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This isn't McDonald's
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I try to stay off my high horse on this site but there are times when I am just astonished and I have to find my tallest stallion and ride.
Guys - men - I get that your fantasy is that this is a sex site and that you just look at the 'menu' and order like a drive a thru and if you pull up to the second window there I'll be with a side of fries (chips) and your extra large drink but cop on.
First, this is not a sex site. It is not 'dial a fuck.' It is a means of introduction for people who aren't conventional about sex.
You're still a fully formed human being with more than just the tool between your legs - and if all I wanted was a tool, I'd go to the shop and get a cucumber because at least with that, it's fresh, it never goes limp and I don't have to serve it tea.
Also, if you don't have a lot to say to me via text when we have our clothes on, that's not going to change when you get naked. In fact, it's probably going to get worse.
A couple of weeks ago, I had the most boring, bland threesome of my life. She wasn't interesting in my living room and she was less interesting in my bed - so this goes for women, too, but it's men who balk most when I ask questions - as though I'm breaking some rule of the site by wanting to know if you prefer art to sports or music.
Sex doesn't make you more of who you are unless there is more underneath the surface. You all want this amazing sexual experience but you hide yourselves like moles and you only describe yourselves in terms of your cocks and what you like to do with them. You like to fuck. That's a given or you wouldn't be on this site. And if you think that I shouldn't ask you questions or that I shouldn't seek something that will turn me on (because if I'm seeking it, I'm not yet turned on), then you don't get what makes sex great and you don't get the art of seduction. And that doesn't mean I have to know your name or where you work. I just found out the real name of a lover I've had for years. I didn't need to know his real name, I know how his breath changes and how his cock twitches in my mouth when he's about to cum. That's more real and more interesting to me than his name. I know that sounds like 1+1=oranges but I discovered his tell by exploring and paying attention over time not by playing some idea of a one off porn scene.
Sites like this offer freedom from the restraint of the mundane and everyday life - and the ability to indulge parts of yourself that you can't in the vanilla world. But those parts of yourself go well beyond your cock. If it was just about your cock, then this would be like McDonald's and first come would be first served and all of you men and all of us women would be interchangeable - and we are not.
For those guys who are fucking their way through the site, ignore this. You're getting yours and it's working for you. More power to you, but for those of you who aren't getting anywhere and blame the site or worse you blame the women on the site, evaluate how you're using it. If you're generic about it and/or closed off to revealing anything that is truly unique or interesting about you, this site isn't going to help you.
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over a year ago
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Some valid points but it gets a bit convoluted: are you suggesting that folk shouldn’t approach the site á la carte? I think people should have choice and if someone doesn’t fit the bill, don’t do it.
Your bad threesome experience is unfortunate, but is also kind of on you, if you picked the wrong option from the menu. I mean why go all the way if the chemistry wasn’t there?
And as for trying to police stupidity in this site and the internet...you’re talking to a wall. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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It is a sex site, if you like it or not, and everyone can use the site as they please, some will do it more sucessfully than others. Fab serves a full spectrum from fast food to the lavish dinner but yes some will never get served. It might be because of their approach but I'd say the sheer imbalance of men and women on here has also to answer for.
I agree with you that if you want to take your sexual experience to a different level, there has to be a connection that goes further than just the fleshly need and physical appeal. Yet again attraction is a complex and multifaceted construction, it varies from person to person, so what might be boring for one, might be exciting for another.
In other words there's no magical approach that fits all.
*Rides off on her donkey.
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"It is a sex site, if you like it or not, and everyone can use the site as they please, some will do it more sucessfully than others. Fab serves a full spectrum from fast food to the lavish dinner but yes some will never get served. It might be because of their approach but I'd say the sheer imbalance of men and women on here has also to answer for.
I agree with you that if you want to take your sexual experience to a different level, there has to be a connection that goes further than just the fleshly need and physical appeal. Yet again attraction is a complex and multifaceted construction, it varies from person to person, so what might be boring for one, might be exciting for another.
In other words there's no magical approach that fits all.
*Rides off on her donkey.
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"It is a sex site, if you like it or not, and everyone can use the site as they please, some will do it more sucessfully than others. Fab serves a full spectrum from fast food to the lavish dinner but yes some will never get served. It might be because of their approach but I'd say the sheer imbalance of men and women on here has also to answer for.
