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A lady friend and I were thinking of organising a swingers party in a club in Cork City when safety permits. The difference would be no verifications required. Yes I know that's not how its done with the existing clubs..But that doesn't make them right. Would you have an interest in something like that and if not why not? |
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It's hard enough getting folks who have already been to meets events and parties to turn up. If you do this then you'll get every fantasist on the site looking for invites and not turning up. People ask for recently well verified people for a reason. |
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I would be interested as have one verification and another from RVC which was recently removed from my list. Do not know why but are others experiencing removal of RVC verifications and can they be reinstated on peoples profiles? |
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"I would be interested as have one verification and another from RVC which was recently removed from my list. Do not know why but are others experiencing removal of RVC verifications and can they be reinstated on peoples profiles?"
Id mail admin if I were you.. Since the RVC profile was reinstated, I can't see why the verifications can't be also. |
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"It's hard enough getting folks who have already been to meets events and parties to turn up. If you do this then you'll get every fantasist on the site looking for invites and not turning up. People ask for recently well verified people for a reason. "
You raise a very good point. I think I what OP is trying to do is facilitate an opportunity for people like me who are genuine and want to meet like minded people in a safe and secure setting for mutual enjoyment in a very discrete way. Yes of course there is hazards as our Fab life is private and well all have lives outside. Fair play to OP with his initiative and I see where he is coming from but as our regular contributor from Fermoy indicates possible issues could arise then a risk migration is necessary for an event to be enjoyable and fun with a mix of genuine fabbers. |
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"It's hard enough getting folks who have already been to meets events and parties to turn up. If you do this then you'll get every fantasist on the site looking for invites and not turning up. People ask for recently well verified people for a reason. "
Clubs and organizers insist on verifications not because they think they're Gods.
There are good, legitimate reasons for it:
1. Ensuring that at least 70% of guests will turn up.
2. Safety - there is a certain etiquette that people in the swinging world adhere to. Complete newbies only have tales that they heard told somewhere by someone about those pesky immoral go do everything with everyone swingers.
3. Safety - sex club which doesn't require anyone to identify themselves Is open to reporters, drugs and a lot of other potential disasters. |
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"A lady friend and I were thinking of organising a swingers party in a club in Cork City when safety permits. The difference would be no verifications required. Yes I know that's not how its done with the existing clubs..But that doesn't make them right. Would you have an interest in something like that and if not why not?"
I actually think you SHOULD go ahead with planning this.. If you do you'll see for yourself the reasons that people don't usually do this.
We have organised big parties and meet and greets in Cork City that have been very well attended (but have been for verified only). We have also attempted to run an event for folks to get verified and ZERO turned up. I shit you not. |
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"A lady friend and I were thinking of organising a swingers party in a club in Cork City when safety permits. The difference would be no verifications required. Yes I know that's not how its done with the existing clubs..But that doesn't make them right. Would you have an interest in something like that and if not why not?
I actually think you SHOULD go ahead with planning this.. If you do you'll see for yourself the reasons that people don't usually do this.
We have organised big parties and meet and greets in Cork City that have been very well attended (but have been for verified only). We have also attempted to run an event for folks to get verified and ZERO turned up. I shit you not. "
That reminds me of the time I swallowed two pieces of string, then next day they came out tied together!   |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"A lady friend and I were thinking of organising a swingers party in a club in Cork City when safety permits. The difference would be no verifications required. Yes I know that's not how its done with the existing clubs..But that doesn't make them right. Would you have an interest in something like that and if not why not?
I actually think you SHOULD go ahead with planning this.. If you do you'll see for yourself the reasons that people don't usually do this.
We have organised big parties and meet and greets in Cork City that have been very well attended (but have been for verified only). We have also attempted to run an event for folks to get verified and ZERO turned up. I shit you not.
That reminds me of the time I swallowed two pieces of string, then next day they came out tied together! "
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Ireland is the only country I know of where you cannot get into a swingers club unless you are verified. Every other country has its clubs where you walk up, pay your entrance fee and walk in. Yes some will require ID. It appears that we Irish are not that advanced yet to be trusted to socialize without someone vouching for us |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"Ireland is the only country I know of where you cannot get into a swingers club unless you are verified. Every other country has its clubs where you walk up, pay your entrance fee and walk in. Yes some will require ID. It appears that we Irish are not that advanced yet to be trusted to socialize without someone vouching for us "
Ah sure we are so backwards I'm sure in time they will see the error if their ways |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"Ireland is the only country I know of where you cannot get into a swingers club unless you are verified. Every other country has its clubs where you walk up, pay your entrance fee and walk in. Yes some will require ID. It appears that we Irish are not that advanced yet to be trusted to socialize without someone vouching for us "
Lets be honest here,if the location of the clubs was known to the general public and men thought they could just walk up ,walk in and have sex the queues would be bigger than the one for Pennys after the lockdown
The clubs are trying to run a business,the customers who are the life blood of the business prefer it the way it is.
It keeps it safer for everyone.
