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"Read your profile and to be blunt, why the drama? You say the site promises but doesn't deliver, what do you mean by that? Are your expectations a little Hugh perhaps? I don't think you want to leave I think you want to be convinced to stay otherwise why not just go without the song and dance? If it's not working out for you just leave its not going to be the end of your world I'm sure and prob the best thing if it's making you feel bad. All the best ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Haha a little high not Hugh ![]() There goes that petty predict again lol. | |||
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"Haha a little high not Hugh ![]() Gets me in trouble lol | |||
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"I joined this site a year ago this week. I heard about it on Today FM. After one year no success. I'm not new to this and know how the game is played. My profile explains more. All the best. " Bye | |||
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"I joined this site a year ago this week. I heard about it on Today FM. After one year no success. I'm not new to this and know how the game is played. My profile explains more. All the best. " “I’m not new to this” “I heard about the site on today fm” What circles were you swinging in that you had to listen to today fm to find out about fab? | |||
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"I joined this site a year ago this week. I heard about it on Today FM. After one year no success. I'm not new to this and know how the game is played. My profile explains more. All the best. " Nobody cares fella.. Best off to have no expectations when when you join a site like this.. You did and still have that's why you're so disappointed now.. Pathetic really.. ![]() | |||
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"Take it east on the OP, these are depressing times! Hang in there OP, Rome wasn't built in a day. There's some really super awesome human beings on here, mainly of the female variety ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I concur. | |||
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"Take it east on the OP, these are depressing times! Hang in there OP, Rome wasn't built in a day. There's some really super awesome human beings on here, mainly of the female variety ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Cheers Manmancub ![]() | |||
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"Take it east on the OP, these are depressing times! Hang in there OP, Rome wasn't built in a day. There's some really super awesome human beings on here, mainly of the female variety ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() There's loads of amazing men and ladies on this site. That's why so many people do end up staying. But sometimes as a single guy it takes a while to break in to the scene especially now during a global pandemic. You can always stay and use the forums to learn more about the lifestyle. | |||
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".... Fab is not a magic sex site...." Inkorrect Rosebush ![]() | |||
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"Take it east on the OP, these are depressing times! Hang in there OP, Rome wasn't built in a day. There's some really super awesome human beings on here, mainly of the female variety ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Single men are at the bottom of the fab food chain! The Manbeast is on top ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Take it east on the OP, these are depressing times! Hang in there OP, Rome wasn't built in a day. There's some really super awesome human beings on here, mainly of the female variety ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() For the love of God don't offend the incels here ![]() | |||
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"Take it east on the OP, these are depressing times! Hang in there OP, Rome wasn't built in a day. There's some really super awesome human beings on here, mainly of the female variety ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Offense is fragrance from Thunderkiss© ![]() | |||
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"I believe guys join up thinKing they are going to have access to endless amounts of sex from desperate women and then end up disappointed because they don’t get their dick wet ![]() I agree with this 100% | |||
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"I read your profile band it says joined 3 months ago ?" Was wondering when someone would point that out ![]() | |||
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"I read your profile band it says joined 3 months ago ?" This. The site promises nobody anything when they join OP. How you use it and the success you have is down to you. As others have suggested maybe hide your profile for a while rather than keep rejoining. V | |||
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"I read your profile band it says joined 3 months ago ? Was wondering when someone would point that out ![]() Fab is a magical place where correct numbers don't apply. Sure I'm 100 but have to say I'm 99 ![]() | |||
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"3 months is bad when were in the middle of civil but using this site each day for 3 months in normal times is not a short period " covid | |||
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"I joined this site a year ago this week. I heard about it on Today FM. After one year no success. I'm not new to this and know how the game is played. My profile explains more. All the best. " You joined just as covid came along . What makes me worried is your still looking to get your leg over when were in the middle of a pandemic. ![]() | |||
