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over a year ago
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"Why do some people block you when you try to introduce yourself????
Yes it be so much nicer and honest if they just said sorry not interested exactly only takes a minute"
From what I've read on the forums, people used to turn down people nicely by text but then some people could not take rejection and either became abusive or kept trying to change their minds. I'm not saying you would do that but because of that people dont reply anymore if they know they're not interested. |
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if I've messaged you a thanks but no thanks before then I block if you message again a few times as that's just anniying especially when you can see that you've messaged before and obviously didn't work out.
I also block if advised by other girls of any red flags. #girlcode |
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From what I've read on the forums, people used to turn down people nicely by text but then some people could not take rejection and either became abusive or kept trying to change their minds. I'm not saying you would do that but because of that people dont reply anymore if they know they're not interested. "
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"if I've messaged you a thanks but no thanks before then I block if you message again a few times as that's just anniying especially when you can see that you've messaged before and obviously didn't work out.
Could you pm me please
I also block if advised by other girls of any red flags. #girlcode"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if I've messaged you a thanks but no thanks before then I block if you message again a few times as that's just anniying especially when you can see that you've messaged before and obviously didn't work out.
I also block if advised by other girls of any red flags. #girlcode"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do some people block you when you try to introduce yourself????"
Why do you want to be able to contact someone that clearly isn't interested in you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do some people block you when you try to introduce yourself????
Yes it be so much nicer and honest if they just said sorry not interested exactly only takes a minute
From what I've read on the forums, people used to turn down people nicely by text but then some people could not take rejection and either became abusive or kept trying to change their minds. I'm not saying you would do that but because of that people dont reply anymore if they know they're not interested. "
Exactly
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"Why do some people block you when you try to introduce yourself????
Yes it be so much nicer and honest if they just said sorry not interested exactly only takes a minute"
Because sometimes that just leads to abuse as well. So some block to avoid having to deal with that. It's their profile they can do what they want.
I don't see why getting blocked by a complete stranger is such a big deal. Just block back and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do some people block you when you try to introduce yourself????
Yes it be so much nicer and honest if they just said sorry not interested exactly only takes a minute"
Fair enough. But what if you get anout 20-30 messages a day? Do you really think we should have to spend 20-30 minutes a day politely say no to people?
And honestly, at least half of those polite nos would get abusive messages back, or responses trying to convince us to change our minds. It's really fucking annoying.
Why can't you just be OK with knowing off the bat that someone's not interested? They're saving you time too ya know? |
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By *oc1998Man
over a year ago
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To be honest, to measure ones true maturity, block them if you dont like them. They must know that the other person is not into them and take it on the chin, not complaining. Unfortunately, some men here have given men bad names because they could not act like adults and was told no means no.
Age doesnt measure maturity here |
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"Why do some people block you when you try to introduce yourself????
Yes it be so much nicer and honest if they just said sorry not interested exactly only takes a minute"
people owe you nothing they dont have to get back to you and message back if they dont want too .its upto them if they want to get in touch so message once and move along |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wheres the #ladscode version of #girlcode? 
I never get a 'careful now, she will keep hounding you for meets so best block her straight away' message off any of the guys here* 
* (in fairness i have all men filtered but the point still stands  ) |
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"Why do some people block you when you try to introduce yourself????
Yes it be so much nicer and honest if they just said sorry not interested exactly only takes a minute people owe you nothing they dont have to get back to you and message back if they dont want too .its upto them if they want to get in touch so message once and move along "
I owe you nerrr-thing
Ooh err
Nerrr-thing at all |
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"Wheres the #ladscode version of #girlcode?
I never get a 'careful now, she will keep hounding you for meets so best block her straight away' message off any of the guys here*
* (in fairness i have all men filtered but the point still stands )"
I'm 1000% certain that men on here discuss women in private chats, share pics, info, approach tactics etc. I'm sure that they warn eachother off "psychos" and "drama" etc.
With women we are mostly sharing information about who is safe to play with or who has broken consent, pushed boundaries, lied about being single, assaulted someone, transmitted an STI, ETC. Not to say that we don't share more fun and low stakes info as well, but the main point is to keep eachother safe!!
I think that everyone in the community should have a group of close friends in the community to share information with, for safety reasons. |
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"Wheres the #ladscode version of #girlcode?
I never get a 'careful now, she will keep hounding you for meets so best block her straight away' message off any of the guys here*
* (in fairness i have all men filtered but the point still stands )
I'm 1000% certain that men on here discuss women in private chats, share pics, info, approach tactics etc. I'm sure that they warn eachother off "psychos" and "drama" etc.
With women we are mostly sharing information about who is safe to play with or who has broken consent, pushed boundaries, lied about being single, assaulted someone, transmitted an STI, ETC. Not to say that we don't share more fun and low stakes info as well, but the main point is to keep eachother safe!!
