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Right ladies - you got an adult party invite. Lo and behold, you're actually available on the date in question - a real treat as - a single mom, someone who works shifts, someone who's just too chickenshit to take a chance, or often misses out on special events for whatever reason (just as examples)! You'd really like to go - especially seeing as it's your first rodeo  BUT!!! Biology  has quite possibly and more than likely red plans for you on the night in question - a number of us knows how that can make us ladies feel, physically as well as emotionally...
I'm aware, play isn't a given on any occasion, party or not, but am wondering how ladies have handled it or would handle an invite... and how it went, if you went?
And how would gents/couples feel, especially if things get raunchy and then you just can't go there? (Though I'm aware opinions will vary on period sex and there are other forms of fun to be had too...)
Is that "unicorn" wasted space at an adult party, or do you see it as a way of networking for the future, regardless...
Asking for a friend Or is that friend seriously overthinking here  |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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As someone who's hosted parties. This has happened to women/couples invite and they have offered to not attend the party and I've told them the invite is for the party whether you're playing or not that's up to you. Networking at parties leads to more fun down the road |
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"If it was me, I don't think I would go
However it never happened as I removed that unwanted nasty from my life many years ago by getting a coil fitted  "
Medical intervention is great, unfortunately the side effects for me personally on various tried and tested options have warranted me to steer well clear...  |
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"If it was me, I don't think I would go
However it never happened as I removed that unwanted nasty from my life many years ago by getting a coil fitted
Medical intervention is great, unfortunately the side effects for me personally on various tried and tested options have warranted me to steer well clear... "
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"As someone who's hosted parties. This has happened to women/couples invite and they have offered to not attend the party and I've told them the invite is for the party whether you're playing or not that's up to you. Networking at parties leads to more fun down the road"
Thanks, I have had a similar exchange with the host who feels the same way... |
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"According to the ads there are certain products you can buy where not only will you turn up on rollerblades but you might get a couple of sets of tennis in while you're there so go for it. "
Oh my, I'd be adding to any possible embarrassment - falling on my snot, bruised and cut knees as well as showing I have absolutely no hand-eye coordination |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right ladies - you got an adult party invite. Lo and behold, you're actually available on the date in question - a real treat as - a single mom, someone who works shifts, someone who's just too chickenshit to take a chance, or often misses out on special events for whatever reason (just as examples)! You'd really like to go - especially seeing as it's your first rodeo BUT!!! Biology has quite possibly and more than likely red plans for you on the night in question - a number of us knows how that can make us ladies feel, physically as well as emotionally...
I'm aware, play isn't a given on any occasion, party or not, but am wondering how ladies have handled it or would handle an invite... and how it went, if you went?
And how would gents/couples feel, especially if things get raunchy and then you just can't go there? (Though I'm aware opinions will vary on period sex and there are other forms of fun to be had too...)
Is that "unicorn" wasted space at an adult party, or do you see it as a way of networking for the future, regardless...
Asking for a friend Or is that friend seriously overthinking here "
Go for it if it’s your first. No one has to play if they don’t want , it is often about meeting up with new friends as well |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
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"As someone who's hosted parties. This has happened to women/couples invite and they have offered to not attend the party and I've told them the invite is for the party whether you're playing or not that's up to you. Networking at parties leads to more fun down the road"
Dont i fucking know it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd go as well... Unless this time of the month makes you anxious or in any way tense, then just head along just to meet and greet. There's never (or at least there never should be) pressure on you to move to the physical side. Go and enjoy.  |
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I would just let the host know and see if they are happy for u to attend under the circumstances! but as u mentioned yourself if u go u can use the opportunity to put faces to names and plan for future meets... |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
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If you are going to a party and feel like you are expected to play, you are going to the wrong party.
Having your monthlies should in no way put you off attending. We have been to plenty of parties where very little has happened and people end up in the kitchen for the night.
Its all about the company and social side for a lot of people on the scene.
So yes, absolutely you should go in theory. |
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"If you are going to a party and feel like you are expected to play, you are going to the wrong party.
Having your monthlies should in no way put you off attending. We have been to plenty of parties where very little has happened and people end up in the kitchen for the night.
Its all about the company and social side for a lot of people on the scene.
So yes, absolutely you should go in theory."
this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you feel comfortable going, then go.. You don't have to play at a party the social side is as fun sometimes.
