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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ive been following the case of the poor girl missing in london, and it got me thinking back to a post i saw on social media once that asked "what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and there were no men.."
Most of the answers were "go for a walk at night on my own without fear"
As they say "Men fear being laughed at by women, but women fear being killed by men".
So ladies, what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and there were no men?
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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Be very depressed is what I'd be .
On a serious note tho I also don't agree with women are always the victims guys can and are victims of abuse both physical and mental abuse from women. A lot of men also suffer in silence for fear of not being believed if they do say it or being ridiculed .
Abuse and fear is horrible and no one should live that way it doesn't matter if you're male or female .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very sweeping generalisation OP... Less than 1% of either sexes hold that fear. Most men are just ordinary people who abhor actsof any kind of violence against anyone let alone women. If there wasn't men in the morning the human population would die out.. Simple as.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Very sweeping generalisation OP... Less than 1% of either sexes hold that fear. Most men are just ordinary people who abhor actsof any kind of violence against anyone let alone women. If there wasn't men in the morning the human population would die out.. Simple as.. "
Men are generally physically stronger than women and can overpower us by force if so inclined. Fact. Its a damn sight more than 1% of women fear that for sure. I would hate a world without men so boring! but yes I would love to feel safe walking streets alone at night. I can only imagine how freeing that would feel |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Be very depressed is what I'd be .
On a serious note tho I also don't agree with women are always the victims guys can and are victims of abuse both physical and mental abuse from women. A lot of men also suffer in silence for fear of not being believed if they do say it or being ridiculed .
Abuse and fear is horrible and no one should live that way it doesn't matter if you're male or female .
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Well said 
I for one would be devastated at the loss of the men I love and respect. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Very sweeping generalisation OP... Less than 1% of either sexes hold that fear. Most men are just ordinary people who abhor actsof any kind of violence against anyone let alone women. If there wasn't men in the morning the human population would die out.. Simple as.. "
Ok can i ask you to speak to the women in your life, and ask them if they have ever been afraid walking in a car park, or if they keep their keys in their hand in case they get attacked.
Its absolutely more than 1%.
And this is the real reason that i started the thread, because i dont think men truly understand the effect they have on women.
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By (user no longer on site)
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This is a tough one with varying opinions, as there should be.
I've travelled for some time by myself. During that time I was mostly safe but there was some dodgy instances.
Now, I can see without doubt this would of been far more dangerous for a woman, in some countries more than others. Some of the women I met on the way had some horror stories.
Sure even in Dublin you had predators chasing young girls in a park just a few weeks back.
I think in general it is safer for men, but that doesn't mean it's unsafe for women.
The vast majority of men are decent, but at the same time the majority of sexual abuse is done by men.
It's a thought topic and honestly there's no right answer.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This is a tough one with varying opinions, as there should be.
I've travelled for some time by myself. During that time I was mostly safe but there was some dodgy instances.
Now, I can see without doubt this would of been far more dangerous for a woman, in some countries more than others. Some of the women I met on the way had some horror stories.
Sure even in Dublin you had predators chasing young girls in a park just a few weeks back.
I think in general it is safer for men, but that doesn't mean it's unsafe for women.
The vast majority of men are decent, but at the same time the majority of sexual abuse is done by men.
It's a thought topic and honestly there's no right answer.
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"Ive been following the case of the poor girl missing in london, and it got me thinking back to a post i saw on social media once that asked "what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and there were no men.."
Most of the answers were "go for a walk at night on my own without fear"
As they say "Men fear being laughed at by women, but women fear being killed by men".
So ladies, what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and there were no men?
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If all men were gone, I'd be sad about it.
That doesn't diminish the fact that throughout my life I have had several instances of consent violations and moments of feeling unsafe around men. These aren't isolated instances or only felt by 1%. That number is absolute crap, I dont know a woman that couldn't tell you a story about the things that have happened them.
And men continue to minimise it with this "most men are good", yeah most men are good but it doesn't make up for the bad ones, your mate that bates his missus, the handsy d*unk one, the one who thinks no is a tease, the creepy one you cross the road to avoid, the one with all the positive verifications that locks you in his car. This things continue to happen and people continue to ignore it because everyone knows that person and really theyre sound.... Yeah ok
Men need to stop minimising women's experience because that also makes you a bad guy, not a good one. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ive been following the case of the poor girl missing in london, and it got me thinking back to a post i saw on social media once that asked "what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and there were no men.."