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"I joined this site a year ago this week. I heard about it on Today FM. After one year no success. I'm not new to this and know how the game is played. My profile explains more. All the best. " It's down to numbers more than anything I assure you. You are a single male on a site full of them. Your profile states you are looking for women (not couples) so how many single women do you think there are here and how many within a realistic distance of you? How many want to chat to someone they know they'll possibly never be able to meet even when lockdown is over? I'm sure your messages have been polite but whilst your inbox is empty most days, females and couples get deluged with mail mostly from guys who haven't even bothered to read their profiles first. Expecting them to read and reply to every one just because they're polite (which many are not) is asking a lot, especially when so many come from people who aren't at all what they're looking for. Yes some people are happy just to chat/correspond but there are so many guys out there who want to chat, it becomes an impossible task. It's really nothing personal but a combination of the male v female ratio and I do think the unrealistic expectations of many guys who join. The flip side of the coin is that any females/couples here can easily find a different guy every day of the week if they so wish. That's just the reality of sites like this. Look at it this way - if you went to a pick up bar every day with 100 men to every woman how long do you think you'd have to wait to get noticed, let alone more? I'm sure you'd quickly realise you have little or no chance and not be surprised. If you do stay here, lower your expectations, keep being polite, restrict your messages to females who at appear to be looking for what you're offering and don't take a lack of a response as a personal insult because they'll be getting lots of messages just like yours every day if they're active here. Best of luck. | |||
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"Fab aint an airport lad" So no duty free? ![]() | |||
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"Fab aint an airport lad So no duty free? ![]() No import tax no guarantee on hooky Street ![]() | |||
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"Fab aint an airport lad So no duty free? ![]() ![]() God bless Hooky Street ![]() | |||
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"I joined this site a year ago this week. I heard about it on Today FM. After one year no success. I'm not new to this and know how the game is played. My profile explains more. All the best. " After a year and no success, maybe you should reconsider how "the game is played"? ![]() | |||
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"I joined this site a year ago this week. I heard about it on Today FM. After one year no success. I'm not new to this and know how the game is played. My profile explains more. All the best. " Perhaps you should phone up Today FM and complain? | |||
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"Well thanks for all the replies. I have enough life experience to not expect nor do I want to simply get my dick wet. There is more to life than that. My original post says it how it is. If messages are not even getting read how are you supposed to connect. There is nothing wrong with seeking some intimacy apart from anything else. The majority on here are seeking some sort of intimacy be it usual or unusual varieties. It has not been a complete loss. Am in regular contact with one member here but distance and lockdowns have prevented any sort of meetings even for an introductory coffee. I had no expectations of this site. It was simply an exploration. Returning a message is not cumpulsory I get that. But given the complaints I see on the majority of the female profiles about aggression and dick pics why don't people respond to non aggressive non dick pic messages. I dont think I am alone in this pondering. " So let's say I get a polite opening message asking how I am and I reply. All good thanks chit chat over and back maybe swap a face pic. I say I'm not interested and than the abuse starts. So I'm cautious in replying to anyone now just because you say you are polite etc doesn't mean you won't get nasty when you are turned down. I have received abusive messages from guys that have met people on this site, are verified and claim to be genuine, professional, discreet guys. One guy who I had never interacted with who was verified felt he had to message me and ask who did I think was going to fxxk a fat whale like me. So if you know how it works stock with it and get to know people and the ones that don't want to get to know ya, their loss. | |||
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"Well thanks for all the replies. I have enough life experience to not expect nor do I want to simply So let's say I get a polite opening message asking how I am and I reply. All good thanks chit chat over and back maybe swap a face pic. I say I'm not interested and than the abuse starts. So I'm cautious in replying to anyone now just because you say you are polite etc doesn't mean you won't get nasty when you are turned down. I have received abusive messages from guys that have met people on this site, are verified and claim to be genuine, professional, discreet guys. One guy who I had never interacted with who was verified felt he had to message me and ask who did I think was going to fxxk a fat whale like me. So if you know how it works stock with it and get to know people and the ones that don't want to get to know ya, their loss. " well I've enough intelligence and maturity not to get aggressive or abusive. As I've said replying is not cumpuldory. I have had some replies at least to acknowledge a message and advising not for me but best of luck. My typical response is thanks for replying and taking the time to reply. Its interesting to read some of the responses to this post. Half are polite and offering encouragement. The others not so. For those who are at least being positive. Thank you. | |||
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"How about leave the op alone he came for help and advice and there's a lot of laughing at his expense, maybe he's had 2 accounts in the past year! Dont worry op hang in there! It will come good for you! " There ya go! Leave him alone ta fuck ![]() | |||
