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"Why not block anyone who messages more than once that you dont fancy? I'd say alot of the repeat messages you get are probably from lads machine gunning with messages and they probably dont even realise who they've texted before." Or the person who sent the message gets the hint when they don't get a reply. I have seen some guys say if they send a message and get a no thanks reply they block the person themselves | |||
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"Why not block anyone who messages more than once that you dont fancy? I'd say alot of the repeat messages you get are probably from lads machine gunning with messages and they probably dont even realise who they've texted before." When you message someone and they haven't replied,you go to message them again, it clearly says you messaged them before and got no reply. | |||
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"Is there any Roy of the Rovers or Wham bars going too!? "Maybe some desperate Dan bars | |||
"Is there any Roy of the Rovers or Wham bars going too!?
Maybe some desperate Dan bars"Oooooh fuck yessss Geralt! I would love you forever!!! | |||
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"Why not block anyone who messages more than once that you dont fancy? I'd say alot of the repeat messages you get are probably from lads machine gunning with messages and they probably dont even realise who they've texted before. When you message someone and they haven't replied,you go to message them again, it clearly says you messaged them before and got no reply. " I'm sorry. I didn't realise that ,dont message much on this Haha still just block them ,they dont respect your choice. | |||
"A few wham bam thank you ma'am " Haha, I dunno if I could do a FEW bars, maybe two | |||
"Why not block anyone who messages more than once that you dont fancy? I'd say alot of the repeat messages you get are probably from lads machine gunning with messages and they probably dont even realise who they've texted before. Or the person who sent the message gets the hint when they don't get a reply. I have seen some guys say if they send a message and get a no thanks reply they block the person themselves " I do this ,only so as to not pester that person again. | |||
"Why not block anyone who messages more than once that you dont fancy? I'd say alot of the repeat messages you get are probably from lads machine gunning with messages and they probably dont even realise who they've texted before. When you message someone and they haven't replied,you go to message them again, it clearly says you messaged them before and got no reply. I'm sorry. I didn't realise that ,dont message much on this Haha still just block them ,they dont respect your choice." This post is a wee refresher for the newbies.... For those whove been on the site a while know how the game is... | |||
"Site rules clearly say,no reply means not interested. That doesn't mean you can message every couple of weeks,just in case they changed their mind. Don't take it personally. Plenty of fish in the sea as the saying goes. Rejection is never nice,everyone has their own likes and dislikes. Spread the kinkiness ... nicely and respectfully... MsLittleRedRidingHood "You know how the saying goes if first you don't succeed try try again. | |||
"Is there any Roy of the Rovers or Wham bars going too!? "Have you seen the size of Wham bars lately an absolute disgrace | |||
"Is there any Roy of the Rovers or Wham bars going too!?
Have you seen the size of Wham bars lately an absolute disgrace "Ah don't tell me they've shrunk them!!!? 
They've done that with Magnum ice Lollys too! Should be called Minums!  | |||
"Is there any Roy of the Rovers or Wham bars going too!?
