What's something that would make you change your mind about a meet once you got there?
I once arrived at a flat and the smell would have killed a binman.
On top of that there was a plate of half eaten food on the bed.
I made as polite an excuse as I could and went back into the night, horn deflated and defeated. |
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First time but lots of chatting beforehand. She seemed a bit wild but I thought it was endearing.
When I got there it was probably more than a little crazy.
"Was this the first time meeting?
I tend to have a social and a bit of chat beforehand so i have half an idea of what kind of person im meeting.
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"First time but lots of chatting beforehand. She seemed a bit wild but I thought it was endearing.
When I got there it was probably more than a little crazy.
Was this the first time meeting?
I tend to have a social and a bit of chat beforehand so i have half an idea of what kind of person im meeting.
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Bet you made a new social meet first rule after that lol |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"What's something that would make you change your mind about a meet once you got there?
I once arrived at a flat and the smell would have killed a binman.
On top of that there was a plate of half eaten food on the bed.
I made as polite an excuse as I could and went back into the night, horn deflated and defeated."
Reminds me of the episode of friends when Ross went to a dates flat and food everywhere |
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Did Ross stay or go?
"What's something that would make you change your mind about a meet once you got there?
I once arrived at a flat and the smell would have killed a binman.
On top of that there was a plate of half eaten food on the bed.
I made as polite an excuse as I could and went back into the night, horn deflated and defeated.
Reminds me of the episode of friends when Ross went to a dates flat and food everywhere "
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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago
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"Does it come up much that you get a "definitely not" vibe meeting for coffee?
I always do a coffee/drink first so things have never really been that bad... "
I know fairly quickly at coffee if i want to go further its usually I've no spark with them so its a thanks but not for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What's something that would make you change your mind about a meet once you got there?
I once arrived at a flat and the smell would have killed a binman.
On top of that there was a plate of half eaten food on the bed.
I made as polite an excuse as I could and went back into the night, horn deflated and defeated."
I once had a meet show up at my door, soaking wet and shivering having walked over an hour from the bus stop in the pissing rain. I thought I was going to have to wrap him in tin foil. That was fairly alarming.
I also had a guy show up for a meet, and realised I had met him before but refused to meet him again. So he set up a new profile catfished me, met me and then somehow thought I wouldn't notice.
There are too many other bizzar meets to mention tbh. You men need to have a word with yourselves. |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"Did Ross stay or go?
What's something that would make you change your mind about a meet once you got there?
I once arrived at a flat and the smell would have killed a binman.
On top of that there was a plate of half eaten food on the bed.
I made as polite an excuse as I could and went back into the night, horn deflated and defeated.
Reminds me of the episode of friends when Ross went to a dates flat and food everywhere "
He hit a bag with a rat in it with a bat ....turned out to be her hamster
Monica turned up to clean the flat |
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That's a more sensible option than having to try and make an excuse in their home while holding your nose.
"Does it come up much that you get a "definitely not" vibe meeting for coffee?
I always do a coffee/drink first so things have never really been that bad...
I know fairly quickly at coffee if i want to go further its usually I've no spark with them so its a thanks but not for me. "
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"What's something that would make you change your mind about a meet once you got there?
I once arrived at a flat and the smell would have killed a binman.
On top of that there was a plate of half eaten food on the bed.
I made as polite an excuse as I could and went back into the night, horn deflated and defeated.
I once had a meet show up at my door, soaking wet and shivering having walked over an hour from the bus stop in the pissing rain. I thought I was going to have to wrap him in tin foil. That was fairly alarming.
I also had a guy show up for a meet, and realised I had met him before but refused to meet him again. So he set up a new profile catfished me, met me and then somehow thought I wouldn't notice.
There are too many other bizzar meets to mention tbh. You men need to have a word with yourselves. "
I think you must have a gypsys curse on you with that level of crazy. |
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"Did Ross stay or go?
What's something that would make you change your mind about a meet once you got there?
I once arrived at a flat and the smell would have killed a binman.
On top of that there was a plate of half eaten food on the bed.
I made as polite an excuse as I could and went back into the night, horn deflated and defeated.
Reminds me of the episode of friends when Ross went to a dates flat and food everywhere
He hit a bag with a rat in it with a bat ....turned out to be her hamster
Monica turned up to clean the flat "
No animals were harmed in the course of this non meet. |
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"What's something that would make you change your mind about a meet once you got there?
I once arrived at a flat and the smell would have killed a binman.
On top of that there was a plate of half eaten food on the bed.
I made as polite an excuse as I could and went back into the night, horn deflated and defeated.
I once had a meet show up at my door, soaking wet and shivering having walked over an hour from the bus stop in the pissing rain. I thought I was going to have to wrap him in tin foil. That was fairly alarming.
I also had a guy show up for a meet, and realised I had met him before but refused to meet him again. So he set up a new profile catfished me, met me and then somehow thought I wouldn't notice.
There are too many other bizzar meets to mention tbh. You men need to have a word with yourselves. "
Ye women aren't bizarre at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have been catfished 3 times. Women are very good at looking better in pictures, in numerous differnt ways.
One of those was a coffee meet so it was great to be able to chat and not have it more akward.
One was a tinder date.