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"Well thanks for all the replies. I have enough life experience to not expect nor do I want to simply So let's say I get a polite opening message asking how I am and I reply. All good thanks chit chat over and back maybe swap a face pic. I say I'm not interested and than the abuse starts. So I'm cautious in replying to anyone now just because you say you are polite etc doesn't mean you won't get nasty when you are turned down. I have received abusive messages from guys that have met people on this site, are verified and claim to be genuine, professional, discreet guys. One guy who I had never interacted with who was verified felt he had to message me and ask who did I think was going to fxxk a fat whale like me. So if you know how it works stock with it and get to know people and the ones that don't want to get to know ya, their loss. well I've enough intelligence and maturity not to get aggressive or abusive. As I've said replying is not cumpuldory. I have had some replies at least to acknowledge a message and advising not for me but best of luck. My typical response is thanks for replying and taking the time to reply. Its interesting to read some of the responses to this post. Half are polite and offering encouragement. The others not so. For those who are at least being positive. Thank you. " Best of luck op | |||
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" But given the complaints I see on the majority of the female profiles about aggression and dick pics why don't people respond to non aggressive non dick pic messages. I dont think I am alone in this pondering. " Have you any idea how many messages females who're active here get every day let alone every week? At what point are they allowed to get fed up with saying the same thing time and time again? It's accepted here that a no reply to an unsolicited message should not be seen as a personal insult for that very reason. If your messages are unopened then the recipients don't know how polite they are do they. Neither do they know how relevant you are to their needs. They're probably just overloaded. You really do need to get over the frustration you feel because it's purely down to the volume of mail women get. | |||
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"This isn’t an airport, no need to announce your departure. " I don’t even think people in airports do that.... | |||
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"Single males are the least desirable demographic on here and are completely oversubscribed. I haven’t met a soul from this and I’ve been on it years. Partly my choice but also because most of the time I can’t get a dog to bark at me. Just how it is on here ![]() I'd disagree, single men aren't the least desirable to me, they are the reason, the only reason I'm here. ![]() | |||
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"Single males are the least desirable demographic on here and are completely oversubscribed. I haven’t met a soul from this and I’ve been on it years. Partly my choice but also because most of the time I can’t get a dog to bark at me. Just how it is on here ![]() ![]() You're most welcome ![]() | |||
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"Single males are the least desirable demographic on here and are completely oversubscribed. I haven’t met a soul from this and I’ve been on it years. Partly my choice but also because most of the time I can’t get a dog to bark at me. Just how it is on here ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Single males are the least desirable demographic on here and are completely oversubscribed. I haven’t met a soul from this and I’ve been on it years. Partly my choice but also because most of the time I can’t get a dog to bark at me. Just how it is on here ![]() ![]() Same all about the singles lads ![]() | |||
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"Single males are the least desirable demographic on here and are completely oversubscribed. I haven’t met a soul from this and I’ve been on it years. Partly my choice but also because most of the time I can’t get a dog to bark at me. Just how it is on here ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Honestly I don't know why you guys are giving him advice. He said it himself - he knows how it all goes and he's not new to all this ![]() Love this. | |||
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"This isn’t an airport, no need to announce your departure. " No departure, just an announcement ![]() | |||
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"Single males are the least desirable demographic on here and are completely oversubscribed. I haven’t met a soul from this and I’ve been on it years. Partly my choice but also because most of the time I can’t get a dog to bark at me. Just how it is on here ![]() now I don't know what your mails are like to women but u look like a good inshape lad. it doesn't make sense that u would struggle but if you are doing everything right it just shows the nature of the site. | |||
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"now I don't know what your mails are like to women but u look like a good inshape lad. it doesn't make sense that u would struggle but if you are doing everything right it just shows the nature of the site. " Pretty rare is the answer. I do occasionally try to muster up some chat with profiles I like the look of, but it’s like getting blood from a stone. Annoying? Yes, but they’ve probably 200 other men trying the same. I’ve accepted how this site is, if men are after a load of riding tinder would be my advice. | |||
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"now I don't know what your mails are like to women but u look like a good inshape lad. it doesn't make sense that u would struggle but if you are doing everything right it just shows the nature of the site. Pretty rare is the answer. I do occasionally try to muster up some chat with profiles I like the look of, but it’s like getting blood from a stone. Annoying? Yes, but they’ve probably 200 other men trying the same. I’ve accepted how this site is, if men are after a load of riding tinder would be my advice. " I agree re tinder. on this site an awful lot of it is luck. women probably take an awful lot into consideration also | |||
