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 and lots of lunatics on here to chat to | |||
"Hey lad don’t be Plenty to look forward to and lots of lunatics on here to chat to "This | |||
"Hey lad don’t be Plenty to look forward to and lots of lunatics on here to chat to "This  | |||
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" Unless of course you are hoping for a pity ride. Then those numbers won't help you." That's hardly the kind of thing to be saying when someone is expressing their difficulties with this situation. | |||
"all I can say is I am struggling " Have you got someone you can talk to at the very least.. even if you cant meet in person | |||
"all I can say is I am struggling " Get a ball and draw a face on it and call it :- Wilson Umbro Mitre Chin up op. T | |||
"all I can say is I am struggling " Alright lad..its not nice at all ..maybe you could phone a buddy have a chat....maybe go for a stroll around with another friend,call to see a family member...that extended bubble craic | |||
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" Unless of course you are hoping for a pity ride. Then those numbers won't help you. That's hardly the kind of thing to be saying when someone is expressing their difficulties with this situation. " You clearly missed the part where I told him where there are numbers for people experiencing loneliness ?. When you've been around the scene as long as me and seen some of the ways people try to get a meet using loneliness isn't even one of the worse angles | |||
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"Loneliness is no joke and often it has nothing to do with the number of friends or family you have. It comes from a lack of meaningful connection, something with all crave. I'm really sorry you're feeling this way but I'm positive you're far from alone. Loneliness is a real problem in winter generally, but through a pandemic into the mix and it's a wonder everyone doesn't feel that way. I'd suggest talking to the samaritins. I spoke to them a lot when I had depression and it really helped just to feel like somebody cared about me. I hope you find a solution soon OP. My inbox is always open if you wanna talk about it or just have somebody to shoot the shit with. " very well put x | |||
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"thanks for replies I am trying 2 take some of advise but very difficult 2 process thouhgts " That's what depression does unfortunately. Talk to someone. If all else fails then make that someone your GP | |||
"There are number all over FB for people struggling with loneliness. I don't have them to hand but I'm sure Google could find them. Unless of course you are hoping for a pity ride. Then those numbers won't help you." Why be so rude Just because OP is a man posting on forum saying he feels lonely I feel lonely Yes I've family And I'm single So lockdown for 3 months made me feel alone If I posted a similar post on forum, I would say your response would have been different Just because a person is on fab doesn't mean they deserve less emotional comfort If OP was a friend of yours and said he felt lonely your response would have been very different You would have said F@#K the 2m rule and hugged him Some people don't have that in their lives  | |||
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"There are number all over FB for people struggling with loneliness. I don't have them to hand but I'm sure Google could find them. Unless of course you are hoping for a pity ride. Then those numbers won't help you. Why be so rude Just because OP is a man posting on forum saying he feels lonely I feel lonely Yes I've family And I'm single So lockdown for 3 months made me feel alone If I posted a similar post on forum, I would say your response would have been different Just because a person is on fab doesn't mean they deserve less emotional comfort If OP was a friend of yours and said he felt lonely your response would have been very different You would have said F@#K the 2m rule and hugged him Some people don't have that in their lives " | |||
"There are number all over FB for people struggling with loneliness. I don't have them to hand but I'm sure Google could find them. Unless of course you are hoping for a pity ride. Then those numbers won't help you. Why be so rude Just because OP is a man posting on forum saying he feels lonely I feel lonely Yes I've family And I'm single So lockdown for 3 months made me feel alone If I posted a similar post on forum, I would say your response would have been different Just because a person is on fab doesn't mean they deserve less emotional comfort If OP was a friend of yours and said he felt lonely your response would have been very different You would have said F@#K the 2m rule and hugged him Some people don't have that in their lives " | |||
"There are number all over FB for people struggling with loneliness. I don't have them to hand but I'm sure Google could find them. Unless of course you are hoping for a pity ride. Then those numbers won't help you. Why be so rude Just because OP is a man posting on forum saying he feels lonely I feel lonely Yes I've family And I'm single So lockdown for 3 months made me feel alone If I posted a similar post on forum, I would say your response would have been different Just because a person is on fab doesn't mean they deserve less emotional comfort If OP was a friend of yours and said he felt lonely your response would have been very different You would have said F@#K the 2m rule and hugged him Some people don't have that in their lives "
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"What you don't have any friends living near you? " I literally don't have any friends near me. I'm nearly 2 hours away from anyone I socialise with. Your comment comes across very snarky tbh. OP I'm with you. This lockdown is definitely harder for me than the last. I would say I am actively depressed. But I've been trying to keep myself busy and stay on schedule with sleeping and eating. Try to stick to your routine. This will pass! | |||
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"There are number all over FB for people struggling with loneliness. I don't have them to hand but I'm sure Google could find them. Unless of course you are hoping for a pity ride. Then those numbers won't help you. Why be so rude Just because OP is a man posting on forum saying he feels lonely I feel lonely Yes I've family And I'm single So lockdown for 3 months made me feel alone If I posted a similar post on forum, I would say your response would have been different Just because a person is on fab doesn't mean they deserve less emotional comfort If OP was a friend of yours and said he felt lonely your response would have been very different You would have said F@#K the 2m rule and hugged him Some people don't have that in their lives
