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Would you tell the person if you know them
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How many people would tell a person if it turned out you actually knew them from your personal life after chatting to them? I know personally I would if I knew them, no shame in my eyes there here just like I am so I wouldn't see the problem. But I get the feeling there's alot of people on here that wouldn't. What's everyone's preference on this? |
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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago
Waterford City |
I would first make it clear that I have no intention of telling anyone else that they are on here and then tell them that I know them. I dont believe in having an unfair advantage over someone. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
No I wouldn't tell them as Lolly says I keep my private life and fab life seperate.
Plus there's nothing more creepy than getting those oh I know who are messages and them not telling you who they are. 95 per cent of the time they are bull anyhow and just someone acting the goat.
But if I genuinely knew someone I'd just block and move on without saying. |
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Telling them you know them... exposes them, exposes you, renders the block button unusable. Respect their privacy.
I once met a lady, a generation older, great looker. We had great fun. The week after I realised we were neighbours. It's fine now but it was awkward for a long while. We didnt go for seconds because I was/am the same age as her kids and I think we were both seeming anon guilty pleasure. Outing is awkward |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
There's a couple of options in that really
If you were organising a meet and realised that you knew the person in real life....I'd let them know
If I meet people off fab in real life and we all know we're on here and have been introduced....chat or nod hello if chatting is appropriate at that time
If I see someone somewhere that I know is on fab but not ever introduced say nothing
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Ive had this. I had a social with someone who it turns out has a connection to my family. We didn't realise beforehand. We just had a laugh about it together. Nothing was said afterwards and we respected each others right to continue our lives as normal. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ya it's happened to me when I was part of a couple with my ex on this another couple that contacted us turned out we had been good friends with them it's the only time I know it's happened, but I still believe personal life and fab should be kept separate but I have to say it was nice to be able to talk to friends about it all the same, but ya I reckon a few women on this turned out knew me and just blocked me straight away or didn't reply, so I think that's why I'd be honest and let them know who I was and be very clear I'd never open my mouth about them that should go without been said in fairness |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would first make it clear that I have no intention of telling anyone else that they are on here and then tell them that I know them. I dont believe in having an unfair advantage over someone. "
Ya I feel the very same way, I think it's happened more then a few times on me and it's very unsettling to think it know someone knows and won't say, I'd tell them give them a piece of mind atleast |
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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago
Waterford City |
I've come across plenty of people that I know here. It's usually not a problem. It's the guys that message saying they know who you are but saying nothing else that are the creeps. We're all supposed to be adults and capable of respecting each others boundaries. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes exactly, I haven't met many people I know just that couple and one other but I was always open from the start as soon as I figured it, and iv never got a message saying I know who you are or anyone fucking with me like that, thank God but as you said its mostly just b.s anyways |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No we wouldn't. Had it done to us just recently and it was creepy as fuck especially when they said they might call into where one of us worked...  "
Oh dang that's worrying |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What ever you do DON'T send a I know who you are message. Or anything like that. If you know them let them know who you are first."
Ya that's what I done said it all in the one message, it's best off and it turned out for the best in both occasions I think |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It totally depends on the person. If it was someone that I know them well, and knew that we could chat and joke about it, then I'd say hello.
Otherwise I wouldnt be bothered. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No we wouldn't. Had it done to us just recently and it was creepy as fuck especially when they said they might call into where one of us worked...
Oh dang that's worrying"
Would be more so if she still worked there but it's extremely creepy when they go out of their way to mention names and places of work. And then still expect to meet after  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No we wouldn't. Had it done to us just recently and it was creepy as fuck especially when they said they might call into where one of us worked...
Oh dang that's worrying
Would be more so if she still worked there but it's extremely creepy when they go out of their way to mention names and places of work. And then still expect to meet after "
Haha no way did they want to try meet after, what's wrong with some people honestly lol, maybe you should have organised a meet so you could know who it was and tell them where to go in person, but even still that would daunting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No i wouldn't tell them i keep my private life and fab like seperate even tho im single what i do on here is my business and not anyone outside of here's...."
same as here
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No we wouldn't. Had it done to us just recently and it was creepy as fuck especially when they said they might call into where one of us worked...
Oh dang that's worrying
Would be more so if she still worked there but it's extremely creepy when they go out of their way to mention names and places of work. And then still expect to meet after
Haha no way did they want to try meet after, what's wrong with some people honestly lol, maybe you should have organised a meet so you could know who it was and tell them where to go in person, but even still that would daunting"
No we blocked him. No time for that kinda shit |
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It really depends. I think in 99 cases out of 100, I'd say no. But if it was someone who I had a bit of chemistry with in real life but neither of us had ever acted on it and if our profiles here appeared to be a good match, I might be tempted.
Of course, I'd probably chicken out... |
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By *ubeMan
over a year ago
Drogheda |
I was chatting to one lady off of here and we where planning a meet we exchanged pictures, everything was going well, the week before the meet I was at a club dinner and there she was with her husband, we just smiled said hello, then had a chat on line the next day, I could not meet her myself as I know her husband, we still chat on line. But that's as far as it will ever go between us. |
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