So you must be verified to get in,every other type of club has rules,just the way it is
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"Ireland is the only country I know of where you cannot get into a swingers club unless you are verified. Every other country has its clubs where you walk up, pay your entrance fee and walk in. Yes some will require ID. It appears that we Irish are not that advanced yet to be trusted to socialize without someone vouching for us "
We don't trust people we don't know to keep quiet about our personal business, imagine that, shocking behaviour altogether |
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Sure how do we know this is some way to try making a fool of people you mention a lady friend is she on here, is she verified if not there is next to nothing on your profile so how do you expect someone to trust you it would be different if you was known well enough here and you have hosted something like this before
Don't get me wrong the idea is a good one but I just don't see it materialising but best of luck with it |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"Ireland is the only country I know of where you cannot get into a swingers club unless you are verified. Every other country has its clubs where you walk up, pay your entrance fee and walk in. Yes some will require ID. It appears that we Irish are not that advanced yet to be trusted to socialize without someone vouching for us
We don't trust people we don't know to keep quiet about our personal business, imagine that, shocking behaviour altogether"
Nooo now don't be coming in talking sense Jay let everyone go it will be fine I'm sure. |
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"Ireland is the only country I know of where you cannot get into a swingers club unless you are verified. Every other country has its clubs where you walk up, pay your entrance fee and walk in. Yes some will require ID. It appears that we Irish are not that advanced yet to be trusted to socialize without someone vouching for us "
UK clubs I have attended required photo ID so at least they had some trace of you if anything happened. It's not the case here so those who run clubs rely on community vetting. Still not reliable as I have seen some shocking and inexcusable behavior in clubs here by single males in particular who were given a chance due to having one or two vague veries.
If I was running a club here I'd be cautious too and want recommendation before entry. |
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What a very Irish reaction Not every swinger is a closet swinger. Some live life without the concern of how their neighbours, family etc might feel about their lifestyle. If this isn't you then that's fair enough. I can understand your concern. But that only makes your way right for you. I'm sure there are people out there that are socially capable of being trusted to go to a club and not tell the whole world next day about who was there. As for verifications anyone with a degree of intellect could be verified effortlessly if not honestly. My lady friend was at both swingers clubs in Cork and Dublin without any verifications. Why is she shown preference over a guy? Obviously she is verified now. But the reality of it is that a verification is not a guarantee of trust. There are good and bad in verified and unverified. The only ones you can be reasonably sure of is the ones you have met...or can you |
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"What a very Irish reaction Not every swinger is a closet swinger. Some live life without the concern of how their neighbours, family etc might feel about their lifestyle. If this isn't you then that's fair enough. I can understand your concern. But that only makes your way right for you. I'm sure there are people out there that are socially capable of being trusted to go to a club and not tell the whole world next day about who was there. As for verifications anyone with a degree of intellect could be verified effortlessly if not honestly. My lady friend was at both swingers clubs in Cork and Dublin without any verifications. Why is she shown preference over a guy? Obviously she is verified now. But the reality of it is that a verification is not a guarantee of trust. There are good and bad in verified and unverified. The only ones you can be reasonably sure of is the ones you have met...or can you "
It's not about 'being trusted to go to a club and not tell the whole world next day about who was there' as you put it.
It's about understanding that entrance to these gatherings does not guarantee a sexual interaction. That no means no. Some people struggle with that and hence the need to be sure who you are inviting into a club or party understands consent and respect. |
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"What a very Irish reaction Not every swinger is a closet swinger. Some live life without the concern of how their neighbours, family etc might feel about their lifestyle. If this isn't you then that's fair enough. I can understand your concern. But that only makes your way right for you. I'm sure there are people out there that are socially capable of being trusted to go to a club and not tell the whole world next day about who was there. As for verifications anyone with a degree of intellect could be verified effortlessly if not honestly. My lady friend was at both swingers clubs in Cork and Dublin without any verifications. Why is she shown preference over a guy? Obviously she is verified now. But the reality of it is that a verification is not a guarantee of trust. There are good and bad in verified and unverified. The only ones you can be reasonably sure of is the ones you have met...or can you "
And as for your lady friend who was allowed entrance to clubs without verification, it's because she doesn't have a cock which she might be tempted to poke into the nearest available orifice without consent. |
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"What a very Irish reaction Not every swinger is a closet swinger. Some live life without the concern of how their neighbours, family etc might feel about their lifestyle. If this isn't you then that's fair enough. I can understand your concern. But that only makes your way right for you. I'm sure there are people out there that are socially capable of being trusted to go to a club and not tell the whole world next day about who was there. As for verifications anyone with a degree of intellect could be verified effortlessly if not honestly. My lady friend was at both swingers clubs in Cork and Dublin without any verifications. Why is she shown preference over a guy? Obviously she is verified now. But the reality of it is that a verification is not a guarantee of trust. There are good and bad in verified and unverified. The only ones you can be reasonably sure of is the ones you have met...or can you "
Then why don't you organise it through her account or set up a couple account if it's both of you organising it |
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"What a very Irish reaction Not every swinger is a closet swinger. Some live life without the concern of how their neighbours, family etc might feel about their lifestyle. If this isn't you then that's fair enough. I can understand your concern. But that only makes your way right for you. I'm sure there are people out there that are socially capable of being trusted to go to a club and not tell the whole world next day about who was there. As for verifications anyone with a degree of intellect could be verified effortlessly if not honestly. My lady friend was at both swingers clubs in Cork and Dublin without any verifications. Why is she shown preference over a guy? Obviously she is verified now. But the reality of it is that a verification is not a guarantee of trust. There are good and bad in verified and unverified. The only ones you can be reasonably sure of is the ones you have met...or can you
Then why don't you organise it through her account or set up a couple account if it's both of you organising it "
Who is to say we wont. I merely posted this to see the interest and reaction to it. But thank you for your helpful input |
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"A lady friend and I were thinking of organising a swingers party in a club in Cork City when safety permits. The difference would be no verifications required. Yes I know that's not how its done with the existing clubs..But that doesn't make them right. Would you have an interest in something like that and if not why not?