Have you seen the size of Wham bars lately an absolute disgrace "The wee mini ones? | |||
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"Manners, respect & patience "Absofuckinglutely | |||
"Manners, respect & patience
Absofuckinglutely "That's extremely difficult to master if you let little brain over rule big brain | |||
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"Sorry, but i have to slightly disagree here... it very much depends on the nature of the message.. a 2nd follow up after a couple weeks is harmless... multiple messages as in 4,5,6 is a bit much... but on another day you'd see a thread from single ladies here talking about the amount of messages and unable to get through them all even though there were plenty of nice messages In those times im sure there are messages that they would happily reply to in quieter times but overlook.. purely down to time/busy lives/ just bad timing The dynamic of males to females here and how to go about things is very different and difficult to understand from the other side.. For example.. message sent, read, lady decides not for them and wont have interest in future either.. a reply stating same or a block if no time to reply is clear communication and if a follow up occurred after that reply, then maybe its an issue However, on the other hand, message sent.. read, no reply, but no clarity on same given, then possible status about being busy follows a day later or so.. hows the association meant to be made on weather there was no interest or of they just got lost in the pile up or the lady was busy at the time? Leaving it a couple weeks rather than a couple minutes or hours actually shows they are just trying to pick a more applicable time to possibly grab your attention as the reasoning for no reply hasnt been clarified and could be multiple reasons.. if you get me? As long as its with enough time span and the messages continue to be respectful, they arent able to read minds.. however if a 2nd one is opened and no reply then a hint may be taken.. but again.. its only a hint and some dont pick up on those In contrast, if you imply that every opened message you have without reply means no interest ever at any point, why not block at first contact on every occasion to make life easier... you know why? Because subconsciously you may be interested in the profile in future should they up their game.. and if they did and messaged again, you may converse/ connect with them at at a different time thats more fitting for you both? Right? I mean you dont want to shoot yourself in the foot either And if ita opened, not replied to but then also Not deleted.. thats very mixed signals to some guys... if it was at least deleted they would be able see that from the sent messaged and maybe understand theres no interest Women's time here is consumed by reading messages and not having the time to reply to all... mens is consumed by writing out messages that dont get replied to... each is difficult in their own seperate ways and new guys learn through trial and error We can't really be advising people on things that are so ambiguous, however each person can take steps to minimise the ambiguity and provide their own personal clarity.. as also, its not a rule all women follow.. hence fab giving a disclaimer rather than blocking another message.. that's down to the indvidual recieving it to decide and pull the trigger on No idea if this is coming across clearly, but just my view. As a male that only would message certain types of profiles, i wouldnt just be moving on to next down the list and would rather be seen to put effort into a person i have interest in, even if that means a follow up message in time... now i understand not all men are like that and will happily message next in line... but this is a social art and there are no rules/guidelines, everyome on both sides of the coin re different so you have to take each new person as a blank canvas and not be prejudiced by the views of one person which could be so completely polar to the next. I respect what your saying for you individually, but a status rather than and advice forum may have been more suited, as its an individual opinion.. now its likely very supported by many women in fairness.. but perhaps not all. Its just a bit deeper layered than that... but i would support you in saying that respect and patience needs to be provided at every opportunity and there is no excuse for anything less! Jesus i just previewed this and saw my book! Lol apologies .. i just have a keen interest in societal differences and communication topics "Would you please help me with an essay | |||
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"Sorry, but i have to slightly disagree here... it very much depends on the nature of the message.. a 2nd follow up after a couple weeks is harmless... multiple messages as in 4,5,6 is a bit much... but on another day you'd see a thread from single ladies here talking about the amount of messages and unable to get through them all even though there were plenty of nice messages In those times im sure there are messages that they would happily reply to in quieter times but overlook.. purely down to time/busy lives/ just bad timing The dynamic of males to females here and how to go about things is very different and difficult to understand from the other side.. For example.. message sent, read, lady decides not for them and wont have interest in future either.. a reply stating same or a block if no time to reply is clear communication and if a follow up occurred after that reply, then maybe its an issue However, on the other hand, message sent.. read, no reply, but no clarity on same given, then possible status about being busy follows a day later or so.. hows the association