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By *scouple07 OP Couple
over a year ago
louth, Ireland |
Has anyone ever met up with someone or couple that has no intention of going any further and with only the intention of helping them get a verification? Have been asked a few times but decided not too as in some way we thought it wouldn't be right.
Are we correct in this or just over thinking it? |
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If they are upfront about it I wouldn't have a problem just meeting them socially even if I knew it wouldn't go any further.
I would think twice about it though if the were serial social veri collectors.
On a previous profile I chatted to a woman who had a number of experiences of men and women asking to meet and name dropping others they had met.
When she checked they didn't have any play veris at all.
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"Has anyone ever met up with someone or couple that has no intention of going any further and with only the intention of helping them get a verification? Have been asked a few times but decided not too as in some way we thought it wouldn't be right.
Are we correct in this or just over thinking it?"
I don’t see any harm in it as long as both parties know and you’re clear in the veri that it was just a social meet. At the end of the day, veris are just to confirm that the person is who they say they are and aren’t a total flake! |
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By *scouple07 OP Couple
over a year ago
louth, Ireland |
"If they are upfront about it I wouldn't have a problem just meeting them socially even if I knew it wouldn't go any further.
I would think twice about it though if the were serial social veri collectors.
On a previous profile I chatted to a woman who had a number of experiences of men and women asking to meet and name dropping others they had met.
When she checked they didn't have any play veris at all.
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It's more the getting 1st verification kind of requests we get, only big doubt we have is that anyone can be nice to chat to just to get their own way, after that they could be completely different and we wouldn't want to be the ones who said that person/couple are great and they aren't |
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I think it would be a lovely gesture once its agreeded beforehand very nice to read someone's opinion of you in that situation ..very hard to get veries at times n they are a help for making good contacts |
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"If they are upfront about it I wouldn't have a problem just meeting them socially even if I knew it wouldn't go any further.
I would think twice about it though if the were serial social veri collectors.
On a previous profile I chatted to a woman who had a number of experiences of men and women asking to meet and name dropping others they had met.
When she checked they didn't have any play veris at all.
It's more the getting 1st verification kind of requests we get, only big doubt we have is that anyone can be nice to chat to just to get their own way, after that they could be completely different and we wouldn't want to be the ones who said that person/couple are great and they aren't "
If someone is asking you to give them their first veri and it doesn't feel right then don't do it.
The other option is to give them a very bland veri confirming that they turned up and nothing more. |
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By *scouple07 OP Couple
over a year ago
louth, Ireland |
"I think it would be a lovely gesture once its agreeded beforehand very nice to read someone's opinion of you in that situation ..very hard to get veries at times n they are a help for making good contacts"
That's what we think too as it took us a year to get our 1st one |
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By *scouple07 OP Couple
over a year ago
louth, Ireland |
"If they are upfront about it I wouldn't have a problem just meeting them socially even if I knew it wouldn't go any further.
I would think twice about it though if the were serial social veri collectors.
On a previous profile I chatted to a woman who had a number of experiences of men and women asking to meet and name dropping others they had met.
When she checked they didn't have any play veris at all.
It's more the getting 1st verification kind of requests we get, only big doubt we have is that anyone can be nice to chat to just to get their own way, after that they could be completely different and we wouldn't want to be the ones who said that person/couple are great and they aren't
If someone is asking you to give them their first veri and it doesn't feel right then don't do it.
The other option is to give them a very bland veri confirming that they turned up and nothing more. "
Agree with that, good to see others opinions on this |
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Its very simple, just give a bland social veri if that's how you feel. One can easily read between the lines. There's a world of difference between a social and a play veri and sometimes the two happen at the one time |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"If they are upfront about it I wouldn't have a problem just meeting them socially even if I knew it wouldn't go any further.
I would think twice about it though if the were serial social veri collectors.
On a previous profile I chatted to a woman who had a number of experiences of men and women asking to meet and name dropping others they had met.
When she checked they didn't have any play veris at all.