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"now I don't know what your mails are like to women but u look like a good inshape lad. it doesn't make sense that u would struggle but if you are doing everything right it just shows the nature of the site. Pretty rare is the answer. I do occasionally try to muster up some chat with profiles I like the look of, but it’s like getting blood from a stone. Annoying? Yes, but they’ve probably 200 other men trying the same. I’ve accepted how this site is, if men are after a load of riding tinder would be my advice. I agree re tinder. on this site an awful lot of it is luck. women probably take an awful lot into consideration also " You keep telling yourself its luck lad ![]() | |||
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"now I don't know what your mails are like to women but u look like a good inshape lad. it doesn't make sense that u would struggle but if you are doing everything right it just shows the nature of the site. Pretty rare is the answer. I do occasionally try to muster up some chat with profiles I like the look of, but it’s like getting blood from a stone. Annoying? Yes, but they’ve probably 200 other men trying the same. I’ve accepted how this site is, if men are after a load of riding tinder would be my advice. I agree re tinder. on this site an awful lot of it is luck. women probably take an awful lot into consideration also You keep telling yourself its luck lad ![]() of course a proportion of it is luck. | |||
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"Well, at least one person concurs with me-got a very kind message from a couple this morning expressing the same frustration. " Hopefully this leads somewhere for the 3 of you | |||
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"now I don't know what your mails are like to women but u look like a good inshape lad. it doesn't make sense that u would struggle but if you are doing everything right it just shows the nature of the site. Pretty rare is the answer. I do occasionally try to muster up some chat with profiles I like the look of, but it’s like getting blood from a stone. Annoying? Yes, but they’ve probably 200 other men trying the same. I’ve accepted how this site is, if men are after a load of riding tinder would be my advice. I agree re tinder. on this site an awful lot of it is luck. women probably take an awful lot into consideration also You keep telling yourself its luck lad ![]() Obviously a proportion of if you meet a certain person is luck.. like if they are meeting at the time or even opening mails... Long term success on here is not down to luck | |||
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"now I don't know what your mails are like to women but u look like a good inshape lad. it doesn't make sense that u would struggle but if you are doing everything right it just shows the nature of the site. Pretty rare is the answer. I do occasionally try to muster up some chat with profiles I like the look of, but it’s like getting blood from a stone. Annoying? Yes, but they’ve probably 200 other men trying the same. I’ve accepted how this site is, if men are after a load of riding tinder would be my advice. I agree re tinder. on this site an awful lot of it is luck. women probably take an awful lot into consideration also You keep telling yourself its luck lad ![]() mailing any profile on here that takes your fancy, she could have 40 plus inboxed mails. getting a reply will have numerous factors but one is luck. if you build up a name for yourself on the forum, you might get on better in the future but if you're a relatively good looking lad, nice profile and pics, nice opening mails and you're struggling here after a prolonged period of time, 3/4 months, it just shows the nature of the website. I'm speaking in normal times and not with current covid. | |||
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"... Long term success on here is not down to luck mailing any profile on here that takes your fancy, she could have 40 plus inboxed mails. getting a reply will have numerous factors but one is luck. if you build up a name for yourself on the forum, you might get on better in the future but if you're a relatively good looking lad, nice profile and pics, nice opening mails and you're struggling here after a prolonged period of time, 3/4 months, it just shows the nature of the website. I'm speaking in normal times and not with current covid. " Who is judging if those people have nice pics/profile and mails though? The people that struggle dont struggle because of bad luck.... But they are the type of people that blame bad luck. Also the nature of the website is different to luck. There is clearly right ways to interact and become part of the community here and a wrong ways. That again isn't luck though | |||
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"... Long term success on here is not down to luck mailing any profile on here that takes your fancy, she could have 40 plus inboxed mails. getting a reply will have numerous factors but one is luck. if you build up a name for yourself on the forum, you might get on better in the future but if you're a relatively good looking lad, nice profile and pics, nice opening mails and you're struggling here after a prolonged period of time, 3/4 months, it just shows the nature of the website. I'm speaking in normal times and not with current covid. Who is judging if those people have nice pics/profile and mails though? The people that struggle dont struggle because of bad luck.... But they are the type of people that blame bad luck. Also the nature of the website is different to luck. There is clearly right ways to interact and become part of the community here and a wrong ways. That again isn't luck though" part of the community? you do realise there is a huge chunk of people on here who have nothing to do with swinging? | |||
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"He didnt quit yet any how so advice must be a help ..all good" you would be a fool to quit here during covid if your expectation is meets. | |||
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"... part of the community? you do realise there is a huge chunk of people on here who have nothing to do with swinging? " Yes community... You do realise regardless of you swinging or not how you act on forums and in private conversations has a way of making itself known. And yes those that have no interest in swinging and parties and socials will have a harder time on here... once again that's not down to luck though is it? | |||
