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This is a pretty simple question, does body count matter to any of you if you were looking for a relationship? In fact, would a drastically high number make a difference? And what would you even consider to be a high number? |
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"This is a pretty simple question, does body count matter to any of you if you were looking for a relationship? In fact, would a drastically high number make a difference? And what would you even consider to be a high number?"
I think 100+ is "high" but I wouldn't care. Don't think I'd even think to ask! |
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I cant rationalise it but high numbers would turn me off , I dont know why but i dont ask how many partners people have had cause I dont want to be bothered by it |
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"I cant rationalise it but high numbers would turn me off , I dont know why but i dont ask how many partners people have had cause I dont want to be bothered by it "
That'll be the good old patriarchy  You're right, it's best not to ask if you know it bothers you! |
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"I cant rationalise it but high numbers would turn me off , I dont know why but i dont ask how many partners people have had cause I dont want to be bothered by it
That'll be the good old patriarchy You're right, it's best not to ask if you know it bothers you! "
Gotta say I was expecting at least one of these answers and more so from a man. I am trying to think of an argument besides the Patriarchy but I am at a loss. It was nice to see the general consensus is no though. |
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"I cant rationalise it but high numbers would turn me off , I dont know why but i dont ask how many partners people have had cause I dont want to be bothered by it
That'll be the good old patriarchy You're right, it's best not to ask if you know it bothers you!
Gotta say I was expecting at least one of these answers and more so from a man. I am trying to think of an argument besides the Patriarchy but I am at a loss. It was nice to see the general consensus is no though."
But I know women that wouldn't be too keen on men who have slept around alot ,what would that be attributed to? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't care about the number per se, the person could have other issues which led to an exceptionally low or high number of partners, I'd be more interested in that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I cant rationalise it but high numbers would turn me off , I dont know why but i dont ask how many partners people have had cause I dont want to be bothered by it
That'll be the good old patriarchy You're right, it's best not to ask if you know it bothers you!
Gotta say I was expecting at least one of these answers and more so from a man. I am trying to think of an argument besides the Patriarchy but I am at a loss. It was nice to see the general consensus is no though.
But I know women that wouldn't be too keen on men who have slept around alot ,what would that be attributed to?"
A fear he's always on the lookout for the next conquest perhaps? Obsession about high numbers in a partner's past is often more about one's own insecurities. |
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"I cant rationalise it but high numbers would turn me off , I dont know why but i dont ask how many partners people have had cause I dont want to be bothered by it
That'll be the good old patriarchy You're right, it's best not to ask if you know it bothers you!
Gotta say I was expecting at least one of these answers and more so from a man. I am trying to think of an argument besides the Patriarchy but I am at a loss. It was nice to see the general consensus is no though.
But I know women that wouldn't be too keen on men who have slept around alot ,what would that be attributed to?"
Also the patriarchy, albeit a different facet of it (toxic masculinity & compulsory monogamy vs slut shaming) We all live under the same system, it just affects different groups in different ways. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I cant rationalise it but high numbers would turn me off , I dont know why but i dont ask how many partners people have had cause I dont want to be bothered by it
That'll be the good old patriarchy You're right, it's best not to ask if you know it bothers you!
Gotta say I was expecting at least one of these answers and more so from a man. I am trying to think of an argument besides the Patriarchy but I am at a loss. It was nice to see the general consensus is no though.
But I know women that wouldn't be too keen on men who have slept around alot ,what would that be attributed to?
A fear he's always on the lookout for the next conquest perhaps? Obsession about high numbers in a partner's past is often more about one's own insecurities."
This is something I understand very well, might be another topic, the idea of men and "conquests", I do want to see if any woman would be bothered by a high body count just to see their reasoning, and no one has yet to say what they consider a high body count yet.
I'd probably say 40 for men around my age and maybe 50 for women? Its really hard to tell |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I cant rationalise it but high numbers would turn me off , I dont know why but i dont ask how many partners people have had cause I dont want to be bothered by it
That'll be the good old patriarchy You're right, it's best not to ask if you know it bothers you!