Most of the answers were "go for a walk at night on my own without fear"
As they say "Men fear being laughed at by women, but women fear being killed by men".
So ladies, what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and there were no men?
If all men were gone, I'd be sad about it.
That doesn't diminish the fact that throughout my life I have had several instances of consent violations and moments of feeling unsafe around men. These aren't isolated instances or only felt by 1%. That number is absolute crap, I dont know a woman that couldn't tell you a story about the things that have happened them.
And men continue to minimise it with this "most men are good", yeah most men are good but it doesn't make up for the bad ones, your mate that bates his missus, the handsy d*unk one, the one who thinks no is a tease, the creepy one you cross the road to avoid, the one with all the positive verifications that locks you in his car. This things continue to happen and people continue to ignore it because everyone knows that person and really theyre sound.... Yeah ok
Men need to stop minimising women's experience because that also makes you a bad guy, not a good one."
Absolutely 100% this. |
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"Ive been following the case of the poor girl missing in london, and it got me thinking back to a post i saw on social media once that asked "what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and there were no men.."
Most of the answers were "go for a walk at night on my own without fear"
As they say "Men fear being laughed at by women, but women fear being killed by men".
So ladies, what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and there were no men?
If all men were gone, I'd be sad about it.
That doesn't diminish the fact that throughout my life I have had several instances of consent violations and moments of feeling unsafe around men. These aren't isolated instances or only felt by 1%. That number is absolute crap, I dont know a woman that couldn't tell you a story about the things that have happened them.
And men continue to minimise it with this "most men are good", yeah most men are good but it doesn't make up for the bad ones, your mate that bates his missus, the handsy d*unk one, the one who thinks no is a tease, the creepy one you cross the road to avoid, the one with all the positive verifications that locks you in his car. This things continue to happen and people continue to ignore it because everyone knows that person and really theyre sound.... Yeah ok
Men need to stop minimising women's experience because that also makes you a bad guy, not a good one."
Very true words.
In this country the percentage may be lower.
OP's scenario though is about no men in the whole world.
That would mean:
1. No child brides.
2. No need for genital mutilation.
3. No need to wear burquas.
4. No need for feminists! (Yay)
5. No glass ceilings 
6. No mansplaining
7. No one to help us shift a wardrobe.
8. No more balls to drain into anything that breathes willing or not.
9. Most likely no religion either
10. Women would be able to put their drinks down unattended in bars and clubs.
11. Sex trafficking would most likely disappear overnight.
12. Whole world would become a lot safer and so much more boring.
13. Women wouldn't have any men to bitch about so they would bitch about each other and then not talk to each other.
14. World peace would be achieved by a bunch of countries just not talking to each other.
15. Periods would become a legitimate reason for taking extra days off work.
16. Women would become sloppy - "why should I make the effort, you make the effort!"
17. Women would have to pick up actual manual labour instead of being make up gurus and lashmeisters.
18. Nobody would get their cars/fridges/dishwashers/phones fixed ever as the queue to the mechanic would be pre booked for decades ahead (how many women do you know who are into electronics?)
19. Property prices would plummet due to spiders. There would be nobody to kill/remove the spiders out of them.
20. Staff turnover in businesses would increase to the max.
What would I do personally?
I would curl up in a ball and cry my eyes out if Dirk would disappear out of my life overnight without notice nor a trace.
As much as women bitch about men - good ones will always be loved and cherished because most women I know including myself know first hand how bad can bad be.
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
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I'm feckin scared walking in a car park alone at night!
Granted the thought of a few dodgy women accosting me is not the source of these fears.
Stephen King is responsible for a lot of it. |
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I’ve recently started to try running and the thought has gone through my head that if someone jumped me and tried to mug me, maybe for my phone or my AirPods, there would be nothing I could do 
I’m doing all I can just to keep breathing that if they attacked me I’d just have to accept it.
If women feel like this every time when out walking at night, it makes me really sad  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that your fear is only a small part of what so many women and many people fear for themselves.
