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A situation arouse today. Ladies,If you shagged a man, would you discuss the situation with your female friends? His performance, dick size (big /small) etc etc. Same to u lads, if you shagged a woman? Would you discuss the sexual experience with the boys? |
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Yea i share my experiences with my friends, besides they'd tend to know because if it's been good then id be going back for more  u serious?"
Yea why |
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"Honestly..
Yea i share my experiences with my friends, besides they'd tend to know because if it's been good then id be going back for more u serious?
Yea why "
I wouldn't dream of it out with the boys, specifically break down the sexual experience be it positive or negative of a particular person. |
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"Honestly..
Yea i share my experiences with my friends, besides they'd tend to know because if it's been good then id be going back for more u serious?
Yea why I wouldn't dream of it out with the boys, specifically break down the sexual experience be it positive or negative of a particular person."
I didn't say id break it down move by move.. But id tell them if i had a good time |
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"Honestly..
Yea i share my experiences with my friends, besides they'd tend to know because if it's been good then id be going back for more u serious?
Yea why I wouldn't dream of it out with the boys, specifically break down the sexual experience be it positive or negative of a particular person.
I didn't say id break it down move by move.. But id tell them if i had a good time "
no I dont mean that, I mean explicets. |
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"Honestly..
Yea i share my experiences with my friends, besides they'd tend to know because if it's been good then id be going back for more u serious?
Yea why I wouldn't dream of it out with the boys, specifically break down the sexual experience be it positive or negative of a particular person.
I didn't say id break it down move by move.. But id tell them if i had a good time no I dont mean that, I mean explicets. "
Then no lol.. Not a blow by blow account but id tell them if it was good |
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Then no lol.. Not a blow by blow account but id tell them if it was good "
Ahh your going back on your word now.. 
Being honest from what I have seen the average response for girls is to discuss details and things while in a big group...
Guys tend to keep quite about details but indicate if it was good or bad. They may, if very close friends discuss details. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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No I would not discuss what happens or size or intimate details with others. What happens is between me and who I am with. I think it's completely disrespectful to discuss those details with others. And my best friend would know if I had enjoyed a meet because she would know I wouldn't meet the person again if it hadn't enjoyed the previous meet. |
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Imagine a lad shags a woman and then goes to his mates "fuck lads I shagged x but she was brutal, a fanny like the grand canyon". Sounds funny but imagine if it got back to her, how shed feel or like wise if a lad had a tiny dick and whoever he shagged discussed with her friends and it got back to him. |
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Not "friends" as in to a group but yeah I do talk about experiences with select friends 1-1. I would say it's pretty standard among women. It does happen with guys too as stuff has been said back to me in the past. People are always gonna talk, it is what it is. |
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"Not "friends" as in to a group but yeah I do talk about experiences with select friends 1-1. I would say it's pretty standard among women. It does happen with guys too as stuff has been said back to me in the past. People are always gonna talk, it is what it is."
" people are always gonna talk, it is what it is". The point is you dont have to talk and some things should remain private.
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"Not "friends" as in to a group but yeah I do talk about experiences with select friends 1-1. I would say it's pretty standard among women. It does happen with guys too as stuff has been said back to me in the past. People are always gonna talk, it is what it is." people are always gonna talk, it is what it is". The point is you dont have to talk and some things should remain private. "
Who hurt you? What is said between friends is nobody else's business honestly. As a woman my safety is paramount so if you or anybody else doesnt like me telling my friend who or what I'm doing. Don't bang me. Simples. |
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"Not "friends" as in to a group but yeah I do talk about experiences with select friends 1-1. I would say it's pretty standard among women. It does happen with guys too as stuff has been said back to me in the past. People are always gonna talk, it is what it is." people are always gonna talk, it is what it is". The point is you dont have to talk and some things should remain private.
Who hurt you? What is said between friends is nobody else's business honestly. As a woman my safety is paramount so if you or anybody else doesnt like me telling my friend who or what I'm doing. Don't bang me. Simples."
nobody hurt me thankfully but certain things in life should remain private and no need to be discussed. |
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"Not "friends" as in to a group but yeah I do talk about experiences with select friends 1-1. I would say it's pretty standard among women. It does happen with guys too as stuff has been said back to me in the past. People are always gonna talk, it is what it is." people are always gonna talk, it is what it is". The point is you dont have to talk and some things should remain private.
