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over a year ago
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Hi all quick question . I'm very very tempted of asking my wife what she would think about an open marriage as she seem to have gone off sex completely generally only wants it every 3-4 months and I'm always up for it. Has anyone any experience of asking this question and how did it turn out etc?? |
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"Hi all quick question . I'm very very tempted of asking my wife what she would think about an open marriage as she seem to have gone off sex completely generally only wants it every 3-4 months and I'm always up for it. Has anyone any experience of asking this question and how did it turn out etc??"
Maybe have a discussion with your wife about why she's not in the mood instead of being so quick as to open your marriage to other people, especially if she's not a swinger. It could be something you're doing or not doing and it can be fixed... |
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"Hi all quick question . I'm very very tempted of asking my wife what she would think about an open marriage as she seem to have gone off sex completely generally only wants it every 3-4 months and I'm always up for it. Has anyone any experience of asking this question and how did it turn out etc??
Maybe have a discussion with your wife about why she's not in the mood instead of being so quick as to open your marriage to other people, especially if she's not a swinger. It could be something you're doing or not doing and it can be fixed... "
Hi , we've spoken about it loads and she says she is always too tired which dampens her mood |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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And before everyone says we'll try to do more around the house etc, I do all the cleaning, lunches ,buy flowers, get kids ready and dropped picked up from school etc, I'm not lazy i pull my weight and constantly pulling myself lol  |
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"Hi all quick question . I'm very very tempted of asking my wife what she would think about an open marriage as she seem to have gone off sex completely generally only wants it every 3-4 months and I'm always up for it. Has anyone any experience of asking this question and how did it turn out etc??
Maybe have a discussion with your wife about why she's not in the mood instead of being so quick as to open your marriage to other people, especially if she's not a swinger. It could be something you're doing or not doing and it can be fixed... Hi , we've spoken about it loads and she says she is always too tired which dampens her mood"
And maybe there's a health reason she's tired all the time. It's a hard one to call. The sound of an open marriage may sound appealing but what happens when feelings get involved. |
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"Hi all quick question . I'm very very tempted of asking my wife what she would think about an open marriage as she seem to have gone off sex completely generally only wants it every 3-4 months and I'm always up for it. Has anyone any experience of asking this question and how did it turn out etc??
Maybe have a discussion with your wife about why she's not in the mood instead of being so quick as to open your marriage to other people, especially if she's not a swinger. It could be something you're doing or not doing and it can be fixed... Hi , we've spoken about it loads and she says she is always too tired which dampens her mood"
Sorry Op but it appears to me that there is much more going on than her tiredness. Maybe a more thorough conversation is required  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi all quick question . I'm very very tempted of asking my wife what she would think about an open marriage as she seem to have gone off sex completely generally only wants it every 3-4 months and I'm always up for it. Has anyone any experience of asking this question and how did it turn out etc??
Maybe have a discussion with your wife about why she's not in the mood instead of being so quick as to open your marriage to other people, especially if she's not a swinger. It could be something you're doing or not doing and it can be fixed... Hi , we've spoken about it loads and she says she is always too tired which dampens her mood
And maybe there's a health reason she's tired all the time. It's a hard one to call. The sound of an open marriage may sound appealing but what happens when feelings get involved. "
Exactly that's my fear, you've hit the nail right on the head |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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If your doing ur best to alleviate the other halfs load as in house work and the like maybe a full medical check up is required to see if there something else coming into play here.
