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By *NawtyCpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Around and about |
Whether your a novice or and old hand, we all have something to learn.
Share what hints, tips and hacks you have picked up, been shown or invented that help your personal swinging journey go a little easier. What removes a little stress or boosts your experience?
Some of both Mr and Mrs aNawtycpls. Love to hear some of yours
Condoms.
Yes, yes they are always to be used but if like us you're in a long term relationship, well we left johnies behind us years ago. So tip no 1, practice at home with or without your significant other. You dont want to be figuring this out in a play situation dor rhe first time in years.
2. Bring more than you think u will ever use in your bestest ever night. Latex and non if possible and condom friendly lube.
3. Using toys especially with another female can be hot as f*ck but sharing runs a risk. Use condoms with toys and pack toy friendly wipes or cleaner.
4. Knickers over suspender belt. Allows u to pull em off while leaving your expensive waspie on.
5. Tan. Most require at least 2 showers to completely wash off. No ones likes to nibble on tan nipples.
6. Check in with the person your playing with. Not just for cpls, applicable to everyone. A wee hows this or you comfy?
7. Nails! A hang nail will do more damage to a woohaa than birth! Short, clean and smooth. Buy an emery board or file if like Mr you work with ur hands.
Share the wisdom.
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By *NawtyCpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Around and about |
"Don't over do it with drinking. Nothing worse than someone legless at a party to bring the mood down"
Agree, can be hard when the craic is going in the pub not to have just one more but! Think of the fun instead. |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
by a lake with my rod out |
Here's a tip for all the new guys and I can't reiterate this enough.
IT'S SWINGING ISN'T AN EASY OPTION TO GET THE RIDE. IT'S TOUGHER HERE THAN ANY OTHER OUTLET , PUBS , CLUBS, INTERNET DATING SITES ETC ARE MUCH EASIER PLACES TO GET YOUR END AWAY. |
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"What so you wish you knew before your very first meet?
That she was going to punch me in the face and knee me in the balls as part of her undiscussed fantasy 
No way! "
Yes way.
Left the site a few days later because I thought all meets were going to be like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What so you wish you knew before your very first meet?
That she was going to punch me in the face and knee me in the balls as part of her undiscussed fantasy "
Ouch, fetishes can be tricky especially if not fully spoken about first, for me I wish I know that my emotional health and comfort (male half) mean as much as hers |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
Don't rush into meeting anyone. The one time I met someone within a few days was the worst and scariest meet I had.
Always bring your own condoms.
Don't be guilted into meeting anyone even for a social if you aren't feeling it let the other person know and don't meet.
Be yourself no point in pretending to be someone or something your not.
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"Don't rush into meeting anyone. The one time I met someone within a few days was the worst and scariest meet I had.
Always bring your own condoms.
Don't be guilted into meeting anyone even for a social if you aren't feeling it let the other person know and don't meet.
Be yourself no point in pretending to be someone or something your not.
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"Don't rush into meeting anyone. The one time I met someone within a few days was the worst and scariest meet I had.
Always bring your own condoms.
Don't be guilted into meeting anyone even for a social if you aren't feeling it let the other person know and don't meet.
Be yourself no point in pretending to be someone or something your not.
And trim your nails "
Now you are going too far   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't be pressured into taking bullets for the other half of a couple
Don't play with pissed people or those partaking in drugs on meets. Leads to bad situations |
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For women meeting alone;
Bring your own condoms and lube
Bring clean fresh underwear, I’ve had to go
commando (no not you C4) home a couple of times.
Always bring a phone charger as you could end up wasting your battery making videos
Always ALWAYS let someone know where you are going and for what time. Take a screenshot of their profile and send all their details to a RELIABLE friend. Arrange a time to call or text post-meet to confirm you are ok. If you don’t have anyone you can rely on, fuckit, message me, I’m discreet as hell.
Drink loads of water, loo breaks give you a chance to take stock and keeps your waterworks in check.
Trust your gut, it’s gotten you this far. |
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"Don't rush into meeting anyone. The one time I met someone within a few days was the worst and scariest meet I had.
Always bring your own condoms.
Don't be guilted into meeting anyone even for a social if you aren't feeling it let the other person know and don't meet.
Be yourself no point in pretending to be someone or something your not.
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Clever girl  |
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By *NawtyCpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Around and about |
"For women meeting alone;
Bring your own condoms and lube
Bring clean fresh underwear, I’ve had to go
commando (no not you C4) home a couple of times.
