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I’m really struggling with this. I’m struggling with saying no and it being accepted. I’m quite able to block before anyone starts stating the obvious.
Twice now, guys have taken it a step further and gotten friends to message following a “No and Block”. They either ask for a reason, request another chance and then immediately follow by being downright abusive. I can’t report them because they block the minute they send the message, cutting off the option. It’s clear I’ve had a lucky escape but Christ its freaking me out.
Women of fab, is this the norm now? You chat to someone for a few messages, you aren’t feeling it and they take such exception to you saying “thanks but no thanks” that they lose their shit? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a single profile before i met the boss.
Personally I just didnt respond if not interested. Because unfortuntately when you say no, no matter how polite you are, they either get offended or try to change your mind.
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"I had a single profile before i met the boss.
Personally I just didnt respond if not interested. Because unfortuntately when you say no, no matter how polite you are, they either get offended or try to change your mind.
#nomeansnolads"
This was after chatting for a bit. I was interested but he came across as a bit pushy so I changed my mind. Then he got all stalker on me. Is this the norm how? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh, you've encountered a few " Nice Guys" if your familiar with the term.
You don't owe anyone a reason or explanation. If your not interested that's enough. Delete , block (if you can) and move on if they keep pestering you.
The problem lies with them and not you 
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I don't respond if I'm not interested for exactly this reason, I just delete. If they message again I block.
Same goes if we've been chatting tbh (talking about a few messages back and forth, not days or weeks of texting), if I'm not into it I'll stop responding or if they continue to hassle me, I block.
You absolutely do not owe anyone a response, not because it's good manners, not because they took the time to message you, not for any reason. We are strangers on the Internet. Words on a screen. It's not a big deal not to get an answer from someone you sent an online message to.
If guys have an issue with us not responding or blocking, they need to take it up with their fellow men who can't take a polite rejection without resorting to harassment or abuse, not us. |
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I am very much aware you ladies go through a lot of shit from some terrible fellas. If the shoe was on the other foot, i would probably delete the message, unless their profile caught my attention. Even then, i would have doubts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m really struggling with this. I’m struggling with saying no and it being accepted. I’m quite able to block before anyone starts stating the obvious.
Twice now, guys have taken it a step further and gotten friends to message following a “No and Block”. They either ask for a reason, request another chance and then immediately follow by being downright abusive. I can’t report them because they block the minute they send the message, cutting off the option. It’s clear I’ve had a lucky escape but Christ its freaking me out.
Women of fab, is this the norm now? You chat to someone for a few messages, you aren’t feeling it and they take such exception to you saying “thanks but no thanks” that they lose their shit? "
There are two types of guys in this joint ...those that can take rejection..and those that can't ..  |
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By *P_80Man
over a year ago
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I'll never understand why some lads feel the need to be told that they're not wanted.
No reply is disappointing but Jesus, I don't need her to tell me why she has no interest in me.
Boggles the mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I had a penny for every rejection, non reply, chat & then the no thanks...
but sure the fun is in the chase...if you never failed you could not enjoy the triumph & elation of a meet...
But ladies interest is in the reply or non reply...if you applied for a job & were unsuccessful you would not hassle/stalk the company...you are no more entitles to a meet than you are a job |
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"I'll never understand why some lads feel the need to be told that they're not wanted.
No reply is disappointing but Jesus, I don't need her to tell me why she has no interest in me.
Boggles the mind."
Saaaaaame! If I get ghosted or don't get a reply I can make up a nice story to myself about them falling off a cliff or something that's not about rejecting me at all, MUCH better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't respond if I'm not interested for exactly this reason, I just delete. If they message again I block.
Same goes if we've been chatting tbh (talking about a few messages back and forth, not days or weeks of texting), if I'm not into it I'll stop responding or if they continue to hassle me, I block.
You absolutely do not owe anyone a response, not because it's good manners, not because they took the time to message you, not for any reason. We are strangers on the Internet. Words on a screen. It's not a big deal not to get an answer from someone you sent an online message to.
If guys have an issue with us not responding or blocking, they need to take it up with their fellow men who can't take a polite rejection without resorting to harassment or abuse, not us. "
I totally agree with you. We are strangers on the internet. If I'm not interested I ignore ...if I respond it doesn't mean " the deal is sealed"...yet a lot of guys think I'm theirs!! They get shitty if I don't message.. Do they not realise that most women may be mother's,carers,career women . ie lots of things to occupy their minds besides that stupid cock pic! |
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"I'll never understand why some lads feel the need to be told that they're not wanted.
