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over a year ago
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We are pretty new and I'm confused how when people say we have regular lovers and long term friends etc.Does that not lead to complications? Personally I view a meet as a business transaction. Am I missing something? |
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"No.. But different people us fab for different things..
I don't view any meet as a business transaction and I would hate to be viewed as such "
Exactly this.
Plus needs change from time-to-time depending on work/home/life etc.
We use to have a rule about one and done, but now we are looking at a LT BF situation for Scarlett. Works better at the minute because there is a large element of online flirting.
However, when they resume physical interactions then we will probably limit dates to 5/6 occurrences to avoid complications.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No.. But different people us fab for different things..
I don't view any meet as a business transaction and I would hate to be viewed as such "
As would I  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"No.. But different people us fab for different things..
I don't view any meet as a business transaction and I would hate to be viewed as such "
I agree with this completely.
I've made some great friends off here and I prefer regular meets.
I have no interest in fuck and forget meets.
Everyone uses the site differently and as long as everyone upfront with what they want then it's fine. There are people to suit everyone on here. |
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By *cupxxxWoman
over a year ago
Gorey |
"No.. But different people us fab for different things..
I don't view any meet as a business transaction and I would hate to be viewed as such "
Totally agree, I would hate to be anyone's 'business transaction'
We're not prostitutes here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No.. But different people us fab for different things..
I don't view any meet as a business transaction and I would hate to be viewed as such
Totally agree, I would hate to be anyone's 'business transaction'
We're not prostitutes here "
I may have misrepresented what I was trying to say and there is no offence meant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are pretty new and I'm confused how when people say we have regular lovers and long term friends etc.Does that not lead to complications? Personally I view a meet as a business transaction. Am I missing something? "
Would hate to thing a bit of fun even if only a once off thing was considered a business transaction. Everyone tbats here has different reasons and is here for different things, I know for me I like something that develops into mutual fun, getting to know each other sexually and exploring sex on the way. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No.. But different people us fab for different things..
I don't view any meet as a business transaction and I would hate to be viewed as such
Exactly this.
Plus needs change from time-to-time depending on work/home/life etc.
We use to have a rule about one and done, but now we are looking at a LT BF situation for Scarlett. Works better at the minute because there is a large element of online flirting.
However, when they resume physical interactions then we will probably limit dates to 5/6 occurrences to avoid complications. "
ok thanks. I get that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No.. But different people us fab for different things..
I don't view any meet as a business transaction and I would hate to be viewed as such
Totally agree, I would hate to be anyone's 'business transaction'
We're not prostitutes here
I may have misrepresented what I was trying to say and there is no offence meant. "
No you are grand no one thought of it as offence. Great advice in this thread. People have differnt opinions and needs so it depends. A regular person who you are not worried of complications with is best. I'd imagine as a couple or female it's a gamble everytime you bring another male into the equation. |
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By *P_80Man
over a year ago
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It doesn't have to be complicated.
Personally I'd prefer regular-ish meets over one offs as it's more exciting getting to know what each other's buttons are over time and building the trust to explore both parties wants and likes together.
It will only get complicated if jealousy arises which I'd imagine most on here wouldn't have that issue so for the most part I'd say there's not much issue with regular Fab meets.
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"No.. But different people us fab for different things..
I don't view any meet as a business transaction and I would hate to be viewed as such
Totally agree, I would hate to be anyone's 'business transaction'
We're not prostitutes here
I may have misrepresented what I was trying to say and there is no offence meant. "
As other said , everyone has a different approach . Sex after all requires intimacy, intimacy requires trust .
Regular meets do of course bear the risks of developing feelings for other players beyond what was intended . For couples it’s the challenge to agree on the boundaries and of course the relationship between spouses must be rock solid to play in the game . For singles this is somewhat easier as they need only be concerned for their own boundaries and don’t need to provision for the feelings of a spouse .
However playing in this game is not merrily a business transaction for mentioned reasons , it should contain attraction, sympathy and intellectual interchange to whatever degree suitable . Don’t worry - FAB will stay shallow enough if you and your partner take care of each other
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By *ctoboyMan
over a year ago
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I have had many "regular meets" in Ireland if you wish to describe meeting the same people whilst over in area every month on business.
