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Well is wasn't at at the time lol. It was lots of heartache and pain for us all, but thats the way life is sometimes! Long story with Poly relationships gone wrong. |
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over a year ago
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My left and right kept on fighting to see who gets to have fun as they never shared ... so I decided best to open the dynamic to new hands and relationship has blossomed since, they still don't share but have new kink in voyeurism that they both love  |
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"My husband suggested we try here. We spoke in depth before we became open. The key is open and honest communication at all times. "
Completely agree. For us, it took many years of pillow-talk discussion, procrastination and eventually making the leap. For most Irish women in their forties, I think it can take years to overcome what society has dictated as normal and acceptable throughout our lifetime. It's probably a quicker transition for younger ladies, but then youth can bring complexities of its own. Mrs  |
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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Decided it was the right time that the fantasy turned into reality also decided if ot didn't suit one then it didn't suit both....9 years later we still enjoy but it's not the same novelty.....communication and honesty at all times because you certainly can't do this just because your partner wants to... |
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How many years of pillow talk??
"My husband suggested we try here. We spoke in depth before we became open. The key is open and honest communication at all times.
Completely agree. For us, it took many years of pillow-talk discussion, procrastination and eventually making the leap. For most Irish women in their forties, I think it can take years to overcome what society has dictated as normal and acceptable throughout our lifetime. It's probably a quicker transition for younger ladies, but then youth can bring complexities of its own. Mrs "
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I met my partner on here last year but we have decided to take a step back from swinging and focus on getting to know each other properly just the two of us as its still a relatively new relationship |
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"I met my partner on here last year but we have decided to take a step back from swinging and focus on getting to know each other properly just the two of us as its still a relatively new relationship "
That's a great idea. We have taken several breaks over the years to concentrate on each other (and to have babies) |
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"I met my partner on here last year but we have decided to take a step back from swinging and focus on getting to know each other properly just the two of us as its still a relatively new relationship
That's a great idea. We have taken several breaks over the years to concentrate on each other (and to have babies)"
My baby making days are long over that ship has sailed 
But delighted for u guys its very heartwarming and encouraging that relationships started on here can last the distance |
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"you guys this thread is giving me hope!!!! "
To be honest soft id given up all hope had resigned myself to being single (and was quite happy with that) came off all dating sites and out of the blue after 3 very happy years on here it just happened |
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"How do all you fabbers introduce your other half to swinging or did yous meet on here? "
I met the most incredible lady here and we just clicked so easily and naturally but to my own devastation l hesitated in sorting my own issues that needed to be sorted before going full on into a full time relationship and she moved on ,both of us would probably not be here now on this site had l done what l should have done but l did'nt and paid dearly for it, cant lie, the emotional pain was unreal, hit me like a freight train. |
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"How do all you fabbers introduce your other half to swinging or did yous meet on here?
I met the most incredible lady here and we just clicked so easily and naturally but to my own devastation l hesitated in sorting my own issues that needed to be sorted before going full on into a full time relationship and she moved on ,both of us would probably not be here now on this site had l done what l should have done but l did'nt and paid dearly for it, cant lie, the emotional pain was unreal, hit me like a freight train."
Is there no going back? Can you try? At least then you can say you tried |
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"I met my partner on here last year but we have decided to take a step back from swinging and focus on getting to know each other properly just the two of us as its still a relatively new relationship "
And well deserved it is for you xxx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We had an open and honest conversation years ago regarding monogamy and our secret fantasy's, one of mine being my fantasy of seeing her with another guy and she thought that would be really hot so here we are! |
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We bought a paperback book that discusses swinging or (the lifestyle) in some depth and talks about ways to approach it in an open discussion so that’s exactly what we did, it is a very slow journey that involves a lot of trust & respect from all parties involved but it’s amazing how it progresses from virtually nothing to a lot of fun on what ever level you are both comfortable with we have found... it is also a great laugh and fun for a couple we have found and it definitely keeps the spark in your relationship we believe |
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"Just wondering what happens if a couple that met on here then break up
Do they both leave the site or just one
Not looking for names but it must be awkward "
Like any relationship breakup, it depends on how they both handle it
Can be horrendous alright |
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"Just wondering what happens if a couple that met on here then break up
Do they both leave the site or just one
Not looking for names but it must be awkward
Like any relationship breakup, it depends on how they both handle it
Can be horrendous alright"
Less awkward i would imagine than if u lived in the same small town frequented the same pub etc...here u could break up and either revert to your old singles profiles or set up new ones and just blick each other so u dont know what the other is doing |
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"I met my partner on here last year but we have decided to take a step back from swinging and focus on getting to know each other properly just the two of us as its still a relatively new relationship And well deserved it is for you xxx"
Thank you my friend |
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"How do all you fabbers introduce your other half to swinging or did yous meet on here?