As you have said u have had some deep chats around sex maybe joining here together as a cpl to see others and how they have spiced up the bedroom joining in the cjat rpoms or even chatting to other cpls might open up a new leafe of life for ye
But first eliminate other reasons and talk talk talk
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe it's nothing to do with you , she might not feel sexy anymore it happens to the best of us. Try make her feel special and loved without the pressure of sex , build up her confidence slowly. You might bring up the open marriage and make her feel that you're gone off her. Fix what's broken don't break it more. A woman's excitement build's days before the bedroom , it's the little meaningful things you do throughout the week that get both you and her there. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe it's nothing to do with you , she might not feel sexy anymore it happens to the best of us. Try make her feel special and loved without the pressure of sex , build up her confidence slowly. You might bring up the open marriage and make her feel that you're gone off her. Fix what's broken don't break it more. A woman's excitement build's days before the bedroom , it's the little meaningful things you do throughout the week that get both you and her there. "
That's the thing I do everything during the week lol. Massages etc but really appreciate the Advice I will try again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You need to sort out what's going on in your relationship before considering opening it to outsiders. Does your wife know you are on here? Maybe it's time for an indepth conversation, not about sex, but about how your marriage got to where it is now, how you both feel about it, and where you want it to go. There are many, many reasons why women lose interest in sex with their partners. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi read all this i say ask next time at doctors ask for a full medical check up and blood count if she no energy maybe low B12 and wait than try some new toys for you both "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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have had low b12 before, its very common with vegans vegetarians
yes communication is vital for a marriage especially an open marriage there's no way to avoid communication if you want to get out of this situation |
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"Hi all quick question . I'm very very tempted of asking my wife what she would think about an open marriage as she seem to have gone off sex completely generally only wants it every 3-4 months and I'm always up for it. Has anyone any experience of asking this question and how did it turn out etc??
Maybe have a discussion with your wife about why she's not in the mood instead of being so quick as to open your marriage to other people, especially if she's not a swinger. It could be something you're doing or not doing and it can be fixed... Hi , we've spoken about it loads and she says she is always too tired which dampens her mood"
If she's tired all of the time and you do just as much around the house as she does then maybe you should get to the bottom of that. Lots of things could be affecting her, depression, thyroid, menopause or a million other things or if you haven't told her about fab maybe her intuition is kicking in.
Try focus on your wife rather than your need to have sex.
I'm not judging BTW, just saying there a lot of medical reasons for her being this way and you could do more harm than good by bringing up an open marriage. My husband and I have a b/f and g/f but in order for us to do that we have to be 100% secure in our marriage and put each other first all of the time.
Best of luck with it. |
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"Hi all quick question . I'm very very tempted of asking my wife what she would think about an open marriage as she seem to have gone off sex completely generally only wants it every 3-4 months and I'm always up for it. Has anyone any experience of asking this question and how did it turn out etc??"
What’s the relationship like other than sex? Do ye snuggle up on the sofa watching tv, hold hands out for a walk? Be touchy with each other and have good vibes etc? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately some wemon are like that.if they don't want fun .you don't get any .try talk to her about your needs .if that don't work. Go on your only human play the field behind her back |
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"Plant the swinging seed in her head...and let it grow for a bit!
Worked for me!??
It's too long to write. I'll do you!"
Omg  I've reread what I wrote OP
U obviously know by now I meant I'll dm you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all quick question . I'm very very tempted of asking my wife what she would think about an open marriage as she seem to have gone off sex completely generally only wants it every 3-4 months and I'm always up for it. Has anyone any experience of asking this question and how did it turn out etc??
Maybe have a discussion with your wife about why she's not in the mood instead of being so quick as to open your marriage to other people, especially if she's not a swinger. It could be something you're doing or not doing and it can be fixed... Hi , we've spoken about it loads and she says she is always too tired which dampens her mood"
Do you help her around the house. Make her feel wanted and not the act of sex. Do you surprise her with nice gestures. I know from me. When I dont want sex something deeper.is going on |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"Plant the swinging seed in her head...and let it grow for a bit!
Worked for me!??
It's too long to write. I'll do you!
Omg I've reread what I wrote OP
U obviously know by now I meant I'll dm you! "
I was going to ask will u post the vid of u doing him |
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"Plant the swinging seed in her head...and let it grow for a bit!
Worked for me!??
It's too long to write. I'll do you!
Omg I've reread what I wrote OP
U obviously know by now I meant I'll dm you!
I was going to ask will u post the vid of u doing him "
Feckin predictive texts! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps you should think about moving out, no point being with a woman if she is not doing her duty. "
Hmmm duty?
Once, a very wise friend of mine said, "If not even his wife wants to have sex with him, he must be defective"
There can be excemptions though. Open communication is paramount in any relationship.... |
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There's a reason somewhere that your wife and you aren't having sex. That needs to be fixed first.
You need to have amazing communication for an open marriage to work well. That needs to be fixed first.
