Attraction is paramount, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
What attributes do consider attractive?
In single guys we always look for fit tall men, usually 30+.
In couples Tina is key wether or not she finds both attractive.
Their are obvious traits such as cleanliness, an ability to at least hold a conversation and humour.
We have met many people who ticked all of the above and fun has insued, sometimes good sometimes a bit of a let down.
So what would you let slide in you list in the search of great sex? |
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over a year ago
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To me it’s a mix of everything to be honest that makes the sex good. Need physical attraction but also need to click mentally. If it’s just a physical attraction it can be very bland. |
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For me it's more of a mental attraction. I tend not to get too hung up on the physical side of things. I do tend to do a lot of D/S play and roleplay and being on the same page mentally with your play partners generally results in a much better experience.
That being said I'm sucker for red heads and women with curves  |
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There are certain physical attributes that appeal to me in a man...tall, toned, good shoulders and arms, a nicely defined thigh and calf, smiling eyes with a hint of playfulness, a firm peachy bum. However none of these will guarantee that I find him attractive because attractiveness is less quantifiable than that for me. Personality is even less definable. I can't say anything other than we have to gel, have some sort of spark. All I know is that unless there is attraction there won't be any sex, but what constitutes attraction? What stirs my loins? Your guess is as good as mine! |
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"There are certain physical attributes that appeal to me in a man...tall, toned, good shoulders and arms, a nicely defined thigh and calf, smiling eyes with a hint of playfulness, a firm peachy bum. However none of these will guarantee that I find him attractive because attractiveness is less quantifiable than that for me. Personality is even less definable. I can't say anything other than we have to gel, have some sort of spark. All I know is that unless there is attraction there won't be any sex, but what constitutes attraction? What stirs my loins? Your guess is as good as mine!"
I would have always been attracted to a type before fab, " tall, well built , handsome " but as I've got older and joining fab ive learnt for me it's about the physical and mental attraction, i have met guys that would not have been "my type" and had amazing sex and clicked straight away. For me attraction is about that spark but also been able to have a laugh, have a conversation, share similar thoughts.
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"There are certain physical attributes that appeal to me in a man...tall, toned, good shoulders and arms, a nicely defined thigh and calf, smiling eyes with a hint of playfulness, a firm peachy bum. However none of these will guarantee that I find him attractive because attractiveness is less quantifiable than that for me. Personality is even less definable. I can't say anything other than we have to gel, have some sort of spark. All I know is that unless there is attraction there won't be any sex, but what constitutes attraction? What stirs my loins? Your guess is as good as mine!
I would have always been attracted to a type before fab, " tall, well built , handsome " but as I've got older and joining fab ive learnt for me it's about the physical and mental attraction, i have met guys that would not have been "my type" and had amazing sex and clicked straight away. For me attraction is about that spark but also been able to have a laugh, have a conversation, share similar thoughts.
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totally agree n personality is a massive thing at my age anyway ..good craic n banter make for excellent meets |
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"Has anyone played with someone to see if the spark was their even though the attraction wasn't? "
Yes
And then the attraction grew so much it led to a few repeat meets |
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"Has anyone played with someone to see if the spark was their even though the attraction wasn't? "
yes.
Fab has been good for me to 'get over' having a type and relying purely on visual attractiveness. That click can happen other ways, and its worth exploring |
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"Has anyone played with someone to see if the spark was their even though the attraction wasn't? "
Yes I did once before with the thought ‘ it’s just sex’ but in reality there’s much more to it. There was no sexual attraction and no butterflies or excitement.  |
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"Has anyone played with someone to see if the spark was their even though the attraction wasn't? "
Yes!
To quote Fr Fintan Stack... "I had my fun and that's all that matters!" 
Ah no, it was fine. I was just looking for sex and nothing else so I can switch off the whole "am I attracted" thing. Now if she had an attitude or outlook that I found repulsive then I wouldn't have gone there. As it was, she knew I wasn't attracted to her but she wanted to give it a go and I wanted a ride. Win/win. |
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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That's a big question...for both of us a physical attraction is important but it's not the decider ...personality is the most important for me (female) a good sense of humour is very important because you have to be able to laugh especially in the swinging world.. |
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"That's a big question...for both of us a physical attraction is important but it's not the decider ...personality is the most important for me (female) a good sense of humour is very important because you have to be able to laugh especially in the swinging world.."
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"Here is one ever been blown away by someone you never would passed by normally? "
Yes. I was persuaded to meet someone from here by another female. I had not thought we were compatible going off his profile or messages. She thought we would click and we did. We had several months of amazing fun before he moved abroad. One of my best playmates ever! |
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By *avie tCouple
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"That's a big question...for both of us a physical attraction is important but it's not the decider ...personality is the most important for me (female) a good sense of humour is very important because you have to be able to laugh especially in the swinging world..
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a love the hearts... |
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"...However none of these will guarantee that I find him attractive because attractiveness is less quantifiable than that for me. Personality is even less definable. I can't say anything other than we have to gel, have some sort of spark. All I know is that unless there is attraction there won't be any sex, but what constitutes attraction? What stirs my loins? Your guess is as good as mine!"
You said it better than I could, someone could have every physical attribute I find visually appealing but I might not be by attracted to that person. They may have all the personality traits that would mesh with mine, but I might not be sexually attracted to that person. I don't really have a type anymore, it's all about the individual & sometimes timing. |
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