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"... part of the community? you do realise there is a huge chunk of people on here who have nothing to do with swinging? Yes community... You do realise regardless of you swinging or not how you act on forums and in private conversations has a way of making itself known. And yes those that have no interest in swinging and parties and socials will have a harder time on here... once again that's not down to luck though is it?" plenty of people succeed here and have no connection to swinging. let's face it, at the end of the day the main aim for the vast majority is no strings fun. that's what I said to you earlier, you could have a lovely profile, good photos, lovely emails etc and still struggle. my point is, most of the time the men in question get the blame, alot of the time it is their fault but not always. many aspects of the site outweigh single men. | |||
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"... part of the community? you do realise there is a huge chunk of people on here who have nothing to do with swinging? Yes community... You do realise regardless of you swinging or not how you act on forums and in private conversations has a way of making itself known. And yes those that have no interest in swinging and parties and socials will have a harder time on here... once again that's not down to luck though is it?plenty of people succeed here and have no connection to swinging. let's face it, at the end of the day the main aim for the vast majority is no strings fun. that's what I said to you earlier, you could have a lovely profile, good photos, lovely emails etc and still struggle. my point is, most of the time the men in question get the blame, alot of the time it is their fault but not always. many aspects of the site outweigh single men." See i wouldn't consider myself a swinger per se, I'm single, havent been to any parties. I enjoy the site majority of time, I've made some good friends, the forums are a distraction. Been here has helped me discover what I like, I've discovered as a woman I'm allowed to enjoy sex and its not just about the guy getting off. Am I "successful" on here, far from it, I get very few messages but the way I see it only way to enjoy here is with No expectations and just get to know people. Told a fab friend lately if I was never to meet a guy for fun here again so what, I've enjoyed my time here even among the crap. | |||
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"... part of the community? you do realise there is a huge chunk of people on here who have nothing to do with swinging? Yes community... You do realise regardless of you swinging or not how you act on forums and in private conversations has a way of making itself known. And yes those that have no interest in swinging and parties and socials will have a harder time on here... once again that's not down to luck though is it?plenty of people succeed here and have no connection to swinging. let's face it, at the end of the day the main aim for the vast majority is no strings fun. that's what I said to you earlier, you could have a lovely profile, good photos, lovely emails etc and still struggle. my point is, most of the time the men in question get the blame, alot of the time it is their fault but not always. many aspects of the site outweigh single men. See i wouldn't consider myself a swinger per se, I'm single, havent been to any parties. I enjoy the site majority of time, I've made some good friends, the forums are a distraction. Been here has helped me discover what I like, I've discovered as a woman I'm allowed to enjoy sex and its not just about the guy getting off. Am I "successful" on here, far from it, I get very few messages but the way I see it only way to enjoy here is with No expectations and just get to know people. Told a fab friend lately if I was never to meet a guy for fun here again so what, I've enjoyed my time here even among the crap. " that's it. we're in unprecedented times but in normal times, men think they will easily succeed on here but don't realise the difficulty of the site. that's why having a regular social circle outside of here and having outlets for no strings fun is vitally important. don't put all your eggs into one basket and depend on here. | |||
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"... part of the community? you do realise there is a huge chunk of people on here who have nothing to do with swinging? Yes community... You do realise regardless of you swinging or not how you act on forums and in private conversations has a way of making itself known. And yes those that have no interest in swinging and parties and socials will have a harder time on here... once again that's not down to luck though is it?plenty of people succeed here and have no connection to swinging. let's face it, at the end of the day the main aim for the vast majority is no strings fun. that's what I said to you earlier, you could have a lovely profile, good photos, lovely emails etc and still struggle. my point is, most of the time the men in question get the blame, alot of the time it is their fault but not always. many aspects of the site outweigh single men." Of course people who aren't involved in the swinging side of it succeed and again they are the ones who realise that this site isn't just about luck.... We were discussing your statement that there is an awful lot of luck involved in getting meets. Not who is to blame or the other aspects. Let's keep focused I know you like to move on when one point isn't going well for you. There is a hell of alot more at play than luck when it comes to why some guys strive and some struggle and I bet if you ask any guy that gets on well here or the people who have or would meet them then attitude and effort play a much bigger role than you care to admit | |||
