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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So as we enter a new year and another few months (hopefully not too many) of restrictions/lockdown how are singles supposed to date?
I've come to the conclusion after the last long 9 months that I'd like to date so where the hell does a person start  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Found dating sites are just as bad as here. And when guys notice ur on dating sites and been on here there persume ur fair game. Dont think men get it . There comes a time and esp in these climates having nsa sex fun whatever u want to call it us a v lonely place. Hope u have more luck then i have .  |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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If you're dating someone new why would you tell them you're on here.
Is it part of a conversation you'd have or would you wait a while
Someone had a dating group going on here did you try that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you're dating someone new why would you tell them you're on here.
Is it part of a conversation you'd have or would you wait a while
Someone had a dating group going on here did you try that "
Not sure if I would say anything about here tbh but than again there's not much to say.
Was in the dating group but most of the guys were nearer Dublin or the South plus I find I get lost in chat groups im crap at flirting at the best of times never mind when trying to "compete" for attention |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I came off them all as all the guys are here lol. They poke you out in then sites aswell and are not there for real proper dating.
Still just want sex immediately. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I came off them all as all the guys are here lol. They poke you out in then sites aswell and are not there for real proper dating.
Still just want sex immediately. "
Excatly and what i find funny they can get aggressive when u say its dating im after. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I came off them all as all the guys are here lol. They poke you out in then sites aswell and are not there for real proper dating.
Still just want sex immediately. Excatly and what i find funny they can get aggressive when u say its dating im after. "
Yes it's so annoying. |
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"I came off them all as all the guys are here lol. They poke you out in then sites aswell and are not there for real proper dating.
Still just want sex immediately. Excatly and what i find funny they can get aggressive when u say its dating im after. "
It then that tells you all you need to know about them. There should be respect wether someone is on here or a dating site. If you are on a dating site surely guys should realise women are actually looking to date, to be in a relationship and a relationship is much more than just sex. I was on tinder and actually met someone so came off here for early a year. Ok it didn’t last but that’s dating. Don’t give up op |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tinder is a gift. I found it really good for meeting people. Had loads of dates, met plenty of lovely girls, some I’m still very friendly with. Beats going to sweaty bar or club trying to spark up conversation in a smelly smoking area. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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I wouldn't go near a dating site if I wanted to date. Not my thing. I'd prefer to meet people the old fashion way, ie activities that match your interest.
Also as far as I know there's a lot of deception going on on sites like tinder just to get a leg over. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't go near a dating site if I wanted to date. Not my thing. I'd prefer to meet people the old fashion way, ie activities that match your interest.
Also as far as I know there's a lot of deception going on on sites like tinder just to get a leg over."
At moment hard to meet guys the old fashioned way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tinder is a gift. I found it really good for meeting people. Had loads of dates, met plenty of lovely girls, some I’m still very friendly with. Beats going to sweaty bar or club trying to spark up conversation in a smelly smoking area."
I would have stayed on Tinder if you were in my area. Instead of have to avoid accidentally swiping on your second cousin |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like anything, we can’t go into something with expectations. If you do, you’re only setting yourself up for disappointment.
Like the advice all single guys get here, fab owes you nothing and you should go into it with no expectations or have a sense that it should be easy to get sex.
That’s the way people need to look at tinder/bumble etc. Just because you’re simply ON a dating app, it doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy to get nice dates or a relationship nor should anyone think they’re entitled to get anything easily. And especially in the middle of a pandemic.
Like Fab, people are on dating sites for a multitude of reasons - sex, dating, relationships, hookups, FWB, threesomes, open relationships. After all, who uses these apps only people and people are vastly different in their wants and needs, just as in Fab.
Like anything in these unprecedented times, dating is simply going to be incredibly hit and miss as we aren’t even supposed to be meeting at all so it’s going to be a hard ask to have any “success” at it. And it’s highly unlikely any guy or woman is going to want to chat to someone on a dating app from now until March before meeting - because being realistic that’s going to be this next time you’re allowed to meet anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Like anything, we can’t go into something with expectations. If you do, you’re only setting yourself up for disappointment.