Always bring a phone charger as you could end up wasting your battery making videos
Always ALWAYS let someone know where you are going and for what time. Take a screenshot of their profile and send all their details to a RELIABLE friend. Arrange a time to call or text post-meet to confirm you are ok. If you don’t have anyone you can rely on, fuckit, message me, I’m discreet as hell.
Drink loads of water, loo breaks give you a chance to take stock and keeps your waterworks in check.
Trust your gut, it’s gotten you this far. "
Excellent single lady advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For women meeting alone;
Bring your own condoms and lube
Bring clean fresh underwear, I’ve had to go
commando (no not you C4) home a couple of times.
Always bring a phone charger as you could end up wasting your battery making videos
Always ALWAYS let someone know where you are going and for what time. Take a screenshot of their profile and send all their details to a RELIABLE friend. Arrange a time to call or text post-meet to confirm you are ok. If you don’t have anyone you can rely on, fuckit, message me, I’m discreet as hell.
Drink loads of water, loo breaks give you a chance to take stock and keeps your waterworks in check.
Trust your gut, it’s gotten you this far. "
As well as letting a friend know where you are going, for peace of mind you can also set your SnapChat location on. So a friend can see your exact location at any point in time. It also shows if you are on the move in a car, if your phone goes offline etc. |
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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago
Dublin west |
I always bring a bag with me.
Condoms, lube, wetwipes, shower gel and a towel to freshen up during or after.
I always have a bottle of water.
Talk to lots.
Meet a few that catch your eye.
Play with only the ones you really want to play with.
And enjoy the journey...life is short and yoh should make the best of it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always have a good excuse if you meet a work colleague and his family in the hotel corridor the next morning when you told him you were having a quiet weekend |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't be pressured into taking bullets for the other half of a couple
Don't play with pissed people or those partaking in drugs on meets. Leads to bad situations "
very good advice about drugs and drink if you have to do it after meet |
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As well as letting a friend know where you are going, for peace of mind you can also set your SnapChat location on. So a friend can see your exact location at any point in time. It also shows if you are on the move in a car, if your phone goes offline etc. "
Good idea. Unforch no use if your phone is tossed out the window of a moving car or turned off, out of battery or smashed.
Spent way too much time thinking of worst case scenario   |
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"Just because someone has a load of veris doesnt mean they are not scumbags..."
OMG too true. And then some of the best lovers and loveliest people I’ve met on had maybe 2 veris? Feel like keeping the secret to myself. |
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"Actually happy to be a 'check in' person also.
We should have a network "
As good an idea as that sounds, with a community as small as this I’ve experienced an arrogant presumption of safety. It’s made me uncomfortable. |
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By *NawtyCpl OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Actually happy to be a 'check in' person also.
We should have a network
As good an idea as that sounds, with a community as small as this I’ve experienced an arrogant presumption of safety. It’s made me uncomfortable. "
How do u mean? Like people presumed safety without a check in? |
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"Actually happy to be a 'check in' person also.
We should have a network
As good an idea as that sounds, with a community as small as this I’ve experienced an arrogant presumption of safety. It’s made me uncomfortable.
How do u mean? Like people presumed safety without a check in? "
What's a check-in? |
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By *NawtyCpl OP Couple
over a year ago
Around and about |
"Actually happy to be a 'check in' person also.
We should have a network
As good an idea as that sounds, with a community as small as this I’ve experienced an arrogant presumption of safety. It’s made me uncomfortable.
How do u mean? Like people presumed safety without a check in?
What's a check-in?"
More for singles but someone who knows where u are and that u check in with to confirm safety. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably one for new lads, if you make a decision and a plan to meet, meet.
Hands up I’ve fucked this one up before but honestly having been on the receiving end, NOTHING worse. I say new lads as we are definitely the worst offenders from my chats. |
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"Probably one for new lads, if you make a decision and a plan to meet, meet.
Hands up I’ve fucked this one up before but honestly having been on the receiving end, NOTHING worse. I say new lads as we are definitely the worst offenders from my chats. "
LOL. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably one for new lads, if you make a decision and a plan to meet, meet.
Hands up I’ve fucked this one up before but honestly having been on the receiving end, NOTHING worse. I say new lads as we are definitely the worst offenders from my chats.
LOL. "
AH consider this a public apology of sorts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"1. Be yourself
2. Be respectiful to the other person/people
3. Play safe
4. Remain vigilant (trust your own instincts)
5. Enjoy yourself"
Respectful is the key word there.