I actually think you SHOULD go ahead with planning this.. If you do you'll see for yourself the reasons that people don't usually do this.
We have organised big parties and meet and greets in Cork City that have been very well attended (but have been for verified only). We have also attempted to run an event for folks to get verified and ZERO turned up. I shit you not.
That reminds me of the time I swallowed two pieces of string, then next day they came out tied together!
You must have magical sphincter muscles "
I shit you knot!  |
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Your biggest issue (until noone turns up) will be the venue. Unless you happen to know someone with access, then finding a club venue willing to let you run a swingers night on the premesis could be tricky. You could probably hire a room, but then you need to raise a certain amount of cash including security and barstaff etc. That means charging money in so you need to control the door and you will need to get a number in or you could be looking at a loss. |
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"Your biggest issue (until noone turns up) will be the venue. Unless you happen to know someone with access, then finding a club venue willing to let you run a swingers night on the premesis could be tricky. You could probably hire a room, but then you need to raise a certain amount of cash including security and barstaff etc. That means charging money in so you need to control the door and you will need to get a number in or you could be looking at a loss. "
The premises is already sorted. Its a discreet city center location and in my opinion perfect for a swingers club. Complete with a small dance floor, plenty play rooms and a large lounge area. |
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"What a very Irish reaction Not every swinger is a closet swinger. Some live life without the concern of how their neighbours, family etc might feel about their lifestyle. If this isn't you then that's fair enough. I can understand your concern. But that only makes your way right for you. I'm sure there are people out there that are socially capable of being trusted to go to a club and not tell the whole world next day about who was there. As for verifications anyone with a degree of intellect could be verified effortlessly if not honestly. My lady friend was at both swingers clubs in Cork and Dublin without any verifications. Why is she shown preference over a guy? Obviously she is verified now. But the reality of it is that a verification is not a guarantee of trust. There are good and bad in verified and unverified. The only ones you can be reasonably sure of is the ones you have met...or can you
It's not about 'being trusted to go to a club and not tell the whole world next day about who was there' as you put it.
It's about understanding that entrance to these gatherings does not guarantee a sexual interaction. That no means no. Some people struggle with that and hence the need to be sure who you are inviting into a club or party understands consent and respect."
Its reassuring to know that if you are verified you are clearly a better person and much more civilized than those uncultivated unverifieds |
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"What a very Irish reaction Not every swinger is a closet swinger. Some live life without the concern of how their neighbours, family etc might feel about their lifestyle. If this isn't you then that's fair enough. I can understand your concern. But that only makes your way right for you. I'm sure there are people out there that are socially capable of being trusted to go to a club and not tell the whole world next day about who was there. As for verifications anyone with a degree of intellect could be verified effortlessly if not honestly. My lady friend was at both swingers clubs in Cork and Dublin without any verifications. Why is she shown preference over a guy? Obviously she is verified now. But the reality of it is that a verification is not a guarantee of trust. There are good and bad in verified and unverified. The only ones you can be reasonably sure of is the ones you have met...or can you
And as for your lady friend who was allowed entrance to clubs without verification, it's because she doesn't have a cock which she might be tempted to poke into the nearest available orifice without consent."
I'm glad you cleared that up for me as I was completely baffled by it. A verified guy has a cool James Bond persona and an unverified is just a total animal who pokes anything that moves Well you learn something new every day. |
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I've found the flaw in this plan.. If everyone in unverified then no one can verify anyone so everyone will continue to be unverified because there is no one there that's verified to verify anyone.. I think I had a minor stroke there.. |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"What a very Irish reaction Not every swinger is a closet swinger. Some live life without the concern of how their neighbours, family etc might feel about their lifestyle. If this isn't you then that's fair enough. I can understand your concern. But that only makes your way right for you. I'm sure there are people out there that are socially capable of being trusted to go to a club and not tell the whole world next day about who was there. As for verifications anyone with a degree of intellect could be verified effortlessly if not honestly. My lady friend was at both swingers clubs in Cork and Dublin without any verifications. Why is she shown preference over a guy? Obviously she is verified now. But the reality of it is that a verification is not a guarantee of trust. There are good and bad in verified and unverified. The only ones you can be reasonably sure of is the ones you have met...or can you
And as for your lady friend who was allowed entrance to clubs without verification, it's because she doesn't have a cock which she might be tempted to poke into the nearest available orifice without consent.