I’m always amazed that my wife was so skittish about walking in our neighborhood to the shops after dark... stories like this for decades must drive a stake of fear into hearts and minds of women everywhere. As our daughter grows and you try to instill confidence... you can’t help but think to also equip with the right ability to read a situation, be prepared and ideally never, ever, have to face a man with this intent. These are still small percentage attacks, but any attack on a person is one to many.
Having read a little about this woman in London, shocking story, an active police officer, would know all the tricks of confidence and physical strength. You’d have to regrettably say, no woman (or man) would have a chance.
I believe the victims, always. Men need to be faced with castration for crimes like this against women. Potentially the only deterrent for those ego driven men, who believe it is their right as Man! BULL SH!T
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I have 3 grown up daughters and of course I am always concerned for their safety.
They went to martial arts classes growing up and are more than capable of taking care of themselves but that doesn't stop me from worrying about them.
The problem though is that not all those claiming to be victims of abuse or violence are genuine.
I've seen it happen numerous times over the years in relation to violence here in NI.
I know of instances where one or two people were genuinely injured by certain groups but by the time the stories made the mainstream news there were 6 or 8 victims.
There will always be those who jump on the bandwagon but that's a failing of society in general.
Men are often the aggressor but not always and can sometimes be the victim.
Women are more often the victim but not always and can sometimes be the aggressor.
And sometimes there are no aggressors but lots of victims. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with you RealityBites
I have had a self defence course after what had happened to me as a teenager.
In my opinion this courses should be available at school (at least in the secondary if not then in college)
The world was always bad but we do not realise that evil exists until nothing wrong happened to us or somebody we know
I can tell from my own experience that being prepared and fight for your life and health with the agrressor is a big surprise to him. You have 80% chance to 'win' the battle.
Ladies, be prepared, get self defence training because we live in crazy times, and you never know when it may save your live. Your weapon could be the surprise the attacker by a few simple moves and ground him, then call the police.
You have a weapon in your handbag: hairspray, deodorant, a pen, it also can be your heels, even the ring! Do not to be afraid to use it in self defence |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Men aren't the root of all evil. Men are definitely more likely to randomly attack someone or set out to plan an attack but it's an extreme minority. Personally I don't feel safe walking at night and would walk in busy areas that would be well lit up purposely when I do. I cross the road when I see dodgy people or groups of teens ahead or I pretend I'm on the phone to someone. I could only imagine the fear a woman would feel if I feel like that. "Curfews for men" is ridiculous though. We need more gardai or police on the street or even set up a new independent street patrol funded by the government. Their presence alone would be off putting to would be attackers. |
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By *eta74Woman
over a year ago
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Personally, I know more men who've been attacked whilst walking alone at night. Granted, it's by another male and not sexually motivated but... Whether it's robbery or racially motivated, I personally know of it happening to men more.
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"Personally, I know more men who've been attacked whilst walking alone at night. Granted, it's by another male and not sexually motivated but... Whether it's robbery or racially motivated, I personally know of it happening to men more.