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"... part of the community? you do realise there is a huge chunk of people on here who have nothing to do with swinging? Yes community... You do realise regardless of you swinging or not how you act on forums and in private conversations has a way of making itself known. And yes those that have no interest in swinging and parties and socials will have a harder time on here... once again that's not down to luck though is it?plenty of people succeed here and have no connection to swinging. let's face it, at the end of the day the main aim for the vast majority is no strings fun. that's what I said to you earlier, you could have a lovely profile, good photos, lovely emails etc and still struggle. my point is, most of the time the men in question get the blame, alot of the time it is their fault but not always. many aspects of the site outweigh single men. Of course people who aren't involved in the swinging side of it succeed and again they are the ones who realise that this site isn't just about luck.... We were discussing your statement that there is an awful lot of luck involved in getting meets. Not who is to blame or the other aspects. Let's keep focused I know you like to move on when one point isn't going well for you. There is a hell of alot more at play than luck when it comes to why some guys strive and some struggle and I bet if you ask any guy that gets on well here or the people who have or would meet them then attitude and effort play a much bigger role than you care to admit" I said luck has an element to play, you agreed.also lads setting out a good profile, nice pictures, sending polite interesting mails on a daily basis is not "effort"? if that's not effort I don't know what is. I get the picture that you lay the blame solely at all mens doors who are not successful on here. as I said to you if, as a man you mail select women on here and they have 40 or so inboxed messages. a portion of it will be luck whether u get a reply or not. yes some men are assholes and pricks and show no effort but that doesn't apply to all men who are not successful. you even had others on this thread suggest look has a part to play at times. | |||
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"... part of the community? you do realise there is a huge chunk of people on here who have nothing to do with swinging? Yes community... You do realise regardless of you swinging or not how you act on forums and in private conversations has a way of making itself known. And yes those that have no interest in swinging and parties and socials will have a harder time on here... once again that's not down to luck though is it?plenty of people succeed here and have no connection to swinging. let's face it, at the end of the day the main aim for the vast majority is no strings fun. that's what I said to you earlier, you could have a lovely profile, good photos, lovely emails etc and still struggle. my point is, most of the time the men in question get the blame, alot of the time it is their fault but not always. many aspects of the site outweigh single men. Of course people who aren't involved in the swinging side of it succeed and again they are the ones who realise that this site isn't just about luck.... We were discussing your statement that there is an awful lot of luck involved in getting meets. Not who is to blame or the other aspects. Let's keep focused I know you like to move on when one point isn't going well for you. There is a hell of alot more at play than luck when it comes to why some guys strive and some struggle and I bet if you ask any guy that gets on well here or the people who have or would meet them then attitude and effort play a much bigger role than you care to admit" I said luck has an element to play, you agreed.also lads setting out a good profile, nice pictures, sending polite interesting mails on a daily basis is not "effort"? if that's not effort I don't know what is. I get the picture that you lay the blame solely at all mens doors who are not successful on here. as I said to you if, as a man you mail select women on here and they have 40 or so inboxed messages. a portion of it will be luck whether u get a reply or not. yes some men are assholes and pricks and show no effort but that doesn't apply to all men who are not successful. you even had others on this thread suggest luck has a part to play at times. | |||
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"... We were discussing your statement that there is an awful lot of luck involved in getting meets. Not who is to blame or the other aspects. Let's keep focused I know you like to move on when one point isn't going well for you. There is a hell of alot more at play than luck when it comes to why some guys strive and some struggle and I bet if you ask any guy that gets on well here or the people who have or would meet them then attitude and effort play a much bigger role than you care to admitI said luck has an element to play, you agreed.also lads setting out a good profile, nice pictures, sending polite interesting mails on a daily basis is not "effort"? if that's not effort I don't know what is. I get the picture that you lay the blame solely at all mens doors who are not successful on here. as I said to you if, as a man you mail select women on here and they have 40 or so inboxed messages. a portion of it will be luck whether u get a reply or not. yes some men are assholes and pricks and show no effort but that doesn't apply to all men who are not successful. you even had others on this thread suggest luck has a part to play at times. " Again willy focus... Yes someone replying has an element of luck. Longterm success here has less and less to do with luck. And using a strawman argument about all the guys with really good profiles sending out interesting mails doesnt really work. There is noway to prove or disprove that it happens. Evidence would suggest the people with the better profiles and better mails succeed. Its not about placing blame really. anyway as usual circles have begun. Have a good Friday ![]() | |||