I'm glad you cleared that up for me as I was completely baffled by it. A verified guy has a cool James Bond persona and an unverified is just a total animal who pokes anything that moves Well you learn something new every day. "
Good luck with your party op
But you must admit if you follow the club threads the main problem in them is single males acting inappropriately and having to be told to feck off by couples
Maybe by keeping the single men in a club over here you can cut down on that problem
I'd imagine your problem will be trying to get the right mix of men,women and couples and you'll be swamped by single men |
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"What a very Irish reaction Not every swinger is a closet swinger. Some live life without the concern of how their neighbours, family etc might feel about their lifestyle. If this isn't you then that's fair enough. I can understand your concern. But that only makes your way right for you. I'm sure there are people out there that are socially capable of being trusted to go to a club and not tell the whole world next day about who was there. As for verifications anyone with a degree of intellect could be verified effortlessly if not honestly. My lady friend was at both swingers clubs in Cork and Dublin without any verifications. Why is she shown preference over a guy? Obviously she is verified now. But the reality of it is that a verification is not a guarantee of trust. There are good and bad in verified and unverified. The only ones you can be reasonably sure of is the ones you have met...or can you
And as for your lady friend who was allowed entrance to clubs without verification, it's because she doesn't have a cock which she might be tempted to poke into the nearest available orifice without consent.
I'm glad you cleared that up for me as I was completely baffled by it. A verified guy has a cool James Bond persona and an unverified is just a total animal who pokes anything that moves Well you learn something new every day.
Good luck with your party op
But you must admit if you follow the club threads the main problem in them is single males acting inappropriately and having to be told to feck off by couples
Maybe by keeping the single men in a club over here you can cut down on that problem
I'd imagine your problem will be trying to get the right mix of men,women and couples and you'll be swamped by single men "
This 100%. Girls and couples that want to be verified will be verified. The only ones that have a problem are guys and fakes, and there in lies your problem |
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"Jaysos give the op some breathing space, while it's a tough call what he's trying to achieve it doesn't mean he has to be slashed left, right and centre.
Good luck op, i hope you pull it off. "
Thank you Nothing worse than being slashed on right, left and centre |
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"I would be interested as have one verification and another from RVC which was recently removed from my list. Do not know why but are others experiencing removal of RVC verifications and can they be reinstated on peoples profiles?
Id mail admin if I were you.. Since the RVC profile was reinstated, I can't see why the verifications can't be also. "
Thanks for your advice which is always very much appreciated and I will follow up as suggested. |
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Another angle to think about. People need to have a lot of trust in someone who runs a new sex club. They will need to give up personal contract tracing information including a real name and address. They need to trust that there are no cameras hidden or otherwise, they need to trust that someone will enforce the rules and eject someone who breaks them. Getting naked in ANY public space requires A LOT of trust. I wonder if folks will put that trust in someone who is here 11 months with no verifications, no pics, and a nearly blank profile. |
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"Another angle to think about. People need to have a lot of trust in someone who runs a new sex club. They will need to give up personal contract tracing information including a real name and address. They need to trust that there are no cameras hidden or otherwise, they need to trust that someone will enforce the rules and eject someone who breaks them. Getting naked in ANY public space requires A LOT of trust. I wonder if folks will put that trust in someone who is here 11 months with no verifications, no pics, and a nearly blank profile. "
A lot of very valid points there! |
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Trust in Vendors running events is paramount.
Personally I'd have no interest
In an event where the vendor has no credibility or reputation.
But each to there own too
Ireland is coming along on the scene slowly with more liberal minded people helping the lifestyle grow for everyone and the ones yet to come.
Integrity is everything
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Now. Both OP and others have valid points.
In my earlier comment I only meant local scene, but please let me expand.
Clubs abroad which allow anyone to attend: most of them are located in busy tourist towns where thousands of people come and go and people come there to relax with little to no chance of bumping into anyone they know or get into a situation where anyone would stalk them for months on end.
I very much doubt that many people who live locally to them clubs are attending them themselves either.
I've been on a swinging scene for over 13 years now. I lived in a smaller country with similar population to Ireland. Guess what! They also have a swingers club and a site where only verified members are allowed to attend.
My conclusion is: it has nothing to do with anyone being backwards or old fashioned.
It has something to do with a size of the population and everyone knowing everyone. Rumours spread like wildfire and respectable people will do everything to avoid it.
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"Another angle to think about. People need to have a lot of trust in someone who runs a new sex club. They will need to give up personal contract tracing information including a real name and address. They need to trust that there are no cameras hidden or otherwise, they need to trust that someone will enforce the rules and eject someone who breaks them. Getting naked in ANY public space requires A LOT of trust. I wonder if folks will put that trust in someone who is here 11 months with no verifications, no pics, and a nearly blank profile. "
A swingers club in Limerick was ran by a complete unknown who required much more than your personal id. Your address and a full face photo was also required. People still went there and complied with the requirements of entry. |
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"Another angle to think about. People need to have a lot of trust in someone who runs a new sex club. They will need to give up personal contract tracing information including a real name and address. They need to trust that there are no cameras hidden or otherwise, they need to trust that someone will enforce the rules and eject someone who breaks them. Getting naked in ANY public space requires A LOT of trust. I wonder if folks will put that trust in someone who is here 11 months with no verifications, no pics, and a nearly blank profile.
A swingers club in Limerick was ran by a complete unknown who required much more than your personal id. Your address and a full face photo was also required. People still went there and complied with the requirements of entry. "
One requirements of entry for that club was also a full body nude photo to see if you were hot enough. Lol.
