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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Has anyone ever taking a celibacy pledge to help with personal growth?
Thinking of doing it for 1 year, definitely 6 months.
Example - not needing sex to make you feel validated, loved or wanted. |
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Studies have shown that men who don't ejaculate excluding nocturnal emissions have higher testosterone are more outgoing.. Less stressed and have more successful lives
Sounds like torture to me though  |
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"Studies have shown that men who don't ejaculate excluding nocturnal emissions have higher testosterone are more outgoing.. Less stressed and have more successful lives
Sounds like torture to me though "
I think you read that study back to front. It's the complete opposite |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have done it but just can't last that long it's very difficult. I definitely felt good for some time alright a sense of relief from the constant thoughts. I may try it again sometime.  |
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I've had enforced celibacy imposed on me for various periods. From months to years. I'd find it difficult to choose celibacy, as I love pleasure, and sex and am a natural hedonist. But when I had long periods of no sex(with another), I still masturbated. During my celibate times, I got very fit, active, and had endless energy, did some extreme sports.. I suppose the creative energy had to be released somehow. Choosing celibacy is a common spiritual pholosophy, and there's a whole genre of literature devoted to it. |
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"I have done it but just can't last that long it's very difficult. I definitely felt good for some time alright a sense of relief from the constant thoughts. I may try it again sometime. "
What was the longest you ever lasted intentionally going off sex? |
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"Studies have shown that men who don't ejaculate excluding nocturnal emissions have higher testosterone are more outgoing.. Less stressed and have more successful lives
Sounds like torture to me though
I think you read that study back to front. It's the complete opposite"
Nope.. If you don't ejaculate for a week your test level rocket then it evens out and repeats again every 7 days  |
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"Has anyone ever taking a celibacy pledge to help with personal growth?
Thinking of doing it for 1 year, definitely 6 months.
Example - not needing sex to make you feel validated, loved or wanted."
Celibacy is a committment to not marry (has nothing to do with sex or chastity). I am sure you can survive 12 months of that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Studies have shown that men who don't ejaculate excluding nocturnal emissions have higher testosterone are more outgoing.. Less stressed and have more successful lives
Sounds like torture to me though
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I think you read that study back to front. It's the complete opposite"
I'm not sure if the science or fake news on this.
Check out the "No Fap" challenge on reddit.
The theory is to give up masturbation, porn etc for a s long as you can.
You will have more time on your hands (no pun intended) and you'll be more into actually going out and getting sex.
I don't think celibacy is healthy or needed unless sex is a destructive/addictive force in your life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't think celibacy is healthy or needed unless sex is a destructive/addictive force in your life. "
I'd agree with this, sex is fun, it's exercise, it provides physical touch and emotional intimacy which are essential to our well-being. Unless you are making decisions around sex which are detrimental to your well-being (which speaks of psychological issues needing to be addressed), why deliberately deprive yourself of one of life's greatest pleasures?
Incidentally, regular ejaculation has been shown to reduce the risk of prostate cancer in men, no benefit whatsoever to ceasing it (whatever the means) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't think celibacy is healthy or needed unless sex is a destructive/addictive force in your life.
I'd agree with this, sex is fun, it's exercise, it provides physical touch and emotional intimacy which are essential to our well-being. Unless you are making decisions around sex which are detrimental to your well-being (which speaks of psychological issues needing to be addressed), why deliberately deprive yourself of one of life's greatest pleasures?
Incidentally, regular ejaculation has been shown to reduce the risk of prostate cancer in men, no benefit whatsoever to ceasing it (whatever the means)"
I'm robbing that last paragraph for my 2021 copy and paste message update..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't think celibacy is healthy or needed unless sex is a destructive/addictive force in your life.
I'd agree with this, sex is fun, it's exercise, it provides physical touch and emotional intimacy which are essential to our well-being. Unless you are making decisions around sex which are detrimental to your well-being (which speaks of psychological issues needing to be addressed), why deliberately deprive yourself of one of life's greatest pleasures?
Incidentally, regular ejaculation has been shown to reduce the risk of prostate cancer in men, no benefit whatsoever to ceasing it (whatever the means)"
A good reply.
I think the idea behind no fap is to stay off the porn and put time into eating well exercise and your looks to be more attractive to women and actually cum with a partner. Which to be fair is more fun!
It's a balance if I haven't cum in a while I'll be like a horn dog and women smell the desperation!! Lol.
As any man will tell you if we haven't cum in a while we will last about 10 secs but what a feeling when it let's go.
Some of the "no fap" commentary is pretty anti women as well which puts me off it.
The other side of going celibate is the lack of pillow talk.
Some of the best conversations are had lying in bed after having fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How will abstinence contribute to your personal growth OP? "
Interesting question.
I have chosen abstinence for over a year (no sex at all, even masturbation) and did not notice any good change. Bad mood, anger, then finally depression. I do not think it is good for us. Not for the people who want to live a balanced and happy life.
Maybe others have different experience but it did not work for me.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How will abstinence contribute to your personal growth OP?
Interesting question.
I have chosen abstinence for over a year (no sex at all, even masturbation) and did not notice any good change. Bad mood, anger, then finally depression. I do not think it is good for us. Not for the people who want to live a balanced and happy life.
Maybe others have different experience but it did not work for me.
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What was your motivation for starting abstinence? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I didnt have sex until my early mid 20s. Basically from a lack of confidence and alot of anxiety but since I have had sex if I went a few months without it I'd feel terrible. I'm definitely not addicted to it. I dont see sex having a negative impact on me whatsoever. In fact I feel more confident and happy after it for days. In my teen years I tried numerous times to give up masturbation ( more for a challenge than anything else). I just became extremely horny and on edge after a couple of weeks each time. It actually made me think of sex way more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have done it but just can't last that long it's very difficult. I definitely felt good for some time alright a sense of relief from the constant thoughts. I may try it again sometime.
What was the longest you ever lasted intentionally going off sex? "
A few months four months is the most recent one but i have went a year or and even more before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Has anyone ever taking a celibacy pledge to help with personal growth?
Thinking of doing it for 1 year, definitely 6 months.
Example - not needing sex to make you feel validated, loved or wanted.
Celibacy is a committment to not marry (has nothing to do with sex or chastity). I am sure you can survive 12 months of that. "
It is abstaining from marriage and sexual relations. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was celibate a number of times over the years. Personally i find being sexually active more enlivening. I would find being with a man who hadnt come in a while a turn on though! Id enjoy his blissful release lol.
( note - That's not an invite to form a disorderly queue ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I suppose a lot of ppl end up being celibate after break us and with busy lives etc.
I suppose a lot of singles celibate through lockdown!
I don't see the benifit of it though.
Sex and intimacy is a pleasure. Everything in moderation |
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"I was celibate a number of times over the years. Personally i find being sexually active more enlivening. I would find being with a man who hadnt come in a while a turn on though! Id enjoy his blissful release lol.
( note - That's not an invite to form a disorderly queue )"
An orderly one it is so  |
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