Like the advice all single guys get here, fab owes you nothing and you should go into it with no expectations or have a sense that it should be easy to get sex.
That’s the way people need to look at tinder/bumble etc. Just because you’re simply ON a dating app, it doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy to get nice dates or a relationship nor should anyone think they’re entitled to get anything easily. And especially in the middle of a pandemic.
Like Fab, people are on dating sites for a multitude of reasons - sex, dating, relationships, hookups, FWB, threesomes, open relationships. After all, who uses these apps only people and people are vastly different in their wants and needs, just as in Fab.
Like anything in these unprecedented times, dating is simply going to be incredibly hit and miss as we aren’t even supposed to be meeting at all so it’s going to be a hard ask to have any “success” at it. And it’s highly unlikely any guy or woman is going to want to chat to someone on a dating app from now until March before meeting - because being realistic that’s going to be this next time you’re allowed to meet anyone. "
Totally agree with the no expectations other than maybe chatting to someone with the similar outlook on dating and life. The few times I've tried the dating apps it hasn't been fruitful so don't plan on rejoining at the moment.
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I was watching YouTube the other day and a girl was getting ready to go on a zoom date, she actually said it was as positive as she hoped. The positive side was she felt safe in her own home and was chatting for ages and have decided to keep it up until its safe for them both to meet via zoom dates
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It’s strange, I would have thought that the inability to meet would have almost reset the dating scene back to conversations and getting to know people better
It’s been a long time since I’ve been on the dating scene obviously 
When I did use it I found Badoo quite good for just getting to talk to people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't go near a dating site if I wanted to date. Not my thing. I'd prefer to meet people the old fashion way, ie activities that match your interest.
Also as far as I know there's a lot of deception going on on sites like tinder just to get a leg over."
Easier said that done in activities in my experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a conversation with one of my female friends who is in separation (both swingers) and she said she will definitely avoid dating sites like Tinder or Harmony
She said better to find somebody with same interests on any swinger site.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't go near a dating site if I wanted to date. Not my thing. I'd prefer to meet people the old fashion way, ie activities that match your interest.
Also as far as I know there's a lot of deception going on on sites like tinder just to get a leg over."
I think one of my friends will agree with you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that for men who are both on fab and dating sites it’s much easier to get casual sex on dating sites than here. Not that that’s all men are looking for, but if a man happens to be on both, then it’s more likely to be something casual he’s looking for.
I think that’s going to be mostly true of women who are both here and on dating sites |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was watching YouTube the other day and a girl was getting ready to go on a zoom date, she actually said it was as positive as she hoped. The positive side was she felt safe in her own home and was chatting for ages and have decided to keep it up until its safe for them both to meet via zoom dates
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was watching YouTube the other day and a girl was getting ready to go on a zoom date, she actually said it was as positive as she hoped. The positive side was she felt safe in her own home and was chatting for ages and have decided to keep it up until its safe for them both to meet via zoom
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That seems like a good idea
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Tinder is a load of bollox.. Can only send messages when you match with the other person.. What's wrong with unsolicited messages anyway.. Part of the fun of it all is the randomness of it.. Badoo is better but not much.. You need 200 credits to message most people.. POF is the best of them I think.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Badoo and POF are cesspits in my opinion. At least on tinder and bumble you both know there is some sort of attraction before you have to bother messaging.
Less time wasting for guys and I’m sure much less torture for women with no unsolicited messaging |
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Dating apps are the worst but then they're not designed for people to leave, they want you there paying your fees and being advertised to.
I'm actually organising an online speed dating event offsite. Think it will be a great way to meet people and actually chat, hopefully some real connections will be made from it too. |
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"Dating apps are the worst but then they're not designed for people to leave, they want you there paying your fees and being advertised to.