An open marriage can create excitement but it's not a magic fix |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi OP like said already it's seems to be no more going on, i got t it turned off sex in a long term relationship due to loss/grief. It could be a mix of emotional, physical and psychological or a mix as they are obviously connected. Definitely talk more and maybe suggest some relationship counselling, if I were you don't bring up swinging just yet try solve the relationships break down first, good luck with it OP.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you also ready OP if she says yes to this and is then having more sex than you are?
Can happen.
It's a wide open door you're considering open, which both walk through."
Lots of people don’t truly think about this and there’s ZERO going back. It’s the death of your relationship as you know it and hopefully the start of a new one which still involves you both
But if you only go into it for what you can get, you could be sorely disappointed when she (your wife) gets offered (and takes) far more.
This is the reality of swinging that I feel you haven’t properly engaged with and you truly need to have a proper chat with her about where things are at before you even dream about mentioning swinging |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps you should think about moving out, no point being with a woman if she is not doing her duty. "
And what are those duties. Clearly you know more then us normal folk  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Plant the swinging seed in her head...and let it grow for a bit!
Worked for me!"
You could suggest buy a sex swing,talk to her,tell her how hot it would be to try it,give her time to digest it, as above have said,if she's game then great,not sure if mentioning a swing site,if no interest shown to spicing things will help.(Ms snoop)  |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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So let's say she agrees to an open marriage and starts to sleep with 4 or 5 guys a month (easily done on here) and you meet maybe 1 or 2 every 3 months ( you've got a lot more competition don't forget) would you be happy with that ?
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Asking questions to your wife you gotta be prepared for any answer she could have a health issue she could be going through the menopause some women loose the interest in sex while going through the menopause. Or she could say that she has no interests in sex with you but could with others these are just a few suggestions of what she might say
Your best to ask her yourself |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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"Asking questions to your wife you gotta be prepared for any answer she could have a health issue she could be going through the menopause some women loose the interest in sex while going through the menopause. Or she could say that she has no interests in sex with you but could with others these are just a few suggestions of what she might say
Your best to ask her yourself "
Imagine the dent to the ego
Him: let's have an open marriage as my sex drive is higher than yours.
Her: ok perfect I'd rather fuck anyone else than you.
Ouch |
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By *233Man
over a year ago
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Talking with her is the best way me and my Ex wife were similar only it was me yes me
I lost total sex drive in the marriage, putting it down to every day life kids family work and normal life worries, what makes it worse the more she wanted to have fun the more under pressure it made it, IN A WAY it laid to are divorce, all im saying is talk with her before going looking it definitely won't help playing away
P.s mojo is back and that's why I found fab and for us
Simply wasn't to be !!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing fixes a broken libido like a good divorce
Becareful what you wish for OP. I think you are looking at an open marriage from your side..you can meet without feeling guilty and sneaking around. But bare in mind, she can then as well.
Who knows, she might be already |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Plant the swinging seed in her head...and let it grow for a bit!
Worked for me!??
It's too long to write. I'll do you!
Omg I've reread what I wrote OP
U obviously know by now I meant I'll dm you! "
I'll do you in mate!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for a your advice here everyone, had good talk over the weekend "planted the seed lol" but she says I do more than enough around the house , in relation to her feelings etc,. Just not in the mood as much as I am, will update if any changes,. I did mention to go to doc as she is alway tired thanks again all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From experience we can lack confidence. Feel unattractive frumpy. Gain weight and feel self conscious. Also atm stresses financially. Our brains always working overtime with kids. Home works. Planning tomorrows meals. And shopping lists lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From experience we can lack confidence. Feel unattractive frumpy. Gain weight and feel self conscious. Also atm stresses financially. Our brains always working overtime with kids. Home works. Planning tomorrows meals. And shopping lists lol. "
Agreed. we can lose any sense of ourselves, particularly our sexual selves, in the daily drudge and drain of all the above. |
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"Plant the swinging seed in her head...and let it grow for a bit!
Worked for me!??
It's too long to write. I'll do you!
Omg I've reread what I wrote OP
U obviously know by now I meant I'll dm you!
I was going to ask will u post the vid of u doing him
Feckin predictive texts! "
And here was I thinking wow what a lady for offering her services to do him |
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By *m158Couple
over a year ago
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Thankfully we spoke a lot together about swinging before we eventually took the plunge on holidays in Portugal a few years ago...we have an open relationship and swinging has really helped keep the spice between us |
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