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I tend to agree. I feel boys/young men are far more vulnerable than their female counterparts, mentally, emotionally and physically. I have two tough daughters for whom i'm not worried about, but if they were sons, I would feel differently |
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Speaking as someone who was attacked in my 20s it never leaves you. I thought I would be able to defend myself but fear takes over and the expression rooted to the spot is real. Then the adrenaline kicks in and I stupidly fought back. For which I got a beating but gave as good as I got. Thankfully I survived. There are no right or wrong scenarios when this happens but it changes you. I think the world today is different. You're judged for being gay, trans or just wearing the wrong clothes. Oh I wouldn't like a world without men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was attacked 6 years ago and same as poster above I fought back but he was bigger and stronger and I knew I wouldn't come out of it well so I gave up. I don't live in fear but I'm a lot more Conscious of my surroundings now. Did I check myself six times the other night taking money from the bank machine yes, do I get nervous getting into a taxi on my own yes. But I was unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's not all men but it has made me put my guard up and be a lot more aware. |
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"I was attacked 6 years ago and same as poster above I fought back but he was bigger and stronger and I knew I wouldn't come out of it well so I gave up. I don't live in fear but I'm a lot more Conscious of my surroundings now. Did I check myself six times the other night taking money from the bank machine yes, do I get nervous getting into a taxi on my own yes. But I was unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's not all men but it has made me put my guard up and be a lot more aware. "
I'm sorry this happened you, but isn't it sad that the expression is wrong place ,wrong time. There should never be a wrong place. |
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"I was attacked 6 years ago and same as poster above I fought back but he was bigger and stronger and I knew I wouldn't come out of it well so I gave up. I don't live in fear but I'm a lot more Conscious of my surroundings now. Did I check myself six times the other night taking money from the bank machine yes, do I get nervous getting into a taxi on my own yes. But I was unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's not all men but it has made me put my guard up and be a lot more aware. "
That's shocking stuff P²
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"I was attacked 6 years ago and same as poster above I fought back but he was bigger and stronger and I knew I wouldn't come out of it well so I gave up. I don't live in fear but I'm a lot more Conscious of my surroundings now. Did I check myself six times the other night taking money from the bank machine yes, do I get nervous getting into a taxi on my own yes. But I was unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's not all men but it has made me put my guard up and be a lot more aware.
I'm sorry this happened you, but isn't it sad that the expression is wrong place ,wrong time. There should never be a wrong place. "
I agree but unfortunately that expression is an almost flippant way of dealing with such a despicable and life changing or life affecting event.
There are no excuses for what happened to either of you.
In another thread today a woman said she had been brutally attacked and r*ped as a young girl and numerous times by multiple men since.
Once again there is no defence for the men involved but surely a valid question is how does someone be in the wrong place at the wrong time so many times?
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@RealityBites it happened to me in aid of the day on the bus stop.
If you think these kind of things nay happen only by night then you are wrong
These beasts do not care what time of the day it is. They always find a way to find a victim.
Also, please do not forget that many women also work on shifts and coming back home later. We do not expect being attacked when leaving the bus , especially if there are petrol station, shop nearby the bus stop, so we are clearly visible
I know, most of us might be naive but the incident as a youth taught me never trust anyone, especially men. We women should think in advance.
Two years ago Ive been attacked in my own area by a young fella. He had a knife. I did not panic because I knew how to behave to put him on the ground. It was not so far from my own house, only 500m!
How many incidents like this one happened to women? Many!
Women should be well-trained for self-defence as they are the highest % in the statistics to be victims (robbery, sexually)
Im not telling this not happen to men. Of course it does! But the cirumstances are different
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"I was attacked 6 years ago and same as poster above I fought back but he was bigger and stronger and I knew I wouldn't come out of it well so I gave up. I don't live in fear but I'm a lot more Conscious of my surroundings now. Did I check myself six times the other night taking money from the bank machine yes, do I get nervous getting into a taxi on my own yes. But I was unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's not all men but it has made me put my guard up and be a lot more aware.
I'm sorry this happened you, but isn't it sad that the expression is wrong place ,wrong time. There should never be a wrong place.
I agree but unfortunately that expression is an almost flippant way of dealing with such a despicable and life changing or life affecting event.
There are no excuses for what happened to either of you.
In another thread today a woman said she had been brutally attacked and r*ped as a young girl and numerous times by multiple men since.
Once again there is no defence for the men involved but surely a valid question is how does someone be in the wrong place at the wrong time so many times?
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Unfortunately it does sound like a flippant remark but it's my way of coping with my life changing event where I attacked but I was also r*ped. I have to compartmentalise it somehow because if I don't I'll end up spiralling. |
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"I was attacked 6 years ago and same as poster above I fought back but he was bigger and stronger and I knew I wouldn't come out of it well so I gave up. I don't live in fear but I'm a lot more Conscious of my surroundings now. Did I check myself six times the other night taking money from the bank machine yes, do I get nervous getting into a taxi on my own yes. But I was unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's not all men but it has made me put my guard up and be a lot more aware.
I'm sorry this happened you, but isn't it sad that the expression is wrong place ,wrong time. There should never be a wrong place.
I agree but unfortunately that expression is an almost flippant way of dealing with such a despicable and life changing or life affecting event.