These meets have become good friends & indeed they have further introduced me to some of their friends.
I would always describe these contacts as social with some fun and Never Ever business... |
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"We are pretty new and I'm confused how when people say we have regular lovers and long term friends etc.Does that not lead to complications? Personally I view a meet as a business transaction. Am I missing something? "
A business transaction? Wow. Nice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No.. But different people us fab for different things..
I don't view any meet as a business transaction and I would hate to be viewed as such
Totally agree, I would hate to be anyone's 'business transaction'
We're not prostitutes here
I may have misrepresented what I was trying to say and there is no offence meant.
As other said , everyone has a different approach . Sex after all requires intimacy, intimacy requires trust .
Regular meets do of course bear the risks of developing feelings for other players beyond what was intended . For couples it’s the challenge to agree on the boundaries and of course the relationship between spouses must be rock solid to play in the game . For singles this is somewhat easier as they need only be concerned for their own boundaries and don’t need to provision for the feelings of a spouse .
However playing in this game is not merrily a business transaction for mentioned reasons , it should contain attraction, sympathy and intellectual interchange to whatever degree suitable . Don’t worry - FAB will stay shallow enough if you and your partner take care of each other
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Exactly this. Trust, honesty and open communication between partners are the bedrock of any successful relationship, monogamous or not. If you are both mindful of where your priorities lie, no third party can come between you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are pretty new and I'm confused how when people say we have regular lovers and long term friends etc.Does that not lead to complications? Personally I view a meet as a business transaction. Am I missing something? "
It is only complicated if one makes it complicated keep it simple and i wouldn't be viewing it as a business transaction. Lot of guys offering money here alright maybe that's for you but for the majority of decent people here don't accept that. Perhaps if you join porn hub you may get business transaction encounters on there. On here people get to know each other over time, build up friendship/relationships for playing together and often just for socialising with like minded people. I wish ye all the best here when things get back to normal maybe go to some social events, these definitely help to get to know people and the scene. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are pretty new and I'm confused how when people say we have regular lovers and long term friends etc.Does that not lead to complications? Personally I view a meet as a business transaction. Am I missing something?
It is only complicated if one makes it complicated keep it simple and i wouldn't be viewing it as a business transaction. Lot of guys offering money here alright maybe that's for you but for the majority of decent people here don't accept that. Perhaps if you join porn hub you may get business transaction encounters on there. On here people get to know each other over time, build up friendship/relationships for playing together and often just for socialising with like minded people. I wish ye all the best here when things get back to normal maybe go to some social events, these definitely help to get to know people and the scene. "
i still don't know why people come here to offer money. It's so insulting to normal people ... there are plenty of other places where that is gratefully accepted.. if that's what your into |
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The op already explained that they weren't looking for money and had worded the initial post badly.
The point being that some people treat fab meets as a no strings, no connection deal between consenting adults who agree to meet simply for physical pleasure.
Others prefer to get to know the person better and let that familiarity build trust and a more long term agreement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are pretty new and I'm confused how when people say we have regular lovers and long term friends etc.Does that not lead to complications? Personally I view a meet as a business transaction. Am I missing something?
It is only complicated if one makes it complicated keep it simple and i wouldn't be viewing it as a business transaction. Lot of guys offering money here alright maybe that's for you but for the majority of decent people here don't accept that. Perhaps if you join porn hub you may get business transaction encounters on there. On here people get to know each other over time, build up friendship/relationships for playing together and often just for socialising with like minded people. I wish ye all the best here when things get back to normal maybe go to some social events, these definitely help to get to know people and the scene. i still don't know why people come here to offer money. It's so insulting to normal people ... there are plenty of other places where that is gratefully accepted.. if that's what your into "
Yes i know it's not for me but plenty do so that's their perogative. It has happened to me being asked in different ways a few times hence partly why my filters are up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are pretty new and I'm confused how when people say we have regular lovers and long term friends etc.Does that not lead to complications? Personally I view a meet as a business transaction. Am I missing something?
Would hate to thing a bit of fun even if only a once off thing was considered a business transaction. Everyone tbats here has different reasons and is here for different things, I know for me I like something that develops into mutual fun, getting to know each other sexually and exploring sex on the way."
I am enjoying the development of good friendships. xx  |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"The op already explained that they weren't looking for money and had worded the initial post badly.