meant to be made on weather there was no interest or of they just got lost in the pile up or the lady was busy at the time? Leaving it a couple weeks rather than a couple minutes or hours actually shows they are just trying to pick a more applicable time to possibly grab your attention as the reasoning for no reply hasnt been clarified and could be multiple reasons.. if you get me? As long as its with enough time span and the messages continue to be respectful, they arent able to read minds.. however if a 2nd one is opened and no reply then a hint may be taken.. but again.. its only a hint and some dont pick up on those In contrast, if you imply that every opened message you have without reply means no interest ever at any point, why not block at first contact on every occasion to make life easier... you know why? Because subconsciously you may be interested in the profile in future should they up their game.. and if they did and messaged again, you may converse/ connect with them at at a different time thats more fitting for you both? Right? I mean you dont want to shoot yourself in the foot either And if ita opened, not replied to but then also Not deleted.. thats very mixed signals to some guys... if it was at least deleted they would be able see that from the sent messaged and maybe understand theres no interest Women's time here is consumed by reading messages and not having the time to reply to all... mens is consumed by writing out messages that dont get replied to... each is difficult in their own seperate ways and new guys learn through trial and error We can't really be advising people on things that are so ambiguous, however each person can take steps to minimise the ambiguity and provide their own personal clarity.. as also, its not a rule all women follow.. hence fab giving a disclaimer rather than blocking another message.. that's down to the indvidual recieving it to decide and pull the trigger on No idea if this is coming across clearly, but just my view. As a male that only would message certain types of profiles, i wouldnt just be moving on to next down the list and would rather be seen to put effort into a person i have interest in, even if that means a follow up message in time... now i understand not all men are like that and will happily message next in line... but this is a social art and there are no rules/guidelines, everyome on both sides of the coin re different so you have to take each new person as a blank canvas and not be prejudiced by the views of one person which could be so completely polar to the next. I respect what your saying for you individually, but a status rather than and advice forum may have been more suited, as its an individual opinion.. now its likely very supported by many women in fairness.. but perhaps not all. Its just a bit deeper layered than that... but i would support you in saying that respect and patience needs to be provided at every opportunity and there is no excuse for anything less! Jesus i just previewed this and saw my book! Lol apologies .. i just have a keen interest in societal differences and communication topics "The End.  | |||
"Sorry, but i have to slightly disagree here... it very much depends on the nature of the message.. a 2nd follow up after a couple weeks is harmless... multiple messages as in 4,5,6 is a bit much... but on another day you'd see a thread from single ladies here talking about the amount of messages and unable to get through them all even though there were plenty of nice messages In those times im sure there are messages that they would happily reply to in quieter times but overlook.. purely down to time/busy lives/ just bad timing The dynamic of males to females here and how to go about things is very different and difficult to understand from the other side.. For example.. message sent, read, lady decides not for them and wont have interest in future either.. a reply stating same or a block if no time to reply is clear communication and if a follow up occurred after that reply, then maybe its an issue However, on the other hand, message sent.. read, no reply, but no clarity on same given, then possible status about being busy follows a day later or so.. hows the association meant to be made on weather there was no interest or of they just got lost in the pile up or the lady was busy at the time? Leaving it a couple weeks rather than a couple minutes or hours actually shows they are just trying to pick a more applicable time to possibly grab your attention as the reasoning for no reply hasnt been clarified and could be multiple reasons.. if you get me? As long as its with enough time span and the messages continue to be respectful, they arent able to read minds.. however if a 2nd one is opened and no reply then a hint may be taken.. but again.. its only a hint and some dont pick up on those In contrast, if you imply that every opened message you have without reply means no interest ever at any point, why not block at first contact on every occasion to make life easier... you know why? Because subconsciously you may be interested in the profile in future should they up their game.. and if they did and messaged again, you may converse/ connect with them at at a different time thats more fitting for you both? Right? I mean you dont want to shoot yourself in the foot either And if ita opened, not replied to but then also Not deleted.. thats very mixed signals to some guys... if it was at least deleted they would be able see that from the sent messaged and maybe understand theres no interest Women's time here is consumed by reading messages and not having the time to reply to all... mens is consumed by writing out messages that dont get replied to... each is difficult in their own seperate ways and new guys learn