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over a year ago
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"NSA for me... If I like someone as a friend, and I am sexually attracted to them, and I enjoy spending time with them... I'd prefer a proper relationship with them than just fwb! "
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In my experience, the FWB thing never ends well because someone ends up wanting more. |
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"NSA for me... If I like someone as a friend, and I am sexually attracted to them, and I enjoy spending time with them... I'd prefer a proper relationship with them than just fwb!
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In my experience, the FWB thing never ends well because someone ends up wanting more. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is an NSA only a once off meet....does it turn into FWB if it happens more than once with the same partner "
So far as I'm concerned, a FWB is someone you see aside from the sex. If it's sex only then it's a fuckbuddy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So a fb ...you turn up have sex and leave...is that right
A fwb...turn up,have dinner,drinks,a few hours together having sex and leave or stay overnight
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That's how I see it.
FWB there's a connection that's based on more than sex.
FB there isn't. |
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"So a fb ...you turn up have sex and leave...is that right
A fwb...turn up,have dinner,drinks,a few hours together having sex and leave or stay overnight
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Well than I need one of each. As for feelings etc once both on same page no issue. I met a guy from fab for over a year and it was great, odd night over, lunch or cinema outings, a night away but the best part was all the hot sex we enjoyed. Many a lovely afternoon spent in front of open fire having fun , we even went to the gym a few times. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"So a fb ...you turn up have sex and leave...is that right
A fwb...turn up,have dinner,drinks,a few hours together having sex and leave or stay overnight
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A fb can stay over as well but its more about the sex. You like each other but you meet to have sex.
A friends with benefits is exactly that a friend as well. Someone who you don't necessarily have to meet just to have sex. You are actually friends who know a lot more about each other than a fb and you would and enjoy each others company as well as having great sex. |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"So a fb ...you turn up have sex and leave...is that right
A fwb...turn up,have dinner,drinks,a few hours together having sex and leave or stay overnight
Well than I need one of each. As for feelings etc once both on same page no issue. I met a guy from fab for over a year and it was great, odd night over, lunch or cinema outings, a night away but the best part was all the hot sex we enjoyed. Many a lovely afternoon spent in front of open fire having fun , we even went to the gym a few times."
Ya had me until you said Gym  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So a fb ...you turn up have sex and leave...is that right
A fwb...turn up,have dinner,drinks,a few hours together having sex and leave or stay overnight
Well than I need one of each. As for feelings etc once both on same page no issue. I met a guy from fab for over a year and it was great, odd night over, lunch or cinema outings, a night away but the best part was all the hot sex we enjoyed. Many a lovely afternoon spent in front of open fire having fun , we even went to the gym a few times.
Ya had me until you said Gym "
But there's a sauna, steam room and a jacuzzi  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ah everyone has their own preference. I think overall though for me it's gotta be the FWB.. When you know you like the person in and out of bed it makes it all the sexier!! |
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"Ah everyone has their own preference. I think overall though for me it's gotta be the FWB.. When you know you like the person in and out of bed it makes it all the sexier!! "
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"So a fb ...you turn up have sex and leave...is that right
A fwb...turn up,have dinner,drinks,a few hours together having sex and leave or stay overnight
Well than I need one of each. As for feelings etc once both on same page no issue. I met a guy from fab for over a year and it was great, odd night over, lunch or cinema outings, a night away but the best part was all the hot sex we enjoyed. Many a lovely afternoon spent in front of open fire having fun , we even went to the gym a few times.
Ya had me until you said Gym
But there's a sauna, steam room and a jacuzzi "
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"Ah everyone has their own preference. I think overall though for me it's gotta be the FWB.. When you know you like the person in and out of bed it makes it all the sexier!!
Yes ."