I think that everyone in the community should have a group of close friends in the community to share information with, for safety reasons. "
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By *ornyfireCouple
over a year ago
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"Why do some people block you when you try to introduce yourself????"
Because they are not interested. And rather than open lines of communication by saying no they shit it down immediately. You should be grateful no fear of false hope |
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We tend to be block rude/crude messages but the longer we are here the more it becomes easier to block people we arnt interested in. Some guys don't get the concept that we arnt interested in them, they either bombard us with why? Or ignore that fact and keep messaging anyway. Then you get the abusive messages as well, calling us fat/too old/ugly etc. ...easier to block |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do some people block you when you try to introduce yourself????"
many reasons.. They aren't interested in you.. They didn't like your first message.. They know if they reply with sorry no not for me they will get replies back trying to convince them otherwise.. The list is endless however don't take it personally or do but regardless that's how things go on here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do some people block you when you try to introduce yourself????"
Numerous reasons as stated above. No point complaining about it as not much you can do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it interesting and telling the lack of the others perspective from both parties. I don't agree with blocking unless abusive.
Blocked males
Guys if you are blocked it can be odd but remember the ratios are crazy and there are sometimes upwards of 2000 messages coming into girls or couples if they miss a few days. Seen as we all don't have time to talk to all the people we like we can't be expected to spend that time talking to people we don't like or have never met. It's fustrating because they maybe didn't get to know you but you have to roll with it as other users said.
Girls/Couples
Again the odds are in your favour. You must imagine having no messages ever from anyone. And the frustration that can cause. If someone is abusive blocking is the best way for sure. When you have many messages it is as other users say impossible to respond to all I am sure. But I guess do keep in mind if possible..some of these men might never really meet people don't know how to communicate. Biology and life is a lottery and we need to be as kind as we can. People say "you have no obligation to yadda yadda yadda". But we should be nice and make the world a little less shitty.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it interesting and telling the lack of the others perspective from both parties. I don't agree with blocking unless abusive.
Blocked males
Guys if you are blocked it can be odd but remember the ratios are crazy and there are sometimes upwards of 2000 messages coming into girls or couples if they miss a few days. Seen as we all don't have time to talk to all the people we like we can't be expected to spend that time talking to people we don't like or have never met. It's fustrating because they maybe didn't get to know you but you have to roll with it as other users said.
Girls/Couples
Again the odds are in your favour. You must imagine having no messages ever from anyone. And the frustration that can cause. If someone is abusive blocking is the best way for sure. When you have many messages it is as other users say impossible to respond to all I am sure. But I guess do keep in mind if possible..some of these men might never really meet people don't know how to communicate. Biology and life is a lottery and we need to be as kind as we can. People say "you have no obligation to yadda yadda yadda". But we should be nice and make the world a little less shitty.
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perfectly but.. And in an ideal world yes we would reply to every message but you simply can't and as I said even when you do and say no sorry not for me you get bombarded with oh give me a chance etc you can't win either way so it's easier to block and move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh and you also found me on Facebook and started to stalk me there! There's rules that you don't overstep in this community. "
I've got one of those too unfortunately
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh and you also found me on Facebook and started to stalk me there! There's rules that you don't overstep in this community.
I've got one of those too unfortunately
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Fuck off I found your bebo by mistake |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh and you also found me on Facebook and started to stalk me there! There's rules that you don't overstep in this community.
I've got one of those too unfortunately
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Fuck off I found your bebo by mistake"
I'm not that old cheeky |
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"I find it interesting and telling the lack of the others perspective from both parties. I don't agree with blocking unless abusive.
Blocked males
Guys if you are blocked it can be odd but remember the ratios are crazy and there are sometimes upwards of 2000 messages coming into girls or couples if they miss a few days. Seen as we all don't have time to talk to all the people we like we can't be expected to spend that time talking to people we don't like or have never met. It's fustrating because they maybe didn't get to know you but you have to roll with it as other users said.
Girls/Couples
Again the odds are in your favour. You must imagine having no messages ever from anyone. And the frustration that can cause. If someone is abusive blocking is the best way for sure. When you have many messages it is as other users say impossible to respond to all I am sure. But I guess do keep in mind if possible..some of these men might never really meet people don't know how to communicate. Biology and life is a lottery and we need to be as kind as we can. People say "you have no obligation to yadda yadda yadda". But we should be nice and make the world a little less shitty.
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We block people for lots of reasons, not reading out profile, being dicks on the forum, repeated messaged when we clearly aren't interested, showing up on who viewed me a creepy amount of times.. Its our decision who we block, and our decision who we reply to, we answer to no one but ourselves |
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