through trial and error We can't really be advising people on things that are so ambiguous, however each person can take steps to minimise the ambiguity and provide their own personal clarity.. as also, its not a rule all women follow.. hence fab giving a disclaimer rather than blocking another message.. that's down to the indvidual recieving it to decide and pull the trigger on No idea if this is coming across clearly, but just my view. As a male that only would message certain types of profiles, i wouldnt just be moving on to next down the list and would rather be seen to put effort into a person i have interest in, even if that means a follow up message in time... now i understand not all men are like that and will happily message next in line... but this is a social art and there are no rules/guidelines, everyome on both sides of the coin re different so you have to take each new person as a blank canvas and not be prejudiced by the views of one person which could be so completely polar to the next. I respect what your saying for you individually, but a status rather than and advice forum may have been more suited, as its an individual opinion.. now its likely very supported by many women in fairness.. but perhaps not all. Its just a bit deeper layered than that... but i would support you in saying that respect and patience needs to be provided at every opportunity and there is no excuse for anything less! Jesus i just previewed this and saw my book! Lol apologies .. i just have a keen interest in societal differences and communication topics
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"I love to sign up for refresher course. "You need the full course... Sending messages over and over again, in the last 3 weeks,clearly told you not interested,fishing for info,sending me someone else's nr,yeah you need a full crash course....  | |||
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"Why not block anyone who messages more than once that you dont fancy? I'd say alot of the repeat messages you get are probably from lads machine gunning with messages and they probably dont even realise who they've texted before. When you message someone and they haven't replied,you go to message them again, it clearly says you messaged them before and got no reply. I'm sorry. I didn't realise that ,dont message much on this Haha still just block them ,they dont respect your choice. This post is a wee refresher for the newbies.... For those whove been on the site a while know how the game is... "And you would be the expert off????? | |||
"Why not block anyone who messages more than once that you dont fancy? I'd say alot of the repeat messages you get are probably from lads machine gunning with messages and they probably dont even realise who they've texted before. When you message someone and they haven't replied,you go to message them again, it clearly says you messaged them before and got no reply. I'm sorry. I didn't realise that ,dont message much on this Haha still just block them ,they dont respect your choice. This post is a wee refresher for the newbies.... For those whove been on the site a while know how the game is...
And you would be the expert off?????"Wouldn't call myself an expert,but I certainly know how it works here.... | |||
"Why not block anyone who messages more than once that you dont fancy? I'd say alot of the repeat messages you get are probably from lads machine gunning with messages and they probably dont even realise who they've texted before. When you message someone and they haven't replied,you go to message them again, it clearly says you messaged them before and got no reply. I'm sorry. I didn't realise that ,dont message much on this Haha still just block them ,they dont respect your choice. This post is a wee refresher for the newbies.... For those whove been on the site a while know how the game is...
And you would be the expert off?????
Wouldn't call myself an expert,but I certainly know how it works here.... "Well then your expert here if you kmow how it works | |||
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"Whatever floats your boat "Sending multiple messages to people when I know they haven't read them. Currently I have more boats afloat than the spainish armada | |||
"Whatever floats your boat
Sending multiple messages to people when I know they haven't read them. Currently I have more boats afloat than the spainish armada "Arent you the man
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"Im sorry im just chiming in here again as we said earlier on another thread things like 'if you cant say something nice dont say anything' and 'respect is key'. well some people commenting by quoting a post here arent living up to that and frankly its disappointing after the day we've had." Phew... didn't comment on that thread | |||
"Sorry, but i have to slightly disagree here... it very much depends on the nature of the message.. a 2nd follow up after a couple weeks is harmless... multiple messages as in 4,5,6 is a bit much... but on another day you'd see a thread from single ladies here talking about the amount of messages and unable to get through them all even though there were plenty of nice messages In those times im sure there are messages that they would happily reply to in quieter times but overlook.. purely down to time/busy lives/ just bad timing The dynamic of males to females here and how to go about things is very different and difficult to understand from the other side.. For example.. message sent, read, lady decides not for them and wont have interest in future either.. a reply stating same or a block if no time to reply is clear communication and if a follow up occurred after that reply, then maybe its an issue However, on the other hand, message