I agree with you that if you want to take your sexual experience to a different level, there has to be a connection that goes further than just the fleshly need and physical appeal. Yet again attraction is a complex and multifaceted construction, it varies from person to person, so what might be boring for one, might be exciting for another.
In other words there's no magical approach that fits all.
*Rides off on her donkey.
I like your ass "
Not sure if fab does meal replacement diet shakes. |
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Good read. Unfortunately it will be like chinese writing to some. Very easy to text and hide behind a profile.
Having a conversation thats another story.. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"It is a sex site, if you like it or not, and everyone can use the site as they please, some will do it more sucessfully than others. Fab serves a full spectrum from fast food to the lavish dinner but yes some will never get served. It might be because of their approach but I'd say the sheer imbalance of men and women on here has also to answer for.
I agree with you that if you want to take your sexual experience to a different level, there has to be a connection that goes further than just the fleshly need and physical appeal. Yet again attraction is a complex and multifaceted construction, it varies from person to person, so what might be boring for one, might be exciting for another.
In other words there's no magical approach that fits all.
*Rides off on her donkey.
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Great read and some good points but I think to some it will always just be McDonald's and all they want is a quick shag and for some it will be a five star restaurant with all the trimmings.
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And yet so many keep going back to the same restaurant even after they've had a bad meal.
They make assumptions about their dining partners and don't allow for food intolerances.
They don't even discuss the menu. They don't understand why they can't get pizza in their local Chinese and they think that just because it's their favourite restaurant or go to dish that it should be everyone's.
They invite people for dinner and get upset when the vegan won't eat the steak.
And then they leave a bad TripAdvisor review despite not making the effort themselves.
Communication should be two way and start long before the prawn cocktail arrives. |
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"And yet so many keep going back to the same restaurant even after they've had a bad meal.
They make assumptions about their dining partners and don't allow for food intolerances.
They don't even discuss the menu. They don't understand why they can't get pizza in their local Chinese and they think that just because it's their favourite restaurant or go to dish that it should be everyone's.
They invite people for dinner and get upset when the vegan won't eat the steak.
And then they leave a bad TripAdvisor review despite not making the effort themselves.
Communication should be two way and start long before the prawn cocktail arrives. "
Oh love a good prawn cocktail |
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I never go to McDonald's. And much prefer an elegant, preferably French, restaurant, with many courses, served with panache, accompanied by a mellow sultry red, and long conversation into the night. |
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"I never go to McDonald's. And much prefer an elegant, preferably French, restaurant, with many courses, served with panache, accompanied by a mellow sultry red, and long conversation into the night. "
But your milkshake brings all the boys to the yard |
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The thing is, I read every message that's sent to me - many women on here don't. Even if you don't have a profile picture or you don't have much to say in your profile, I read the messages sent to me. I reply to the ones that seem like there might be potential.
Maybe what men on this site don't understand is that if I just met everyone who messaged me for coffee, I would never have a moment alone for the next 5 years. I need to know IF I want to meet based on our initial texts - and 99.999% of the time, I'm treated like an interchangeable blow up doll rather than a real woman or I get messages full of so much bravado and bs, it's impossible to get a sense of who you really are.
What has floored me recently is that when I've asked questions to get a better sense of who I'm talking to, I get attitude - like how dare I ask. (At a certain level, it's great because that means one less person to meet.) I just can't tell if the attitude is a misconception about sex - like it should be porn where no one talks and everyone gets naked and fucks like rock stars (which you can't do without immense confidence) - or if guys have really gotten craven and just want a warm hole to stick their cock in and are offended that I want to know to whom that cock is attached? ...the irony is, if you can't answer questions via text, you'll hate meeting me because I'm more inquizitive in person.
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"I never go to McDonald's. And much prefer an elegant, preferably French, restaurant, with many courses, served with panache, accompanied by a mellow sultry red, and long conversation into the night. "
No dessert?? |
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By *P_80Man
over a year ago
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Flip side of that coin:
I've been accused of being a time waster in the past because apparently I talk too much about general topics.
We all have our own ideas of what we want from Fab and not everyone is going to click. |
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"It is a sex site, if you like it or not, and everyone can use the site as they please, some will do it more sucessfully than others. Fab serves a full spectrum from fast food to the lavish dinner but yes some will never get served. It might be because of their approach but I'd say the sheer imbalance of men and women on here has also to answer for.
