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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey fabbers I’ve recently lost my dear dear wife to the cunting Big C and nowadays don’t know wot to do where to go what is left or right
So plz drop me a pm to chat |
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Sorry for your loss op.
I've lost 3 family members to it in the last 6 years including my mum so I know where you're coming from.
Hope you find the strength you need to get through and have a good support network. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to hear about that such a terrible thing to go through. My neighbour recently lost his partner to cancer. He's joined the local Mans Shed and he finds it great distraction working on various projects and he's gotten to meet new people from it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanx fabbers
Unfortunately a lot of wot ur saying makes perfect sense
Just feel lost at minute
I’ve great kids n fam here so I lucky
But when u lucky to ave found ur best friend as well as ur wife u loose twice as much |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"Thanx fabbers
Unfortunately a lot of wot ur saying makes perfect sense
Just feel lost at minute
I’ve great kids n fam here so I lucky
But when u lucky to ave found ur best friend as well as ur wife u loose twice as much "
Bloody hell that last line is a gorgeous tribute to your wife.
What a beautiful thing to say about her...I know you're hurting but I bet you're very glad of the time you had |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanx fabbers
Unfortunately a lot of wot ur saying makes perfect sense
Just feel lost at minute
I’ve great kids n fam here so I lucky
But when u lucky to ave found ur best friend as well as ur wife u loose twice
Bloody hell that last line is a gorgeous tribute to your wife.
What a beautiful thing to say about her...I know you're hurting but I bet you're very glad of the time you had"
No thank you so much , a very respectful thing to write , I’ve great memories , she fought with such dignity |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"Thanx fabbers
Unfortunately a lot of wot ur saying makes perfect sense
Just feel lost at minute
I’ve great kids n fam here so I lucky
But when u lucky to ave found ur best friend as well as ur wife u loose twice
Bloody hell that last line is a gorgeous tribute to your wife.
What a beautiful thing to say about her...I know you're hurting but I bet you're very glad of the time you had
No thank you so much , a very respectful thing to write , I’ve great memories , she fought with such dignity "
I'm listening...lets hear about her if you want to |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sorry to hear about that such a terrible thing to go through. My neighbour recently lost his partner to cancer. He's joined the local Mans Shed and he finds it great distraction working on various projects and he's gotten to meet new people from it."
Thank you
I will not dismiss any advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Stay strong my fellow fabber, I'm not going to try to imagine how tough it is but stay positive and your head up you won't be long getting back on the horse |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have been through the same myself some years ago. It is NOT easy and despite what very well meaning people will say - it does not get better with time. What does improve with time is how you, yourself, deal with the pain and the loss. But the pain never goes away so it is best to accept that early on and concentrate on keeping yourself sane and normal. I had young kids so that kept me busy and possible drove me even more insane !!
Do NOT sit at home - get out, circulate, take up a hobby or a past time. I took up hillwalking, mostly alone, to help clear the head and then a few other pastimes where I was mingling with people. Keep yourself fit and active and eat properly.
It is all about having a good work/life balance and keeping yourself occupied when not at work.
Sitting at home on your own will kill you.
Reaching out like you have done here is a big step - but a word of caution - too much sympathy can act like a drug and you start to wallow in it after a while and thee is no progress
Most of all set up a routine - get up early, write some daily pages, visit friends you have not seen in a long time etc - just keep yourself busy.
Feel free to message me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The sun shines down upon us
and gives us warmth and light.
Then when the day has ended,
it disappears from sight.
Though we're left in darkness,
the sun it has not died,
for it's still shining brightly
on the world's other side.
So it is when one we love
comes to their end of days.
They've just gone to the other side
to shine their loving rays.
That's why heaven is a place
that glows beyond compare.
The lights of those who've left us
are brightly shining there."
Stay strong, Ohpee  |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"I lost my husband 5 years ago . I felt like I lost everything . But since joining here my confidence has come on so much "
My God you were so young to lose your husband
I can't even begin to imagine what that was like but wish you well in the future |
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Been there ...life will go on and in time you will move on
Give yourself time to get in a good place nothing will change the love or memories you have for your darling wife
It's great that you have family and friends that supports you
Everyone is different how they deal with things so no right or wrong way to do it
Stay safe and mind yourself
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