sent.. read, no reply, but no clarity on same given, then possible status about being busy follows a day later or so.. hows the association meant to be made on weather there was no interest or of they just got lost in the pile up or the lady was busy at the time? Leaving it a couple weeks rather than a couple minutes or hours actually shows they are just trying to pick a more applicable time to possibly grab your attention as the reasoning for no reply hasnt been clarified and could be multiple reasons.. if you get me? As long as its with enough time span and the messages continue to be respectful, they arent able to read minds.. however if a 2nd one is opened and no reply then a hint may be taken.. but again.. its only a hint and some dont pick up on those In contrast, if you imply that every opened message you have without reply means no interest ever at any point, why not block at first contact on every occasion to make life easier... you know why? Because subconsciously you may be interested in the profile in future should they up their game.. and if they did and messaged again, you may converse/ connect with them at at a different time thats more fitting for you both? Right? I mean you dont want to shoot yourself in the foot either And if ita opened, not replied to but then also Not deleted.. thats very mixed signals to some guys... if it was at least deleted they would be able see that from the sent messaged and maybe understand theres no interest Women's time here is consumed by reading messages and not having the time to reply to all... mens is consumed by writing out messages that dont get replied to... each is difficult in their own seperate ways and new guys learn through trial and error We can't really be advising people on things that are so ambiguous, however each person can take steps to minimise the ambiguity and provide their own personal clarity.. as also, its not a rule all women follow.. hence fab giving a disclaimer rather than blocking another message.. that's down to the indvidual recieving it to decide and pull the trigger on No idea if this is coming across clearly, but just my view. As a male that only would message certain types of profiles, i wouldnt just be moving on to next down the list and would rather be seen to put effort into a person i have interest in, even if that means a follow up message in time... now i understand not all men are like that and will happily message next in line... but this is a social art and there are no rules/guidelines, everyome on both sides of the coin re different so you have to take each new person as a blank canvas and not be prejudiced by the views of one person which could be so completely polar to the next. I respect what your saying for you individually, but a status rather than and advice forum may have been more suited, as its an individual opinion.. now its likely very supported by many women in fairness.. but perhaps not all. Its just a bit deeper layered than that... but i would support you in saying that respect and patience needs to be provided at every opportunity and there is no excuse for anything less! Jesus i just previewed this and saw my book! Lol apologies .. i just have a keen interest in societal differences and communication topics "Good comment and much more thought out and nuanced than most | |||
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"Why not block anyone who messages more than once that you dont fancy? I'd say alot of the repeat messages you get are probably from lads machine gunning with messages and they probably dont even realise who they've texted before. Or the person who sent the message gets the hint when they don't get a reply. I have seen some guys say if they send a message and get a no thanks reply they block the person themselves " I honestly think its not too difficult to say no thanks the whole no reply no interest thing is just silly | |||
"Why not block anyone who messages more than once that you dont fancy? I'd say alot of the repeat messages you get are probably from lads machine gunning with messages and they probably dont even realise who they've texted before. Or the person who sent the message gets the hint when they don't get a reply. I have seen some guys say if they send a message and get a no thanks reply they block the person themselves I honestly think its not too difficult to say no thanks the whole no reply no interest thing is just silly" Iv seen a few screenshots of ladies boxes! (Inboxes) they get hundreds. Its genuinely to much for them to reply to all | |||
"Why not block anyone who messages more than once that you dont fancy? I'd say alot of the repeat messages you get are probably from lads machine gunning with messages and they probably dont even realise who they've texted before. Or the person who sent the message gets the hint when they don't get a reply. I have seen some guys say if they send a message and get a no thanks reply they block the person themselves I honestly think its not too difficult to say no thanks the whole no reply no interest thing is just silly" It's fine if you only get a few messages but if you get dozens what are you meant to do...get a secretary | |||
"Why not block anyone who messages more than once that you dont fancy? I'd say alot of the repeat messages you get are probably from lads machine gunning with messages and they probably dont even realise who they've texted before. Or the person who sent the message gets the hint when they don't get a reply. I have seen some guys say if they send a message and get a no thanks reply they block the person themselves I honestly think its not too difficult to say no thanks the whole no reply no interest thing is just silly" I don't get many messages and I do try to reply to any I get but honestly sometimes it's just not worth the chance of grief. I and I'm not the only person I've heard it from, the abuse you get when you politely say no thanks can be very upsetting. | |||