How many FB's do you rekon don't even know each others real names? Does an FB even care about the details?... Is it just "Don't tell me your name, just take off your clothes"....  |
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FWB is aload of b*llox IMO, one person always benefits more, mainly the male that doesn't want to commit. f*ck buddies yes, but why would I bother building intimacy and a relationship with someone when its not going anywhere? I'm busy, I dont have that sort of time to waste. |
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"FWB is aload of b*llox IMO, one person always benefits more, mainly the male that doesn't want to commit. f*ck buddies yes, but why would I bother building intimacy and a relationship with someone when its not going anywhere? I'm busy, I dont have that sort of time to waste.
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"FWB is aload of b*llox IMO, one person always benefits more, mainly the male that doesn't want to commit. f*ck buddies yes, but why would I bother building intimacy and a relationship with someone when its not going anywhere? I'm busy, I dont have that sort of time to waste. "
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"FWB is aload of b*llox IMO, one person always benefits more, mainly the male that doesn't want to commit. f*ck buddies yes, but why would I bother building intimacy and a relationship with someone when its not going anywhere? I'm busy, I dont have that sort of time to waste.
Bingo! "
I disagree but each to their own. But if only one of you is getting most of the benefits then someone is doing it wrong and allowing thenselves to be used imo. |
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"FWB is aload of b*llox IMO, one person always benefits more, mainly the male that doesn't want to commit. f*ck buddies yes, but why would I bother building intimacy and a relationship with someone when its not going anywhere? I'm busy, I dont have that sort of time to waste.
Bingo!
I disagree but each to their own. But if only one of you is getting most of the benefits then someone is doing it wrong and allowing thenselves to be used imo. "
I agree that people shouldn't settle for less than what they actually want, but in today's culture a woman who isn't up for purely casual sex is gonna be pretty lonely. So I don't blame women for seeking out intimacy where they can get it, even if it's not 100% what they want. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I agree that people shouldn't settle for less than what they actually want, but in today's culture a woman who isn't up for purely casual sex is gonna be pretty lonely. So I don't blame women for seeking out intimacy where they can get it, even if it's not 100% what they want. "
And how exactly does casual sex make someone not lonely. Casual sex is just sex is certainly won't help if you are lonely before you fuck that person. You'll be just as lonely after if that's the case. Today's culture has nothing to do with that.
I don't know many women who seek out intimacy wherever they get it or men for that matter. If people settle for less than what they want then they only have themselves to blame. No one should feel they need to settle for less. Some are happy with nsa. Some want a fb or a fwb some want relationships. It's up to everyone to not settle for less than what they want whether they are on fab or any dating site etc. Less will never make you happy. And I don't believe for a minute that most be it a man or a woman are so desperate that they will. |
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"FWB is aload of b*llox IMO, one person always benefits more, mainly the male that doesn't want to commit. f*ck buddies yes, but why would I bother building intimacy and a relationship with someone when its not going anywhere? I'm busy, I dont have that sort of time to waste.
Bingo!
I disagree but each to their own. But if only one of you is getting most of the benefits then someone is doing it wrong and allowing thenselves to be used imo.
I agree that people shouldn't settle for less than what they actually want, but in today's culture a woman who isn't up for purely casual sex is gonna be pretty lonely. So I don't blame women for seeking out intimacy where they can get it, even if it's not 100% what they want. "
No one should settle for less that I do agree with , but saying that a woman in today's culture who isn't up for casual sex is going to end up pretty lonely is not true in my opinion. |
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"My 1st choice would fwb, 2nd would be fb"
That's it , its all about individual choices as to what you'd like for yourself. If your choice makes you happy then it's the right one for you . If it makes you unhappy then don't make that mistake again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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FWB:- you both should have respect for each out and play out your fantasy if wanted to
ONS:- just one person get satisfied
FB :- Lets just have sex because each of us can be arsed finding a partner for the enjoyment and even if your not satisfied who cares ?
That’s how I look at them. |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"Fb ideal ....fwb I could see some one catching feels ....