I'm actually organising an online speed dating event offsite. Think it will be a great way to meet people and actually chat, hopefully some real connections will be made from it too. "
Sounds good, let me know if you need any women participants!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am done with those dating apps, it's a waste of time, fab dating app next lol. That would be good fun as least you know the guys you are going to date will know and understand your desires and needs before you begin dating them.   |
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By *londy84Man
over a year ago
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It's all boloks
Here or dating sites
No luck on any so far
I'm more of a old fashion man go out for a dinner and find out more about each other.
And now days not sure if it's any good.
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"Dating apps are the worst but then they're not designed for people to leave, they want you there paying your fees and being advertised to.
I'm actually organising an online speed dating event offsite. Think it will be a great way to meet people and actually chat, hopefully some real connections will be made from it too.
Sounds good, let me know if you need any women participants! "
Will do, just getting the men squared away first as they tend to be harder to pin down |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am done with those dating apps, it's a waste of time, fab dating app next lol. That would be good fun as least you know the guys you are going to date will know and understand your desires and needs before you begin dating them. "
Now there's an idea! I'd join |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Dating apps are the worst but then they're not designed for people to leave, they want you there paying your fees and being advertised to.
I'm actually organising an online speed dating event offsite. Think it will be a great way to meet people and actually chat, hopefully some real connections will be made from it too. "
Oh sign me up |
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"I am done with those dating apps, it's a waste of time, fab dating app next lol. That would be good fun as least you know the guys you are going to date will know and understand your desires and needs before you begin dating them. "
I've never tried any dating apps I'd rather old school but this id join if there was one.. |
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"Dating apps are the worst but then they're not designed for people to leave, they want you there paying your fees and being advertised to.
I'm actually organising an online speed dating event offsite. Think it will be a great way to meet people and actually chat, hopefully some real connections will be made from it too.
I’d be interested in this!
Sounds good, let me know if you need any women participants!
Will do, just getting the men squared away first as they tend to be harder to pin down "
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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago
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"If you're dating someone new why would you tell them you're on here.
Is it part of a conversation you'd have or would you wait a while
Someone had a dating group going on here did you try that
Not sure if I would say anything about here tbh but than again there's not much to say.
Was in the dating group but most of the guys were nearer Dublin or the South plus I find I get lost in chat groups im crap at flirting at the best of times never mind when trying to "compete" for attention"
There are very few guys in the group from or near Dublin now. Just sayin.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is screwfix.com any good "
I met a screwfix employee off Fab. Never did come back to finish the job. But sure if you want a job done right do it yourself  |
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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago
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"Is screwfix.com any good
I met a screwfix employee off Fab. Never did come back to finish the job. But sure if you want a job done right do it yourself "
If you really want it done right get a professional..... |
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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago
Dublin west |
When this covid crap is behind us try meetup.
You join groups with people with similar interests and its a good way to meet people.
If you find love great. If you don't you meet new friends and get to hang out with people similar to yourself.
The rest of the dating sites are fickle false pits of crap.. |
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"Dating apps are the worst but then they're not designed for people to leave, they want you there paying your fees and being advertised to.
I'm actually organising an online speed dating event offsite. Think it will be a great way to meet people and actually chat, hopefully some real connections will be made from it too.
Sounds good, let me know if you need any women participants! "
Hey lula. I can't pm you as im outside your age range. Get in touch if you'd like me to send the link  |
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By *anKinkyMan
over a year ago
Carrick on Shannon |
This thing on dating sites and here about lets chat and meet up after covid is a load of BX,lets call a spade a spade,most of 2021 is shot,us single people are living in Limbo Land at the moment and yes it's emotionally and physically challenging,We're just Cast Aways! Wilson..Wilson..Wilson..   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dating apps are the worst but then they're not designed for people to leave, they want you there paying your fees and being advertised to.