Who hurt you? What is said between friends is nobody else's business honestly. As a woman my safety is paramount so if you or anybody else doesnt like me telling my friend who or what I'm doing. Don't bang me. Simples."
plus it is somebody else's business if they're the person been discussed resulting from a privacy setting. |
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".nobody hurt me thankfully but certain things in life should remain private and no need to be discussed. "
Dude this is like the 3rd story from someone you know that you have shared in a public forum |
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Talking about one's sex life, in general terms, isn't uncommon nor should it be deemed "taboo".
We may live in a sex-saturated society but there isn't really many, if any, means for people to have candid discussions about their own experiences, bodies etc. It would be fair to say that in that regard women may be more likely to discuss said things than men are.
However, in terms of going into fine detail about another that's not something that can be generalised by gender, Ohpee, it depends on and says more about the individual.
I personally wouldn't discuss sex in general or explicit terms but, admittedly, would view the former as a product of culture (men not opening up to other men) and the latter as just my personal preference.
If you're wishing to go down the route of "some things are meant to be private", Ohpee, then it could be argued that you shouldn't have your arse hanging out in your pics. |
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".nobody hurt me thankfully but certain things in life should remain private and no need to be discussed.
Dude this is like the 3rd story from someone you know that you have shared in a public forum "
big difference talking about sex as a generalisation rather then naming a person and going into specifics. |
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".nobody hurt me thankfully but certain things in life should remain private and no need to be discussed.
Dude this is like the 3rd story from someone you know that you have shared in a public forum big difference talking about sex as a generalisation rather then naming a person and going into specifics. "
How many times are you gonna answer me back?! Its obsessive at this point.
If I want to tell my friend a rode a fella named "such n such" his dick was 5 inches and he knew how to use every one of them, so what?! She doesn't know you, you don't know her its no big deal.
Now if I took a pic of you, and posted it on Facebook with the same info, that would be crossing a line because youre identifiable.
People have to use their best judgement in terms of people's privacy, but just talking about them in broad terms isnt a breach. |
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".nobody hurt me thankfully but certain things in life should remain private and no need to be discussed.
Dude this is like the 3rd story from someone you know that you have shared in a public forum big difference talking about sex as a generalisation rather then naming a person and going into specifics. "
True but talking to your close trusted friends could be deemed a big difference to putting other peoples info on such a public forum.
You gave quite a bit of detail about the couple who dont spend any evenings together. If a few people knew what area you were from they might figure it out |
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".nobody hurt me thankfully but certain things in life should remain private and no need to be discussed.
Dude this is like the 3rd story from someone you know that you have shared in a public forum big difference talking about sex as a generalisation rather then naming a person and going into specifics.
True but talking to your close trusted friends could be deemed a big difference to putting other peoples info on such a public forum.
You gave quite a bit of detail about the couple who dont spend any evenings together. If a few people knew what area you were from they might figure it out"
they wouldn't have a wide eartly clue pal and if they did I'd give them a medal  . If you shag a person, no need to go into specifics with groups of friends especially if that person is known by your friends or you live in a small town etc. |
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".nobody hurt me thankfully but certain things in life should remain private and no need to be discussed.
Dude this is like the 3rd story from someone you know that you have shared in a public forum big difference talking about sex as a generalisation rather then naming a person and going into specifics.
True but talking to your close trusted friends could be deemed a big difference to putting other peoples info on such a public forum.
You gave quite a bit of detail about the couple who dont spend any evenings together. If a few people knew what area you were from they might figure it outthey wouldn't have a wide eartly clue pal and if they did I'd give them a medal . If you shag a person, no need to go into specifics with groups of friends especially if that person is known by your friends or you live in a small town etc. "
If you are worried about how your performance is being portrayed to others then maybe pick your partners carefully.. People talk, its human nature and to expect them not too is unrealistic.. |
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".nobody hurt me thankfully but certain things in life should remain private and no need to be discussed.
Dude this is like the 3rd story from someone you know that you have shared in a public forum big difference talking about sex as a generalisation rather then naming a person and going into specifics.
True but talking to your close trusted friends could be deemed a big difference to putting other peoples info on such a public forum.
