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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel your pain OP
But god love them, if its hard for us its worse for them, they are wired for socialising with peers at this age and its taken away from them. Its a hard enough time as it is but this year is the biggest challenge of all.
When Im overwhelmed with it like you are, I get as much time away from them as I can lol.
and the rest of the time i try and make life easier for them and empathise. Break the monotony, go for random spins in the car, watch movies they like and laugh at the shitness together. Share mad memories and mad future plans. And plough on... this too shall pass
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By *ctoboyMan
over a year ago
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If you have Teenagers in house giving you usual grief then call them into room together and tell them that times are hard at present and the two of you(Mum & Dad) have had a chat and decided that you'll have to let one of the go !!!! & will decide over next week....See how they react to that....lol  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i tried putting them on ebay but didnt work ,plus love them too much followed my 15 year old tonight to sea because taught she was going to do something silly ,only thing i think im quilty of is giving them too much ,recent policity showing mental health is nothing to be ashamed of really makes me feel we need help |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"i tried putting them on ebay but didnt work ,plus love them too much followed my 15 year old tonight to sea because taught she was going to do something silly ,only thing i think im quilty of is giving them too much ,recent policity showing mental health is nothing to be ashamed of really makes me feel we need help "
Do you know where to look for help |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a boy and girl who. Luckily they have been no major trouble. Both are studying during lockdown. It's tough on them. Certainly won't be looking for a refund |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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they come from so called brokenhome ,but in last 10 years have them every second day so never gave up ,plus have siblings from NON broken homes with same or worse teenager problems so i give up |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i have amazing partner who has rared her own and feel bad i putting on here ,but we get there i hope ,as soon as they finish education we off to live in spain ,sorry Ireland but we done our dark days xx |
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I totally feel ur pain op my daughter is just coming out of it now. We actually have conversations again. Its hard to describe think their thought process is so irrational the best and only way is too nod the head agree and let them ignore you. They will come back  |
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I have 3 daughters all well passed their teenage years but having all of them going through the same experiences around the same time was mentally and physically draining.
Sometimes you have to step back and let them make mistakes and then be there to make sure they don't make the same one twice.
If there are more serious concerns seek professional help now and don't wait a moment longer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My eldest is 19 she is now more settled and never was too wild but she had her moments. All I can say OP is you can try to be for them the person you needed when you were their age.
Boys or girls, teens are more or less the same they, want to live. Might require extra creativity currently, but I'm sure the love you feel for them will inspire you. Hang in there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My teenager gone thru domestic abuse and violence. Watched her mum suffer in exs hands. (me)
Loss of her sister to evil social and lock down.. I'm happy she is still functioning. Moods.. I don't mind.. The days she laughs n smiles makes it worth while. She's a great young lady.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i in my opinion a good dad ,but very sad to see permimant marks on my beautiful model like daughter that will never go ,i really believe in my honest opion as a single dad i couldnt have done any more ,,i could have been one of these single dads every second weekend but instead i dececied every secend day for last ten years ,but as this backfired on me should i have fucked off !!they really smart ladies but youngest said to me last night why couldnt i settle for one daughter annd not bring her into this world wtf
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"pandemic ,have parents in mid eighties,but have to say Covid 19 harderst on teenagers "
Agree with you on this,my parents also mid 80's and coping well enough
My kids not as good,when you look back at that age...we were never at home |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I work with teens and young adults. Covid and its limited life that it affords them...they are suffering. I see it everyday. My two are young. So I'm not at the coal face. My advice, for what its worth, Just hug them. Listen to them. Despite their teenage stuff.....just offer love and boundaries. Its a balancing act. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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we like most on here very sexual couple that looking for fun,but bit d*unk tonight and saying too much,i am a mans man but never taught my beautiful princess would be so unhappy that she take a blade to herself ,hope everyone understand that emotions are real and look out for your own xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we like most on here very sexual couple that looking for fun,but bit d*unk tonight and saying too much,i am a mans man but never taught my beautiful princess would be so unhappy that she take a blade to herself ,hope everyone understand that emotions are real and look out for your own xx
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Talk to your doctor or her doctor, a lot are far more open to other forms of help rather than medication straight away.
Matt Haig has a couple of very good books re anxiety etc maybe check him out. Be open and talk to her , sometimes just listening and not judging can help and don't tell her she is lucky that there are people worse off etc.
Some great resources online too.
