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Chatting fatigue

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

A site based primarily around physical meets that is now restricted to chatting only, i am guessing, will or has lead to some chatting fatigue...

I've looked at my last handful of sent messages which shows how many mails back and forth with the same person in each message and is:

3, 81, 3, 2, 38, 5...

So a mixed bag...

Do people find it more difficult to keep conversations going when everyone knows that it will still be a couple of months away from even meeting up for coffee with someone or still business as usual conversation wise?

So straw poll based on a few months ago versus current lockdown period:

A. You find that you are chatting with a greater number of people at same time but conversations fizzle out quicker

B. You find that you are chatting to reduced number of people at the same time but conversations last longer..

C. No different to before..

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman over a year ago

in the waves

I'm not the endless chatting type anyways. I'm currently not chatting with anyone really aside from people I actually know and have banter with. And the amount of times lately I've been called a time waster by men because I won't meet/chat to them is laughable.

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I have my filters tight anyhow so I don't get a lot of messages so I'm definitely not chatting to more than I was at any other stage that I have been on here .

But yes sometimes keeping chats going can be hard when there is no end in sight really especially when real life gets busy as well with work etc. They tend to fizzle out after a while .

It's why I'm not really doing any new chats at present it seems a bit pointless so I'm mostly here for the forum's and friends at the moment if I'm honest .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have my filters tight anyhow so I don't get a lot of messages so I'm definitely not chatting to more than I was at any other stage that I have been on here .

But yes sometimes keeping chats going can be hard when there is no end in sight really especially when real life gets busy as well with work etc. They tend to fizzle out after a while .

It's why I'm not really doing any new chats at present it seems a bit pointless so I'm mostly here for the forum's and friends at the moment if I'm honest ."

I'm with Bo my filters are tight. Mainly using forums and chatting to friends that I've met or chatted to before lockdown.

Been a few conversations but they have fizzled out and once a guy finds out you not into phone sex or setting or sending videos they move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have my filters tight anyhow so I don't get a lot of messages so I'm definitely not chatting to more than I was at any other stage that I have been on here .

But yes sometimes keeping chats going can be hard when there is no end in sight really especially when real life gets busy as well with work etc. They tend to fizzle out after a while .

It's why I'm not really doing any new chats at present it seems a bit pointless so I'm mostly here for the forum's and friends at the moment if I'm honest ."

This for us also.

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By *mmaCD1029TV/TS over a year ago

Bangor NI

Deffo A in my case ive found the past few months more couples and women are messaging me out of the blue

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By *eralt80Man over a year ago

cork

I’m not a big chatter really and don’t send a lot of messages. Just chatting with friends and in the forums.

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By *og-ManMan over a year ago

somewhere

Chatting with friends and in the forums

Never one for lots of messaging as you say they fizzle out anyway

Last week actually spoke to someone for an hour which was pretty amazing and genuinely a great morale booster

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By *iablo soloWoman over a year ago

southside

Nothing had changed...(still twats asking to meet through this pandemic...)so I upped the age on my preference and it seems to have filtered the amount of people asking to meet...(take that as you may..!) Now I'm enjoying chatting and because of this I'm ready to bolt out once this is all over!!

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By *oghunter33Woman over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Yup, I lost any interest in chatting to someone, pointless and waste of time at present. I've to push myself to reply to the few messages I get.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very hard to keep interest up via chats. Even when the interest is UP. Theres a long way to go...

Flirt Fatigue

Im not getting as many messages as I used to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pretty much sticking to the forum unless I get messaged or someone really nice stands out.

Just keeping it light and breezy and having a laugh.

Why not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So far it does seem similar across alot of people that message fatigue has set in so maybe the Forums are really the way to go over the short to medium term it seems.

** to clarify the purpose of this thread is for research purposes only and not a way to shame any unfortunate person who was stuck chatting to me recently

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

I don't send first contact messages and haven't done for over a year.

I rarely if ever look at anything in fab apart from the forums and maybe local updates.

If I get 2 messages in a week that's a busy week as most weeks I don't get any at all and I'm content with that level of interaction.

Therefore chat fatigue doesn't really come into the equation.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan over a year ago

Tipperary

ud be confident enough to say most people are not meeting so you're probably wasting your time on dating sites if you're expecting lots of them.

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By *herry...Woman over a year ago

Somewhere

I like to chat, even if it fizzles out after a few messages, its difficult times at the minute, so if a few lines of text can brighten someone's day or lift the spirits then it's not a waste even if it doesn't go anywhere

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By *j47Man over a year ago

limerick

"I don't send first contact messages and haven't done for over a year.

I rarely if ever look at anything in fab apart from the forums and maybe local updates.

If I get 2 messages in a week that's a busy week as most weeks I don't get any at all and I'm content with that level of interaction.

Therefore chat fatigue doesn't really come into the equation. "

Yes that's the way I am if my yellow box lights up its usually a friend or a guy asking to sort out his sunday morn horn I politely decline of course

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By *iablo soloWoman over a year ago

southside

"I like to chat, even if it fizzles out after a few messages, its difficult times at the minute, so if a few lines of text can brighten someone's day or lift the spirits then it's not a waste even if it doesn't go anywhere

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By *ofusplusCouple over a year ago

Limerick

The forums only at the moment and the odd (quick) chat as a result of comments posted. Fatigue has definitely set in, especially since Christmas

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By *og-ManMan over a year ago

somewhere

Yours definitely raise the spirits

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By *iscuits8Man over a year ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

Yeah, I've been finding it hard to motivate myself to even just log in here and have a bit of chat to be honest.