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"... We were discussing your statement that there is an awful lot of luck involved in getting meets. Not who is to blame or the other aspects. Let's keep focused I know you like to move on when one point isn't going well for you. There is a hell of alot more at play than luck when it comes to why some guys strive and some struggle and I bet if you ask any guy that gets on well here or the people who have or would meet them then attitude and effort play a much bigger role than you care to admitI said luck has an element to play, you agreed.also lads setting out a good profile, nice pictures, sending polite interesting mails on a daily basis is not "effort"? if that's not effort I don't know what is. I get the picture that you lay the blame solely at all mens doors who are not successful on here. as I said to you if, as a man you mail select women on here and they have 40 or so inboxed messages. a portion of it will be luck whether u get a reply or not. yes some men are assholes and pricks and show no effort but that doesn't apply to all men who are not successful. you even had others on this thread suggest luck has a part to play at times. Again willy focus... Yes someone replying has an element of luck. Longterm success here has less and less to do with luck. And using a strawman argument about all the guys with really good profiles sending out interesting mails doesnt really work. There is noway to prove or disprove that it happens. Evidence would suggest the people with the better profiles and better mails succeed. Its not about placing blame really. anyway as usual circles have begun. Have a good Friday ![]() longterm success is about getting a start lol. that applies to everybody. | |||
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"It's amazing that |I have been messaged by folks with similar experiences of not getting messages to read or even replied too so it's definitely not a unique experinece and several also encouraging me to stay a bit longer. My profile has been looked at far more times than ever and I have had more folks messaging than I usually get. who knew! ![]() Without giving out private information are you telling me that there are couples and women that dont get replies | |||
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"It's amazing that |I have been messaged by folks with similar experiences of not getting messages to read or even replied too so it's definitely not a unique experinece and several also encouraging me to stay a bit longer. My profile has been looked at far more times than ever and I have had more folks messaging than I usually get. who knew! ![]() So when are you leaving? Don't want to be cold but you said goodbye in OP! | |||
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"This site is like going out and meeting people in real life situations, you win some and you lose some. There's someone our there for everyone in my honest opinion! Just be yourself and I'm sure you'll eventually find what you're looking for ![]() No it's not one bit like real life I'd be 100% sure if I said hi how are you to a lady on a night out I'd get a response but on here you could say hi how are you to 100 ladies and get 0 responses | |||
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"What worries me more is the amout of people who still expect meetups during this pandemic, if people can't meet their family and friends why would anyone want to go meet a stranger? That shows you have no respect for the safety of anyone including the person your trying to meet. Get a grip your expectations are insane during the current worldwide health crisis" This is it in a nutshell, still far too many local updates with “great meet last nyt” and people looking for them ![]() | |||
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"This site is like going out and meeting people in real life situations, you win some and you lose some. There's someone our there for everyone in my honest opinion! Just be yourself and I'm sure you'll eventually find what you're looking for ![]() But I bet if every guy in the pub kept asking every woman " hi how are you" they would get ignored very quickly | |||
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"What worries me more is the amout of people who still expect meetups during this pandemic, if people can't meet their family and friends why would anyone want to go meet a stranger? That shows you have no respect for the safety of anyone including the person your trying to meet. Get a grip your expectations are insane during the current worldwide health crisis" This 100% You want to risk your health in these times,fine go ahead. But please,do not come on the forum and complain about people not meeting or not getting any response. Respect goes a long way. Everyone is horny. Everyone wants to get laid,and everyone to some degree are complaining.But most are conscious of the risks,and not willing to take them for the sake of family and friends. | |||
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"This site is like going out and meeting people in real life situations, you win some and you lose some. There's someone our there for everyone in my honest opinion! Just be yourself and I'm sure you'll eventually find what you're looking for ![]() I'm speaking in normal times but I find it much easier to pull in the pub club setting. when I say pull, I don't even mean sec, I mean getting a girls number etc. I maintain a lot of it is face to face contact from the off go. | |||
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"Whats a pub " Good question BP Maybe he means pube ![]() | |||
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"Whats a pub " a place to socialise. | |||
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"Whats a pub a place to socialise." Ah I remember people talking about those places, they died off into extinction back in 2020.... ![]() | |||
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"Whats a pub a place to socialise. Ah I remember people talking about those places, they died off into extinction back in 2020.... ![]() to come back with a bang in 21 ![]() | |||
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"Whats a pub a place to socialise. Ah I remember people talking about those places, they died off into extinction back in 2020.... ![]() In a galaxy far far away | |||
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"What worries me more is the amout of people who still expect meetups during this pandemic, if people can't meet their family and friends why would anyone want to go meet a stranger? That shows you have no respect for the safety of anyone including the person your trying to meet. Get a grip your expectations are insane during the current worldwide health crisis This 100% You want to risk your health in these times,fine go ahead. But please,do not come on the forum and complain about people not meeting or not getting any response. Respect goes a long way. Everyone is horny. Everyone wants to get laid,and everyone to some degree are complaining.But most are conscious of the risks,and not willing to take them for the sake of family and friends. " I have no interest in meeting anyone in a pandemic I have more respect for people on here my families and my own. I will not put people's lives in danger it's not worth it. | |||
