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By *adylace OP Woman
over a year ago
Waterford City |
Is finding a local fwb the answer for people that are struggling with restrictions? I have great admiration for people that are managing well with it all but I'll admit to being very conflicted about it and I'm wondering if finding someone local to help is the answer. |
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"Is finding a local fwb the answer for people that are struggling with restrictions? I have great admiration for people that are managing well with it all but I'll admit to being very conflicted about it and I'm wondering if finding someone local to help is the answer. "
It's against regulations to have visitors in your home right now. This would also apply to FWBs!
I live alone and would absolutely love to have someone over, even for a cup of tea, but some people have to actually abide by the guidelines if this is ever going to be over. I'm trying to be one of those people. |
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By *adylace OP Woman
over a year ago
Waterford City |
"Is finding a local fwb the answer for people that are struggling with restrictions? I have great admiration for people that are managing well with it all but I'll admit to being very conflicted about it and I'm wondering if finding someone local to help is the answer.
It's against regulations to have visitors in your home right now. This would also apply to FWBs!
I live alone and would absolutely love to have someone over, even for a cup of tea, but some people have to actually abide by the guidelines if this is ever going to be over. I'm trying to be one of those people. "
I admire your strength. I have been doing my best to abide by whatever guidelines that were in place at the time but I will admit that I'm seriously struggling with it now. |
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"Is finding a local fwb the answer for people that are struggling with restrictions? I have great admiration for people that are managing well with it all but I'll admit to being very conflicted about it and I'm wondering if finding someone local to help is the answer.
It's against regulations to have visitors in your home right now. This would also apply to FWBs!
I live alone and would absolutely love to have someone over, even for a cup of tea, but some people have to actually abide by the guidelines if this is ever going to be over. I'm trying to be one of those people.
I admire your strength. I have been doing my best to abide by whatever guidelines that were in place at the time but I will admit that I'm seriously struggling with it now. "
Me too tbh, it's really isolating |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
"Isn't it allowed to meet for a coffee outdoors at a service station or something similar just to say hello and refresh your brain.
It is, with one other household "
Genuinely wouldn't blame anyone living on their own and lonely doing this
From reading some of the posts here back in April loneliness was a huge problem especially if you lost your job or worked from home
Take the normal precautions and have a chat with someone
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"Isn't it allowed to meet for a coffee outdoors at a service station or something similar just to say hello and refresh your brain.
It is, with one other household
Genuinely wouldn't blame anyone living on their own and lonely doing this
From reading some of the posts here back in April loneliness was a huge problem especially if you lost your job or worked from home
Take the normal precautions and have a chat with someone
It doesn't have to lead anywhere "
I do have friends I can meet, haha. And I am! But it's still like, one-two IRL conversations with people a week which is... not normal.
I fully understand people having FWBs, I had a couple of meets before these most recent regulations too. No judgement, it's just a tough slog. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
A trusted fwb is probably the only way to get through this all as there is no real end in sight.
But it definitely has to be someone who you can trust and you know they aren't playing games with you. Not easy to find on here but worth it if you do.
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A FWB is a great scenario of you can find it, we’re allowed to bubble with another household up north (I think) which can help with having a little bit of face to face conversation every now and again |
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By *anKinkyMan
over a year ago
Carrick on Shannon |
"Is finding a local fwb the answer for people that are struggling with restrictions? I have great admiration for people that are managing well with it all but I'll admit to being very conflicted about it and I'm wondering if finding someone local to help is the answer. "
WOFT SADLY.CONVIENT is a word I never see on a profile here
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By *1CorkCouple
over a year ago
Cork |
If you need to satisfy yourself sexually with another person, go for it. If you are generally complying with all the guidelines in all other facets of life but you have primary physical and psychological sexual needs, then satisfy them. Society would be worse off if your mental health deteriorated and your urges lead you to a point of fatigue and non compliance with the guidelines more generally in your life.
Guidelines are just that. They require public buy in and social cohesion. If your confidence and commitment to following Government advice is undermined by the denial of physical and psychological needs, then that is worse for society and the Government’s/ Nation’s objectives.
Fuck away... when you feel you need to... sounds like you are trying to find an approach to fuck responsibly... you should only be commended.