Another I traveled to bray to meet her. |
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Another one had me make a detour to another town but never asked for a face photo.
I rang the doorbell, no answer, then got a message here saying their housemate was suddenly on the way home from work five hours early.
I messaged back that I wasn't angry but ask for a face photo before someone arrives on your doorstep. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I always have a social meet first. I usually know pretty quicky if we are into each other and if we will meet again.
I made the mistake of going to a guys home once when he told me his car was in being fixed (turns out he didn't actually have a car)even tho I had made it clear it was just for coffee and a chat it was not a good experience and it was a lesson learned to never go to anyone's house for a first meet. Meet in public that way it's easier to get away if they aren't what you are expect. |
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"I always have a social meet first. I usually know pretty quicky if we are into each other and if we will meet again.
I made the mistake of going to a guys home once when he told me his car was in being fixed (turns out he didn't actually have a car)even tho I had made it clear it was just for coffee and a chat it was not a good experience and it was a lesson learned to never go to anyone's house for a first meet. Meet in public that way it's easier to get away if they aren't what you are expect. "
You're wiser than I was. Much easier to get out of. |
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"Does it come up much that you get a "definitely not" vibe meeting for coffee?
I always do a coffee/drink first so things have never really been that bad...
I know fairly quickly at coffee if i want to go further its usually I've no spark with them so its a thanks but not for me. "
I think our coffee went OK  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"I always have a social meet first. I usually know pretty quicky if we are into each other and if we will meet again.
I made the mistake of going to a guys home once when he told me his car was in being fixed (turns out he didn't actually have a car)even tho I had made it clear it was just for coffee and a chat it was not a good experience and it was a lesson learned to never go to anyone's house for a first meet. Meet in public that way it's easier to get away if they aren't what you are expect.
You're wiser than I was. Much easier to get out of."
Only wiser after I made the mistake tho. |
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"I always have a social meet first. I usually know pretty quicky if we are into each other and if we will meet again.
I made the mistake of going to a guys home once when he told me his car was in being fixed (turns out he didn't actually have a car)even tho I had made it clear it was just for coffee and a chat it was not a good experience and it was a lesson learned to never go to anyone's house for a first meet. Meet in public that way it's easier to get away if they aren't what you are expect.
You're wiser than I was. Much easier to get out of.
Only wiser after I made the mistake tho. "
Best way to learn! |
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Ye women aren't bizarre at all
Correct. We're all perfect and you're all mad as a bag of cats. "
Men and women are both crazy. They both just think it's the other that is.
The best you can hope for is syncing up the levels of craziness. |
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"What's something that would make you change your mind about a meet once you got there?
I once arrived at a flat and the smell would have killed a binman.
On top of that there was a plate of half eaten food on the bed.
I made as polite an excuse as I could and went back into the night, horn deflated and defeated."
Bad breath, bad manners, doesn't look like their pics. I don't ever go to meets, they always come to me so it would never be a housekeeping thing for me! |
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Bad breath, bad manners, doesn't look like their pics. I don't ever go to meets, they always come to me so it would never be a housekeeping thing for me! "
I'm hearing a few "don't look like their pics."
How does anyone expect to get away with this? |
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By *issme39Woman
over a year ago
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"That's a more sensible option than having to try and make an excuse in their home while holding your nose.
Does it come up much that you get a "definitely not" vibe meeting for coffee?
I always do a coffee/drink first so things have never really been that bad...
I know fairly quickly at coffee if i want to go further its usually I've no spark with them so its a thanks but not for me. "
We have all made mistakes but that's how we learn x |
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Bad breath, bad manners, doesn't look like their pics. I don't ever go to meets, they always come to me so it would never be a housekeeping thing for me!
I'm hearing a few "don't look like their pics."
How does anyone expect to get away with this?"
They rely on the social conditioning that prevents people (especially women) from 'being rude' or 'making a scene' and it probably works a lot of the time. I've done plenty of things I didn't want to because it was easier and safer than speaking up (when I was in my teens and early 20s). |
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Bad breath, bad manners, doesn't look like their pics. I don't ever go to meets, they always come to me so it would never be a housekeeping thing for me!
I'm hearing a few "don't look like their pics."
How does anyone expect to get away with this?
They rely on the social conditioning that prevents people (especially women) from 'being rude' or 'making a scene' and it probably works a lot of the time. I've done plenty of things I didn't want to because it was easier and safer than speaking up (when I was in my teens and early 20s). "
Fuck those guy's. I know what you mean about going along with things in your 20s. The people who are expecting that are creeps. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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Only happened to me once when I was still a beginner. Just couldn't feel the heat so I walked out. I really felt sorry for the guy but I can't force myself. Anyway what I learned from it is to do my homework carefully and entirely. It hasn't happen a second time.
If it happens too often your selection process is flawed, at least that's my opinion.  |
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"Only happened to me once when I was still a beginner. Just couldn't feel the heat so I walked out. I really felt sorry for the guy but I can't force myself. Anyway what I learned from it is to do my homework carefully and entirely. It hasn't happen a second time.
If it happens too often your selection process is flawed, at least that's my opinion. "
Good on you it only took the one questionable encounter to get it right.
It beats the car crashes that can occur when you aren't going with your gut. |
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