They were not a complete unknown. They had a profile here until they were so rude to the people here that they left. |
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"Now. Both OP and others have valid points.
In my earlier comment I only meant local scene, but please let me expand.
Clubs abroad which allow anyone to attend: most of them are located in busy tourist towns where thousands of people come and go and people come there to relax with little to no chance of bumping into anyone they know or get into a situation where anyone would stalk them for months on end.
I very much doubt that many people who live locally to them clubs are attending them themselves either.
I've been on a swinging scene for over 13 years now. I lived in a smaller country with similar population to Ireland. Guess what! They also have a swingers club and a site where only verified members are allowed to attend.
My conclusion is: it has nothing to do with anyone being backwards or old fashioned.
It has something to do with a size of the population and everyone knowing everyone. Rumours spread like wildfire and respectable people will do everything to avoid it.
Missus "
This is a very well put point, OP we're not going to offer any advice except to say that you organise your event and let the people that attend speak for it. Best of luck
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"Now. Both OP and others have valid points.
In my earlier comment I only meant local scene, but please let me expand.
Clubs abroad which allow anyone to attend: most of them are located in busy tourist towns where thousands of people come and go and people come there to relax with little to no chance of bumping into anyone they know or get into a situation where anyone would stalk them for months on end.
I very much doubt that many people who live locally to them clubs are attending them themselves either.
I've been on a swinging scene for over 13 years now. I lived in a smaller country with similar population to Ireland. Guess what! They also have a swingers club and a site where only verified members are allowed to attend.
My conclusion is: it has nothing to do with anyone being backwards or old fashioned.
It has something to do with a size of the population and everyone knowing everyone. Rumours spread like wildfire and respectable people will do everything to avoid it.
Missus "
There are two clubs in Cork city that run full time. One is a gay club and the other is a club for gay, bi and hetro singles and couples. Anyone can walk in to either club pay their money and they are in. I'm quite sure like the swinging scene that many people who attend these clubs would prefer for their private life to remain so. I go to the 2nd club quite often. I have literally seen 1000's of people there, couples and singles and have read 1000's of posts online on this and other sites. Not once have I witnessed anyone 'outing' another or read of anyone who claimed they were. So should I take it that swingers can't be trusted? or they are overly paranoid or they need to get out more and join the real world |
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"There are no full time swingers clubs in Cork. There are sex cinemas which are rarely frequented by females. "
Neither are 'sex cinemas' Both are 'clubs' and women and couples are there regularly. I have been going there long enough to know this. I have witnessed many couples playing in the public areas and not being harassed by single guys. I have also played with couples and a single lady in the private rooms. Anyone who goes there would know its far from a sex cinema. |
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"Another angle to think about. People need to have a lot of trust in someone who runs a new sex club. They will need to give up personal contract tracing information including a real name and address. They need to trust that there are no cameras hidden or otherwise, they need to trust that someone will enforce the rules and eject someone who breaks them. Getting naked in ANY public space requires A LOT of trust. I wonder if folks will put that trust in someone who is here 11 months with no verifications, no pics, and a nearly blank profile.
A swingers club in Limerick was ran by a complete unknown who required much more than your personal id. Your address and a full face photo was also required. People still went there and complied with the requirements of entry.
One requirements of entry for that club was also a full body nude photo to see if you were hot enough. Lol.
They were not a complete unknown. They had a profile here until they were so rude to the people here that they left. "
And still this club continues to operate every Saturday night. Does this make Limerick people much more mature in their outlook on life |
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Look OP.....if its what you and your friend wants to do then go ahead and set it up. You will never know if its what ireland wants till you try.
At the moment all I see from your responses is someone that has a chip on their shoulder against the organisers of the verified events and probably not doing you any favours. |
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"There are no full time swingers clubs in Cork. There are sex cinemas which are rarely frequented by females.
Neither are 'sex cinemas' Both are 'clubs' and women and couples are there regularly. I have been going there long enough to know this. I have witnessed many couples playing in the public areas and not being harassed by single guys. I have also played with couples and a single lady in the private rooms. Anyone who goes there would know its far from a sex cinema."
Well I guess we know where your venue is now. I've seen enoghh threads here from people complaining at the lack of females and the quantity of horny men to decide its not for us. Good luck tho. |
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"Look OP.....if its what you and your friend wants to do then go ahead and set it up. You will never know if its what ireland wants till you try.
At the moment all I see from your responses is someone that has a chip on their shoulder against the organisers of the verified events and probably not doing you any favours. "
I'm far from having a 'chip on my shoulder' If you read my posts you can clearly see I respect the fact that people have a preference of how they want their swinging lives to be. I'm not trying to change anyones opinion on this. My original post merely asked 'Would you have an interest in this and if not why not'. From start to finish of these posts it has just been an exchange of opinions. I try not to take life too seriously so that may be the chip on my shoulder that you see
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"Another angle to think about. People need to have a lot of trust in someone who runs a new sex club. They will need to give up personal contract tracing information including a real name and address. They need to trust that there are no cameras hidden or otherwise, they need to trust that someone will enforce the rules and eject someone who breaks them. Getting naked in ANY public space requires A LOT of trust. I wonder if folks will put that trust in someone who is here 11 months with no verifications, no pics, and a nearly blank profile.
