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By *1CorkCouple
over a year ago
Cork |
We risk possible criticism and abuse for this but here goes...
We would like to meet a black man or a black couple but that doesn’t supersede all our other preferences when it comes to traits in prospective partners. These criterion usually require being comfortable in each other’s company and require some similarity in background.
We have found this commonality with partners from other ethnicities. However we’ve found this more difficult with black swinger profiles in Ireland.
We find that black men sometimes play purely to the Bull fantasy (market?) which isn’t up our street. A lot of the profiles and messages play up to a stereotype only and say very little about the person.
Maybe the country isn’t diverse enough yet, particularly in all sections throughout our society? Or maybe our experience is not reflective of the reality? Are we unique or have others a similar experience? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We risk possible criticism and abuse for this but here goes...
We would like to meet a black man or a black couple but that doesn’t supersede all our other preferences when it comes to traits in prospective partners. These criterion usually require being comfortable in each other’s company and require some similarity in background.
We have found this commonality with partners from other ethnicities. However we’ve found this more difficult with black swinger profiles in Ireland.
We find that black men sometimes play purely to the Bull fantasy (market?) which isn’t up our street. A lot of the profiles and messages play up to a stereotype only and say very little about the person.
Maybe the country isn’t diverse enough yet, particularly in all sections throughout our society? Or maybe our experience is not reflective of the reality? Are we unique or have others a similar experience?"
Do they play to the stereotype or is that actually how they see white women? |
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Porn has a lot to answer for. I know some women like to play the stereotype subby porn bimbo thing... because they see it in porn and think that's what they are "supposed" to do. I suspect it's the same with black men who play that role because it's what they think the women want.
In reality I think that's absolutely NOT what most people (male and female) want in the real world. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Porn has a lot to answer for. I know some women like to play the stereotype subby porn bimbo thing... because they see it in porn and think that's what they are "supposed" to do. I suspect it's the same with black men who play that role because it's what they think the women want.
In reality I think that's absolutely NOT what most people (male and female) want in the real world. "
OR it's what couples look for and expect when they want to tick off that box of meeting a black guy for sex.
Anyhow there's not that many around in the Irish scene. Those ones I've met are lovely gents, no porn star bull behaviour at all. |
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I'd like to think that folks are at least a little interested in the person and who they are rather than exclusively concentrating on using their genitals. That goes for black cocks AND white vaginas. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"I'd like to think that folks are at least a little interested in the person and who they are rather than exclusively concentrating on using their genitals. That goes for black cocks AND white vaginas."
What about white cocks and black pussies?  |
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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago
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"I'd like to think that folks are at least a little interested in the person and who they are rather than exclusively concentrating on using their genitals. That goes for black cocks AND white vaginas.
What about white cocks and black pussies? "
Fits nicely too  |
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"We risk possible criticism and abuse for this but here goes...
We would like to meet a black man or a black couple but that doesn’t supersede all our other preferences when it comes to traits in prospective partners. These criterion usually require being comfortable in each other’s company and require some similarity in background.
We have found this commonality with partners from other ethnicities. However we’ve found this more difficult with black swinger profiles in Ireland.
We find that black men sometimes play purely to the Bull fantasy (market?) which isn’t up our street. A lot of the profiles and messages play up to a stereotype only and say very little about the person.
Maybe the country isn’t diverse enough yet, particularly in all sections throughout our society? Or maybe our experience is not reflective of the reality? Are we unique or have others a similar experience?
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I have similar thoughts, I find fetishing language like BBC, BBW quite dehumanising and it's a turn off for me when prospective partners use that language.
I think that members of those groups do play into the stereotypes as they see it as their USP or a factor in their desirability... You'll see similar on a lot of fat women's profiles, it's all about their curves, how big they are etc etc and less about them as a person.
But that's the nature of Fab to an extent - people are here to provide or fulfil certain fantasies and roles and who they portray themselves as on their profiles isn't representative of who they are as people! |
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By *1CorkCouple
over a year ago
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Very interesting responses. Thanks for your thoughts.
The concentration by black men on bbc as their ‘USP’ due to the widespread fetish is kind of chicken and egg it would seem.
We are starting to think that one of the issues hindering us developing a rapport that would lead to meeting a black man may be cultural. Most, if not all, of the black single males we spoke to in the past were from the immigrant African community rather than say black Irish, or black English/ American where there would be cultural similarities, or at least cultural familiarities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that the comparison of Black men and "Curvy" women is interesting.
I can only speak from my own experience obviously, but I've learned over the years that the majority of (not all) men who are keen to fuck a fat woman are only keen because they see us as some kind of taboo or kink. As a result, many fat women who've also learned this lesson consciously or subconsciously play to that.
I think Black men probably do the same thing, because they see so many white women and men here talking about them like they're a kink, and not a person that is attractive in their own right. |
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"Porn has a lot to answer for. I know some women like to play the stereotype subby porn bimbo thing... because they see it in porn and think that's what they are "supposed" to do. I suspect it's the same with black men who play that role because it's what they think the women want.
In reality I think that's absolutely NOT what most people (male and female) want in the real world.
OR it's what couples look for and expect when they want to tick off that box of meeting a black guy for sex.
Anyhow there's not that many around in the Irish scene. Those ones I've met are lovely gents, no porn star bull behaviour at all. "
Thank you, its not nice to judge unless you meet them. Thank you for your sensible comment.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think that the comparison of Black men and "Curvy" women is interesting.
I can only speak from my own experience obviously, but I've learned over the years that the majority of (not all) men who are keen to fuck a fat woman are only keen because they see us as some kind of taboo or kink. As a result, many fat women who've also learned this lesson consciously or subconsciously play to that.
I think Black men probably do the same thing, because they see so many white women and men here talking about them like they're a kink, and not a person that is attractive in their own right. "
I’d say you’ve analysed/summarised that to a tee. Most people generally follow and propagate trends |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Porn has a lot to answer for. I know some women like to play the stereotype subby porn bimbo thing... because they see it in porn and think that's what they are "supposed" to do. I suspect it's the same with black men who play that role because it's what they think the women want.
In reality I think that's absolutely NOT what most people (male and female) want in the real world.
OR it's what couples look for and expect when they want to tick off that box of meeting a black guy for sex.
Anyhow there's not that many around in the Irish scene. Those ones I've met are lovely gents, no porn star bull behaviour at all.
Thank you, its not nice to judge unless you meet them. Thank you for your sensible comment. "
You're welcome.  |
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Interesting comments as with all our meets regardless of their equipment we like genuine sincere people who we click with.
Sense of humour and respect goes both ways.
Skin colour does not matter. Like most on here we have fantasies sometimes we follow them up sometimes we keep them as fantasies. Each to their own enjoy guys whichever path you choose |
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