No reply is disappointing but Jesus, I don't need her to tell me why she has no interest in me.
Boggles the mind."
Totally agree with you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll never understand why some lads feel the need to be told that they're not wanted.
No reply is disappointing but Jesus, I don't need her to tell me why she has no interest in me.
Boggles the mind.
Saaaaaame! If I get ghosted or don't get a reply I can make up a nice story to myself about them falling off a cliff or something that's not about rejecting me at all, MUCH better. "
I laughed out loud here!! So funny !!! |
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There's a seriously ugly thread of entitlement from men on here.
You see so many moaning about how no women with reply to them with their blank profiles and cock/Sky remote pictures.
They don't take into account at all that the ratio is about 100 men to every 1 women.
Any time a woman on here showed me her inbox it had more yellow than an episode of The Simpsons.
A blank profile will get you nowhere so stop moaning.
Any time I send a woman a message and it's read but not replied to, I don't give it a second thought.
If she does reply to say no thanks, I appreciate the effort and wish her the best.
Nobody owes anyone else anything on here. |
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"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again
How about you just... Don't message again? "
because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block |
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"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again
How about you just... Don't message again?
because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block "
But if they don't read it how can they reply? Or block you? |
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"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again
How about you just... Don't message again?
because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block
But if they don't read it how can they reply? Or block you? "
ehh duhh, that's my point |
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"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again
How about you just... Don't message again?
because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block
But if they don't read it how can they reply? Or block you?
ehh duhh, that's my point "
OK but what you're actually saying here is that you will message a woman repeatedly until she blocks you... Just in case she might be interested? |
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I can block guys fine. I have no issue saying no when things go stale.
The issue is how to say it so they don’t turn into raving loons that get their mates to message me to harass and insult me.
If anyone can tell me how to report a user using just their name that would be enormously helpful. |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"I can block guys fine. I have no issue saying no when things go stale.
The issue is how to say it so they don’t turn into raving loons that get their mates to message me to harass and insult me.
If anyone can tell me how to report a user using just their name that would be enormously helpful. "
I am going to block u click on my profile then read across the top it let u block me back and report my profile to administration |
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"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again
How about you just... Don't message again?
because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block
But if they don't read it how can they reply? Or block you?
ehh duhh, that's my point
OK but what you're actually saying here is that you will message a woman repeatedly until she blocks you... Just in case she might be interested? "
Nowhere did I say here I will message until I get blocked.
I don't have to re write its still there.
women here get loads of messages, alot here bulk delete. if your message is not read how is anyone supposed to know if they are or are not interested. anyway... the op is on about douche bags this is way off topic. |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"I can block guys fine. I have no issue saying no when things go stale.
The issue is how to say it so they don’t turn into raving loons that get their mates to message me to harass and insult me.
If anyone can tell me how to report a user using just their name that would be enormously helpful.
I am going to block u click on my profile then read across the top it let u block me back and report my profile to administration "
Ur blocked click on the profile and then on menu its all there post when ur done so i can unblock u and perve ur pics |
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"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again
How about you just... Don't message again?
because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block
But if they don't read it how can they reply? Or block you?
ehh duhh, that's my point
OK but what you're actually saying here is that you will message a woman repeatedly until she blocks you... Just in case she might be interested?
Nowhere did I say here I will message until I get blocked.
I don't have to re write its still there.
women here get loads of messages, alot here bulk delete. if your message is not read how is anyone supposed to know if they are or are not interested. anyway... the op is on about douche bags this is way off topic. "
Honestly - a lot of women click on the profile before reading the message. I do this pretty much every time. If I go onto the profile and I see that there's no potential, I delete the message without reading it.
So just because the message hasn't been read doesn't mean you should keep messaging. |
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"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again
How about you just... Don't message again?
because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block
But if they don't read it how can they reply? Or block you?
ehh duhh, that's my point
OK but what you're actually saying here is that you will message a woman repeatedly until she blocks you... Just in case she might be interested?
Nowhere did I say here I will message until I get blocked.