A swingers club in Limerick was ran by a complete unknown who required much more than your personal id. Your address and a full face photo was also required. People still went there and complied with the requirements of entry.
One requirements of entry for that club was also a full body nude photo to see if you were hot enough. Lol.
They were not a complete unknown. They had a profile here until they were so rude to the people here that they left.
And still this club continues to operate every Saturday night. Does this make Limerick people much more mature in their outlook on life "
You're really going to have to have an attitude shift if you're going to want swingers to come. You'll need to bring the community along with you tether that rallying against basic stuff like verifications and pitting 1 town against another isn't the way to do it |
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"There are no full time swingers clubs in Cork. There are sex cinemas which are rarely frequented by females.
Neither are 'sex cinemas' Both are 'clubs' and women and couples are there regularly. I have been going there long enough to know this. I have witnessed many couples playing in the public areas and not being harassed by single guys. I have also played with couples and a single lady in the private rooms. Anyone who goes there would know its far from a sex cinema.
Well I guess we know where your venue is now. I've seen enoghh threads here from people complaining at the lack of females and the quantity of horny men to decide its not for us. Good luck tho. "
You are completely incorrect That is not the venue where the meet would be held. The venue has no previous connection with any club of any sort, nor is it a bar or nightclub. It is totally discreet and unknown and you have probably passed it a 1000's times and never noticed it |
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over a year ago
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Op
Good luck with your plans,I havent a clue as to how you will make it work without loads of single men taking up your spaces and not turning up
But you've already got a room organised so hopefully the rest follows |
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"Ireland is the only country I know of where you cannot get into a swingers club unless you are verified. Every other country has its clubs where you walk up, pay your entrance fee and walk in. Yes some will require ID. It appears that we Irish are not that advanced yet to be trusted to socialize without someone vouching for us "
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"Ireland is the only country I know of where you cannot get into a swingers club unless you are verified. Every other country has its clubs where you walk up, pay your entrance fee and walk in. Yes some will require ID. It appears that we Irish are not that advanced yet to be trusted to socialize without someone vouching for us
Is there any particular reason why you don't have any verifications? "
No particular reason at all. |
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"Ireland is the only country I know of where you cannot get into a swingers club unless you are verified. Every other country has its clubs where you walk up, pay your entrance fee and walk in. Yes some will require ID. It appears that we Irish are not that advanced yet to be trusted to socialize without someone vouching for us
Is there any particular reason why you don't have any verifications?
No particular reason at all."
Interesting that you havent found the time to meet a woman or couple from this site and get verified.
Maybe get your lady friend to verify you. I can only guess but surely you've had at least a coffee with her. |
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"Ireland is the only country I know of where you cannot get into a swingers club unless you are verified. Every other country has its clubs where you walk up, pay your entrance fee and walk in. Yes some will require ID. It appears that we Irish are not that advanced yet to be trusted to socialize without someone vouching for us
Is there any particular reason why you don't have any verifications?
No particular reason at all.
Interesting that you havent found the time to meet a woman or couple from this site and get verified.
Maybe get your lady friend to verify you. I can only guess but surely you've had at least a coffee with her. "
Its not difficult to be verified. Some consider verifications important and others don't. |
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"Ireland is the only country I know of where you cannot get into a swingers club unless you are verified. Every other country has its clubs where you walk up, pay your entrance fee and walk in. Yes some will require ID. It appears that we Irish are not that advanced yet to be trusted to socialize without someone vouching for us
Is there any particular reason why you don't have any verifications?
No particular reason at all.
Interesting that you havent found the time to meet a woman or couple from this site and get verified.
Maybe get your lady friend to verify you. I can only guess but surely you've had at least a coffee with her.
Its not difficult to be verified. Some consider verifications important and others don't."
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Clearly it is if you haven't had a meet or verification in 11 months. |
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"Ireland is the only country I know of where you cannot get into a swingers club unless you are verified. Every other country has its clubs where you walk up, pay your entrance fee and walk in. Yes some will require ID. It appears that we Irish are not that advanced yet to be trusted to socialize without someone vouching for us
Is there any particular reason why you don't have any verifications?
No particular reason at all.
Interesting that you havent found the time to meet a woman or couple from this site and get verified.
Maybe get your lady friend to verify you. I can only guess but surely you've had at least a coffee with her.
Its not difficult to be verified. Some consider verifications important and others don't..
Clearly it is if you haven't had a meet or verification in 11 months. "
You concluded I didn't have meets how?
Well you know what they say about assumption.
In fact I have had meets from Fab and another site. I see no reason for someone I meet to type a few lines to tell the people here how amazing I am
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"Ireland is the only country I know of where you cannot get into a swingers club unless you are verified. Every other country has its clubs where you walk up, pay your entrance fee and walk in. Yes some will require ID. It appears that we Irish are not that advanced yet to be trusted to socialize without someone vouching for us
Is there any particular reason why you don't have any verifications?
No particular reason at all.
Interesting that you havent found the time to meet a woman or couple from this site and get verified.
Maybe get your lady friend to verify you. I can only guess but surely you've had at least a coffee with her.