I agree with you that if you want to take your sexual experience to a different level, there has to be a connection that goes further than just the fleshly need and physical appeal. Yet again attraction is a complex and multifaceted construction, it varies from person to person, so what might be boring for one, might be exciting for another.
In other words there's no magical approach that fits all.
*Rides off on her donkey.
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Whilst we absolutely want to get along with whoever we invite to share a bed with us, we don't need a deeper connection. We have that with each other. We want to have a really enjoyable time and we want to know enough so that it's mutually enjoyable.
As DH says, there's no one approach that fits all and as such the Fab waters can be pretty difficult for anyone to navigate, not just blokes.
We don't do the meet now, I'm in your area, the late night want to get my balls drained stuff. That's not for us. But a quick scroll through the updates would suggest that that's exactly what some couples are after. And that's ok too. We all use this site in the way that fits our needs best.
Incidentally OP, why on earth did you proceed with the threesome with someone you obviously found so dull?
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"The thing is, I read every message that's sent to me - many women on here don't. Even if you don't have a profile picture or you don't have much to say in your profile, I read the messages sent to me. I reply to the ones that seem like there might be potential.
Maybe what men on this site don't understand is that if I just met everyone who messaged me for coffee, I would never have a moment alone for the next 5 years. I need to know IF I want to meet based on our initial texts - and 99.999% of the time, I'm treated like an interchangeable blow up doll rather than a real woman or I get messages full of so much bravado and bs, it's impossible to get a sense of who you really are.
What has floored me recently is that when I've asked questions to get a better sense of who I'm talking to, I get attitude - like how dare I ask. (At a certain level, it's great because that means one less person to meet.) I just can't tell if the attitude is a misconception about sex - like it should be porn where no one talks and everyone gets naked and fucks like rock stars (which you can't do without immense confidence) - or if guys have really gotten craven and just want a warm hole to stick their cock in and are offended that I want to know to whom that cock is attached? ...the irony is, if you can't answer questions via text, you'll hate meeting me because I'm more inquizitive in person.
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Some will be confused by your inquisitiveness, others will enjoy it, that is something that actually drags me in, a bit of interest, a bit of depth behind the chat as well as a bit of flirting. To me it actually shows me that the person might have more passion if it ever gets taken that far, which can only be a good thing. Keep doing what you’re doing OP, use the site as you would like it to be used and you should find the people on your wavelength, unfortunately there’s a lot of trees to look through to find the wood (pun intended) |
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After reading it again, well I have to say , after really thinking about it, I have come to realise,what I read somewhere else,is true, people who were jerks before are worse,people who are ass kissers are really far up some peoples asses,and the good people say nothing on the forums anymore.
So I will get on my wee piggy,with my popcorn and join them.
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"It is a sex site, if you like it or not, and everyone can use the site as they please, some will do it more sucessfully than others. Fab serves a full spectrum from fast food to the lavish dinner but yes some will never get served. It might be because of their approach but I'd say the sheer imbalance of men and women on here has also to answer for.
I agree with you that if you want to take your sexual experience to a different level, there has to be a connection that goes further than just the fleshly need and physical appeal. Yet again attraction is a complex and multifaceted construction, it varies from person to person, so what might be boring for one, might be exciting for another.
In other words there's no magical approach that fits all.
*Rides off on her donkey.
Whilst we absolutely want to get along with whoever we invite to share a bed with us, we don't need a deeper connection. We have that with each other. We want to have a really enjoyable time and we want to know enough so that it's mutually enjoyable.
As DH says, there's no one approach that fits all and as such the Fab waters can be pretty difficult for anyone to navigate, not just blokes.
We don't do the meet now, I'm in your area, the late night want to get my balls drained stuff. That's not for us. But a quick scroll through the updates would suggest that that's exactly what some couples are after. And that's ok too. We all use this site in the way that fits our needs best.
Incidentally OP, why on earth did you proceed with the threesome with someone you obviously found so dull?
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Because I wasn't the only one in the threesome. It was his first threesome and I didn't want to ruin it for him. I did my level best to make it interesting. It didn't work. That's how it goes sometimes.
