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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mate nothing, sadly the woman to man ratio is way out of proportion. Also dont know what it is about NI women but fuck me its full of nasty mean stuck up ones. Never known somewhere so bad. |
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1. A year on fab, no veries= not inspiring, especially as you have been on before and no one has verified from your previous encounters.
2.27 years old= doesn't usually appeal to the mature crowd.
3. 27 and can't accommodate= mummy's boy or married.
4. Curvy= overweight in a man, not necessarily a problem but limits your catchment.
5. Poor pics = can't be arsed to take decent ones.
In my humble opinion and you want feedback, not a great profile to be honest, sorry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Spruce up your profile a bit tell more about you and perhaps add pics that don't involve your cock "
I ain’t gonna bother looking at the profile you pretty much hit the nail on the head I don’t think women are one bit impressed with cock pics ! ( unless they ask )
They get bombarded with them on here ! And in my opinion it gives off a bad impression straight away !
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"Mate nothing, sadly the woman to man ratio is way out of proportion. Also dont know what it is about NI women but fuck me its full of nasty mean stuck up ones. Never known somewhere so bad. "
Hopefully you keep distracting them and let the friendy ones keep chatting to the rest of us |
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"Mate nothing, sadly the woman to man ratio is way out of proportion. Also dont know what it is about NI women but fuck me its full of nasty mean stuck up ones. Never known somewhere so bad.
Hopefully you keep distracting them and let the friendy ones keep chatting to the rest of us "
Whoa hang on! There's women in NI?? Why am I only finding this out now?  |
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"1. A year on fab, no veries= not inspiring, especially as you have been on before and no one has verified from your previous encounters.
2.27 years old= doesn't usually appeal to the mature crowd.
3. 27 and can't accommodate= mummy's boy or married.
4. Curvy= overweight in a man, not necessarily a problem but limits your catchment.
5. Poor pics = can't be arsed to take decent ones.
In my humble opinion and you want feedback, not a great profile to be honest, sorry. "
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Pretty much summed up perfectly  |
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"Could someone also tell me what's wrong with my profile so that I can correct it.."
Bi-curious will put a lot of people off. Lots of couples or women won’t meet bi men where it’s almost expected that most women are bi curious. Generally it’s nothing personal, just a preference and I’m not in any way suggesting anything wrong with it or that you should change it in your profile but be aware it could be why you are having issues.
The legal disclaimer is worthless by the way, it’s a publicly accessible site so no expectation of privacy as such. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could someone also tell me what's wrong with my profile so that I can correct it..
Bi-curious will put a lot of people off. Lots of couples or women won’t meet bi men where it’s almost expected that most women are bi curious. Generally it’s nothing personal, just a preference and I’m not in any way suggesting anything wrong with it or that you should change it in your profile but be aware it could be why you are having issues.
The legal disclaimer is worthless by the way, it’s a publicly accessible site so no expectation of privacy as such."
Had to pick up on your comment about most women are bi curious!
It’s true right ? Anyway I agree with you most women I’ve been with are always a tad curious for sure |
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"Could someone also tell me what's wrong with my profile so that I can correct it..
Bi-curious will put a lot of people off. Lots of couples or women won’t meet bi men where it’s almost expected that most women are bi curious. Generally it’s nothing personal, just a preference and I’m not in any way suggesting anything wrong with it or that you should change it in your profile but be aware it could be why you are having issues.
The legal disclaimer is worthless by the way, it’s a publicly accessible site so no expectation of privacy as such.
Had to pick up on your comment about most women are bi curious!
It’s true right ? Anyway I agree with you most women I’ve been with are always a tad curious for sure "
I mean, fab is certainly a “tainted” pool for research so it may just be this lifestyle attracts this sort of person. However, in my experience it’s certainly more acceptable for women to be bi and amongst younger ages (teens to early 20’s) it could even be considered fashionable to be outwardly bi for girls. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"However, in my experience it’s certainly more acceptable for women to be bi and amongst younger ages (teens to early 20’s) it could even be considered fashionable to be outwardly bi for girls."
Bi-sexual chic or performative bi-sexuality is a huge thing, but again only for women.
I think it's indicative of a problematic mindset. I mean, for the amount of "straight" men on here or the amount of women and couples who won't meet bi-sexual or bi-curious guys (because they aren't REAL men), there certainly is a lot of TS/TV/CD people in Ireland's hot pics EVERY day!    |
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By *uietcpl2Couple
over a year ago
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We will not meet couples who dont make a half decent effort on their profile. Your profile is poor and as the female here there is nothing more off putting than a whole lot of dick photos. I suggest you start again with your bio and some nice none dick pics . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We will not meet couples who dont make a half decent effort on their profile. Your profile is poor and as the female here there is nothing more off putting than a whole lot of dick photos. I suggest you start again with your bio and some nice none dick pics ."
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I just noticed the comment are NI women are stuck up that's a little harsh don't you think maybe approaching them in a better way might help Ive spoken to the most soundest women in NI they have been far from stuck up towards me let's not single out just perticular area there are good and bad everywhere |
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"Could someone also tell me what's wrong with my profile so that I can correct it.."
Well do you have a vaccine for Covid-19 because if you did it will be like wearing the infinity gauntlet with the infinity stones and just with a click you will be in control |
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"However, in my experience it’s certainly more acceptable for women to be bi and amongst younger ages (teens to early 20’s) it could even be considered fashionable to be outwardly bi for girls.
Bi-sexual chic or performative bi-sexuality is a huge thing, but again only for women.
