in compared to those in well working established relationships
The man for the relationship has to be the right man...but the man for NSA sex - also has to be the right man...one isn't necessarily equal to the other"
You had me at "Does" | |||
"Good question I suppose it depends on the road you came from for me anyways Be a lone wolf has is plus but I surpose have a loyal companion for company can also be very good to. Its hard when u actually taste that new found freedom Does a relationship mean losing your freedom? Doesn't it depend entirely on the person you're in a relationship with? Do they respect your space, your boundaries, your right to some "me time"? Does a relationship necessarily entail living together? I'm separated over 3 years after a lifetime with one man and it nearly broke me not being able to make it work, have had a couple of short term relationships since, one which broke my heart. Am I lonely? Yes, at times. I miss the intimacy of a loving relationship, being able to spend time with a special someone, be that hot, passionate love making, a quickie in the car, sitting in front of the fire watching a movie, going to a gig or the cinema, even having that squabble about who's turn it is to put the bin out... Being in a relationship doesn't mean living together. It can be had living in separate households, no matter your age. Being in a relationship doesn't mean losing any freedoms, it's about being supportive of another person you care for and receiving that support in return, it's about sharing the good, the bad and the indifferent times in life, while boundaries and personal time is respected without jealousy by the other half. This can only be established over time with open, honest communication. Me times and me hobbies are partly what add topics of conversation to a relationship so it doesn't go stale. If you feel you are giving up "freedoms" in a relationship, you're in the wrong relationship! However, being in a loving relationship, does come with an aspect of "selflessness" as give and take goes both ways. And if you are committed to a relationship, be that monogamous or not, there is the need for that selflessness to look out for each other through not only the good times, but also the bad times... and it does take effort, dedication, honesty and communication to get through times...if that means you feel you are losing freedoms, then relationships are maybe not for you (I mean "you" as in any single person out there, rather than you specifically)... We get older and more set in our ways, less tolerant of other people's behaviour, particularly if we've had relationships gone wrong, where we learned a thing or two about our own boundaries. Now, that is - if this post is about relationships rather than sex, which, as a single person, might be more scarce in the times we live in compared to those in well working established relationships
The man for the relationship has to be the right man...but the man for NSA sex - also has to be the right man...one isn't necessarily equal to the other
You had me at "Does" " | |||
"Single more than ten years, love my life a d my solitude. Couldnt stand 24/7 with a partner anymore. Id say im the perfect girlfriend, doesnt phone ya non stop, never asks ya where you were, doesnt want to see you every night, isnt jealous "Knock knock (flowers and chocolates in hand in my Sunday best)  | |||
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"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here. You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless. I'm the same Bo definitely need chemistry with a guy , that cold sex isn't worth the effort Agreed, and ive had some lovely lovely cuddles, giggles and no-sex times with friends ive met here. Those times go beyond the physical need, and meet my need for intimacy and connection and feeling valued as a person. " I think many many see sex and intimacy as the same thing. They aren't though. | |||
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"Been single since the day before New Year’s Eve and then came on here again as a friend was seeing in New Years in the Irish chat room. Like a lot I love my independence but it’s funny the things you miss and you don’t just mean sex. Love kissing and think people don’t spend enough time with it thinking it’s a means to an end when it can be a while adventure by itself. Also miss that infancy, holding someone close or lying in bed, her head on your chest stroking her hair and back and just talking. Fab is great in different ways but I still need a chemistry and connection with someone even on here. You can get that with people on here it's not always about just sex .And I know I need chemistry and connection with someone before I will shag anyone I meet off here. Without both then I find the sex is just meh anyhow and pointless. I'm the same Bo definitely need chemistry with a guy , that cold sex isn't worth the effort Agreed, and ive had some lovely lovely cuddles, giggles and no-sex times with friends ive met here. Those times go beyond the physical need, and meet my need for intimacy and connection and feeling valued as a person. I think many many see sex and intimacy as the same thing. They aren't though." You are so right, and I think many relationships crash on those rocks | |||
"Some highly fascinating posts on this thread . My only contribution would be to say that a relationship , particularly one where you take on additional responsibilities such as parenting , absolutely means losing some freedoms . It maybe that they’re minor , it maybe that your love for each other is worth it, but you compromise . For those lucky enough to be in total synergy with each other this maybe so insignificant that it’s imperceptible . At times , during tougher times , it’s palpable , and can feel like you’re the one always handing out the free passes whilst your needs and feelings get left behind . So there is no right or wrong way , just what’s right for you at that moment in time . Any posts , threads or people judging someone because of their perception of what’s going on in that person’s life have usually very little idea as to what’s really going on " Agreed that parenting brings a loss of freedoms, especially if you're a couple and the biological parents of all children in the relationship. Where a relationship is concerned, where either one or both bring children of their own into that relationship, I would again be of the opinion of the boundaries put in place stipulate any feeling of freedom one may lose with respect to the other person's child/ren - they are the other person's child/ren and ultimately their responsibility. I don't have any experience with "patchwork family". I for one, do not feel the wish or need to be in a relationship which involves a partner moving in with me, never mind co-parenting with me. I parent my children with their father, from separate domiciles. My children are young enough still and I have one with special needs. Hence I'll be damned introducing anyone to my children if I'm personally not absolutely certain that I want that person to be not only a part of my life in the longer term, but my children's too (obviously taking into account that the risk is always there, that he may choose to not want to be around for as long as I'd like him to be). I expect that kind of relationship can be years in the making...hence if I were to start a relationship now, there'd be no "loss of freedoms" for him for quite some time (as I and my ex parent my children!) - though there may be interference in the ability and availability to spend time together...but that is something that comes with dating anyone who has a life and family and work commitments! It also depends on your own personal definition of what "freedom" is within a relationship. | |||
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"Agree SAS, and do worry that even thinking about losing freedoms can sound selfish , but you can’t help what the heart thinks " Should it not be SOS never thought of myself in abbreviation terms lol
The heart doesn't think, it feels.
Ultimately we as humans are selfish entities. But social creatures.
It's about boundaries. Even freedom has boundaries.
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