Its not difficult to be verified. Some consider verifications important and others don't..
Clearly it is if you haven't had a meet or verification in 11 months.
You concluded I didn't have meets how?
Well you know what they say about assumption.
In fact I have had meets from Fab and another site. I see no reason for someone I meet to type a few lines to tell the people here how amazing I am
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That is the point of the verifications. It takes the assumption out of it. Why not just have the verification and not display it?
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"Ireland is the only country I know of where you cannot get into a swingers club unless you are verified. Every other country has its clubs where you walk up, pay your entrance fee and walk in. Yes some will require ID. It appears that we Irish are not that advanced yet to be trusted to socialize without someone vouching for us
Is there any particular reason why you don't have any verifications?
No particular reason at all.
Interesting that you havent found the time to meet a woman or couple from this site and get verified.
Maybe get your lady friend to verify you. I can only guess but surely you've had at least a coffee with her.
Its not difficult to be verified. Some consider verifications important and others don't..
Clearly it is if you haven't had a meet or verification in 11 months.
You concluded I didn't have meets how?
Well you know what they say about assumption.
In fact I have had meets from Fab and another site. I see no reason for someone I meet to type a few lines to tell the people here how amazing I am
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That is the point of the verifications. It takes the assumption out of it. Why not just have the verification and not display it?
What date is the party? "
We clearly have different opinions on the importance of verifications.
There is no date for the party while Covid continues.
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"Ireland is the only country I know of where you cannot get into a swingers club unless you are verified. Every other country has its clubs where you walk up, pay your entrance fee and walk in. Yes some will require ID. It appears that we Irish are not that advanced yet to be trusted to socialize without someone vouching for us
Is there any particular reason why you don't have any verifications?
No particular reason at all.
Interesting that you havent found the time to meet a woman or couple from this site and get verified.
Maybe get your lady friend to verify you. I can only guess but surely you've had at least a coffee with her.
Its not difficult to be verified. Some consider verifications important and others don't..
Clearly it is if you haven't had a meet or verification in 11 months.
You concluded I didn't have meets how?
Well you know what they say about assumption.
In fact I have had meets from Fab and another site. I see no reason for someone I meet to type a few lines to tell the people here how amazing I am
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That is the point of the verifications. It takes the assumption out of it. Why not just have the verification and not display it?
What date is the party?
We clearly have different opinions on the importance of verifications.
There is no date for the party while Covid continues.
You obviously think they matter tho. That's why your organising a party.
You have a placed sorted but don't know the date?
There seems to be alot of holes in this party.
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The best of luck OP, I feel you will need it. A lot of experienced people ha e tried to give you advice bit you don't seem to want to listen.
You have a very basic problem here. The number of GENUINE girls and couples that are unverified and will want to go to this is frankly miniscule. You will end up with a room full of men, half of them with fake female and couples profiles. Verifications serve a very important purpose |
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"Ireland is the only country I know of where you cannot get into a swingers club unless you are verified. Every other country has its clubs where you walk up, pay your entrance fee and walk in. Yes some will require ID. It appears that we Irish are not that advanced yet to be trusted to socialize without someone vouching for us
Is there any particular reason why you don't have any verifications?
No particular reason at all.
Interesting that you havent found the time to meet a woman or couple from this site and get verified.
Maybe get your lady friend to verify you. I can only guess but surely you've had at least a coffee with her.
Its not difficult to be verified. Some consider verifications important and others don't..
Clearly it is if you haven't had a meet or verification in 11 months.
You concluded I didn't have meets how?
Well you know what they say about assumption.
In fact I have had meets from Fab and another site. I see no reason for someone I meet to type a few lines to tell the people here how amazing I am
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That is the point of the verifications. It takes the assumption out of it. Why not just have the verification and not display it?
What date is the party?
We clearly have different opinions on the importance of verifications.
There is no date for the party while Covid continues.
You obviously think they matter tho. That's why your organising a party.
You have a placed sorted but don't know the date?
There seems to be alot of holes in this party.
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This post irritates you for some reason. You are clearly offended that people just wont see things your way
Yes I have a place sorted for literally any date that is decided.
Do you seriously expect anyone in their sane mind to post a date for a swingers party with Covid infections on the rise?
I would have thought that you being 'verified' that you would have a much more responsible attitude |
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I wouldn't hire a guy to drive a van without a driving licence, veris are similar in this instance to the driving licence.
There are also some safety concerns about this, having verified people puts others at ease, bringing unverified people to a party is a bad idea i think. |
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You seem to have a kind of philosophical objection to verifications for some reason, which is of course your perogative, but is not ideal for a party organiser with no viewable history who is asking people to trust him... while offering your trust blindly to everyone and his dog. What you SHOULD be doing is winning the trust and support of reliable verified cork folks, rather than telling them they arent as good as limerick swingers and alienating them. |
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"You seem to have a kind of philosophical objection to verifications for some reason, which is of course your perogative, but is not ideal for a party organiser with no viewable history who is asking people to trust him... while offering your trust blindly to everyone and his dog. What you SHOULD be doing is winning the trust and support of reliable verified cork folks, rather than telling them they arent as good as limerick swingers and alienating them. "
You obviously missed the smiley faces in any comments I made. Not once have I attempted to offend anyone. But I do understand that the overly sensitive would fail to see the humour.