I don't have to re write its still there.
women here get loads of messages, alot here bulk delete. if your message is not read how is anyone supposed to know if they are or are not interested. anyway... the op is on about douche bags this is way off topic.
Honestly - a lot of women click on the profile before reading the message. I do this pretty much every time. If I go onto the profile and I see that there's no potential, I delete the message without reading it.
So just because the message hasn't been read doesn't mean you should keep messaging. "
This. Also you said you wished women would respond because it saves you messages them again, so...?
Here are the scenarios -
You message. She's not interested, doesn't reply. You message again "just in case". She blocks you.
You message, she doesn't get to read it because she has so many messages. You message again, she misses that too. You message again. She eventually finds three messages, deems you impatient / pushy / desperate (not saying that's fair, but it's the impression it gives). She is not interested, blocks you.
You message, she doesn't get to read it. She comes across it eventually, is interested, messages you back. Happy ending!
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
limerick |
"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again
How about you just... Don't message again?
because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block
But if they don't read it how can they reply? Or block you?
ehh duhh, that's my point
OK but what you're actually saying here is that you will message a woman repeatedly until she blocks you... Just in case she might be interested?
Nowhere did I say here I will message until I get blocked.
I don't have to re write its still there.
women here get loads of messages, alot here bulk delete. if your message is not read how is anyone supposed to know if they are or are not interested. anyway... the op is on about douche bags this is way off topic.
Honestly - a lot of women click on the profile before reading the message. I do this pretty much every time. If I go onto the profile and I see that there's no potential, I delete the message without reading it.
So just because the message hasn't been read doesn't mean you should keep messaging.
This. Also you said you wished women would respond because it saves you messages them again, so...?
Here are the scenarios -
You message. She's not interested, doesn't reply. You message again "just in case". She blocks you.
You message, she doesn't get to read it because she has so many messages. You message again, she misses that too. You message again. She eventually finds three messages, deems you impatient / pushy / desperate (not saying that's fair, but it's the impression it gives). She is not interested, blocks you.
You message, she doesn't get to read it. She comes across it eventually, is interested, messages you back. Happy ending!
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But but but u might grow to like me |
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"Good-morrow,
Danke schoen por el mensaje, it has warmed the depths of my heaving bosom to read such distinguished locution.
Regrettably, however, I must inform you that I am unable to partake in the entanglement of our bottom beards for you see I am a mere ghost forever destined to wander this earthly plane an insatiate husk.
100 years ago after having escaped capture and justice for the trial of de-penising over fifty men I was hit by a blimp.
I can only manifest into living form twice every century and I've used my latest opportunities up in order to send you this acknowledgement and see what using a "She-Wee" felt like.
If you're still around come the year 2101 please send me copious pictures of your penis, along with your views on eunuchs, so that we may arrange our rendezvous.
Faithfully yours"
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By *oserMan
over a year ago
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""Good-morrow,
Danke schoen por el mensaje, it has warmed the depths of my heaving bosom to read such distinguished locution.
Regrettably, however, I must inform you that I am unable to partake in the entanglement of our bottom beards for you see I am a mere ghost forever destined to wander this earthly plane an insatiate husk.
100 years ago after having escaped capture and justice for the trial of de-penising over fifty men I was hit by a blimp.
I can only manifest into living form twice every century and I've used my latest opportunities up in order to send you this acknowledgement and see what using a "She-Wee" felt like.
If you're still around come the year 2101 please send me copious pictures of your penis, along with your views on eunuchs, so that we may arrange our rendezvous.
Faithfully yours"
"
Can I borrow that Peader |
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By *ashy85Man
over a year ago
Waterford |
"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again
How about you just... Don't message again?
because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block
But if they don't read it how can they reply? Or block you?
ehh duhh, that's my point
OK but what you're actually saying here is that you will message a woman repeatedly until she blocks you... Just in case she might be interested?
Nowhere did I say here I will message until I get blocked.
I don't have to re write its still there.
women here get loads of messages, alot here bulk delete. if your message is not read how is anyone supposed to know if they are or are not interested. anyway... the op is on about douche bags this is way off topic.
Honestly - a lot of women click on the profile before reading the message. I do this pretty much every time. If I go onto the profile and I see that there's no potential, I delete the message without reading it.
So just because the message hasn't been read doesn't mean you should keep messaging.