You gave quite a bit of detail about the couple who dont spend any evenings together. If a few people knew what area you were from they might figure it outthey wouldn't have a wide eartly clue pal and if they did I'd give them a medal . If you shag a person, no need to go into specifics with groups of friends especially if that person is known by your friends or you live in a small town etc.
If you are worried about how your performance is being portrayed to others then maybe pick your partners carefully.. People talk, its human nature and to expect them not too is unrealistic.. "
I wouldnt say its "human nature" at all to go into specifics about a sexual partner. As I said,grand if its positive. If you lived in a town and a lad blabbed about u, all in a negative manner, fanny like a punched lasagna and it got back to u. Would you like it? |
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"Talking about one's sex life, in general terms, isn't uncommon nor should it be deemed "taboo".
We may live in a sex-saturated society but there isn't really many, if any, means for people to have candid discussions about their own experiences, bodies etc. It would be fair to say that in that regard women may be more likely to discuss said things than men are.
However, in terms of going into fine detail about another that's not something that can be generalised by gender, Ohpee, it depends on and says more about the individual.
I personally wouldn't discuss sex in general or explicit terms but, admittedly, would view the former as a product of culture (men not opening up to other men) and the latter as just my personal preference.
If you're wishing to go down the route of "some things are meant to be private", Ohpee, then it could be argued that you shouldn't have your arse hanging out in your pics. "
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You seem to have different questions so I'll do a 2 parter answer
1. Talking to mates about my sex life: I trust my friends. I'd have no issues or see no issue in saying if I had a good/bad time. While I wouldn't go into specifics, if I done something with a guy that I particularly enjoyed & feel they might enjoy too then hell yea I'm telling em!
2. I certainly wouldn't describe a mans equipment using variations of the examples you used to describe a womans vagina. |
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"You seem to have different questions so I'll do a 2 parter answer
1. Talking to mates about my sex life: I trust my friends. I'd have no issues or see no issue in saying if I had a good/bad time. While I wouldn't go into specifics, if I done something with a guy that I particularly enjoyed & feel they might enjoy too then hell yea I'm telling em!
2. I certainly wouldn't describe a mans equipment using variations of the examples you used to describe a womans vagina. "
She explains it well lol
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I wouldn't go into specifics but I'd tell them if I had a good night or not lol. Plus like dizzie said when I keep going back for more that's always a good sign too 
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"You seem to have different questions so I'll do a 2 parter answer
1. Talking to mates about my sex life: I trust my friends. I'd have no issues or see no issue in saying if I had a good/bad time. While I wouldn't go into specifics, if I done something with a guy that I particularly enjoyed & feel they might enjoy too then hell yea I'm telling em!
2. I certainly wouldn't describe a mans equipment using variations of the examples you used to describe a womans vagina. "
its phrases I have heard in the past. I have never heard a mans cock been described " as wide as the Grand Canyon" or like a "punched lasagna". If you said a man was a shit shag to a friend with a tiny ugly penis and it got back to him. Do u think hed be happy? |
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"You seem to have different questions so I'll do a 2 parter answer
1. Talking to mates about my sex life: I trust my friends. I'd have no issues or see no issue in saying if I had a good/bad time. While I wouldn't go into specifics, if I done something with a guy that I particularly enjoyed & feel they might enjoy too then hell yea I'm telling em!
2. I certainly wouldn't describe a mans equipment using variations of the examples you used to describe a womans vagina. "
This!! |
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"I wouldn't go into specifics but I'd tell them if I had a good night or not lol. Plus like dizzie said when I keep going back for more that's always a good sign too
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as I have said already that's completely diff from what I originally said. |
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"You seem to have different questions so I'll do a 2 parter answer
1. Talking to mates about my sex life: I trust my friends. I'd have no issues or see no issue in saying if I had a good/bad time. While I wouldn't go into specifics, if I done something with a guy that I particularly enjoyed & feel they might enjoy too then hell yea I'm telling em!
2. I certainly wouldn't describe a mans equipment using variations of the examples you used to describe a womans vagina.
She explains it well lol
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Why thank you kind lady! |
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"You seem to have different questions so I'll do a 2 parter answer
1. Talking to mates about my sex life: I trust my friends. I'd have no issues or see no issue in saying if I had a good/bad time. While I wouldn't go into specifics, if I done something with a guy that I particularly enjoyed & feel they might enjoy too then hell yea I'm telling em!