I love the chats and craic in messages with a small few people here. The mood has just gone in sync with the ongoing lockdown after lockdown.

I'm sure things will get back to being great as restrictions lift. For the moment though I can totally understand chats fizzing out. It's up to us to pick it all back up when the time is right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah, I've been finding it hard to motivate myself to even just log in here and have a bit of chat to be honest.

I love the chats and craic in messages with a small few people here. The mood has just gone in sync with the ongoing lockdown after lockdown.

I'm sure things will get back to being great as restrictions lift. For the moment though I can totally understand chats fizzing out. It's up to us to pick it all back up when the time is right

Just keep dipping Biscuits, in and out, in and out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Onky stay chatting with people I've met previously or hope to meet when safe.All we can do is hope we're nearing the end and can see family and friends again soon for that long awaited hug.Having only buried my nana on Thursday it was very hard.People that couldn't be there who wanted to be..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Sorry to hear about your nan

Try to remember all the happy memories you have both shared and it might help over next few weeks trying to deal with you're loss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Onky stay chatting with people I've met previously or hope to meet when safe.All we can do is hope we're nearing the end and can see family and friends again soon for that long awaited hug.Having only buried my nana on Thursday it was very hard.People that couldn't be there who wanted to be.. "

Ah sorry for your loss x sending you a virtual hug

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

Sorry for your loss. I have two friends who both lost their dads in the last week and I couldn't go to either funeral and some family members weren't allowed into the church.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan over a year ago

Tipperary

Sorry for your loss. I have two friends who both lost their dads in the last week and I couldn't go to either funeral and some family members weren't allowed into the church. "
that's a total disgrace and always has been. some churches are massive and they allow 10. I know alot of funerals of late, people go to the graveyard to pay their respects.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It really makes a very sad loss harder when you can't give them the send off they deserve

I am very sorry for your loss . X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It really makes a very sad loss harder when you can't give them the send off they deserve

I am very sorry for your loss . X "
Thanks xx. Am sure plenty have been effected in the same way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry for your loss. I have two friends who both lost their dads in the last week and I couldn't go to either funeral and some family members weren't allowed into the church. "
Thanks.. Yes the graveyard seems to be the only option..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ah sorry for your loss x sending you a virtual hug "
Thanks DDx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry to hear about your nan

Try to remember all the happy memories you have both shared and it might help over next few weeks trying to deal with you're loss

"
Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry for your loss. I have two friends who both lost their dads in the last week and I couldn't go to either funeral and some family members weren't allowed into the church. that's a total disgrace and always has been. some churches are massive and they allow 10. I know alot of funerals of late, people go to the graveyard to pay their respects. "
Yes that's the maddening part.. People can spread out on bigger churches. It's coming down to each church at the time. Some are allowing the immediate family in to mass.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan over a year ago

Tipperary

Sorry for your loss. I have two friends who both lost their dads in the last week and I couldn't go to either funeral and some family members weren't allowed into the church. that's a total disgrace and always has been. some churches are massive and they allow 10. I know alot of funerals of late, people go to the graveyard to pay their respects. Yes that's the maddening part.. People can spread out on bigger churches. It's coming down to each church at the time. Some are allowing the immediate family in to mass. "
sorry for your loss. imagine a massive immediate family and they only allow 10 in. its a disgrace.

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By *phrodite72Woman over a year ago

dublin/galway

"I have my filters tight anyhow so I don't get a lot of messages so I'm definitely not chatting to more than I was at any other stage that I have been on here .

But yes sometimes keeping chats going can be hard when there is no end in sight really especially when real life gets busy as well with work etc. They tend to fizzle out after a while .

It's why I'm not really doing any new chats at present it seems a bit pointless so I'm mostly here for the forum's and friends at the moment if I'm honest .

I'm with Bo my filters are tight. Mainly using forums and chatting to friends that I've met or chatted to before lockdown.

Been a few conversations but they have fizzled out and once a guy finds out you not into phone sex or setting or sending videos they move on

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By *phrodite72Woman over a year ago

dublin/galway

Hope u are doing okay my darling girl

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By *s LollyWoman over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I don't get many messages (don't know why im delightful) but seriously ive my filters set as tight as a Cavan man's wallet. Since im not meeting anyone the chat just gets mondane and I get bored it's a pity really because there's some id love to meet up with post covid....

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By *ofusplusCouple over a year ago

Limerick

"I don't get many messages (don't know why im delightful) but seriously ive my filters set as tight as a Cavan man's wallet. Since im not meeting anyone the chat just gets mondane and I get bored it's a pity really because there's some id love to meet up with post covid...."

As tight as a Cavan man's wallet ... I howled at that

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I'm so sorry for your loss x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well we are definitely meeting for cocktails.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm so sorry for your loss x"
Thanks Bo xx

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