"Loneliness and depression is often not a concious choice, its often a chemical/hormonal imbalance. It's a tough time for anyone on their own at the moment so watch your diet, get plenty of fresh foods (Not processed foods) and perhaps discuss a check up with your gp. loniness and depression generally kill any drive to get out and do the things that can help so try to plan your day instead of just letting the days pass by. Best of luck I hope you find the energy and drive back to find a way through. | |||
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"Loneliness is an optional state of mind. " It is if one has the awareness and means the manage this state of mind. There is so many that don't this is the reason the OP has posted i would imagine. | |||
" When you've been around the scene as long as me and seen some of the ways people try to get a meet using loneliness isn't even one of the worse angles" If that’s the jaded assumption you make about a man who posts about being lonely in the middle of a pandemic lockdown then perhaps you’ve been on the scene too long. OP, I’m so sorry you feel like this... I’m a big believer taking the day one bite sized piece at a time... sometimes a month, a week or even a day is too much to take on... but one bite at a time makes everything more achievable. Xx | |||
"all I can say is I am struggling " OP it is good to reach out do you have family or friends to talk about this? . If not use the help lines there is one named "aware" and many others if you google them. You are definitely not alone in this feeling with the way things are currently. I hope you get some help to ease this feeling. | |||
" Loneliness and depression is often not a concious choice, its often a chemical/hormonal imbalance. It's a tough time for anyone on their own at the moment so watch your diet, get plenty of fresh foods (Not processed foods) and perhaps discuss a check up with your gp. " Lonliness and depression are actually never choices. Just wanted to clear that up. And while I'm here, changing your diet will also not treat or cure a mental health problem. Shallow advice like this can make people with mental health problems feel as if it's their fault, and is damaging to the wider discussion on mental health. | |||
"Loneliness is an optional state of mind. " No it fucking isn't. What is wrong with you? No one chooses to be lonely. Solitude either affects them or it doesn't. Get off your high horse and try and learn a bit of empathy  | |||
"all I can say is I am struggling " I hear you and I hope you manage to work things out with yourself. This is a tougher than usual time to be alive. I don't know any more context about your private life, but if you have anyone you can talk to - family, old friends, old colleagues - reach out. They'll be delighted to hear from you. I haven't seen my family in a good while. We Zoom or call each other quite a lot. Its not ideal but it's better than nothing | |||
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"I wish you well . but if your lonly this is the wrong place too be . let me explain .. Depression and lonlyness come from feeling rejected and "your not good enough " ..... Well on here those feelings on here will be multiplyed by ten ..... Cause for every woman on here theres probly 100 men and therefore your mail does not get answered ect .. .. But seek out some of those apps .. Also try tinder .. Ive jad moreluckon their than here" There's more to loneliness than just sex. Since we are in the midst of a lockdown and meeting people is off the table for me I've been spending a lot more time in the forums and it's been a really nice social outlet. | |||
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"thanks for replies I am trying 2 take some of advise but very difficult 2 process thouhgts " Be gentle with yourself and take everything right back to basics. Make sure you're sleeping, eating and moving every day. Try to avoid alcohol, drugs and caffeine. Control what you can, and try not to let your thoughts overwhelm you. If you can, I'd suggest downloading a mindfulness / meditation app and doing some guided meditations that can help you get some distance from your thoughts - Buddhify is one of my favourites as you don't need a subscription and it breaks the meditations down by category. When I am feeling down and overwhelmed, meditation really helps me because it reminds me that thoughts and feelings aren't facts - they are just things passing through your mind, and you can separate yourself and your mood from these thoughts and feelings. I hope the above is helpful, I've struggled with depression and anxiety for years and I personally find the "reach out and talk to someone", "go for a walk" rhetoric to be unhelpful because you might as well ask me to climb Everest when I am feeling low as instigate a conversation with someone Ajoit my mental health. I just focus on keeping myself clean and fed, and doing what I can to clear my mind. | |||
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 )...whatever it is..no matter how small a thing ..wether its music..movies..working out..puzzles..board games..outdoors...whatever or start something youve always wanted to do but felt you hadnt the time or maybe the ability..it doesnt matter.....just try to set some sort of regular routine and that will help fill the time which would in turn occupy your mind.best wishes to you always OP | |||
"There are number all over FB for people struggling with loneliness. I don't have them to hand but I'm sure Google could find them. Unless of course you are hoping for a pity ride. Then those numbers won't help you." usual from the "old banyervilles" chin up son every hurdles gona be an even bigger one but can you jump it? Only you know... and I can tell you from experience iv not jumped many....but I'm ready for the next one  everyone's here | |||
"There are number all over FB for people struggling with loneliness. I don't have them to hand but I'm sure Google could find them. Unless of course you are hoping for a pity ride. Then those numbers won't help you.usual from the "old banyervilles" chin up son every hurdles gona be an even bigger one but can you jump it? Only you know... and I can tell you from experience iv not jumped many....but I'm ready for the next one everyone's here"bantervilles! Oldies | |||
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"What you don't have any friends living near you? " Not everyone has friends or family unfortunately | |||
"all I can say is I am struggling " Guys don't talk and it's not easy. It is6 a real and serious problem. First step was to admit how you feel. Well done. Next step is keep talking.Here Facebook, WhatsApp anywhere. Trust me it helps plus exercise is great for mind | |||
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"There are number all over FB for people struggling with loneliness. I don't have them to hand but I'm sure Google could find them. Unless of course you are hoping for a pity ride. Then those numbers won't help you." No need for the snide dig there, OP is just expressing his emotions, something a lot of guys haven't the balls to do! Fair play op! I hear ya, loneliness is a serious issue at the moment, I feel the same. | |||