"Sorry, but i have to slightly disagree here... it very much depends on the nature of the message.. a 2nd follow up after a couple weeks is harmless... multiple messages as in 4,5,6 is a bit much... but on another day you'd see a thread from single ladies here talking about the amount of messages and unable to get through them all even though there were plenty of nice messages In those times im sure there are messages that they would happily reply to in quieter times but overlook.. purely down to time/busy lives/ just bad timing The dynamic of males to females here and how to go about things is very different and difficult to understand from the other side.. For example.. message sent, read, lady decides not for them and wont have interest in future either.. a reply stating same or a block if no time to reply is clear communication and if a follow up occurred after that reply, then maybe its an issue However, on the other hand, message sent.. read, no reply, but no clarity on same given, then possible status about being busy follows a day later or so.. hows the association meant to be made on weather there was no interest or of they just got lost in the pile up or the lady was busy at the time? Leaving it a couple weeks rather than a couple minutes or hours actually shows they are just trying to pick a more applicable time to possibly grab your attention as the reasoning for no reply hasnt been clarified and could be multiple reasons.. if you get me? As long as its with enough time span and the messages continue to be respectful, they arent able to read minds.. however if a 2nd one is opened and no reply then a hint may be taken.. but again.. its only a hint and some dont pick up on those In contrast, if you imply that every opened message you have without reply means no interest ever at any point, why not block at first contact on every occasion to make life easier... you know why? Because subconsciously you may be interested in the profile in future should they up their game.. and if they did and messaged again, you may converse/ connect with them at at a different time thats more fitting for you both? Right? I mean you dont want to shoot yourself in the foot either And if ita opened, not replied to but then also Not deleted.. thats very mixed signals to some guys... if it was at least deleted they would be able see that from the sent messaged and maybe understand theres no interest Women's time here is consumed by reading messages and not having the time to reply to all... mens is consumed by writing out messages that dont get replied to... each is difficult in their own seperate ways and new guys learn through trial and error We can't really be advising people on things that are so ambiguous, however each person can take steps to minimise the ambiguity and provide their own personal clarity.. as also, its not a rule all women follow.. hence fab giving a disclaimer rather than blocking another message.. that's down to the indvidual recieving it to decide and pull the trigger on No idea if this is coming across clearly, but just my view. As a male that only would message certain types of profiles, i wouldnt just be moving on to next down the list and would rather be seen to put effort into a person i have interest in, even if that means a follow up message in time... now i understand not all men are like that and will happily message next in line... but this is a social art and there are no rules/guidelines, everyome on both sides of the coin re different so you have to take each new person as a blank canvas and not be prejudiced by the views of one person which could be so completely polar to the next. I respect what your saying for you individually, but a status rather than and advice forum may have been more suited, as its an individual opinion.. now its likely very supported by many women in fairness.. but perhaps not all. Its just a bit deeper layered than that... but i would support you in saying that respect and patience needs to be provided at every opportunity and there is no excuse for anything less! Jesus i just previewed this and saw my book! Lol apologies .. i just have a keen interest in societal differences and communication topics "You got me in one... essay ...I generally don't block unless being given abuse, I try to reply unless it's a message with absolutely no effort or just vulgar, I do leave messages, read, undeleted, when there might be interest at a later stage... however I don't get hundreds of messages a day because for one, my filters are set, not sure if my profile is somewhat off putting for a certain "type" of Fabber and I go into hiding if and when I'm not looking to chat or attract new chat...I do believe, there is no one size fits all, though it may fit the majority... | |||
"Why not block anyone who messages more than once that you dont fancy? I'd say alot of the repeat messages you get are probably from lads machine gunning with messages and they probably dont even realise who they've texted before. Or the person who sent the message gets the hint when they don't get a reply. I have seen some guys say if they send a message and get a no thanks reply they block the person themselves I honestly think its not too difficult to say no thanks the whole no reply no interest thing is just silly I don't get many messages and I do try to reply to any I get but honestly sometimes it's just not worth the chance of grief. I and I'm not the only person I've heard it from, the abuse you get when you politely say no thanks can be very upsetting. " Hit the nail on the head | |||