2. I certainly wouldn't describe a mans equipment using variations of the examples you used to describe a womans vagina. its phrases I have heard in the past. I have never heard a mans cock been described " as wide as the Grand Canyon" or like a "punched lasagna". If you said a man was a shit shag to a friend with a tiny ugly penis and it got back to him. Do u think hed be happy?"
Right..as I said...you used them as examples. And I said I wouldn't use variations of them i.e. not nice ways of describing his cock
To answer your last q to me, something like that wouldn't get back to him because again, as I said, I wouldn't say it in the first place |
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"You seem to have different questions so I'll do a 2 parter answer
1. Talking to mates about my sex life: I trust my friends. I'd have no issues or see no issue in saying if I had a good/bad time. While I wouldn't go into specifics, if I done something with a guy that I particularly enjoyed & feel they might enjoy too then hell yea I'm telling em!
2. I certainly wouldn't describe a mans equipment using variations of the examples you used to describe a womans vagina. its phrases I have heard in the past. I have never heard a mans cock been described " as wide as the Grand Canyon" or like a "punched lasagna". If you said a man was a shit shag to a friend with a tiny ugly penis and it got back to him. Do u think hed be happy?"
Firstly i would never talk about a person like that and besides if your shite in bed with an ugly dick im sure youd already know that |
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"You seem to have different questions so I'll do a 2 parter answer
1. Talking to mates about my sex life: I trust my friends. I'd have no issues or see no issue in saying if I had a good/bad time. While I wouldn't go into specifics, if I done something with a guy that I particularly enjoyed & feel they might enjoy too then hell yea I'm telling em!
2. I certainly wouldn't describe a mans equipment using variations of the examples you used to describe a womans vagina. its phrases I have heard in the past. I have never heard a mans cock been described " as wide as the Grand Canyon" or like a "punched lasagna". If you said a man was a shit shag to a friend with a tiny ugly penis and it got back to him. Do u think hed be happy?
Firstly i would never talk about a person like that and besides if your shite in bed with an ugly dick im sure youd already know that "
well then there is no issue with my OP |
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Would never discuss any details with anyone. As for being good, bad or whatever. The only way anyone is good or bad in bed. Is down to how well we clicked. Thankfully not everyone enjoys the same things. Getting to know what someone enjoys takes time. But never bad mouth someone. Totally disrespectful. |
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For me the talking to my closest mates would be limited to, "bucked X last night, crackin' (body part, usually tits or arse) werebat it all night, gives a good BJ" something along those lines for positive experience
Or "fuck me lads I bucked X last night crackin' (body part) but just didn't do it for me." For a negative experience.  |
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"A situation arouse today. Ladies,If you shagged a man, would you discuss the situation with your female friends? His performance, dick size (big /small) etc etc. Same to u lads, if you shagged a woman? Would you discuss the sexual experience with the boys? "
Nope ..my private life is exactly that...private..and l make sure hers is too...a person's privacy and personal life is top priority to me. |
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Yea i share my experiences with my friends, besides they'd tend to know because if it's been good then id be going back for more "
You and half pint could write a book ffs  |
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Yeah I'm always telling my mates see that one there I did this and that to her and see that one behind her I made her do this to me my mates and me all have a good laugh about it, it's great crack letting them know about personal things like that |
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I wouldn't kiss and tell. It's unfair and disrespectful. But I know how often my ex's married friends have sex, who doesn't like giving oral abs which husband doesn't like getting blow jobs. If you get a group of women together, fill them with enough Prosecco and they will tell all.
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For me it depends on the man and the friends. If the man is someone I have feelings for then I tend to be much more private about what we do. If it's just a casual shag, nothings off the table. But only to certain friends. |
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"I wouldn't kiss and tell. It's unfair and disrespectful. But I know how often my ex's married friends have sex, who doesn't like giving oral abs which husband doesn't like getting blow jobs. If you get a group of women together, fill them with enough Prosecco and they will tell all.
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I'm glad to say I've never had those kind of friends. Whatever about casual shags, it's incredibly disrespectful to talk about your partner like that IMO |
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"I wouldn't kiss and tell. It's unfair and disrespectful. But I know how often my ex's married friends have sex, who doesn't like giving oral abs which husband doesn't like getting blow jobs. If you get a group of women together, fill them with enough Prosecco and they will tell all.