Gotta say I was expecting at least one of these answers and more so from a man. I am trying to think of an argument besides the Patriarchy but I am at a loss. It was nice to see the general consensus is no though.
But I know women that wouldn't be too keen on men who have slept around alot ,what would that be attributed to?
A fear he's always on the lookout for the next conquest perhaps? Obsession about high numbers in a partner's past is often more about one's own insecurities.
This is something I understand very well, might be another topic, the idea of men and "conquests", I do want to see if any woman would be bothered by a high body count just to see their reasoning, and no one has yet to say what they consider a high body count yet.
I'd probably say 40 for men around my age and maybe 50 for women? Its really hard to tell"
I'm guessing that for most, high is "more than me" and low is "less than me"  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Wouldn't bother me, I never even thought to ask R and he hasn't asked me.
When you get to our age we are bound to have a past, but it's how we treat each other that matters at the end of the day.
Just like age, it's nothing but a number  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It genuinely wouldn't bother me tbh..
Id like to think that if i liked someone enough to be in a relationship with them then how they treated me is the important bit.
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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"This is a pretty simple question, does body count matter to any of you if you were looking for a relationship? In fact, would a drastically high number make a difference? And what would you even consider to be a high number?"
Body count ? Do you mean people they've killed or people I've slept with ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is a pretty simple question, does body count matter to any of you if you were looking for a relationship? In fact, would a drastically high number make a difference? And what would you even consider to be a high number?
Body count ? Do you mean people they've killed or people I've slept with ? "
I mean if you've killed anyone, I guess I'd like to know, but in this context, the slept with body count |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Is three a lot?
People you've slept with? No. Murders? Yes!
Sure being on here, everyone's hoping their count is going to get higher, so why would any of us care? I lost count a long time ago anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My go to number is 8 but obviously it is drastically higher and only give that when asked in vanilla life.
It shouldn’t count and to be judged on it is disgraceful - Eros only found out my number in passing and was giving himself a pat on the back with being my best yet.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is three a lot?
People you've slept with? No. Murders? Yes!
Sure being on here, everyone's hoping their count is going to get higher, so why would any of us care? I lost count a long time ago anyway "
What about only 2 murders? Is that acceptable? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My go to number is 8 but obviously it is drastically higher and only give that when asked in vanilla life.
It shouldn’t count and to be judged on it is disgraceful - Eros only found out my number in passing and was giving himself a pat on the back with being my best yet.
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If anyone in any life asked me I'd tell them to mind their own fucking business! |
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"My go to number is 8 but obviously it is drastically higher and only give that when asked in vanilla life.
It shouldn’t count and to be judged on it is disgraceful - Eros only found out my number in passing and was giving himself a pat on the back with being my best yet.
If anyone in any life asked me I'd tell them to mind their own fucking business!"
I'd just tell em, I'm always interested in seeing their reaction - tells me a lot about the kind of person they are!
Not that mine is wildly high, 40ish at this stage I'd say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My go to number is 8 but obviously it is drastically higher and only give that when asked in vanilla life.
It shouldn’t count and to be judged on it is disgraceful - Eros only found out my number in passing and was giving himself a pat on the back with being my best yet.
If anyone in any life asked me I'd tell them to mind their own fucking business!
I'd just tell em, I'm always interested in seeing their reaction - tells me a lot about the kind of person they are!
Not that mine is wildly high, 40ish at this stage I'd say. "
The fact that they're asking tells me the kind of person they are! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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So do most people only keep track of their total number?
Whenever I'm with someone I update a GitHub data set with all their information.
I like to be able to export it to a pivot table where categorise them in terms of sexual act (shift/finger/oral/ride), age, location, hair colour, etc. You'd never know when that data could be needed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So do most people only keep track of their total number?
Whenever I'm with someone I update a GitHub data set with all their information.
I like to be able to export it to a pivot table where categorise them in terms of sexual act (shift/finger/oral/ride), age, location, hair colour, etc. You'd never know when that data could be needed."
Sounds as exciting as the covid hub!
At this stage, I'm pretty sure I've completely forgotten some people |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"Is three a lot?
People you've slept with? No. Murders? Yes!