Be sound. |
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By *DSGCouple
over a year ago
That place in |
For couples have a safe word or sentence you can use, you can say sentence to each other or in passing if you like/dislike the couple and your partner will understand during a coffee meet
Im sure singles could do something similar and having a friend that knows who and where your meeting is a brilliant idea, SG had done this back in the day
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get yourself regularly tested for STIs. Condoms do NOT protect you fully, herpes, HPV and syphilis are spread by skin contact, diseases are also spread by oral sex (genital and anal).
You can be infected yet asymptomatic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Alot of above is common sense,but it's also good to see it's a great thread.
Respect.
Go with your gut.
Don't judge from chinese whispers.
Sometimes you miss out on good people because others may have a thing against them.
Most importantly be yourself and enjoy and go with the flow! |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"Single lads, don’t ever mention the word discretion or worried about your job, compared to a couple or a single lady you have fook all to lose.. "
I think they have just as much to lose as anyone else does. I don't know why anyone would think just because they are a single guy their right to privacy would be any different. |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
South Dublin Area |
"Single lads, don’t ever mention the word discretion or worried about your job, compared to a couple or a single lady you have fook all to lose..
I think they have just as much to lose as anyone else does. I don't know why anyone would think just because they are a single guy their right to privacy would be any different."
give me examples how a single guy has more lose than a couple? |
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By *at3232Woman
over a year ago
the moon |
"For women meeting alone;
Bring your own condoms and lube
Bring clean fresh underwear, I’ve had to go
commando (no not you C4) home a couple of times.
Always bring a phone charger as you could end up wasting your battery making videos
Always ALWAYS let someone know where you are going and for what time. Take a screenshot of their profile and send all their details to a RELIABLE friend. Arrange a time to call or text post-meet to confirm you are ok. If you don’t have anyone you can rely on, fuckit, message me, I’m discreet as hell.
Drink loads of water, loo breaks give you a chance to take stock and keeps your waterworks in check.
Trust your gut, it’s gotten you this far. "
Cool tips and thanks x |
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By *at3232Woman
over a year ago
the moon |
"Whether your a novice or and old hand, we all have something to learn.
Share what hints, tips and hacks you have picked up, been shown or invented that help your personal swinging journey go a little easier. What removes a little stress or boosts your experience?
Some of both Mr and Mrs aNawtycpls. Love to hear some of yours
Condoms.
Yes, yes they are always to be used but if like us you're in a long term relationship, well we left johnies behind us years ago. So tip no 1, practice at home with or without your significant other. You dont want to be figuring this out in a play situation dor rhe first time in years.
2. Bring more than you think u will ever use in your bestest ever night. Latex and non if possible and condom friendly lube.
3. Using toys especially with another female can be hot as f*ck but sharing runs a risk. Use condoms with toys and pack toy friendly wipes or cleaner.
4. Knickers over suspender belt. Allows u to pull em off while leaving your expensive waspie on.
5. Tan. Most require at least 2 showers to completely wash off. No ones likes to nibble on tan nipples.
6. Check in with the person your playing with. Not just for cpls, applicable to everyone. A wee hows this or you comfy?
7. Nails! A hang nail will do more damage to a woohaa than birth! Short, clean and smooth. Buy an emery board or file if like Mr you work with ur hands.
Share the wisdom.
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Great points |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Alot of above is common sense,but it's also good to see it's a great thread.
Respect.
Go with your gut.
Don't judge from chinese whispers.
Sometimes you miss out on good people because others may have a thing against them.
Most importantly be yourself and enjoy and go with the flow!"
I would agree with the Chinese whispers part. Too many have an axe to grind for perceived slights. If you know something 100% on the other hand then make a call. One of the things that in any scene can ruin a person's rep be it swinging or bdsm. |
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"Single lads, don’t ever mention the word discretion or worried about your job, compared to a couple or a single lady you have fook all to lose..
I think they have just as much to lose as anyone else does. I don't know why anyone would think just because they are a single guy their right to privacy would be any different.give me examples how a single guy has more lose than a couple?"
How can you think they have nothing to lose. You don't know their job title or if they have kids or anything for that matter. They are humans too not animals in a gutter.
I can't for the life of me understand why all single men are tarnished with the same brush .
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"Single lads, don’t ever mention the word discretion or worried about your job, compared to a couple or a single lady you have fook all to lose..
I think they have just as much to lose as anyone else does. I don't know why anyone would think just because they are a single guy their right to privacy would be any different.give me examples how a single guy has more lose than a couple?
How can you think they have nothing to lose. You don't know their job title or if they have kids or anything for that matter. They are humans too not animals in a gutter.