I made mention of the people who are getting on just fine the way they are. They are not the people this post is for. I'm not trying to change what works if it's working for you. Have you seen all the posts in the forum from people who hate the site and are dissatisfied? It's Beckett's line - there's man all over for you, blaming his boots for the faults of his feet. I'm was making a point about something that got the better of me. It's why I mentioned my stallion. |
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We share OP's attitude for multiple reasons.
Only what really grinds our gears is not the fact that some people are expecting a quick fuck with a random stranger, but the fact that people don't bother reading profiles.
Or they read them then choose to ignore the preferences and just proceed with their own agendas anyway.
Those kinds of people do annoy us a lot more than they should. Especially when most of the mail we ever receive is sent by them.
Anyhoo... you get what you put in - we started to do our own searches and initiating the contact ourselves. Much better outcome  |
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No mention of Ice cream. Would get you a mcflurry to cool down after that.
Good read/rant though and very colourful language. Not too sure about the cucumber though ... those bad boys can get kinda mushy if left too long. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Fully agree I also find the people that try and make a joke out off a very well written peice a little boring. Well said I'm on here cause I like kinky fun sex games not blow and go . |
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"I try to stay off my high horse on this site but there are times when I am just astonished and I have to find my tallest stallion and ride.
Guys - men - I get that your fantasy is that this is a sex site and that you just look at the 'menu' and order like a drive a thru and if you pull up to the second window there I'll be with a side of fries (chips) and your extra large drink but cop on.
First, this is not a sex site. It is not 'dial a fuck.' It is a means of introduction for people who aren't conventional about sex.
You're still a fully formed human being with more than just the tool between your legs - and if all I wanted was a tool, I'd go to the shop and get a cucumber because at least with that, it's fresh, it never goes limp and I don't have to serve it tea.
Also, if you don't have a lot to say to me via text when we have our clothes on, that's not going to change when you get naked. In fact, it's probably going to get worse.
A couple of weeks ago, I had the most boring, bland threesome of my life. She wasn't interesting in my living room and she was less interesting in my bed - so this goes for women, too, but it's men who balk most when I ask questions - as though I'm breaking some rule of the site by wanting to know if you prefer art to sports or music.
Sex doesn't make you more of who you are unless there is more underneath the surface. You all want this amazing sexual experience but you hide yourselves like moles and you only describe yourselves in terms of your cocks and what you like to do with them. You like to fuck. That's a given or you wouldn't be on this site. And if you think that I shouldn't ask you questions or that I shouldn't seek something that will turn me on (because if I'm seeking it, I'm not yet turned on), then you don't get what makes sex great and you don't get the art of seduction. And that doesn't mean I have to know your name or where you work. I just found out the real name of a lover I've had for years. I didn't need to know his real name, I know how his breath changes and how his cock twitches in my mouth when he's about to cum. That's more real and more interesting to me than his name. I know that sounds like 1+1=oranges but I discovered his tell by exploring and paying attention over time not by playing some idea of a one off porn scene.
Sites like this offer freedom from the restraint of the mundane and everyday life - and the ability to indulge parts of yourself that you can't in the vanilla world. But those parts of yourself go well beyond your cock. If it was just about your cock, then this would be like McDonald's and first come would be first served and all of you men and all of us women would be interchangeable - and we are not.
For those guys who are fucking their way through the site, ignore this. You're getting yours and it's working for you. More power to you, but for those of you who aren't getting anywhere and blame the site or worse you blame the women on the site, evaluate how you're using it. If you're generic about it and/or closed off to revealing anything that is truly unique or interesting about you, this site isn't going to help you.
Rant over. I'm putting my stallion in for the night. "
If I ever visit your home I'll be viewing the cucumbers with a mixture of suspicion and jealousy...!
There are Escort sites if you want a meaningless release.
Now...if someone says "fancy a shag?" and the response is positive, then good luck.
But don't be insulted if the answer to you sending a dick pic and "can i cum in your kanky pussy?" is "no" |
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"I try to stay off my high horse on this site but there are times when I am just astonished and I have to find my tallest stallion and ride.
Guys - men - I get that your fantasy is that this is a sex site and that you just look at the 'menu' and order like a drive a thru and if you pull up to the second window there I'll be with a side of fries (chips) and your extra large drink but cop on.
First, this is not a sex site. It is not 'dial a fuck.' It is a means of introduction for people who aren't conventional about sex.
