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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I dunno is anyone else in this position but this post is for anyone who is looking for friends.
Not sexy time friends but actual friends.
Guys and gals welcomed.
Finding my circle of friends smaller these days due to life and them moving abroad
Be nice to meet some new people.
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Hello Miss Steele how are you?
I am in the same situation as you, I am a foreigner living in Dublin for just over two years.
I have not managed to make a group of friends.
Good initiative!!!
let's see what we achieve.
Have a happy day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you would be surprised how many people are in the same situation, my friends I grew up with, we have all moved on in life and I would never see any of them. Work mates are fine but I would not class them as friends. And as for living as a "blow in" in Ireland well your doomed for a lifetime as an outsider, people view you with suspicion while their own are "salt of the earth". Pubs even pre covid are impossible to meet anyone for a simple chat even, all in all it can be very lonely at times. |
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Gotta agree. Im a brit here in Ireland for 15odd years and while I know loads of nice people, they tend to keep outsiders at an arms length. It's weird but Irish folks are so welcoming and generous in lots of ways.. but just don't seem to be interested in new good friends as they mostly have all they need from growing up. That's my experience from small town Ireland anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the old agage of join a club holds thru...some here may want to be friend friends but most here for 1 thing.
Try the meetup . com website for all sorts of social groups in your area...certainly in dublin they are very popular, dont know if as popular in galway. |
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"Gotta agree. Im a brit here in Ireland for 15odd years and while I know loads of nice people, they tend to keep outsiders at an arms length. It's weird but Irish folks are so welcoming and generous in lots of ways.. but just don't seem to be interested in new good friends as they mostly have all they need from growing up. That's my experience from small town Ireland anyway. "
Im a blow in myself. I dont mind that the locals don't fully accept me, as they see me as being a bit "weird" by their standards, different accent, no religion, different outlook on life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Gotta agree. Im a brit here in Ireland for 15odd years and while I know loads of nice people, they tend to keep outsiders at an arms length. It's weird but Irish folks are so welcoming and generous in lots of ways.. but just don't seem to be interested in new good friends as they mostly have all they need from growing up. That's my experience from small town Ireland anyway. "
One of my closest friends is from the States. She said "you know, when I got here, I though Irish people really meant it when they said you must call round sometime" and "it took me a while to figure out that when Irish people say I won't keep you, they're really telling you to fuck off"
My own take is that Irish people aren't friendly, they just want to know everything about you because gossip is a valuable currency. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My closest and only real friend is living in Denmark. I don’t really have any good friends here. It would be nice to meet make some new friends but I’ve found that lots of people only pretend |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
on the hill NordWest of |
It takes time and patience to get to know the locals. It's possible. Anyhow my experience as a blow in has shown that there's always peeps in the same position, either foreign nationals or from other parts of the country. With these it's easiest to connect and make friends.  |
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By *rkkidMan
over a year ago
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Yeah, when I first moved from Dublin to Cork found it hard at first..
New home new friends, but moving into a small town it felt i was kept at an arms length.. And the odd thing is i made better friends more quickly with people from England n further abroad.. Still friends to this day(6 years)..
I agree somewhat in the comment above, some only value the gossip..
I joined two clubs as such with motorbikes and d gym(with intention of creating new friendships).. i ended up leaving d gym as found i was putting all the effort in.. they obviously had enough friends. Which is fine also..
Join a group you have a keen interest in. I'm sure will get lots of suggestions  |
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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago
Dublin west |
The meetup groups where great before the covid shite kicked off.
I spend most of my time alone and its hard sometimes but you do get used to it, buy this year has been a total disaster for meeting people. |
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"Gotta agree. Im a brit here in Ireland for 15odd years and while I know loads of nice people, they tend to keep outsiders at an arms length. It's weird but Irish folks are so welcoming and generous in lots of ways.. but just don't seem to be interested in new good friends as they mostly have all they need from growing up. That's my experience from small town Ireland anyway.
One of my closest friends is from the States. She said "you know, when I got here, I though Irish people really meant it when they said you must call round sometime" and "it took me a while to figure out that when Irish people say I won't keep you, they're really telling you to fuck off"
My own take is that Irish people aren't friendly, they just want to know everything about you because gossip is a valuable currency."
Totally agree with this. I married an Irishman and the marriage went tits up. Lived here 23yrs, my neighbour is a close friend, she's from Northern Ireland and tbh she's great.
Work colleagues are friends too but nothing like friends I had back home.
Living in this country as an outsider can be a very lonely place. |
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I'm in a different boat in my quest for friends in that I'd like to meet people who would be accepting of me as a cd. I have a few female friends who are brilliant and have no problem meeting me when I'm en femme but I don't get to meet them often enough.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree it's really difficult to form genuine friendships as you get older. I suppose life gets busier the older you get. You don't have the same amount of time to invest and lack of responsibilities that you have when you're younger. So the little free time people have they probably prioritise existing friendships... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I fell into a job 14 years ago with alot of overtime and one by one my friends disappeared. My fault i know telling the gang era not tonight.
I started a new 9 to 5 in January and im getting my life back in order but friendship is hard .
Im always around for a cuppa if anybody is nearby |
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"Gotta agree. Im a brit here in Ireland for 15odd years and while I know loads of nice people, they tend to keep outsiders at an arms length. It's weird but Irish folks are so welcoming and generous in lots of ways.. but just don't seem to be interested in new good friends as they mostly have all they need from growing up. That's my experience from small town Ireland anyway.