I can't for the life of me understand why all single men are tarnished with the same brush .
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This |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
"Single lads, don’t ever mention the word discretion or worried about your job, compared to a couple or a single lady you have fook all to lose..
I think they have just as much to lose as anyone else does. I don't know why anyone would think just because they are a single guy their right to privacy would be any different.give me examples how a single guy has more lose than a couple?"
How has a couple more to lose than a single man |
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"Single lads, don’t ever mention the word discretion or worried about your job, compared to a couple or a single lady you have fook all to lose..
I think they have just as much to lose as anyone else does. I don't know why anyone would think just because they are a single guy their right to privacy would be any different.give me examples how a single guy has more lose than a couple?"
I'm assuming this is a wind up?
Everyone on here has equal rights to privacy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Single lads, don’t ever mention the word discretion or worried about your job, compared to a couple or a single lady you have fook all to lose..
I think they have just as much to lose as anyone else does. I don't know why anyone would think just because they are a single guy their right to privacy would be any different.give me examples how a single guy has more lose than a couple?
How can you think they have nothing to lose. You don't know their job title or if they have kids or anything for that matter. They are humans too not animals in a gutter.
I can't for the life of me understand why all single men are tarnished with the same brush .
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Good points there. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"Single lads, don’t ever mention the word discretion or worried about your job, compared to a couple or a single lady you have fook all to lose..
I think they have just as much to lose as anyone else does. I don't know why anyone would think just because they are a single guy their right to privacy would be any different.give me examples how a single guy has more lose than a couple?"
Give me an example how they don't ye are the ones making the claim you also included single women as having more to lose. How exactly is that right?
Just because you are a couple does not make your life and privacy more important than anyone else.
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"Single lads, don’t ever mention the word discretion or worried about your job, compared to a couple or a single lady you have fook all to lose..
I think they have just as much to lose as anyone else does. I don't know why anyone would think just because they are a single guy their right to privacy would be any different.give me examples how a single guy has more lose than a couple?
How can you think they have nothing to lose. You don't know their job title or if they have kids or anything for that matter. They are humans too not animals in a gutter.
I can't for the life of me understand why all single men are tarnished with the same brush .
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I agree. |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
South Dublin Area |
"Single lads, don’t ever mention the word discretion or worried about your job, compared to a couple or a single lady you have fook all to lose..
I think they have just as much to lose as anyone else does. I don't know why anyone would think just because they are a single guy their right to privacy would be any different.give me examples how a single guy has more lose than a couple?
I'm assuming this is a wind up?
Everyone on here has equal rights to privacy."
Ya reckon, think what ya want. You missed the point. |
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"Single lads, don’t ever mention the word discretion or worried about your job, compared to a couple or a single lady you have fook all to lose..
I think they have just as much to lose as anyone else does. I don't know why anyone would think just because they are a single guy their right to privacy would be any different.give me examples how a single guy has more lose than a couple?
I'm assuming this is a wind up?
Everyone on here has equal rights to privacy.Ya reckon, think what ya want. You missed the point. "
Explain it to me then |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
"Why is that so many singles lads have face pics on here? Not sure I have ever seen a couple on the Irish site with facepics?
That’s discretion for you "
What about single ladies...huge amount of them with face pictures |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"Why is that so many singles lads have face pics on here? Not sure I have ever seen a couple on the Irish site with facepics?
That’s discretion for you
What about single ladies...huge amount of them with face pictures "
There's quite a few couples as well some even post on the forums quite regularly. |
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"Why is that so many singles lads have face pics on here? Not sure I have ever seen a couple on the Irish site with facepics?
That’s discretion for you "
In fairness there is a number of males, cpls and women that show their face on their profile. But I wonder why you single out only the males for this. To me it's not a valid reason on your behalf for making the 1st statement on single men. But that's just me. I tend to look at individuals not the sex as a whole. |
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Great points OP, couple from us turn up on time, especially if you chose the time to meet, don't expect a ride for turning up, there has to be a spark sometimes you can influence this by being well turned out, dont smoke if you have on your profile that you don't (amount of people who do this is crazy) it's not that we won't meet smokers but draw the line at people who blatantly lie. Throw an odd complement, a bit of wooing goes a long way. Oh and bring condoms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Difficult to read the tone of a Hmmm but I’m vibing this one like: Hmmm 
HMMMMMM!!!!
Mmmmmm I see
PM
I can’t. I’ve blocked you and I can’t unblock you. AHHAHA!"
Somebody get this lady a plunger. It’s an emergency. |
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