I met the most incredible lady here and we just clicked so easily and naturally but to my own devastation l hesitated in sorting my own issues that needed to be sorted before going full on into a full time relationship and she moved on ,both of us would probably not be here now on this site had l done what l should have done but l did'nt and paid dearly for it, cant lie, the emotional pain was unreal, hit me like a freight train.
Is there no going back? Can you try? At least then you can say you tried "
Tried everything l possibly could but when a lady has moved on...she has moved on .. |
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"Just wondering what happens if a couple that met on here then break up
Do they both leave the site or just one
Not looking for names but it must be awkward
Like any relationship breakup, it depends on how they both handle it
Can be horrendous alright"
Horrendous is an understatement , the only saving grace is if there was a distance involved ...but believe me out of sight does not always mean out of mind. |
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"How do all you fabbers introduce your other half to swinging or did yous meet on here?
I met the most incredible lady here and we just clicked so easily and naturally but to my own devastation l hesitated in sorting my own issues that needed to be sorted before going full on into a full time relationship and she moved on ,both of us would probably not be here now on this site had l done what l should have done but l did'nt and paid dearly for it, cant lie, the emotional pain was unreal, hit me like a freight train.
Is there no going back? Can you try? At least then you can say you tried
Tried everything l possibly could but when a lady has moved on...she has moved on .."
I feel for you - I can understand the predicament your love interest was in, as I'm finding myself in that situation. Some people are just caught in their situation and life and can't seem to move forward. I hope you have found your way of living with the decisions you made and cherish the happy memories!
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Tina had been in a few poly relationships and enjoyed 3somes, I was vanilla, we kinda both decided it would be fun to explore our bi sides.
And thus a profile was created 6 years in (5 if exclude that covid year) and loving the strength in our relationship it has brought.(not to mention the friends and fun)
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"How do all you fabbers introduce your other half to swinging or did yous meet on here?
I met the most incredible lady here and we just clicked so easily and naturally but to my own devastation l hesitated in sorting my own issues that needed to be sorted before going full on into a full time relationship and she moved on ,both of us would probably not be here now on this site had l done what l should have done but l did'nt and paid dearly for it, cant lie, the emotional pain was unreal, hit me like a freight train.
Is there no going back? Can you try? At least then you can say you tried
Tried everything l possibly could but when a lady has moved on...she has moved on ..
I feel for you - I can understand the predicament your love interest was in, as I'm finding myself in that situation. Some people are just caught in their situation and life and can't seem to move forward. I hope you have found your way of living with the decisions you made and cherish the happy memories!
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These precadiments are more common than we think. Sometimes we have no choice but to move on…. even if we don’t want to
As the lovely lady previously said I do hope u make peace with the decisions u made and at some stage be able to move on from it. We all deserve to be happy x |
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"How do all you fabbers introduce your other half to swinging or did yous meet on here?
I met the most incredible lady here and we just clicked so easily and naturally but to my own devastation l hesitated in sorting my own issues that needed to be sorted before going full on into a full time relationship and she moved on ,both of us would probably not be here now on this site had l done what l should have done but l did'nt and paid dearly for it, cant lie, the emotional pain was unreal, hit me like a freight train.
Is there no going back? Can you try? At least then you can say you tried
Tried everything l possibly could but when a lady has moved on...she has moved on ..
I feel for you - I can understand the predicament your love interest was in, as I'm finding myself in that situation. Some people are just caught in their situation and life and can't seem to move forward. I hope you have found your way of living with the decisions you made and cherish the happy memories!
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Thank you for your kind words ,l dont know what your own personal situation is but what l will say is please put your own happiness first because what l discovered was what l was worried about happening did'nt give a fuck anyway which just made me feel worse , so please , whatever is going through your head please put your own happiness first...the rest will adapt . |
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Met my previous partner on here, it was obvious that it there was more than just a fab connection, so we decided to give a relationship the best chance we could and we both agreed to leave the lifestyle, we dated for roughly a year but it didn't work out,thankfully we're still friends today, she's back on here now on a single profile...
I didn't meet Tinkerbell on here but i was open about the lifestyle from the get go and thankfully she was open to the idea of experiencing and understanding more about it....
So here we are, planning for our future and finding our feet on here as a couple
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By (user no longer on site)
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Met on here...4 years and counting living together 3
Best relship I have ever been in..
I never understand the ones saying they would never date someone they met on here... total small mindedness..