There are no excuses for what happened to either of you.
In another thread today a woman said she had been brutally attacked and r*ped as a young girl and numerous times by multiple men since.
Once again there is no defence for the men involved but surely a valid question is how does someone be in the wrong place at the wrong time so many times?
Unfortunately it does sound like a flippant remark but it's my way of coping with my life changing event where I attacked but I was also r*ped. I have to compartmentalise it somehow because if I don't I'll end up spiralling. "
That's what I meant though. Not others making a flippant remark about something that happened to you but how you process that event in your own head almost as if you are trying to convince yourself that if it hadn't been you it would have been someone else. Just an unfortunate series of events, wrong time, wrong place. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"I was attacked 6 years ago and same as poster above I fought back but he was bigger and stronger and I knew I wouldn't come out of it well so I gave up. I don't live in fear but I'm a lot more Conscious of my surroundings now. Did I check myself six times the other night taking money from the bank machine yes, do I get nervous getting into a taxi on my own yes. But I was unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's not all men but it has made me put my guard up and be a lot more aware.
I'm sorry this happened you, but isn't it sad that the expression is wrong place ,wrong time. There should never be a wrong place.
I agree but unfortunately that expression is an almost flippant way of dealing with such a despicable and life changing or life affecting event.
There are no excuses for what happened to either of you.
In another thread today a woman said she had been brutally attacked and r*ped as a young girl and numerous times by multiple men since.
Once again there is no defence for the men involved but surely a valid question is how does someone be in the wrong place at the wrong time so many times?
Unfortunately it does sound like a flippant remark but it's my way of coping with my life changing event where I attacked but I was also r*ped. I have to compartmentalise it somehow because if I don't I'll end up spiralling. "
I think tho that compartmentalising is the only way to cope with some traumatic incidents in our lives .I know it's what I have done with some of what has happened to me in the past .I'm not going into details but I remember thinking a week or so after a particular incident that I could either live as a victim or put it behind me and live my life . I choose to live my life and I'm glad I did. No it wasn't easy but the past is behind me and I learned from what happened .
On another note I walked home alone a good few times when I lived in a city many years ago the one and only time I got attacked was by a group of women near where I lived and it was 2 guys who ran over and stopped them that I am forever grateful to even tho I never got their names .They made sure I got home safe also .So it's not just men we need to watch out for either. |
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"I was attacked 6 years ago and same as poster above I fought back but he was bigger and stronger and I knew I wouldn't come out of it well so I gave up. I don't live in fear but I'm a lot more Conscious of my surroundings now. Did I check myself six times the other night taking money from the bank machine yes, do I get nervous getting into a taxi on my own yes. But I was unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's not all men but it has made me put my guard up and be a lot more aware.
I'm sorry this happened you, but isn't it sad that the expression is wrong place ,wrong time. There should never be a wrong place.
I agree but unfortunately that expression is an almost flippant way of dealing with such a despicable and life changing or life affecting event.
There are no excuses for what happened to either of you.
In another thread today a woman said she had been brutally attacked and r*ped as a young girl and numerous times by multiple men since.
Once again there is no defence for the men involved but surely a valid question is how does someone be in the wrong place at the wrong time so many times?
Unfortunately it does sound like a flippant remark but it's my way of coping with my life changing event where I attacked but I was also r*ped. I have to compartmentalise it somehow because if I don't I'll end up spiralling.
That's what I meant though. Not others making a flippant remark about something that happened to you but how you process that event in your own head almost as if you are trying to convince yourself that if it hadn't been you it would have been someone else. Just an unfortunate series of events, wrong time, wrong place. "
Sorry I apologise I understand where you're coming from now! you are right though it is a flippant remark. it's fine for me to convince myself wrong time wrong place but Christ if someone made that remark to me about what happened id probably go nuts! |
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"Ive been following the case of the poor girl missing in london, and it got me thinking back to a post i saw on social media once that asked "what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and there were no men.."
Most of the answers were "go for a walk at night on my own without fear"
As they say "Men fear being laughed at by women, but women fear being killed by men".
So ladies, what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and there were no men?
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It's an interesting concept. Surmising what a world without men would be like ?
Which crimes would reduce ...and which crimes could take their place ?