One of my closest friends is from the States. She said "you know, when I got here, I though Irish people really meant it when they said you must call round sometime" and "it took me a while to figure out that when Irish people say I won't keep you, they're really telling you to fuck off"
My own take is that Irish people aren't friendly, they just want to know everything about you because gossip is a valuable currency.
Totally agree with this. I married an Irishman and the marriage went tits up. Lived here 23yrs, my neighbour is a close friend, she's from Northern Ireland and tbh she's great.
Work colleagues are friends too but nothing like friends I had back home.
Living in this country as an outsider can be a very lonely place."
Another blow in here, and totally agree with everything said above. I've made some close friends through work and other things, but very few are what I'd actually consider a close friend.
Sounds like we need a fab blow in club |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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I'd hate to think friendships are not formed because of someone's nationally and as an Irishman living in Ireland I know my experience is different to anyone that suffers because of this.
I know what its like to wonder is that it when it comes to making friends especially at my age
I don't have friends from school or any I grew up with so was in the same boat
While its great to have good neighbours and to be able to call in any time to chat or have a beer its not the same thing
I joined an organisation 3 years ago ( won't name it as people on here are also members ) but I've made some decent friends through it in that time
Never give up |
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As we get older it's definitely harder to make friends. Everyone is busy doing their own thing with young families etc. I live in a small town and would hope we're welcoming to anyone new to town. I love making new friends. I joined Meet up years ago and met some lovely people there. There's GirlCrew too, not sure if that's in Galway though. |
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"I'd hate to think friendships are not formed because of someone's nationally and as an Irishman living in Ireland I know my experience is different to anyone that suffers because of this.
I know what its like to wonder is that it when it comes to making friends especially at my age
I don't have friends from school or any I grew up with so was in the same boat
While its great to have good neighbours and to be able to call in any time to chat or have a beer its not the same thing
I joined an organisation 3 years ago ( won't name it as people on here are also members ) but I've made some decent friends through it in that time
Never give up "
Like you I've no friends from school or the old days. I gave up trying to maintain those friendships when I realised I was the only one trying to stay in touch.
I spent many many years with just work colleagues but none of those could be classed as close friends.
I have been lucky enough to have a group of close friends now that I can go on outdoor adventures with.
I made a few very good friends both male and female through fab when I was on previously and those friendships have developed over the last couple of years. Strictly platonic but built on mutual experiences and things in common.
Since rejoining last year I've once again been privileged to have met some amazing people who I am proud to call friends.
They have been very supportive and I hope I have been just as good a friend as they have been to me.
I keep my circle small and value those within it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I struggle to make friends as well. Have been let down by a good few so called friends over the years so struggle to full trust people.
I have been in clubs before but I have never been able to say I was in a position to call anyone in the clubs as friends
I would interested in this as I feel that i can be more myself in the fab world |
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"Gotta agree. Im a brit here in Ireland for 15odd years and while I know loads of nice people, they tend to keep outsiders at an arms length. It's weird but Irish folks are so welcoming and generous in lots of ways.. but just don't seem to be interested in new good friends as they mostly have all they need from growing up. That's my experience from small town Ireland anyway.
One of my closest friends is from the States. She said "you know, when I got here, I though Irish people really meant it when they said you must call round sometime" and "it took me a while to figure out that when Irish people say I won't keep you, they're really telling you to fuck off"
My own take is that Irish people aren't friendly, they just want to know everything about you because gossip is a valuable currency.
Totally agree with this. I married an Irishman and the marriage went tits up. Lived here 23yrs, my neighbour is a close friend, she's from Northern Ireland and tbh she's great.
Work colleagues are friends too but nothing like friends I had back home.
Living in this country as an outsider can be a very lonely place.
Another blow in here, and totally agree with everything said above. I've made some close friends through work and other things, but very few are what I'd actually consider a close friend.
Sounds like we need a fab blow in club "
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By (user no longer on site)
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As you get older you become more discerning.
Also, you realise people come in and out of your life all the time so you learn to let go sooner. Not saying it doesn’t make you feel bad. They say in truth we only really have a few-say 3 or 4 genuine friends who we will know forever. folks who will be there when it's great and not so great.
Next year I will be losing two of my current friends/social group. I will make the effort to keep in touch and hope it’s not goodbye. One is going to live in Australia permanently and the other in Spain permanently.
I have learnt to get rid of those toxic folks who masquerade as a friend.
You first need to learn to live on your own and to thrive on your own. I think a lot of folks put up with shite from others because they have a need to be with people.
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I have 2 friends who I have known for 20 years or more who I am still close to even tho one of them lives the other end of the country.
Since joining fab I have been lucky enough to meet a couple of people who have become genuine true friends.
But I think as you become older it is harder make friends.
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"I dunno is anyone else in this position but this post is for anyone who is looking for friends.
Not sexy time friends but actual friends.
Guys and gals welcomed.
Finding my circle of friends smaller these days due to life and them moving abroad
Be nice to meet some new people.
So anyone else like this please comment below "
Yeah id say a good few is in this same boat I've never exactly had many friends and those I did have I lost due to my life being controlled for 10 years but anyways enough of me going about my past problems I'm always online so feel free to chat away to me anytime even if it's a hello |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If anyone interested and wants me to set up the group just send me ur username in mail. This group is purely for friendship. So if u looking to get ur leg over jog on haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If anyone interested and wants me to set up the group just send me ur username in mail. This group is purely for friendship. So if u looking to get ur leg over jog on haha "
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