It's more the getting 1st verification kind of requests we get, only big doubt we have is that anyone can be nice to chat to just to get their own way, after that they could be completely different and we wouldn't want to be the ones who said that person/couple are great and they aren't "
But what is one person's great is not another person's anyhow so I wouldn't over think it.
I've had abuse off one guy in particular on here who got abusive to me ages ago because I refused to meet him on the day he first messaged me he even threw the fact he had a couple of veris into the conversation as tho because he did I should run to meet him. And his veris spoke very well of him and how lovely he was to me he was a rude ignorant misogynist but to them he was great. It's one of the reasons I don't pay that much heed to veris and make up my own mind about people.
I have met and given people a first veri before but I had made it clear before it was just a social meet and would go no farther. And it's always been fine. |
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"I think it would be a lovely gesture once its agreeded beforehand very nice to read someone's opinion of you in that situation ..very hard to get veries at times n they are a help for making good contacts
That's what we think too as it took us a year to get our 1st one"
may one day ye can give me one ..lol |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
If I got chatting to someone on here and got on well with them I'd have no problem meeting only for a coffee meet and if they wanted a verification
I travel a lot around Ireland and I stop for lunch anyway.
Its only to say they're real anyway so no problem
I'd even buy them a cake  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've no verifications, and couldn't give a shit to be honest. Having a great laugh on the forums where I believe my personality shows.
Got talking to some lovely people and will hopefully meet in the future.
Not looking to ride everyone I can but to be around like minded people and enjoy the meets I do get. |
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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago
Waterford City |
I see verifications as literally only proof that the person was who they said they were and showed up when they said they would. Anything else is all about how two personalities get on.
I had no problem meeting someone to give them their first verifications in the past when I had time. I don't get time for it anymore unfortunately. |
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I've seen group social meets arranged here where a verified person invited multiple unverifieds for a quick drink specifically to get verified. Its fine within the rules. I know very few actually turned up though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Any social meet I have ever had I have gone along with no expectations other than a coffee and chat. Have met unverified guys and usually it's a disaster so that's why I normally only meet verified guys.
But if I got chatting to someone and got on OK with them I'd chance a social meet to give them a veri  |
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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago
The bog |
I've met up with lots of People just for a coffee and I I've no problem doing it for someone to get verified ..I just give my option on them didn't mean that people have to agree with it or not..I just see veris as people are real and not fake pages that's all I use them for.. |
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By *iss3BWoman
over a year ago
north down |
Ive done it before and probably would again. Just give my opinion on them but then does it matter what you say cause at end of day they might not even display it. All it says is they turned up or you saw them on cam. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would never verify anyone without actually meeting them in person, and even at that if we felt they had zero intentions, of meeting again, or if we felt they met just to get verfied, well we simply wouldn't verify them. Maybe bit harsh, but that's the way it is, that sorts out the timewasters, from the ppl that's here for what it is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone on Fab seem to have vastly different criteria as regards giving verifications. I have met several women on this site who were very upfront from the beginning they don't give verifications for a variety of reasons.
As this is a swinging site, I only give a verification if I had an enjoyable sexual encounter, while others are totally cool to give a verification after a they've met with someone socially. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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veris are not amazon reviews.
They are to verify someone is real and out the bots.
I wish people would meet just to verify but they have to invest time and money into babysitters. Everyone here wants a return on investment (purely for themselves and not the greater community) Nobody here is that selfless
Doesn't this just lead to seeing the same old faces? And isn't that a bit fucking boring eventually? |
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By *scouple07 OP Couple
over a year ago
louth, Ireland |
"veris are not amazon reviews.
They are to verify someone is real and out the bots.
I wish people would meet just to verify but they have to invest time and money into babysitters. Everyone here wants a return on investment (purely for themselves and not the greater community) Nobody here is that selfless
Doesn't this just lead to seeing the same old faces? And isn't that a bit fucking boring eventually?"
That's a great way of putting it tbh
We will certainly be more open to to verifications in future |
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