Would physical, sexual and emotional abuse and victimisation cease or reduce in all girls schools and women's prisons ...if staffed by only female teachers and warders ?
Is disorder and evil confined to one gender ?
Is r*pe mostly about sex or is it about power ?
Is there a higher incidence of emotional sadism in men than women ?
Is there a higher incidence of men who garner a narcissistic feed from controlling, gas-lighting, bullying and torturing others they choose to target ?
Personally I think that destructive badness manifests in a minority of people, and equally in both genders. If you removed all the males from a wolf pack then probably less wolves would die from savage beatings ..but the pack would still organise a hierarchy. Maybe many more wolves would be hunted from the pack and starve ?
As a species we should all take responsiblity for reducing fear and suffering in society, regardless of which minority in either gender perpetrates the many ills that persist in our ' communities '.
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"I was attacked 6 years ago and same as poster above I fought back but he was bigger and stronger and I knew I wouldn't come out of it well so I gave up. I don't live in fear but I'm a lot more Conscious of my surroundings now. Did I check myself six times the other night taking money from the bank machine yes, do I get nervous getting into a taxi on my own yes. But I was unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's not all men but it has made me put my guard up and be a lot more aware.
I'm sorry this happened you, but isn't it sad that the expression is wrong place ,wrong time. There should never be a wrong place.
I agree but unfortunately that expression is an almost flippant way of dealing with such a despicable and life changing or life affecting event.
There are no excuses for what happened to either of you.
In another thread today a woman said she had been brutally attacked and r*ped as a young girl and numerous times by multiple men since.
Once again there is no defence for the men involved but surely a valid question is how does someone be in the wrong place at the wrong time so many times?
Unfortunately it does sound like a flippant remark but it's my way of coping with my life changing event where I attacked but I was also r*ped. I have to compartmentalise it somehow because if I don't I'll end up spiralling.
That's what I meant though. Not others making a flippant remark about something that happened to you but how you process that event in your own head almost as if you are trying to convince yourself that if it hadn't been you it would have been someone else. Just an unfortunate series of events, wrong time, wrong place.
Sorry I apologise I understand where you're coming from now! you are right though it is a flippant remark. it's fine for me to convince myself wrong time wrong place but Christ if someone made that remark to me about what happened id probably go nuts!"
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For anyone wanting to feel a bit safer you can share your location with friend/friends.
Whatsapp has a feature you can share your location for 15mibs/1 hour or 8hours.
Go to message. Tap the paper clip and then location. The person or persons you messages can see where you are. |
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"I was attacked 6 years ago and same as poster above I fought back but he was bigger and stronger and I knew I wouldn't come out of it well so I gave up. I don't live in fear but I'm a lot more Conscious of my surroundings now. Did I check myself six times the other night taking money from the bank machine yes, do I get nervous getting into a taxi on my own yes. But I was unfortunately in the wrong place at the wrong time. It's not all men but it has made me put my guard up and be a lot more aware. "
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I have my keys ready in my hand walking to my car,
I lock the door when I get in,
I wont go walking in the woods at night,
I wont walk down a dark street at night alone. It's the world we live in now. But to say what would women do if there was no men? Truth is ye would not survive, same as men cant survive without women. I'm sick of this man bashing, I was never thought by my parents not to hit or attack women,its a fucking given.
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"For anyone wanting to feel a bit safer you can share your location with friend/friends.
Whatsapp has a feature you can share your location for 15mibs/1 hour or 8hours.
Go to message. Tap the paper clip and then location. The person or persons you messages can see where you are. "
I have seen that, live location, very good idea. |
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I have recently started running in the dark during this winter was running in a dark walk way with little or no lighting, working on fears does help of course. I wore a headlamp & flash jacket, before working on my fears i wouldn't have done this at all. I did"nt realise I had so many little ridiculous fears, i was recently thinking of doing some self defense classes found them helpful in school years ago. I suppose it's a very individual thing really women with bad experiences with men are potentially more than likely to have more fears unless they are dealt with they will remain. For me if they were no men it would most certainly be very dull indeed and would definitely have to find myself a beautiful sexy female partner of course this would be the boner i mean bonus lol   . |
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