There are some tablets that can ward the dreaded shark week off and can be bought online.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a non party goer, I would hope that everyone would get the same respect whether they're playing or not. I don't feel that anyone should have to explain themselves. "
I'd agree with this, surely nobody is expected to play regardless of whether they want to or not  |
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"If you are going to a party and feel like you are expected to play, you are going to the wrong party.
Having your monthlies should in no way put you off attending. We have been to plenty of parties where very little has happened and people end up in the kitchen for the night.
Its all about the company and social side for a lot of people on the scene.
So yes, absolutely you should go in theory."
Thanks all so far for your opinions.
To confirm, the host is aware of my predicament and has made it clear, I was welcome regardless, and that obviously there is absolutely no pressure whatsoever to partake in play, should there be any on the night.
I am aware of (short and long-term) medical intervention but they are just not an option for me with the side effects that go along hand in hand...
Now my main excuse or concern seems to have been sent out the window does it mean, I have to go I'll have some more procrastinating to do, me thinks... |
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It's up to you as to whether you're comfortable going? I myself probably would but i discovered flex discs a couple of years ago and they're a complete game changer. Basically a disposable menstrual cup that you can have sex with. I've never had one leak, the guy might be able to feel it slightly but not to the point it changes anything. Theyre a lil expensive but I only use if needed as I dont like mess. Ziggi cup is a similar reusable product but I've heard mixed results. It might be worth looking into, just incase you want to play to make you feel more comfortable about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right ladies - you got an adult party invite. Lo and behold, you're actually available on the date in question - a real treat as - a single mom, someone who works shifts, someone who's just too chickenshit to take a chance, or often misses out on special events for whatever reason (just as examples)! You'd really like to go - especially seeing as it's your first rodeo BUT!!! Biology has quite possibly and more than likely red plans for you on the night in question - a number of us knows how that can make us ladies feel, physically as well as emotionally...
I'm aware, play isn't a given on any occasion, party or not, but am wondering how ladies have handled it or would handle an invite... and how it went, if you went?
And how would gents/couples feel, especially if things get raunchy and then you just can't go there? (Though I'm aware opinions will vary on period sex and there are other forms of fun to be had too...)
Is that "unicorn" wasted space at an adult party, or do you see it as a way of networking for the future, regardless...
Asking for a friend Or is that friend seriously overthinking here "
I think go for the socialising, honestly. You could meet some lovely people that you can meet again at a time you're more comfortable. |
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Have only been to two parties and although nervous at the first I didn’t feel I had to play. I chose not to play at either but there was a fair bit of kissing, long story but enjoyable.
At the end of the day it’s a party and all you have to decide is if you want to go or not. If so then do it, have a laugh, make some friends and enjoy the experience without any pressure. |
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Tbh since its your first party it's almost a good opportunity to go without feeling like you need to play!!!
I don't know how comfortable you'd feel with like, mutual masturbation or oral when you're menstruating but for me they'd still be on the table (with a willing partner of course!)
It's definitely not a waste of a space, anyone you connect with you can keep in touch with and play later, and if they're pissed off about that then bullet dodged!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go as a few have said you don't have to play at the party. I've chatted to friends who orgsnise parties and I've always said I couldn't go because I be too nervous i'd end up hiding in the corner or be Billy no mates but I have been reassured it's a good social night out too. Now just to get invited lol |
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
Dunboyne |
Seriously?
When was the last time you were out?
Get to the feckin party!
If all antigen tested on way in, go and be with the Covid free people and have the chats, banter and craic.
No pressure to play but, if you do, no sensible man will have an issue with your period.
Why would they?
Normal bodily functions.
Trust me, if you warm in advance, Moran issue for most.
If you are not comfortable with that, still agreat opportunity to socialize and meet potential future copulation prospects.
Opportunity to see their reaction to you having period also, in relation to sex and whether it meets yours
Go!! |
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By *indenMan
over a year ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
I’d say if you’re happy enough with the hosts or company in the first place, leaving aside the ability or desire to play, if you feel good enough physically and emotionally to go then go, regardless of your situation, no one should automatically be expected to play or participate anywhere, or at any party they attend, and I would expect the hosts and any in attendance to be of the same opinion.