Sure being on here, everyone's hoping their count is going to get higher, so why would any of us care? I lost count a long time ago anyway
What about only 2 murders? Is that acceptable?"
You need to change your name to never sleeping Gary in case murder is on her mind |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is three a lot?
People you've slept with? No. Murders? Yes!
Sure being on here, everyone's hoping their count is going to get higher, so why would any of us care? I lost count a long time ago anyway
What about only 2 murders? Is that acceptable?
You need to change your name to never sleeping Gary in case murder is on her mind "
Haha. Or itd be Sleeping with the fishes Gary |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So do most people only keep track of their total number?
Whenever I'm with someone I update a GitHub data set with all their information.
I like to be able to export it to a pivot table where categorise them in terms of sexual act (shift/finger/oral/ride), age, location, hair colour, etc. You'd never know when that data could be needed."
I mean it would be a great data set for a an AI, imagine a matching system on here using that set? The possibilities are endless |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So do most people only keep track of their total number?
Whenever I'm with someone I update a GitHub data set with all their information.
I like to be able to export it to a pivot table where categorise them in terms of sexual act (shift/finger/oral/ride), age, location, hair colour, etc. You'd never know when that data could be needed.
I mean it would be a great data set for a an AI, imagine a matching system on here using that set? The possibilities are endless "
It worked out well for me, because my new lover is actually an AI.
I asked her to rate me on a scale from 0 to 1. She responded $return() FLOATING POINT ERROR. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So do most people only keep track of their total number?
Whenever I'm with someone I update a GitHub data set with all their information.
I like to be able to export it to a pivot table where categorise them in terms of sexual act (shift/finger/oral/ride), age, location, hair colour, etc. You'd never know when that data could be needed.
I mean it would be a great data set for a an AI, imagine a matching system on here using that set? The possibilities are endless
It worked out well for me, because my new lover is actually an AI.
I asked her to rate me on a scale from 0 to 1. She responded $return() FLOATING POINT ERROR."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So do most people only keep track of their total number?
Whenever I'm with someone I update a GitHub data set with all their information.
I like to be able to export it to a pivot table where categorise them in terms of sexual act (shift/finger/oral/ride), age, location, hair colour, etc. You'd never know when that data could be needed.
I mean it would be a great data set for a an AI, imagine a matching system on here using that set? The possibilities are endless
It worked out well for me, because my new lover is actually an AI.
I asked her to rate me on a scale from 0 to 1. She responded $return() FLOATING POINT ERROR."
I'd say it would be an out of bounds exception |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So do most people only keep track of their total number?
Whenever I'm with someone I update a GitHub data set with all their information.
I like to be able to export it to a pivot table where categorise them in terms of sexual act (shift/finger/oral/ride), age, location, hair colour, etc. You'd never know when that data could be needed.
I mean it would be a great data set for a an AI, imagine a matching system on here using that set? The possibilities are endless
It worked out well for me, because my new lover is actually an AI.
I asked her to rate me on a scale from 0 to 1. She responded $return() FLOATING POINT ERROR.
I'd say it would be an out of bounds exception "
Haha. In this context, an out of bounds exception sounds like when someone agreed to have outdoor sex... just this once. |
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"So do most people only keep track of their total number?
Whenever I'm with someone I update a GitHub data set with all their information.
I like to be able to export it to a pivot table where categorise them in terms of sexual act (shift/finger/oral/ride), age, location, hair colour, etc. You'd never know when that data could be needed.
Sounds as exciting as the covid hub!
At this stage, I'm pretty sure I've completely forgotten some people"
This
I'm the same.
Forgotten some until a friend reminds me in conversation and I'm all Oh Yeah and closing my eyes trying to remember |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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"Is three a lot?
People you've slept with? No. Murders? Yes!
Sure being on here, everyone's hoping their count is going to get higher, so why would any of us care? I lost count a long time ago anyway "
3 isn't that many murders it would depend on the context really |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is three a lot?
People you've slept with? No. Murders? Yes!
Sure being on here, everyone's hoping their count is going to get higher, so why would any of us care? I lost count a long time ago anyway
3 isn't that many murders it would depend on the context really "
Idiots on the forums? Not that many |
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