NSA I'm not really into unless in an event type situation"
Do women and men catch feels in your opinion or if its just one of them does it fuck it up for both |
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Everyone should be free to make their own decisions and decide what makes them happy or not but it's a load of bull to insinuate that it's only women who are seeking intimacy and only men who are unwilling to commit.
Loneliness within relationships regardless of what they are tagged as is not gender specific but at the same time anyone male or female who is not interested in casual sex shouldn't automatically be put in the lonely box.
The world does not revolve around sex or peoples attitude to it. |
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"FWB is aload of b*llox IMO, one person always benefits more, mainly the male that doesn't want to commit. f*ck buddies yes, but why would I bother building intimacy and a relationship with someone when its not going anywhere? I'm busy, I dont have that sort of time to waste.
Bingo!
I disagree but each to their own. But if only one of you is getting most of the benefits then someone is doing it wrong and allowing thenselves to be used imo.
I agree that people shouldn't settle for less than what they actually want, but in today's culture a woman who isn't up for purely casual sex is gonna be pretty lonely. So I don't blame women for seeking out intimacy where they can get it, even if it's not 100% what they want.
No one should settle for less that I do agree with , but saying that a woman in today's culture who isn't up for casual sex is going to end up pretty lonely is not true in my opinion. "
Just me then? Maybe it's different for slim women, but in my experience men are not interested in dating at all these days, it's NSA sex or fwb and that's it. |
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It's up to everyone to not settle for less than what they want whether they are on fab or any dating site etc. Less will never make you happy. And I don't believe for a minute that most be it a man or a woman are so desperate that they will. "
I fully agree but I think you're absolutely delusional if you think women up and down Ireland aren't fucking guys they want to be dating in the hope that more will develop. And it's not all their fault either, plenty of men are well aware of that, use it to their advantage, and don't give a shit. |
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"Fb ideal ....fwb I could see some one catching feels ....
NSA I'm not really into unless in an event type situation
Do women and men catch feels in your opinion or if its just one of them does it fuck it up for both "
Defo it can happen both ways, and it fucks it up for both when it happens. |
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I personally don't want a real relationship unless its some type of open one.. Ive never met a man that has made me only want him forever.. And until i do find someone like that a fwb will do.. |
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"Everyone should be free to make their own decisions and decide what makes them happy or not but it's a load of bull to insinuate that it's only women who are seeking intimacy and only men who are unwilling to commit.
Loneliness within relationships regardless of what they are tagged as is not gender specific but at the same time anyone male or female who is not interested in casual sex shouldn't automatically be put in the lonely box.
The world does not revolve around sex or peoples attitude to it. "
I wasn't insinuating it's only women who seek intimacy - that's my experience, as I am a straight woman, so that's all I can speak to.
I also didn't say that anyone who doesn't do casual sex is lonely... I said that if you are a straight woman who is looking for a relationship but you don't want to have casual sex, in today's culture, it's pretty lonely. That's my experience, ie, men aren't interested in dating if sex isn't on the table straight away. I don't think I'm fundamentally undatable or unique in my experience, in fact I know many other women who have the same experience. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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It's up to everyone to not settle for less than what they want whether they are on fab or any dating site etc. Less will never make you happy. And I don't believe for a minute that most be it a man or a woman are so desperate that they will.
I fully agree but I think you're absolutely delusional if you think women up and down Ireland aren't fucking guys they want to be dating in the hope that more will develop. And it's not all their fault either, plenty of men are well aware of that, use it to their advantage, and don't give a shit. "
I am not disillusioned at all and don't really like the insinuation I am because I dare to disagree with you. If women fuck guys knowing that the guy doesn't want more then that is their own fault.And yes I know it happens but it rarely will work out as they want. As I said settling for less than what they want will never make anyone happy.
And plenty of women do the exact same thing to men as well. They lead them on and use them as well.
It's why it should be clear what both want from the start and if both are not on the same page they should walk away. If one of them continues to meet knowing what the other wanted then they have no one else to blame if it goes wrong. |
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It's up to everyone to not settle for less than what they want whether they are on fab or any dating site etc. Less will never make you happy. And I don't believe for a minute that most be it a man or a woman are so desperate that they will.