I think it's indicative of a problematic mindset. I mean, for the amount of "straight" men on here or the amount of women and couples who won't meet bi-sexual or bi-curious guys (because they aren't REAL men), there certainly is a lot of TS/TV/CD people in Ireland's hot pics EVERY day! "
I don’t know if bi men are being turned down because they are not viewed as “real men”. I have no problem with anyone ruling out bi men, it’s a preference so that’s fine by me. The same goes for anyone who doesn’t wish to meet (here) or date (real world) a trans person. It’s a preference and so must be accepted as such. |
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In a nutshell and cutting a long story short, many reasons but wimmin control the site is the big one. You could mail 5 women on here and get nowhere and yet in person , u could chat to the 5 and you all could get on like a house on fire. Making an impression through a screen is difficult. Up until covid out and about was the number 1 way. Let's hope soon enough it comes back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First:
For a start putting up this post! It makes you look insecure and needy-an unattractive quality.
Second, don't take it too seriously.
I have been on and off here three times since January. My profile is not particularly bad or good. But it's honest. One meeting in all that time. Several phone calls and a few KIK messaging. Take into account that some folks insist on verifications before they will even consider contacting you, which is their free-choice. Add in Corona and it just got harder! There are as many female nut jobs on this site as male nut jobs, a few scammers and a few offering services for fees makes it all the more of a minefield. |
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When I was on as a single and bi, I concentrated on couples. I was not in anyway unsuccessful. You are what you are and will always appeal to someone, unless you're an absolute munter lol. Plenty of bi guys in couples looking for a single male. I know it's tempting to put straight on your profile but your net is cast too wide.
A. Your denying your own pleasure just to get any kind of vanilla action, when in reality you want bi action.
B. Just be greedy, put bi on profile and get the best of both worlds with a couple.
C. Meeting a couple can also lead to party invites, where single men are coveted (after attending a few party's, it's amazing the amount of men in a couple who don't play).
My tuppence for what it's worth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I was on as a single and bi, I concentrated on couples. I was not in anyway unsuccessful. You are what you are and will always appeal to someone, unless you're an absolute munter lol. Plenty of bi guys in couples looking for a single male. I know it's tempting to put straight on your profile but your net is cast too wide.
A. Your denying your own pleasure just to get any kind of vanilla action, when in reality you want bi action.
B. Just be greedy, put bi on profile and get the best of both worlds with a couple.
C. Meeting a couple can also lead to party invites, where single men are coveted (after attending a few party's, it's amazing the amount of men in a couple who don't play).
My tuppence for what it's worth. "
 absolute munter !!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have you assumed im talking to them in the wromg manner? Believe me i dont. I treat people as i would expect. Seems a friendly hello and being polite gets you nowhere |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you assumed im talking to them in the wromg manner? Believe me i dont. I treat people as i would expect. Seems a friendly hello and being polite gets you nowhere"
Who’s this aimed at ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"1. A year on fab, no veries= not inspiring, especially as you have been on before and no one has verified from your previous encounters.
2.27 years old= doesn't usually appeal to the mature crowd.
3. 27 and can't accommodate= mummy's boy or married.
4. Curvy= overweight in a man, not necessarily a problem but limits your catchment.
5. Poor pics = can't be arsed to take decent ones.
In my humble opinion and you want feedback, not a great profile to be honest, sorry. "
There’s an opening for a consultancy sorting bios right there for you |
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"Have you assumed im talking to them in the wromg manner? Believe me i dont. I treat people as i would expect. Seems a friendly hello and being polite gets you nowhere"
First of all, nobody owes you a response. You appear to believe that being polite to someone means they should get back to you. This isn’t the case.
Think of it as changing lanes in traffic, you throw on the indicator but that doesn’t entitle you to pull on over regardless. Someone might let you in but if not you wait. Nobody likes that person that thinks they are entitled to push in just because they indicated. |
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"In a nutshell and cutting a long story short, many reasons but wimmin control the site is the big one. You could mail 5 women on here and get nowhere and yet in person , u could chat to the 5 and you all could get on like a house on fire. Making an impression through a screen is difficult. Up until covid out and about was the number 1 way. Let's hope soon enough it comes back. "
Women don't control the site and neither do couples despite various statements in regard to this.
They may well outnumber single men but that doesn't mean they have any more control unless you are actually trying to chat with and meet all of them as a collective.
In a one to one conversation you have as much control as anyone else. Treat people as equals and make them aware that you want to be treated as such and you might find you can actually have a proper adult conversation.
There are exceptions to every rule and some women and couples will indeed try and give you the impression that you are a lesser mortal but that's their issue and not yours unless you are happy to be a doormat.
Engage on an equal level with respect and sincerity and your fab experience will be very different. |
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"First:
For a start putting up this post! It makes you look insecure and needy-an unattractive quality.
Second, don't take it too seriously.
I have been on and off here three times since January. My profile is not particularly bad or good. But it's honest. One meeting in all that time. Several phone calls and a few KIK messaging. Take into account that some folks insist on verifications before they will even consider contacting you, which is their free-choice. Add in Corona and it just got harder! There are as many female nut jobs on this site as male nut jobs, a few scammers and a few offering services for fees makes it all the more of a minefield. "
Very fair point I'm on just the one meet myself I'd rather keep the numbers low as to look at me I'm sleeping with half the site quality over quantity hands down for me and yes covid has screwed things up so that should be taken into consideration |
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"Have you assumed im talking to them in the wromg manner? Believe me i dont. I treat people as i would expect. Seems a friendly hello and being polite gets you nowhere
Who’s this aimed at ? "
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"In a one to one conversation you have as much control as anyone else. that's the stage u have to get 2. "
It takes patience and the forums are part of your merchandising so it's fairly straightforward.
Don't make promises you can't keep, avoid flash sales, treat your clientele with respect but don't put them on a pedestal or kiss their feet every time they come in the door and stop whinging about delivery times or arguing with your suppliers and hey presto.... satisfied customers and repeat business. |
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