The narrative on here that swingers meeting is somewhat an evil selfish trait is rubbish. Non-cohabitating sexual encounters are of course happening and will continue to happen throughout society - they are an accepted reality. Swinger meets represent a negligible subset of that accepted risk in society. Risk can never be fully eliminated, only reduced. |
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"what if 2 people got tested and they proved to be negative would that regulation stay in place?? "
The regulation would, yes. Logically if you wanted to be 99.9% sure you were both covid negative you would have to self isolate for two weeks in advance of the test, then self isolate between testing and meeting. (the. 01% risk is catching it while you're out getting tested)
But that's a lot of effort for a ride... And you'd have to do it every time you wanted to meet! Unless you moved in together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what if 2 people got tested and they proved to be negative would that regulation stay in place??
The regulation would, yes. Logically if you wanted to be 99.9% sure you were both covid negative you would have to self isolate for two weeks in advance of the test, then self isolate between testing and meeting. (the. 01% risk is catching it while you're out getting tested)
But that's a lot of effort for a ride... And you'd have to do it every time you wanted to meet! Unless you moved in together. "
That would be some dedication there though in fairness would rule out the no shows |
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"what if 2 people got tested and they proved to be negative would that regulation stay in place??
The regulation would, yes. Logically if you wanted to be 99.9% sure you were both covid negative you would have to self isolate for two weeks in advance of the test, then self isolate between testing and meeting. (the. 01% risk is catching it while you're out getting tested)
But that's a lot of effort for a ride... And you'd have to do it every time you wanted to meet! Unless you moved in together.
That would be some dedication there though in fairness would rule out the no shows "
was just an early morning question I've been educated knowledge is power thank you  |
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"Is finding a local fwb the answer for people that are struggling with restrictions? I have great admiration for people that are managing well with it all but I'll admit to being very conflicted about it and I'm wondering if finding someone local to help is the answer. "
You might be frisky buts its too risky.
If you got COVID from them, you put you, your family and friends at risk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's peoples own preference at the end of the day.. Harder for people living alone and been single too.. We've been careful for so long.. Its hard on ur mental health too.. An outdoor coffee is no harm. Can always plan the fun for another time  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Something has to give to be fair.
My Smartwatch reckons I've ran four miles today but I haven't left the house  "
I love when it tells you multiple times a day...only 124 more steps to reach your goal mid-way through.
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"what if 2 people got tested and they proved to be negative would that regulation stay in place??
The regulation would, yes. Logically if you wanted to be 99.9% sure you were both covid negative you would have to self isolate for two weeks in advance of the test, then self isolate between testing and meeting. (the. 01% risk is catching it while you're out getting tested)
But that's a lot of effort for a ride... And you'd have to do it every time you wanted to meet! Unless you moved in together.
That would be some dedication there though in fairness would rule out the no shows "
I'm not sure it would, lol... In my experience the more effort I go to, the more likely the guy is to flake   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what if 2 people got tested and they proved to be negative would that regulation stay in place??
The regulation would, yes. Logically if you wanted to be 99.9% sure you were both covid negative you would have to self isolate for two weeks in advance of the test, then self isolate between testing and meeting. (the. 01% risk is catching it while you're out getting tested)
But that's a lot of effort for a ride... And you'd have to do it every time you wanted to meet! Unless you moved in together.
That would be some dedication there though in fairness would rule out the no shows
I'm not sure it would, lol... In my experience the more effort I go to, the more likely the guy is to flake "
Ah ok well I suppose there’s a lot of flakes out there. I’ll go with a galaxy ripple instead I may get past the first message then |
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"Is finding a local fwb the answer for people that are struggling with restrictions? I have great admiration for people that are managing well with it all but I'll admit to being very conflicted about it and I'm wondering if finding someone local to help is the answer. "
For our sanity I think it is. I've been looking but honestly it's proving difficult to find one.  |
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"Is finding a local fwb the answer for people that are struggling with restrictions? I have great admiration for people that are managing well with it all but I'll admit to being very conflicted about it and I'm wondering if finding someone local to help is the answer. "
It's a difficult question to answer, on one had I would say yes but as has been said there would need to be a lot of trust and honesty on both parties.
Even before Covid I would have liked to meet someone as an exclusive fwb. |
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"Is finding a local fwb the answer for people that are struggling with restrictions? I have great admiration for people that are managing well with it all but I'll admit to being very conflicted about it and I'm wondering if finding someone local to help is the answer. "
The local fwb is definitely the holy grail.... anyone local give me a shout ha |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
on the hill NordWest of |
Imo searching actively for a fwb doesn't work, it either just happens or not. Also it's quite crucial that you really click when it comes to sex,unfortunately it's rather tricky at present to do samples.
So unless it's someone you've met before, it's almost mission impossible.  |
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If I can make a suggestion to anyone looking for a local FWB .... have your location on your profile, especially in the area which shows just under your username when you post in the forum.