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It's much more common on here than some letting on too. There's a few ladies Kik groups that have been rather explicit about meets. |
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"I wouldn't kiss and tell. It's unfair and disrespectful. But I know how often my ex's married friends have sex, who doesn't like giving oral abs which husband doesn't like getting blow jobs. If you get a group of women together, fill them with enough Prosecco and they will tell all.
It's much more common on here than some letting on too. There's a few ladies Kik groups that have been rather explicit about meets."
Those groups are actually more about keeping eachother safe than they are about sharing details of a meet. Yeah people share stories like, "oh yeah I played with him, he's amazing at head" or, "yep I played with him, hasnt a clue". But I don't think most women go into the level of detail you're implying. |
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"I wouldn't kiss and tell. It's unfair and disrespectful. But I know how often my ex's married friends have sex, who doesn't like giving oral abs which husband doesn't like getting blow jobs. If you get a group of women together, fill them with enough Prosecco and they will tell all.
It's much more common on here than some letting on too. There's a few ladies Kik groups that have been rather explicit about meets.
Those groups are actually more about keeping eachother safe than they are about sharing details of a meet. Yeah people share stories like, "oh yeah I played with him, he's amazing at head" or, "yep I played with him, hasnt a clue". But I don't think most women go into the level of detail you're implying. "
What level is acceptable or not is all rather a sliding scale I'd say.
And I have read some quite explicit messages and with profile name attached. And when together with drink some shocking things. If called out they in turn get isolated from the group. |
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I have do not discuss my private/sexual encounters with anyone else. I think it’s so disrespectful. Not even with other people I have met in swinging circles other than the husband/partner of a lady I had some fun with, but only in the presence of the lady concerned.
Respect is VERY important!!!! |
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"I wouldn't kiss and tell. It's unfair and disrespectful. But I know how often my ex's married friends have sex, who doesn't like giving oral abs which husband doesn't like getting blow jobs. If you get a group of women together, fill them with enough Prosecco and they will tell all.
I'm glad to say I've never had those kind of friends. Whatever about casual shags, it's incredibly disrespectful to talk about your partner like that IMO"
Ultimately it's about respect or lack of, irrespective if a partner or someone off a swing site.
It's just a reflection of the one talking that they deem it acceptable. If it was in reverse I'd say they'd soon not be as happy about it.
Respect is a rare gift to hold on too. Once lost rarely regained. |
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What level is acceptable or not is all rather a sliding scale I'd say.
And I have read some quite explicit messages and with profile name attached. And when together with drink some shocking things. If called out they in turn get isolated from the group."
You're making very sweeping statements there about women's groups. I can't speak for all of them, unlike you, but the several that I've been in have been much more focused on safety and have been really useful to me in reducing the risk of playing with someone dangerous. I don't remember ever reading anything in them that I found explicit or too detailed. |
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"If you were told that a man wasnt a very nice person and it was said in your womens groups, would you believe it or find out for yourself?"
Well like, that's a bit vague. If I heard that he violated someone's consent, then I'm straight onto fab to block him so I don't accidentally end up playing with him. |
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What level is acceptable or not is all rather a sliding scale I'd say.
And I have read some quite explicit messages and with profile name attached. And when together with drink some shocking things. If called out they in turn get isolated from the group.
You're making very sweeping statements there about women's groups. I can't speak for all of them, unlike you, but the several that I've been in have been much more focused on safety and have been really useful to me in reducing the risk of playing with someone dangerous. I don't remember ever reading anything in them that I found explicit or too detailed. "
Firstly don't twist my words.
You implications are grossly inaccurate. What I said was 'some' groups, not all as you've implied. There are some and certainly in the past have been like that and I've seen some of these conversations. There have been those uncomfortable with what's been shared in a few groups and have called it out and were removed as a result.
In your own admittance you said said in your 'safe' group that you do discuss certain things and include their names too. To me that sounds a bit more than just for safety wouldn't you say?
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"If you were told that a man wasnt a very nice person and it was said in your womens groups, would you believe it or find out for yourself?"
I'd say they're influencers and many wouldn't take the time to find out themselves. Too much effort, easier to move on to look elsewhere. |
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What level is acceptable or not is all rather a sliding scale I'd say.
And I have read some quite explicit messages and with profile name attached. And when together with drink some shocking things. If called out they in turn get isolated from the group.