The point being that some people treat fab meets as a no strings, no connection deal between consenting adults who agree to meet simply for physical pleasure.
Others prefer to get to know the person better and let that familiarity build trust and a more long term agreement. "
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"The op already explained that they weren't looking for money and had worded the initial post badly.
The point being that some people treat fab meets as a no strings, no connection deal between consenting adults who agree to meet simply for physical pleasure.
Others prefer to get to know the person better and let that familiarity build trust and a more long term agreement.
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We'd be in the latter category, ideally |
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By *murphMan
over a year ago
drogheda |
Just a single divorsed guy here I enjoy sex but don’t want a relationship met a few couples on here who are fun and just enjoy inviting a third party to enjoy fun with them I feel honoured that they choose me it is only adult fun |
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By *murphMan
over a year ago
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Just a single divorsed guy here I enjoy sex but don’t want a relationship met a few couples on here who are fun and just enjoy inviting a third party to enjoy fun with them I feel honoured that they choose me it is only adult fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The op already explained that they weren't looking for money and had worded the initial post badly.
The point being that some people treat fab meets as a no strings, no connection deal between consenting adults who agree to meet simply for physical pleasure.
Others prefer to get to know the person better and let that familiarity build trust and a more long term agreement.
We'd be in the latter category, ideally "
I’d agree with you.. better to have something apart from clinical transaction and would be surprised if the people here on Fab can’t get their heads around being nice and having sex with regular people without having emotional ties.. it’s clear why most people are here and we can have it both ways caring and filthy sex without the added relationship baggage  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No.. But different people us fab for different things..
I don't view any meet as a business transaction and I would hate to be viewed as such "
I have to agree a friend ship first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A business transaction??? That was obviously the male of the profile talking.. Most women here will end up get short changed when meeting anyway ..but I'll be damned if I'd let any one here treat me as a free prostitute! |
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We've long term friends we met through fab, friends we've played with and also just socialised with, have met our family etc and no it doesn't cause problems for us at least.
We can sit and talk about fab and what we're planning or if we've socials or whatever and the next sentence will be what you having for dinner tonight lol
Just depends on the person/people and if they can combine the two or not.
But definitely no complications. As someone previously said different people use fab for different things, when we joined we didn't think we'd make so many friends but we've made some of the best M xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We've long term friends we met through fab, friends we've played with and also just socialised with, have met our family etc and no it doesn't cause problems for us at least.
We can sit and talk about fab and what we're planning or if we've socials or whatever and the next sentence will be what you having for dinner tonight lol
Just depends on the person/people and if they can combine the two or not.
But definitely no complications. As someone previously said different people use fab for different things, when we joined we didn't think we'd make so many friends but we've made some of the best M xx"
You talking about me?? Ah sure im the best friend ya could have lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We've long term friends we met through fab, friends we've played with and also just socialised with, have met our family etc and no it doesn't cause problems for us at least.
We can sit and talk about fab and what we're planning or if we've socials or whatever and the next sentence will be what you having for dinner tonight lol
Just depends on the person/people and if they can combine the two or not.
But definitely no complications. As someone previously said different people use fab for different things, when we joined we didn't think we'd make so many friends but we've made some of the best M xx
You talking about me?? Ah sure im the best friend ya could have lol"
Friends are so easy to find on Fab |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We are pretty new and I'm confused how when people say we have regular lovers and long term friends etc.Does that not lead to complications? Personally I view a meet as a business transaction. Am I missing something?
It is only complicated if one makes it complicated keep it simple and i wouldn't be viewing it as a business transaction. Lot of guys offering money here alright maybe that's for you but for the majority of decent people here don't accept that. Perhaps if you join porn hub you may get business transaction encounters on there. On here people get to know each other over time, build up friendship/relationships for playing together and often just for socialising with like minded people. I wish ye all the best here when things get back to normal maybe go to some social events, these definitely help to get to know people and the scene. "
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"We are pretty new and I'm confused how when people say we have regular lovers and long term friends etc.Does that not lead to complications? Personally I view a meet as a business transaction. Am I missing something? "
A meet needs to have a connection for the meet to be good. If anyone asked to meet and said it was a business transaction it would be a no thank you from me |
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