I fully agree but I think you're absolutely delusional if you think women up and down Ireland aren't fucking guys they want to be dating in the hope that more will develop. And it's not all their fault either, plenty of men are well aware of that, use it to their advantage, and don't give a shit. "
And you are delusional if you think there aren't women the length and breadth of Ireland taking advantage too and not giving a shit.
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"FWB is aload of b*llox IMO, one person always benefits more, mainly the male that doesn't want to commit. f*ck buddies yes, but why would I bother building intimacy and a relationship with someone when its not going anywhere? I'm busy, I dont have that sort of time to waste.
Bingo!
I disagree but each to their own. But if only one of you is getting most of the benefits then someone is doing it wrong and allowing thenselves to be used imo.
Did you really just say "someone is doing it wrong"?!
Because you know if women get treated like crap, it must be their own fault. My god woman, i know you're from a generation skewed by the patriarchy but COME ON."
What are you on about. Don't even try that argument. If someone allows someone else to use them they have no one but themselves to blame. If someone is treating you like crap you walk away no matter what age you are. That is having respect for yourself. And yes it can be damn hard to walk away I know because I did and it took me while to but it also taught me a lesson to not settle for less and if someone makes me feel like I'm being used to walk away. And sorry but trying to act like women are always the victims is naive. Men are just as likely to be used by women. |
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And playing the size card never wins friends or influences people.
After all to borrow a quote from another thread " most men prefer a little jiggle"
Attitude is also a determining factor in relationships and if one party has a bad attitude it's not attractive at all. |
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"NSA for me... If I like someone as a friend, and I am sexually attracted to them, and I enjoy spending time with them... I'd prefer a proper relationship with them than just fwb!
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In my experience, the FWB thing never ends well because someone ends up wanting more.
100% (and by someone I mean me usually) "
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NSA is exactly that...thanks for everything hope you had as good a time as l had ..take care, bye.
FWB is something way more than NSA there is a mutual respect part that both have for each other in ways other than sex which at times may lead to deeper feelings which may not neccessarily be a bad thing .
Of the two ? both have their pros and cons but definetely sex is way better in the FWB dept. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
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Going by those definitions I have/had many fwbs just because I like my meets with a bit of classy frills and a repeat option.
Aren't labels great, they never match and always cause arguments.
Anyway I'm greedy, I'm having both. Like someone said further up why settle for less?
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"NSA for me... If I like someone as a friend, and I am sexually attracted to them, and I enjoy spending time with them... I'd prefer a proper relationship with them than just fwb! "
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This thread just shows that not everyone is on the same page with terminology.
I'm good with FB or FWB, not interested in ONS. In my mind neither FB or FWB have strings attached.
To me, a fuck buddy is sex with no meeting or socialising outside of meeting for sex/play. It can be long term, it can include staying overnight, for me it often means being mates.
A FWB would only differ from that in that we do other activities together as well as sex.
As for catching feels, I love a lot of my friends. Doesn't mean I have to jump on the conventional relationship escalator with them just because I also happen to be sexual with any of them.
I'm very happy being 'officially' single & have no intention of cohabiting with anyone in the future. Sure, someone could happen along to change my mind, but I'm not looking for it.
I have found a lot of people tell you they want FWB but often behave as if the F is silent.
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FWB works well for me and my FWB, we are both married but not to each other, we meet 3/4 times a month, sometimes more if we can both make it, we are both happy in our own family life’s but the sec we have is so so good, she said I have improved her home sex life as we try lots of things but her hubby wouldn’t, it’s been going on 4 years and gets better each time we meet |
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Difficult one , in theory fwb every time , issue I had in the past is it can lead to jealousy and other issues. Definitely the more you get to know someone the better the sex gets . For me casual is my preference after learning the hard way , |
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