You're still a fully formed human being with more than just the tool between your legs - and if all I wanted was a tool, I'd go to the shop and get a cucumber because at least with that, it's fresh, it never goes limp and I don't have to serve it tea.
Also, if you don't have a lot to say to me via text when we have our clothes on, that's not going to change when you get naked. In fact, it's probably going to get worse.
A couple of weeks ago, I had the most boring, bland threesome of my life. She wasn't interesting in my living room and she was less interesting in my bed - so this goes for women, too, but it's men who balk most when I ask questions - as though I'm breaking some rule of the site by wanting to know if you prefer art to sports or music.
Sex doesn't make you more of who you are unless there is more underneath the surface. You all want this amazing sexual experience but you hide yourselves like moles and you only describe yourselves in terms of your cocks and what you like to do with them. You like to fuck. That's a given or you wouldn't be on this site. And if you think that I shouldn't ask you questions or that I shouldn't seek something that will turn me on (because if I'm seeking it, I'm not yet turned on), then you don't get what makes sex great and you don't get the art of seduction. And that doesn't mean I have to know your name or where you work. I just found out the real name of a lover I've had for years. I didn't need to know his real name, I know how his breath changes and how his cock twitches in my mouth when he's about to cum. That's more real and more interesting to me than his name. I know that sounds like 1+1=oranges but I discovered his tell by exploring and paying attention over time not by playing some idea of a one off porn scene.
Sites like this offer freedom from the restraint of the mundane and everyday life - and the ability to indulge parts of yourself that you can't in the vanilla world. But those parts of yourself go well beyond your cock. If it was just about your cock, then this would be like McDonald's and first come would be first served and all of you men and all of us women would be interchangeable - and we are not.
For those guys who are fucking their way through the site, ignore this. You're getting yours and it's working for you. More power to you, but for those of you who aren't getting anywhere and blame the site or worse you blame the women on the site, evaluate how you're using it. If you're generic about it and/or closed off to revealing anything that is truly unique or interesting about you, this site isn't going to help you.
Rant over. I'm putting my stallion in for the night.
If I ever visit your home I'll be viewing the cucumbers with a mixture of suspicion and jealousy...!
There are Escort sites if you want a meaningless release.
Now...if someone says "fancy a shag?" and the response is positive, then good luck.
But don't be insulted if the answer to you sending a dick pic and "can i cum in your kanky pussy?" is "no""
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm struggling with the concept that someone has the time to find a six month old thread. "
Yet another one brought back to life from the bowels of the Irish forum crypt .It seems to happen a lot these days |
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"I try to stay off my high horse on this site but there are times when I am just astonished and I have to find my tallest stallion and ride.
Guys - men - I get that your fantasy is that this is a sex site and that you just look at the 'menu' and order like a drive a thru and if you pull up to the second window there I'll be with a side of fries (chips) and your extra large drink but cop on.
First, this is not a sex site. It is not 'dial a fuck.' It is a means of introduction for people who aren't conventional about sex.
You're still a fully formed human being with more than just the tool between your legs - and if all I wanted was a tool, I'd go to the shop and get a cucumber because at least with that, it's fresh, it never goes limp and I don't have to serve it tea.
Also, if you don't have a lot to say to me via text when we have our clothes on, that's not going to change when you get naked. In fact, it's probably going to get worse.
A couple of weeks ago, I had the most boring, bland threesome of my life. She wasn't interesting in my living room and she was less interesting in my bed - so this goes for women, too, but it's men who balk most when I ask questions - as though I'm breaking some rule of the site by wanting to know if you prefer art to sports or music.
Sex doesn't make you more of who you are unless there is more underneath the surface. You all want this amazing sexual experience but you hide yourselves like moles and you only describe yourselves in terms of your cocks and what you like to do with them. You like to fuck. That's a given or you wouldn't be on this site. And if you think that I shouldn't ask you questions or that I shouldn't seek something that will turn me on (because if I'm seeking it, I'm not yet turned on), then you don't get what makes sex great and you don't get the art of seduction. And that doesn't mean I have to know your name or where you work. I just found out the real name of a lover I've had for years. I didn't need to know his real name, I know how his breath changes and how his cock twitches in my mouth when he's about to cum. That's more real and more interesting to me than his name. I know that sounds like 1+1=oranges but I discovered his tell by exploring and paying attention over time not by playing some idea of a one off porn scene.