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"I did have pics but deleted them as I was about to delete my profile. It makes no real odds anyway as I think I've stopped looking at this point and am simply on out of habit more than anything else. " New year... Good time to get rid of those old habits OP ![]() | |||
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"Ah is he still here? ![]() ![]() ![]() Well given your rather nasty private message tonight I suggest you are not in the best position to make any commnets and in fact, you have done me an enormous favour-Thanks. | |||
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"What a post nobody's been meeting all year lol due to the pandemic, what dose one expect lol. " Plenty are meeting. | |||
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"What a post nobody's been meeting all year lol due to the pandemic, what dose one expect lol. " There are plenty meeting, all you have to do is check out the daily status updates | |||
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"Ah is he still here? ![]() ![]() ![]() I'm sorry but is anyone going to comment on this are you all OK with someone giving an OP a nasty pm are you all OK with that or is it because its a female to a male and if it was the other way round there would be bloody uproar | |||
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"Ah is he still here? ![]() ![]() ![]() Whats there to say, its not ok he got a nasty pm , noone should receive nasty messages on here. Its a pity to see another person leave but it happens and some people just seem to get the dig in. | |||
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"Ah is he still here? ![]() ![]() ![]() No it’s not ok that someone left the OP a nasty message but it’s also not ok for everyone to gang up and hound someone who has left a nasty message, irrespective of gender. Two wrongs don’t make a right | |||
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"Fuk sake what do some men think this site is? Desperate women open for fukin or soemthing Jesus Christ you be sick of looking at these pitty me I can't get meets threads. ![]() ![]() This won’t get you laid man ![]() | |||
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"Fuk sake what do some men think this site is? Desperate women open for fukin or soemthing Jesus Christ you be sick of looking at these pitty me I can't get meets threads. ![]() ![]() ![]() doesn't bother me in least buddy maybe some men it does not me ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I can piss higher and farther than anyone else. Just saying.. ![]() ![]() I love that game. can you write your name on the ceiling? ![]() | |||
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"Ok I'm confused who is licking who's ass? ![]() join the club ha Mondays just don't suit some people ![]() | |||
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"Anyone want an apple to calm down " I love an owl banana myself apples don't do it for me ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Anyone want an apple to calm down I love an owl banana myself apples don't do it for me ![]() ![]() I'll ask the fyffes man but can't see it being a problem | |||
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"Anyone want an apple to calm down " I prefer pears ![]() | |||
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"Anyone want an apple to calm down I prefer pears ![]() Let's be honest you've one of the best pair on the site ![]() | |||
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"like feckin swinging handbags. jaysus " I just had a vision of two grown men battling handbags at dawn and its only Monday | |||
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"like feckin swinging handbags. jaysus I just had a vision of two grown men battling handbags at dawn and its only Monday " well the image has certainly cheered up my monday anyway | |||
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"like feckin swinging handbags. jaysus I just had a vision of two grown men battling handbags at dawn and its only Monday " Maybe one of them will compliment the other on their choice of handbag and it will spark a conversation on how they love each other’s handbags so much and each will go forth and pay it forward this afternoon ![]() | |||
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"Seriously no one should be sending abusive messages and yes that includes females. No point in making a big deal of it as op is gone anyhow and hopefully he will have reported it before he left. And most people will have noted who sent it.At the end of the day it's just their loss. No one is a winner in this and slagging each other off is pointless. And Mick thats a long name to write on the ceiling I hope you drank plenty of water beforehand. ![]() My writing skills are first class, birthday girl! ![]() | |||
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"Seriously no one should be sending abusive messages and yes that includes females. No point in making a big deal of it as op is gone anyhow and hopefully he will have reported it before he left. And most people will have noted who sent it.At the end of the day it's just their loss. No one is a winner in this and slagging each other off is pointless. And Mick thats a long name to write on the ceiling I hope you drank plenty of water beforehand. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I think everyone needs cake ![]() ![]() Cake is good, but even the tastiest cake can’t replace tasty fun. Seems like a lot of pent up frustration lately (your pictures don’t help with that frustration tbh ![]() | |||
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"I think everyone needs cake ![]() ![]() ![]() No they do not help! Nor do yours R&H! I vote for Red velvet cake or lemon drizzle ![]() | |||
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