This. Also you said you wished women would respond because it saves you messages them again, so...?
Here are the scenarios -
You message. She's not interested, doesn't reply. You message again "just in case". She blocks you.
You message, she doesn't get to read it because she has so many messages. You message again, she misses that too. You message again. She eventually finds three messages, deems you impatient / pushy / desperate (not saying that's fair, but it's the impression it gives). She is not interested, blocks you.
You message, she doesn't get to read it. She comes across it eventually, is interested, messages you back. Happy ending!
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Alot of people mass delete mail so your shit out of luck then hahaha |
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Don't block them, ignore thier messages. These men are dangerous and typically end up on Worlds Scariest Stalkers. As long as they cannot get your real personal info keep ignoring thier messages. Also name and sgame them for what its worth on here. |
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Suppose the bottom line here is the good ol' word RESPECT ,there are those that have it and give it ,ie ,their Messages are respectful and the none replies to those messages are respected....then there's those that don't have it .ie,the ones that send disrespectful messages and get even more disrespectful after the none replies ...Ladies here are here for THEIR enjoyment and fun ,..IF that includes or involves a male ..it is THEIR choice ..they decide who they want to meet/play with ..yes a guy himself might think he's " Cock of the walk " (pun intended ) BUT to the lady he's trying it on with here she may just have no interest at all in the type of person he is for whatever reason ..not every shoe fits ..and just because a guy sends a message to a lady it does not mean he's entitled to a reply ,if he gets one ,great ,if not ,don't spit the dummy out,..ladies here have a life outside of this joint ,they log on looking for a bit of enjoyment and fun and yes a meet IF they desire and they certainly don't want to get verbal abuse to take their fun and enjoyment out of it ,they may have enough of that crap going on in their everyday life without having to put up with it in a place they log into for fun from guys they've never met or probably never will meet ,and especially when they face a " yellow brick wall " of Messages everytime they log on . |
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"Don't block them, ignore thier messages. These men are dangerous and typically end up on Worlds Scariest Stalkers. As long as they cannot get your real personal info keep ignoring thier messages. Also name and sgame them for what its worth on here."
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if you name and shame you will get a ban from mods. it's happened to alot here |
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"There's a seriously ugly thread of entitlement from men on here.
You see so many moaning about how no women with reply to them with their blank profiles and cock/Sky remote pictures.
They don't take into account at all that the ratio is about 100 men to every 1 women.
Any time a woman on here showed me her inbox it had more yellow than an episode of The Simpsons.
A blank profile will get you nowhere so stop moaning.
Any time I send a woman a message and it's read but not replied to, I don't give it a second thought.
If she does reply to say no thanks, I appreciate the effort and wish her the best.
Nobody owes anyone else anything on here."
Well if her box is yellow I would advise her to visit her Doctor. |
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"I would prefer if some e said no thanks not for me... save me messaging again
How about you just... Don't message again?
because as many women have said the get hundreds of mail and may not read it. so it's rinse and repeat. if they don't want just block
But if they don't read it how can they reply? Or block you?
ehh duhh, that's my point
OK but what you're actually saying here is that you will message a woman repeatedly until she blocks you... Just in case she might be interested?
Nowhere did I say here I will message until I get blocked.
I don't have to re write its still there.
women here get loads of messages, alot here bulk delete. if your message is not read how is anyone supposed to know if they are or are not interested. anyway... the op is on about douche bags this is way off topic.
Honestly - a lot of women click on the profile before reading the message. I do this pretty much every time. If I go onto the profile and I see that there's no potential, I delete the message without reading it.
So just because the message hasn't been read doesn't mean you should keep messaging.
This. Also you said you wished women would respond because it saves you messages them again, so...?
Here are the scenarios -
You message. She's not interested, doesn't reply. You message again "just in case". She blocks you.
You message, she doesn't get to read it because she has so many messages. You message again, she misses that too. You message again. She eventually finds three messages, deems you impatient / pushy / desperate (not saying that's fair, but it's the impression it gives). She is not interested, blocks you.
You message, she doesn't get to read it. She comes across it eventually, is interested, messages you back. Happy ending!
But but but u might grow to like me "
Some guys can take a polite rejection, only to reappear weeks later with the same introductory message and pics, completely oblivious to the fact they have already messaged you before. |
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