Sites like this offer freedom from the restraint of the mundane and everyday life - and the ability to indulge parts of yourself that you can't in the vanilla world. But those parts of yourself go well beyond your cock. If it was just about your cock, then this would be like McDonald's and first come would be first served and all of you men and all of us women would be interchangeable - and we are not.
For those guys who are fucking their way through the site, ignore this. You're getting yours and it's working for you. More power to you, but for those of you who aren't getting anywhere and blame the site or worse you blame the women on the site, evaluate how you're using it. If you're generic about it and/or closed off to revealing anything that is truly unique or interesting about you, this site isn't going to help you.
Rant over. I'm putting my stallion in for the night. "
Those who are blaming the site and the women here for not getting their dick wet need help not fab and start looking at themselves in the mirror they just might come up with the real issue like alot of the new guys that sign up to this has it in their mind that this is a free escort site and that a hi with a cock pic is enough for the women to come running and then turns into a gremlin when told no or get no reply then come to the forums with the why can't I get a meet threads
A bit of growing up is in order with some for me I love the social side of this place although I don't get as many messages as what others do but I won't go on some kind of rampage about it it's not a race and anyways I'd rather give my attention to a select few than the whole site
The ladies here deals with so much crap here its just unacceptable we should be counting our lucky stars that they are willing to give us a chance to show we are not all complete godshites
Sorry for the rant I will take my McDonald's and go now
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"I try to stay off my high horse on this site but there are times when I am just astonished and I have to find my tallest stallion and ride.
Guys - men - I get that your fantasy is that this is a sex site and that you just look at the 'menu' and order like a drive a thru and if you pull up to the second window there I'll be with a side of fries (chips) and your extra large drink but cop on.
First, this is not a sex site. It is not 'dial a fuck.' It is a means of introduction for people who aren't conventional about sex.
You're still a fully formed human being with more than just the tool between your legs - and if all I wanted was a tool, I'd go to the shop and get a cucumber because at least with that, it's fresh, it never goes limp and I don't have to serve it tea.
Also, if you don't have a lot to say to me via text when we have our clothes on, that's not going to change when you get naked. In fact, it's probably going to get worse.
A couple of weeks ago, I had the most boring, bland threesome of my life. She wasn't interesting in my living room and she was less interesting in my bed - so this goes for women, too, but it's men who balk most when I ask questions - as though I'm breaking some rule of the site by wanting to know if you prefer art to sports or music.
Sex doesn't make you more of who you are unless there is more underneath the surface. You all want this amazing sexual experience but you hide yourselves like moles and you only describe yourselves in terms of your cocks and what you like to do with them. You like to fuck. That's a given or you wouldn't be on this site. And if you think that I shouldn't ask you questions or that I shouldn't seek something that will turn me on (because if I'm seeking it, I'm not yet turned on), then you don't get what makes sex great and you don't get the art of seduction. And that doesn't mean I have to know your name or where you work. I just found out the real name of a lover I've had for years. I didn't need to know his real name, I know how his breath changes and how his cock twitches in my mouth when he's about to cum. That's more real and more interesting to me than his name. I know that sounds like 1+1=oranges but I discovered his tell by exploring and paying attention over time not by playing some idea of a one off porn scene.
Sites like this offer freedom from the restraint of the mundane and everyday life - and the ability to indulge parts of yourself that you can't in the vanilla world. But those parts of yourself go well beyond your cock. If it was just about your cock, then this would be like McDonald's and first come would be first served and all of you men and all of us women would be interchangeable - and we are not.
For those guys who are fucking their way through the site, ignore this. You're getting yours and it's working for you. More power to you, but for those of you who aren't getting anywhere and blame the site or worse you blame the women on the site, evaluate how you're using it. If you're generic about it and/or closed off to revealing anything that is truly unique or interesting about you, this site isn't going to help you.
Rant over. I'm putting my stallion in for the night.
Those who are blaming the site and the women here for not getting their dick wet need help not fab and start looking at themselves in the mirror they just might come up with the real issue like alot of the new guys that sign up to this has it in their mind that this is a free escort site and that a hi with a cock pic is enough for the women to come running and then turns into a gremlin when told no or get no reply then come to the forums with the why can't I get a meet threads
A bit of growing up is in order with some for me I love the social side of this place although I don't get as many messages as what others do but I won't go on some kind of rampage about it it's not a race and anyways I'd rather give my attention to a select few than the whole site
The ladies here deals with so much crap here its just unacceptable we should be counting our lucky stars that they are willing to give us a chance to show we are not all complete godshites
Sorry for the rant I will take my McDonald's and go now
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Unfortunately counting anything and thanking anyone for being willing to give you a chance is setting your stall up behind that big pedestal where many will never see it or want to see it.