I'm actually organising an online speed dating event offsite. Think it will be a great way to meet people and actually chat, hopefully some real connections will be made from it too. "
Trying to pm you but can't? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I absolutely hate tinder. It's too superficial and like others have said. Most lads on other sites are also here. So I'll take my chances with here. "
Heres about as good a site has any. Let's hope fab dating gets off the ground |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So as we enter a new year and another few months (hopefully not too many) of restrictions/lockdown how are singles supposed to date?
I've come to the conclusion after the last long 9 months that I'd like to date so where the hell does a person start "
Plenty of nature to see in Sligo!
One could start a date with a walk on the beach and maybe progress to a hike up a hill, or a walk through the park...
A repeat date could lead to a stroll through a forest...
Once you feel comfortable to let your date inside your bubble, you can invite each other over for food and maybe more  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regarding Tinder:
I delete my tinder when I'm in Ireland, as I live in a small town and it's just not interesting.
But when I go travelling to other countries it can be amazing.
Last year I had a 1 night stopover in an Italian city, I arrived at 10pm on a weekday in a quiet part of town - nothing happening for about a mile around me.
I logged onto Tinder and had a date within an hour, met at a pub that had about 6 people in it.
1 drink turned into 3, 3 drinks turned into back at my place An amazingly genuine girl and great memories.
If it weren't for the handiness of Tinder that night, I would have just went to sleep for sure.
Yes it's super superficial, but it does have its spur of the moments! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So as we enter a new year and another few months (hopefully not too many) of restrictions/lockdown how are singles supposed to date?
I've come to the conclusion after the last long 9 months that I'd like to date so where the hell does a person start
Plenty of nature to see in Sligo!
One could start a date with a walk on the beach and maybe progress to a hike up a hill, or a walk through the park...
A repeat date could lead to a stroll through a forest...
Once you feel comfortable to let your date inside your bubble, you can invite each other over for food and maybe more "
Ah sounds like a dream |
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By *dfabMan
over a year ago
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If I were single again, I'd definitely use here first.
I'd make it clear in my profile what I was searching for and definitely use the 3 date minimum before any sexual contact. At least it's a more open and honest platform than most and you can, generally, have an idea of the person first and actual real contact won't be before you've had a chance to get an idea of them, from profile or forum posts.
Much better than old school chance meeting a friend of a friend, where you have feck all clue, other than the friend thinks you'd be a good match.
At least here you have an idea if you're sexually interested in the same things and, if they're a regular forumite, how they see the world.
Not many sites will give you that combination.
Update your profile accordingly and best of luck OP |
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By *anKinkyMan
over a year ago
Carrick on Shannon |
"Regarding Tinder:
I delete my tinder when I'm in Ireland, as I live in a small town and it's just not interesting.
But when I go travelling to other countries it can be amazing.
Last year I had a 1 night stopover in an Italian city, I arrived at 10pm on a weekday in a quiet part of town - nothing happening for about a mile around me.
I logged onto Tinder and had a date within an hour, met at a pub that had about 6 people in it.
1 drink turned into 3, 3 drinks turned into back at my place An amazingly genuine girl and great memories.
If it weren't for the handiness of Tinder that night, I would have just went to sleep for sure.
Yes it's super superficial, but it does have its spur of the moments!"
Totally agree,thought I was the only one,my dating apps come alive once I leave Ireland,I think it's the age old chivalry thing here, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m so naive but I would have thought that a dating site is when you are looking something more akin of a relationship and Fab is purely an explore your sexual experience site. I’m Norma sure I would look for a long term partner on this site. Maybe I am wrong and time will tell. |
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I'm in a face book dating group and it's quite good as you get to see the personality through meme questions, I'm very picky and don't want someone who curses a lot of is quite negative and you see that over time on the page.
