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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just looking for opinions. Does anybody else enjoy feeling jealous?
I have always loved to share my partners. I enjoy them flirting and playing with others. The feeling of being slightly jealous turns me on. Is anyone else the same? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jealousy is derived from negative emotions.
Only psychopaths like negative emotions iko
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That explains a lot and possibly why I not only like but enjoy it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jealousy is derived from negative emotions.
Only psychopaths like negative emotions iko
That explains a lot and possibly why I not only like but enjoy it "
You Sir are a hero  |
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"I would never react to it in a negative way. If my partner is playing its another emotion for me to enjoy. "
Maybe it's that you desire her more when you see her with others? Jealousy is totally different and not a nice feeling  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think I'd enjoy feeling jealous. It's never a nice feeling when it has happened before and I can't see how in a swinging relationship it would be healthy.
A bit envious yes but jealously no that would not appeal to me at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think there is confusion between desire and jealousy.... Desire is healthy and definitely a turn on. Dont think jealousy is a turn on.... The green eyed monster is not an attractive quality! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope...jealous ..to me any way ..is being envy of someone which means youre not happy or content with your own self in what you have...and its not a good thing as its a negative. |
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I think it's complex emotions... But for me it's more the lovely thought that she gets to enjoy herself and that someone else gets to enjoy her.
That has a little edge to it in that society looks at her sexuality as something that should be only with me.... And that she will have a different type of sex with someone else and enjoy it, but it's definitely not "jealousy" |
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Some people 'enjoy' pain. Some people 'enjoy' jealously. Others cant understand it. Human sexuality is complex. None probably moreso than D/s situations. It's not necessary to understand to enjoy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It just absolutely ruined what i had on her with another lady she absolutely hated it and got jealous over me chatting to others so i stopped doing it and meeting so to be with her had some amazing plans but never happened as the jealousy just overtook but i respected it and tottally understood and then i started to become the same and didn't wanna share her with anyone but what we had was amazing to be fair and its like a rush from a drug always chasing that high |
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"It just absolutely ruined what i had on her with another lady she absolutely hated it and got jealous over me chatting to others so i stopped doing it and meeting so to be with her had some amazing plans but never happened as the jealousy just overtook but i respected it and tottally understood and then i started to become the same and didn't wanna share her with anyone but what we had was amazing to be fair and its like a rush from a drug always chasing that high "
That's a common problem. It's natural that having sex multiple times with 1 partner will create a bond. Orgasms and sexual arousal create oxytocin in the body which is the chemical that produces bonding. It's the same chemical that's created during breastfeeding to bond between mother and child. It's what is SUPPOSED to happen to bond human beings who are having sex. The weird bit is us trying not to let that bond happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It just absolutely ruined what i had on her with another lady she absolutely hated it and got jealous over me chatting to others so i stopped doing it and meeting so to be with her had some amazing plans but never happened as the jealousy just overtook but i respected it and tottally understood and then i started to become the same and didn't wanna share her with anyone but what we had was amazing to be fair and its like a rush from a drug always chasing that high
That's a common problem. It's natural that having sex multiple times with 1 partner will create a bond. Orgasms and sexual arousal create oxytocin in the body which is the chemical that produces bonding. It's the same chemical that's created during breastfeeding to bond between mother and child. It's what is SUPPOSED to happen to bond human beings who are having sex. The weird bit is us trying not to let that bond happen."
So hard to not to let that bond happen im not a cold person in general i like who im with to feel comfortable and at ease leads to amazing fun but yeah its hard not to let that happen human nature i suppose |
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By (user no longer on site)
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That's a common problem. It's natural that having sex multiple times with 1 partner will create a bond. Orgasms and sexual arousal create oxytocin in the body which is the chemical that produces bonding. It's the same chemical that's created during breastfeeding to bond between mother and child. It's what is SUPPOSED to happen to bond human beings who are having sex. The weird bit is us trying not to let that bond happen."
Wired is subjective of course, but I also wouldn't like it not my thing. Yes the sexuality of humans is complex..more fundamentally the Brain. I suppose anything that can be arranged in the brain can potentially happen sexual or not. Even functionally or not. But functional is more likely than not.
In many of the cases I have encountered not seems that the signal in the brain for jealousy in some people is linked to the signal patters of pleasure in some way. What way is the tricky thing to answer?. Some are for sure kind of in the closet also.
For it to be so prevalent it must have had an initial evolutionary advantage. But my guess to what is as good as any.
- Maybe using their partner or working together to gain statues or control another.
- I think also if a male allows another to be with a partner, in older times the chance of conceiving would be low relative to the actual partner but then you have gained a bond with a resource giving ally.
It's a very under reaserched area and hard to confirm these things.
What is sure is if it's truly legal/consenting then it's "normal" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is an evolutionary advantage to a mother to have her mate around to protect her and any of their offspring, and to ward off other females who threaten the unit."
Hence jealousy on both parts. And why the lifestyle of Fab is not the predominate one. I suppose |
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