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"I try to stay off my high horse on this site but there are times when I am just astonished and I have to find my tallest stallion and ride.
Guys - men - I get that your fantasy is that this is a sex site and that you just look at the 'menu' and order like a drive a thru and if you pull up to the second window there I'll be with a side of fries (chips) and your extra large drink but cop on.
First, this is not a sex site. It is not 'dial a fuck.' It is a means of introduction for people who aren't conventional about sex.
You're still a fully formed human being with more than just the tool between your legs - and if all I wanted was a tool, I'd go to the shop and get a cucumber because at least with that, it's fresh, it never goes limp and I don't have to serve it tea.
Also, if you don't have a lot to say to me via text when we have our clothes on, that's not going to change when you get naked. In fact, it's probably going to get worse.
A couple of weeks ago, I had the most boring, bland threesome of my life. She wasn't interesting in my living room and she was less interesting in my bed - so this goes for women, too, but it's men who balk most when I ask questions - as though I'm breaking some rule of the site by wanting to know if you prefer art to sports or music.
Sex doesn't make you more of who you are unless there is more underneath the surface. You all want this amazing sexual experience but you hide yourselves like moles and you only describe yourselves in terms of your cocks and what you like to do with them. You like to fuck. That's a given or you wouldn't be on this site. And if you think that I shouldn't ask you questions or that I shouldn't seek something that will turn me on (because if I'm seeking it, I'm not yet turned on), then you don't get what makes sex great and you don't get the art of seduction. And that doesn't mean I have to know your name or where you work. I just found out the real name of a lover I've had for years. I didn't need to know his real name, I know how his breath changes and how his cock twitches in my mouth when he's about to cum. That's more real and more interesting to me than his name. I know that sounds like 1+1=oranges but I discovered his tell by exploring and paying attention over time not by playing some idea of a one off porn scene.
Sites like this offer freedom from the restraint of the mundane and everyday life - and the ability to indulge parts of yourself that you can't in the vanilla world. But those parts of yourself go well beyond your cock. If it was just about your cock, then this would be like McDonald's and first come would be first served and all of you men and all of us women would be interchangeable - and we are not.
For those guys who are fucking their way through the site, ignore this. You're getting yours and it's working for you. More power to you, but for those of you who aren't getting anywhere and blame the site or worse you blame the women on the site, evaluate how you're using it. If you're generic about it and/or closed off to revealing anything that is truly unique or interesting about you, this site isn't going to help you.
Rant over. I'm putting my stallion in for the night. "
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Seriously though if some people choose to use this site as an anonymous fuck and go site thats kinda there choice.
Unless someone is being rude or abusive I'd personally avoid telling them they are using the site incorrectly or dont understand sex. They may be filling that intimate hole somewhere else.
Like personally if I found someone boring in my living room I wouldn't be bringing them to my bed, but I'm not going to tell the OP she is doing it all wrong, it's personal choice and personal preference. |
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Very well written, I've already had the debate about this being a sex site over a dating site and I took my fair bit of abuse over it.
Surely you know early enough into messaging someone whether you will get along or not and what you don't want is awkward silence, or then there will be no proper fun in bed.
Just my opinion, but I reckon 60% of single men on here actually have a partner and are playing away. they don't want to chat, they want in and out without being asked to much.
People on here who know me, know my situation.
Anyway, if your horse needs oats, give me a shout. |
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"It is a sex site, if you like it or not, and everyone can use the site as they please, some will do it more sucessfully than others. Fab serves a full spectrum from fast food to the lavish dinner but yes some will never get served. It might be because of their approach but I'd say the sheer imbalance of men and women on here has also to answer for.
I agree with you that if you want to take your sexual experience to a different level, there has to be a connection that goes further than just the fleshly need and physical appeal. Yet again attraction is a complex and multifaceted construction, it varies from person to person, so what might be boring for one, might be exciting for another.
In other words there's no magical approach that fits all.
*Rides off on her donkey.
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