Oh! And you get to stalk their pictures |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"I'm in a face book dating group and it's quite good as you get to see the personality through meme questions, I'm very picky and don't want someone who curses a lot of is quite negative and you see that over time on the page.
Oh! And you get to stalk their pictures "
In the facebook group doesn't everyone lose their anonymity |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m so naive but I would have thought that a dating site is when you are looking something more akin of a relationship and Fab is purely an explore your sexual experience site. I’m Norma sure I would look for a long term partner on this site. Maybe I am wrong and time will tell. "
Hard to know. I know people who have met through here so its possible.
As someone said above at least here you know they have a kinky side lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d give it a go, what have you to lose?
It can be difficult to get the flow of conversation going on tinder, some won’t chat or just disappear altogether.
Not much else to be these days and a lot of people who previously wouldn’t have used dating sites/apps are using them. These are very lonely times for people. |
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I think dating sites are tough because everyone has an agenda. And there's the fear of missing out. This prevents people from choosing a person and if your agenda is sex, marriage, children this is where their mind is gone before they have even got to know the person.
Leave space for the unknown. Chat to random people. Everyone you chat to has the potential to let you learn more about yourself. Enjoy the chat. Enjoy the moment. Life is simple if you make it so. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There is a fab dating group. Its actually how me and the boss met.
We can literally talk about anything. Its very refreshing "
Lovely to see its possible to meet someoneand have successful relationship here |
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"I think dating sites are tough because everyone has an agenda. And there's the fear of missing out. This prevents people from choosing a person and if your agenda is sex, marriage, children this is where their mind is gone before they have even got to know the person.
Leave space for the unknown. Chat to random people. Everyone you chat to has the potential to let you learn more about yourself. Enjoy the chat. Enjoy the moment. Life is simple if you make it so. "
In the spirit of this, just wanted to out it out there to the ladies that I'm holding virtual speed dating this Saturday at 8pm. Numbers are great so you'll have at least 10 mini dates on the night and will be a great way to meet some new people and open some doors into 2021. Pm me for details. |
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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago
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"I think dating sites are tough because everyone has an agenda. And there's the fear of missing out. This prevents people from choosing a person and if your agenda is sex, marriage, children this is where their mind is gone before they have even got to know the person.
Leave space for the unknown. Chat to random people. Everyone you chat to has the potential to let you learn more about yourself. Enjoy the chat. Enjoy the moment. Life is simple if you make it so.
In the spirit of this, just wanted to out it out there to the ladies that I'm holding virtual speed dating this Saturday at 8pm. Numbers are great so you'll have at least 10 mini dates on the night and will be a great way to meet some new people and open some doors into 2021. Pm me for details. "
Best of luck with this Havana. I met my partner in a fab dating group so it is possible. |
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I dream of finding a lady that i can share my heart with, travel, take to dinner, holidays, vanilla activities. I still believe in holding the door open for a lady, chivalry and that long lost virtue treating her with respect. But i also love to watch my partner having fun with other people.
I would ideally like a proper relationship with a lady who also enjoys this lifestyle, is there one out there for me??? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think dating sites are tough because everyone has an agenda. And there's the fear of missing out. This prevents people from choosing a person and if your agenda is sex, marriage, children this is where their mind is gone before they have even got to know the person.
Leave space for the unknown. Chat to random people. Everyone you chat to has the potential to let you learn more about yourself. Enjoy the chat. Enjoy the moment. Life is simple if you make it so.
In the spirit of this, just wanted to out it out there to the ladies that I'm holding virtual speed dating this Saturday at 8pm. Numbers are great so you'll have at least 10 mini dates on the night and will be a great way to meet some new people and open some doors into 2021. Pm me for details. "
Oh how did this go ? |
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"I came off them all as all the guys are here lol. They poke you out in then sites aswell and are not there for real proper dating.
Still just want sex immediately. Excatly and what i find funny they can get aggressive when u say its dating im after. "
Freinds with benefits not as close as dating
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