I’d just think of it as any other social occasion or party, with the possibility of some extra fun, or the chance to get to know people for future fun … 
And even if you don’t go, I’m sure the hosts will understand and I’m sure there will be other parties, although I appreciate the limitations a busy like can bring and not wanting to miss out when the rare opportunity presents itself.
Either way, as long as you’re comfortable in whichever choice you make will be the most important thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right ladies - you got an adult party invite. Lo and behold, you're actually available on the date in question - a real treat as - a single mom, someone who works shifts, someone who's just too chickenshit to take a chance, or often misses out on special events for whatever reason (just as examples)! You'd really like to go - especially seeing as it's your first rodeo BUT!!! Biology has quite possibly and more than likely red plans for you on the night in question - a number of us knows how that can make us ladies feel, physically as well as emotionally...
I'm aware, play isn't a given on any occasion, party or not, but am wondering how ladies have handled it or would handle an invite... and how it went, if you went?
And how would gents/couples feel, especially if things get raunchy and then you just can't go there? (Though I'm aware opinions will vary on period sex and there are other forms of fun to be had too...)
Is that "unicorn" wasted space at an adult party, or do you see it as a way of networking for the future, regardless...
Asking for a friend Or is that friend seriously overthinking here "
Go..." Never wait or hesitate "...go and enjoy yourself  |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
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"If you are going to a party and feel like you are expected to play, you are going to the wrong party.
Having your monthlies should in no way put you off attending. We have been to plenty of parties where very little has happened and people end up in the kitchen for the night.
Its all about the company and social side for a lot of people on the scene.
So yes, absolutely you should go in theory.
Thanks all so far for your opinions.
To confirm, the host is aware of my predicament and has made it clear, I was welcome regardless, and that obviously there is absolutely no pressure whatsoever to partake in play, should there be any on the night.
I am aware of (short and long-term) medical intervention but they are just not an option for me with the side effects that go along hand in hand...
Now my main excuse or concern seems to have been sent out the window does it mean, I have to go I'll have some more procrastinating to do, me thinks... "
Fair play for staying so calm when people have advised ways to avoid having your period 
Tis both reassuring (ahem) and maddening that said advice has come from both men and women even after you said that you won’t be going down that route
I would say do what feels comfortable for you, that should be your only concern. If you decide to go, I hope you have a fantastic night! |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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It depends how you feel during your periods. If you experience any pain, mood swings, cramps and/or heavy bleeding an adult party might not be the place you want to be.
If your period is light or on the way out and you feel like it, then hit the party.
In general I wouldn't go to a party just for the sake of it, especially when you feel the circumstances aren't ideal or you'd struggle because you feel restricted. There always will be more invites and parties.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right ladies - you got an adult party invite. Lo and behold, you're actually available on the date in question - a real treat as - a single mom, someone who works shifts, someone who's just too chickenshit to take a chance, or often misses out on special events for whatever reason (just as examples)! You'd really like to go - especially seeing as it's your first rodeo BUT!!! Biology has quite possibly and more than likely red plans for you on the night in question - a number of us knows how that can make us ladies feel, physically as well as emotionally...
I'm aware, play isn't a given on any occasion, party or not, but am wondering how ladies have handled it or would handle an invite... and how it went, if you went?
And how would gents/couples feel, especially if things get raunchy and then you just can't go there? (Though I'm aware opinions will vary on period sex and there are other forms of fun to be had too...)
Is that "unicorn" wasted space at an adult party, or do you see it as a way of networking for the future, regardless...
Asking for a friend Or is that friend seriously overthinking here "
Wasted space?
Your friend is a beautiful friendly woman, out socialising. Id say go for it if you want to, and go as far as you like with it while you are there. I hope your friend enjoys every minute |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Beppy sponge
Google it
Don't ask but u can thank me later
As above any party its your choice to play or not if its expected u have to play ur best off not attending "
I tried these with disastrous results
Would not recommend |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"Beppy sponge
Google it
Don't ask but u can thank me later
As above any party its your choice to play or not if its expected u have to play ur best off not attending
I tried these with disastrous results
Would not recommend "
Not for every one I guess |
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If it was me and everything else lined up correctly which rarely happens . I would go to party and as others have said don’t play . I have went to a small party and didn’t play as was too nervous . But got to chat to people |
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