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Met himself after I'd separated from a horrible marriage. Spent a few years as a single girl, doing what single girls do, including sites like this. So When we started to get serious and in the spirit of honesty I Confessed to my other half that I'd been on the scene as a single girl before we'd met. I actually thought he'd run a mile but the opposite was true, and we're still here and still loving it. |
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"Met himself after I'd separated from a horrible marriage. Spent a few years as a single girl, doing what single girls do, including sites like this. So When we started to get serious and in the spirit of honesty I Confessed to my other half that I'd been on the scene as a single girl before we'd met. I actually thought he'd run a mile but the opposite was true, and we're still here and still loving it."
Christ, he landed on his feet! |
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"Met himself after I'd separated from a horrible marriage. Spent a few years as a single girl, doing what single girls do, including sites like this. So When we started to get serious and in the spirit of honesty I Confessed to my other half that I'd been on the scene as a single girl before we'd met. I actually thought he'd run a mile but the opposite was true, and we're still here and still loving it.
Christ, he landed on his feet! "
Doesn't it work both ways? Isn't a relationship about mutual compatibility? |
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"Met himself after I'd separated from a horrible marriage. Spent a few years as a single girl, doing what single girls do, including sites like this. So When we started to get serious and in the spirit of honesty I Confessed to my other half that I'd been on the scene as a single girl before we'd met. I actually thought he'd run a mile but the opposite was true, and we're still here and still loving it.
Christ, he landed on his feet!
Doesn't it work both ways? Isn't a relationship about mutual compatibility?"
Of course! Apologies, just viewed the guys side. |
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"Met himself after I'd separated from a horrible marriage. Spent a few years as a single girl, doing what single girls do, including sites like this. So When we started to get serious and in the spirit of honesty I Confessed to my other half that I'd been on the scene as a single girl before we'd met. I actually thought he'd run a mile but the opposite was true, and we're still here and still loving it.
Christ, he landed on his feet!
Doesn't it work both ways? Isn't a relationship about mutual compatibility?
Of course! Apologies, just viewed the guys side. "
I understand, we often look at things from our own perspective first and I gather most of us will identify with our own gender in such a scenario |
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"We bought a paperback book that discusses swinging or (the lifestyle) in some depth and talks about ways to approach it in an open discussion so that’s exactly what we did, it is a very slow journey that involves a lot of trust & respect from all parties involved but it’s amazing how it progresses from virtually nothing to a lot of fun on what ever level you are both comfortable with we have found... it is also a great laugh and fun for a couple we have found and it definitely keeps the spark in your relationship we believe"
Hi I was wondering what the book was called? |
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We had fantasised about it for years and while searching for a swinging club fab came up on the search.
I made a profile for us and couple of days later after checking it out I showed her what I found and she was shocked for the whole of a few seconds and looked for herself and then we obviously had a great sex session that night and so it progressed from there |
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"We had fantasised about it for years and while searching for a swinging club fab came up on the search.
I made a profile for us and couple of days later after checking it out I showed her what I found and she was shocked for the whole of a few seconds and looked for herself and then we obviously had a great sex session that night and so it progressed from there "
Very similar to mine n the hubby's story....he suggested it, I went no way...a couple of hours later i wanted to know more! Now my hubby sends me profile pics of guys he thinks my "do me" and regularly says get out on a meet will ya!! |
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"How do all you fabbers introduce your other half to swinging or did yous meet on here?
I met the most incredible lady here and we just clicked so easily and naturally but to my own devastation l hesitated in sorting my own issues that needed to be sorted before going full on into a full time relationship and she moved on ,both of us would probably not be here now on this site had l done what l should have done but l did'nt and paid dearly for it, cant lie, the emotional pain was unreal, hit me like a freight train."
He who hesitates is lost. That was hard luck, and I'd say one of life's hard lessons. |
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"We had fantasised about it for years and while searching for a swinging club fab came up on the search.
I made a profile for us and couple of days later after checking it out I showed her what I found and she was shocked for the whole of a few seconds and looked for herself and then we obviously had a great sex session that night and so it progressed from there
Very similar to mine n the hubby's story....he suggested it, I went no way...a couple of hours later i wanted to know more! Now my hubby sends me profile pics of guys he thinks my "do me" and regularly says get out on a meet will ya!!"
Yep blame it on us hubby's  |
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We started when I was in my late teens, he was early 20s..... He suggested it I always never had 1 partner (a few simultaneously who didn’t know about each other).... So swinging to me was the ideal scenario. Here we are 21 years later still together swinging...,. A couple who plays together stays together |
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"We had fantasised about it for years and while searching for a swinging club fab came up on the search.
I made a profile for us and couple of days later after checking it out I showed her what I found and she was shocked for the whole of a few seconds and looked for herself and then we obviously had a great sex session that night and so it progressed from there
Very similar to mine n the hubby's story....he suggested it, I went no way...a couple of hours later i wanted to know more! Now my hubby sends me profile pics of guys he thinks my "do me" and regularly says get out on a meet will ya!!
Yep blame it on us hubby's "
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