I get why people (including ourselves) are vague about their location, but if looking for a local buddy, then does it not make sense to be more specific about your location?
Mrs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm the perfect FWB for this long cold lockdown... Female With Bog...
Are there bogs in kildare? "
Oh lots my family have 3 different plots around the county. So I'm a great FWB |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm the perfect FWB for this long cold lockdown... Female With Bog...
Are there bogs in kildare?
Oh lots my family have 3 different plots around the county. So I'm a great FWB "
Female Willing (to) Bag, Rosebush  |
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"I'm the perfect FWB for this long cold lockdown... Female With Bog...
Are there bogs in kildare?
Oh lots my family have 3 different plots around the county. So I'm a great FWB "
Nothing beats the smell of Turf. Well!! |
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over a year ago
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"I'm the perfect FWB for this long cold lockdown... Female With Bog...
Are there bogs in kildare?
Oh lots my family have 3 different plots around the county. So I'm a great FWB
Nothing beats the smell of Turf. Well!!"
Well lying naked in front of it with your FWB is pretty good |
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"I'm the perfect FWB for this long cold lockdown... Female With Bog...
Are there bogs in kildare?
Oh lots my family have 3 different plots around the county. So I'm a great FWB
Nothing beats the smell of Turf. Well!!
Well lying naked in front of it with your FWB is pretty good "
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Reminds me of a rainy night in a cottage in Donegal. Just the turf fire lit and the flames dancing. |
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So the introduction of social bubbles makes this scenario possible now! As long as both parties adhere to lockdown otherwise, engage in good faith, and act as one household - ie, if one member shows symptoms the whole bubble has to self isolate.
Here's the info...
https://www.rte.ie/news/coronavirus/2020/1019/1172534-extended-household-bubble-explained/ |
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"I am looking for a feb situation around west yorkshire or within a 50mile radius
Fwb*
Only Female / Couple’s wink or mail me"
My advice would be to start searching within the right country in that case lol |
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"So the introduction of social bubbles makes this scenario possible now! As long as both parties adhere to lockdown otherwise, engage in good faith, and act as one household - ie, if one member shows symptoms the whole bubble has to self isolate.
Here's the info...
https://www.rte.ie/news/coronavirus/2020/1019/1172534-extended-household-bubble-explained/"
Now to find that elusive local single FWB, my mailbox will be overloaded.........not.  |
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"So the introduction of social bubbles makes this scenario possible now! As long as both parties adhere to lockdown otherwise, engage in good faith, and act as one household - ie, if one member shows symptoms the whole bubble has to self isolate.
Here's the info...
https://www.rte.ie/news/coronavirus/2020/1019/1172534-extended-household-bubble-explained/"
This isnt actually the case. This scenario is only supposed to be used if you're a single parent or a carer.
Then again I dont fathom how this would be policed.As long as your your not 5k from home. |
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By *onedbodMan
over a year ago
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"So the introduction of social bubbles makes this scenario possible now! As long as both parties adhere to lockdown otherwise, engage in good faith, and act as one household - ie, if one member shows symptoms the whole bubble has to self isolate.
Here's the info...
https://www.rte.ie/news/coronavirus/2020/1019/1172534-extended-household-bubble-explained/
This isnt actually the case. This scenario is only supposed to be used if you're a single parent or a carer.
Then again I dont fathom how this would be policed.As long as your your not 5k from home."
Not the case either! Once a person is living alone and irrespective of the 5km rule they can form a social bubble with another household for support etc! |
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"So the introduction of social bubbles makes this scenario possible now! As long as both parties adhere to lockdown otherwise, engage in good faith, and act as one household - ie, if one member shows symptoms the whole bubble has to self isolate.
Here's the info...
https://www.rte.ie/news/coronavirus/2020/1019/1172534-extended-household-bubble-explained/
This isnt actually the case. This scenario is only supposed to be used if you're a single parent or a carer.
Then again I dont fathom how this would be policed.As long as your your not 5k from home. Not the case either! Once a person is living alone and irrespective of the 5km rule they can form a social bubble with another household for support etc! "
Yup, a single adult household or anyone living alone with mental health challenges are both allowed to form a support bubble with one other household! (in addition to single parents, single carers, or those who receive care or home help)
Personally I will not be taking a lover, but forming a bubble with a friend who is a single parent. But I'd be lying if I said I hadn't considered going for some D instead |
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Joking aside, here is the actual info on the Gov.ie website for anyone who needs it... I know I certainly couldn't face into another six weeks by myself, so I'm very relieved this has been introduced.
https://www.gov.ie/en/publication/3516d-support-bubbles/ |
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