Best of luck op. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"pandemic ,have parents in mid eighties,but have to say Covid 19 harderst on teenagers
Agree with you on this,my parents also mid 80's and coping well enough
My kids not as good,when you look back at that age...we were never at home "
Like your story about the orchards just devilment and no notice taken, when myself and the lads used to take off on the bikes at 14 and end up travelling nearly 3 parishes before we'd find one shop that would sell A box of fags and that would do the 5 of us till the following week haha, and no notice taken when we'd land home absolutely bate after all the cycling....and two fags |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"only thing doctors do is put them is on tablets which is short term solution,thanks for all yer advise will sort hopefully ,thank you "
I was being pushed towards meds when I approached my doctor firstly as they felt I needed help urgently and I didn't feel comfortable so I decided to be A stubborn shite! And after a lot more shitty and moody days I went to a counsellor on my own accord and it genuinely was a game changer! You seem to be doing the best you can and never mind that you have unwound a little with a few drinks tonight, your more than entitled to, but the just that your here looking for advice says alot about how much you care! You could turn your arse to it and say you tried but your still going looking for advice and help and keep going please! I'm no expert and couldn't be further from it but just from my own point of view try to keep meds out of it but definitely stay in touch with your/hers gp and see what other avenues are available. Chin up op one good day can overshadow more than you realise |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i have amazing partner who has rared her own and feel bad i putting on here ,but we get there i hope ,as soon as they finish education we off to live in spain ,sorry Ireland but we done our dark days xx"
Could be a bit of a pipe dream tbh. Still a minimum of five years. Just keep being there for them, be that good adult. Don’t react and tell them you love them often. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"wrecking my head,cant seem to do anything right ,appricate any advice ??
only as good as last yes "
Op. You have your work cut out for you. 15 going on 30. They know it all but really at the end of the day all daughters are daddy’s girls no matter what they do wrong. It will get easier |
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
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Some replies beggar belief on this!
OP do your best by your kids.
You are a loving Dad and reinforcement of that will always benefit.
Keep telling them how much you love them.
Explain about how "peers" tell stories of what they do that are totally bullshit.
As my mother used to say, you're like a pike swimming upriver and prepared to swallow anything, in relation to the stories I was being told.
I would strongly advise both a counsellor and a Wellness/Reiki type therapist for your daughter that's harming herself. One to understand & discuss, the other to show her how to meditate, relax and understand her feelings.
PM me for one of the latter if you need to.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I remember always asking other parents about teenage daughters and the general consensus was they were a nightmare
Have to say my teenage sons were easier to deal with "
I found the total opposite, my daughters were way easier than their older brother, still are even though he's almost 24 |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"I remember always asking other parents about teenage daughters and the general consensus was they were a nightmare
Have to say my teenage sons were easier to deal with
I found the total opposite, my daughters were way easier than their older brother, still are even though he's almost 24"
I'm told myself and my daughter are too alike and thats why we rise each other |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I remember always asking other parents about teenage daughters and the general consensus was they were a nightmare
Have to say my teenage sons were easier to deal with
I found the total opposite, my daughters were way easier than their older brother, still are even though he's almost 24
I'm told myself and my daughter are too alike and thats why we rise each other "
My son is very like his father |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"I remember always asking other parents about teenage daughters and the general consensus was they were a nightmare
Have to say my teenage sons were easier to deal with "
As the saying goes: sons wreck your house and daughters your head. |
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"It’s like having a ghost in the house... you occasionally see a dark figure in the corner of your vision, it moans and then a door slams. "
Ha! I remember well... they do grow out of it and become lovely again.., hang on in there! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"wrecking my head,cant seem to do anything right ,appricate any advice ??
only as good as last yes "
My 95 year old grandmother moves quicker than our 14 year old daughter
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I've got three daughters two past the teenage years and 1 in the middle of it. My oldest I think for a long time we didn't really talk, i say black she say white attitude. One day I actually lost it broke down in tears .I felt she hated me and as much at times I wanted to kill her its upset me so much.
We sat and spoke....... the teenage years are the hardest the more you give the more they want. What I will say it does get better my oddest is 24 soon and we get on really well now.  |
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Ask them to spend time with you. Like they pick a movie, or they find a recipe to cook etc.. youll be surprised how they will open up to you. Either that or fall out with you. But keep trying they are kinda lost too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is all ahead of me....I think I may go on a very long fishing trip 
...I actually think my daughter will be easier to handle than my son -he’s 12 going on 15 and the last few months we can barely get through a day without arguing over something.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I may have missed it but I didn't see any one talking about therapy.
It's a shame people still think of therapy for times where you are depressed, while it's nothing like that. It's not for crazy people either.
Therapy can help you learn more about yourself, understand your feelings, help you deal with challenges, breakups, "love"… so on and so forth. I have been doing therapy for the past 4 years now, and I cannot recommend it enough. I just wish I had began sooner. |
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By *oserMan
over a year ago
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"I may have missed it but I didn't see any one talking about therapy.
It's a shame people still think of therapy for times where you are depressed, while it's nothing like that. It's not for crazy people either.
Therapy can help you learn more about yourself, understand your feelings, help you deal with challenges, breakups, "love"… so on and so forth. I have been doing therapy for the past 4 years now, and I cannot recommend it enough. I just wish I had began sooner."
Yrp, you missed it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My daughter was a pain in the ass for about 3 years. Total nightmare,wouldnt speak to me, knew everything. Thankfully they grow out of it. Now we are besties. Give it time Op. |
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no issues with daughter. Keep talking to them, be supportive, keep driving them everywhere. Son is being a bit tricky though, so you cant generalise. Also they my look grown up but theyre still kids and their brains are still forming, so dont expect much common sense. Mobile phones are evil and a blight on their youth. |
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