You're making very sweeping statements there about women's groups. I can't speak for all of them, unlike you, but the several that I've been in have been much more focused on safety and have been really useful to me in reducing the risk of playing with someone dangerous. I don't remember ever reading anything in them that I found explicit or too detailed.
Firstly don't twist my words.
You implications are grossly inaccurate. What I said was 'some' groups, not all as you've implied. There are some and certainly in the past have been like that and I've seen some of these conversations. There have been those uncomfortable with what's been shared in a few groups and have called it out and were removed as a result.
In your own admittance you said said in your 'safe' group that you do discuss certain things and include their names too. To me that sounds a bit more than just for safety wouldn't you say?
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Um, please explain to me how women could keep eachother safe without sharing the name? "Girls I played with a guy last night and when I used my safeword he didn't stop and I feel violated. I can't tell you his name because that would be disrespectful of this man. But I just thought you should know..." Not particularly helpful.
I would suggest that you take a good look at why you feel it's more important to respect a man's privacy and freedom to do whatever he likes to whomever he likes without consequences, than it is to prevent potential sexual assault for women.
Also, if these women were removed from the group then what's the problem? If these groups are self regulating to discourage the sharing of intimate details - then I don't see how you can complain about the groups.
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"If you were told that a man wasnt a very nice person and it was said in your womens groups, would you believe it or find out for yourself?
I'd say they're influencers and many wouldn't take the time to find out themselves. Too much effort, easier to move on to look elsewhere."
You're right. Many wouldn't take the time to find out themselves. As someone who has been violently sexually assaulted by a man on fab, you're dead fucking right that if another woman tells me X violated her consent, I'm not gonna fuck him to see if she was right.
It's MUCH easier to move on and look elsewhere. I'm sorry that that offends you... |
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What level is acceptable or not is all rather a sliding scale I'd say.
And I have read some quite explicit messages and with profile name attached. And when together with drink some shocking things. If called out they in turn get isolated from the group.
You're making very sweeping statements there about women's groups. I can't speak for all of them, unlike you, but the several that I've been in have been much more focused on safety and have been really useful to me in reducing the risk of playing with someone dangerous. I don't remember ever reading anything in them that I found explicit or too detailed.
Firstly don't twist my words.
You implications are grossly inaccurate. What I said was 'some' groups, not all as you've implied. There are some and certainly in the past have been like that and I've seen some of these conversations. There have been those uncomfortable with what's been shared in a few groups and have called it out and were removed as a result.
In your own admittance you said said in your 'safe' group that you do discuss certain things and include their names too. To me that sounds a bit more than just for safety wouldn't you say?
Um, please explain to me how women could keep eachother safe without sharing the name? "Girls I played with a guy last night and when I used my safeword he didn't stop and I feel violated. I can't tell you his name because that would be disrespectful of this man. But I just thought you should know..." Not particularly helpful.
I would suggest that you take a good look at why you feel it's more important to respect a man's privacy and freedom to do whatever he likes to whomever he likes without consequences, than it is to prevent potential sexual assault for women.
Also, if these women were removed from the group then what's the problem? If these groups are self regulating to discourage the sharing of intimate details - then I don't see how you can complain about the groups.
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Think you misread who was removed. The ones removed were the ones who felt uncomfortable about the detailed sharing and who called them out on it. |
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"If you were told that a man wasnt a very nice person and it was said in your womens groups, would you believe it or find out for yourself?
I'd say they're influencers and many wouldn't take the time to find out themselves. Too much effort, easier to move on to look elsewhere.
You're right. Many wouldn't take the time to find out themselves. As someone who has been violently sexually assaulted by a man on fab, you're dead fucking right that if another woman tells me X violated her consent, I'm not gonna fuck him to see if she was right.
It's MUCH easier to move on and look elsewhere. I'm sorry that that offends you... "
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Think you misread who was removed. The ones removed were the ones who felt uncomfortable about the detailed sharing and who called them out on it."
Well that's weird. I've never seen that happen and am guessing I've been in a lot more women's groups than you have so I dunno what to tell you. I don't really see that you have a leg to stand on here tbh.
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Think you misread who was removed. The ones removed were the ones who felt uncomfortable about the detailed sharing and who called them out on it.
Well that's weird. I've never seen that happen and am guessing I've been in a lot more women's groups than you have so I dunno what to tell you. I don't really see that you have a leg to stand on here tbh.
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Calling someone not a very nice person as OP asked in his question can be very subjective. Maybe the lady was called out or turned down etc etc. She'd then say said person wasn't a nice person. Your experience of him might be very different in meeting him.
Your example of violation isn't what I was referring too, nor any inference of it in my posts here.
If the Kik groups you're in are about keeping women safe from these violent abusive men, If I were a women on here I'd get freaked out thinking there's lots of them about and fab would be quite a dangerous place to meet men.
I don't believe that's the case.
The very nature of having to use a safe word in play also demonstrates the nature of the meets. Much more BDSM than swing. |
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You implications are grossly inaccurate. What I said was 'some' groups, not all as you've implied. There are some and certainly in the past have been like that and I've seen some of these conversations. There have been those uncomfortable with what's been shared in a few groups and have called it out and were removed as a result.
In your own admittance you said said in your 'safe' group that you do discuss certain things and include their names too. To me that sounds a bit more than just for safety wouldn't you say?
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When you say you have seen some of the conversations?
Who shared them with you. Did you call them out in sharing a women's group conversation with an outsider or did you deem it important information to know? |
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Think you misread who was removed. The ones removed were the ones who felt uncomfortable about the detailed sharing and who called them out on it.
Well that's weird. I've never seen that happen and am guessing I've been in a lot more women's groups than you have so I dunno what to tell you. I don't really see that you have a leg to stand on here tbh.
I think those two lovely gentlemen just like to argue tbh.. "
Not really, I don't like twisted wording and think it's important that things are understood as intended.
If you don't think that's important then that's fine but I've no time for it tbh. |
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You implications are grossly inaccurate. What I said was 'some' groups, not all as you've implied. There are some and certainly in the past have been like that and I've seen some of these conversations. There have been those uncomfortable with what's been shared in a few groups and have called it out and were removed as a result.
In your own admittance you said said in your 'safe' group that you do discuss certain things and include their names too. To me that sounds a bit more than just for safety wouldn't you say?
When you say you have seen some of the conversations?
Who shared them with you. Did you call them out in sharing a women's group conversation with an outsider or did you deem it important information to know?"
They were shocked at what was said, as was I when I read it and yes I'd say it was important.
To say it doesn't happen is simply ignorance or turning a blind eye.
I've said my piece. |
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"Calling someone not a very nice person as OP asked in his question can be very subjective. Maybe the lady was called out or turned down etc etc. She'd then say said person wasn't a nice person. Your experience of him might be very different in meeting him.
Your example of violation isn't what I was referring too, nor any inference of it in my posts here.
If the Kik groups you're in are about keeping women safe from these violent abusive men, If I were a women on here I'd get freaked out thinking there's lots of them about and fab would be quite a dangerous place to meet men.
I don't believe that's the case.
The very nature of having to use a safe word in play also demonstrates the nature of the meets. Much more BDSM than swing."
I replied to the OP and said that the "not a very nice person" comment would be too vague. So I'm not sure why you're talking about it.
Any form of casual sex has risk for women. Thankfully the vast majority of men here and in the wider world are not dangerous. But I know a number of women who have been assaulted by men on here. It absolutely is the case. Your experience is not the experience of a woman. You do not know. Please don't be so arrogant to assume you do.
And it doesn't matter if your engaging in BDSM or in the most vanilla sex possible. Women who engage in BDSM aren't somehow asking to be assaulted, and the nature of play is no excuse to violate consent in any context. |
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They were shocked at what was said, as was I when I read it and yes I'd say it was important.
To say it doesn't happen is simply ignorance or turning a blind eye.
I've said my piece."
Ok. So explain to me what is the difference in these 2 scenarios:
1. Violating a man's privacy by talking about him in a fab group.
2. Violating the privacy of all of the members of a private group by showing the conversations to someone outside of the group.
It seems to me that, according to you, privacy is more important if it is a man's. |
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They were shocked at what was said, as was I when I read it and yes I'd say it was important.
To say it doesn't happen is simply ignorance or turning a blind eye.
I've said my piece."
No thats fair enough.
My point is different people deem different information important enough to breech others privacy.
I have left groups because messages were posted and mocked with the senders profile fully visible.
However of the messages were abusive ai wouldnt see a problem with it.
We all need to decide where the line is for ourselves. There is no point expecting others to agree with you though |
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