I haven't asked anyone to trust me. I merely posted 'would this be of interest to you or not and if not why not'. No more than that.
The only alienation I see is verified people thinking that its their way or now way. Its get verified or get lost
I'm not here to do tit for tat with anyone. I merely posted something. Feel free to reply to it or not as you please.
The good things that came from this is I have learned I need to improve my character and be more in harmony with my fellow swingers
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"You seem to have a kind of philosophical objection to verifications for some reason, which is of course your perogative, but is not ideal for a party organiser with no viewable history who is asking people to trust him... while offering your trust blindly to everyone and his dog. What you SHOULD be doing is winning the trust and support of reliable verified cork folks, rather than telling them they arent as good as limerick swingers and alienating them. "
Agreed. To be successful in this, you'll need to bring people with you and not be defensive. People are giving you good advice .... please take it. Good luck |
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Sure ye learn from experience . If you want to take the chance I imagine it’s you putting the cost in so any loss is also yours as they say on your head be it . There are some decent people on here who no one has Giving the chance but on the other side of that for every decent one there are more time wasters and non swingers . All you can do is give it a bash and see how it goes |
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"You seem to have a kind of philosophical objection to verifications for some reason, which is of course your perogative, but is not ideal for a party organiser with no viewable history who is asking people to trust him... while offering your trust blindly to everyone and his dog. What you SHOULD be doing is winning the trust and support of reliable verified cork folks, rather than telling them they arent as good as limerick swingers and alienating them.
You obviously missed the smiley faces in any comments I made. Not once have I attempted to offend anyone. But I do understand that the overly sensitive would fail to see the humour.
I haven't asked anyone to trust me. I merely posted 'would this be of interest to you or not and if not why not'. No more than that.
The only alienation I see is verified people thinking that its their way or now way. Its get verified or get lost
I'm not here to do tit for tat with anyone. I merely posted something. Feel free to reply to it or not as you please.
The good things that came from this is I have learned I need to improve my character and be more in harmony with my fellow swingers
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Going to turn this around as you can on fab
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My suggestion would be keep the no veris idea but only invite people who have
1 Photos
2 Be a member 6 months or more
3 Be recently active
4 Willing to send organiser a face pic & number/email |
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I am not meet verified yet as I'm new and I'm mad to go to a party but personally I would prefer the screening process as it makes it safer more comfortable and more legit. Best of luck with it all the same though! |
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"I haven't read back too far but no woman in her right mind would attend. Peter succlofes cousin could be there "
In defence of the op, it's not that long since a well verified user was found out to be an abuser and again a well verified couple hit the headlines within the last year too, in short you don't really know what people are like.
Verifications aren't really a protective measure they say you turned up but nothing more really |
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"I haven't read back too far but no woman in her right mind would attend. Peter succlofes cousin could be there
In defence of the op, it's not that long since a well verified user was found out to be an abuser and again a well verified couple hit the headlines within the last year too, in short you don't really know what people are like.
Verifications aren't really a protective measure they say you turned up but nothing more really"
Thats not true at all. If someone has met a bunch of people who left nice comments about them then they are very unlikely to have abused them. Unverifieds are a complete unknown.
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"I haven't read back too far but no woman in her right mind would attend. Peter succlofes cousin could be there
In defence of the op, it's not that long since a well verified user was found out to be an abuser and again a well verified couple hit the headlines within the last year too, in short you don't really know what people are like.
Verifications aren't really a protective measure they say you turned up but nothing more really
Thats not true at all. If someone has met a bunch of people who left nice comments about them then they are very unlikely to have abused them. Unverifieds are a complete unknown.
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Point taken, I really mean from point of view of putting all your eggs in the verifications basket, they only make up part of a big picture.
Both the people I refer to had lots of very nice comments left about them, both turned out to be very different people in other circumstances |
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"I haven't read back too far but no woman in her right mind would attend. Peter succlofes cousin could be there
In defence of the op, it's not that long since a well verified user was found out to be an abuser and again a well verified couple hit the headlines within the last year too, in short you don't really know what people are like.
Verifications aren't really a protective measure they say you turned up but nothing more really
Thats not true at all. If someone has met a bunch of people who left nice comments about them then they are very unlikely to have abused them. Unverifieds are a complete unknown.
Point taken, I really mean from point of view of putting all your eggs in the verifications basket, they only make up part of a big picture.
Both the people I refer to had lots of very nice comments left about them, both turned out to be very different people in other circumstances"
I read a post on here recently where a verified couple were meeting a verified guy until they saw who verified him. So though he was verified and they had decided to meet him. It all fell apart because he was verified by someone that they didn't like.
Personally its not how I would judge anyone. I'd base it on how we interact here. Chat a number of times and the picture becomes clear. The beauty about idiots and sleazebags is that they seem to strive hard to prove it people.
Its not rocket science to figure out if the person you are chatting to would be someone you would like to meet. I don't need to scroll to the end of your profile to see if people think you are ok. |
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"I haven't read back too far but no woman in her right mind would attend. Peter succlofes cousin could be there
In defence of the op, it's not that long since a well verified user was found out to be an abuser and again a well verified couple hit the headlines within the last year too, in short you don't really know what people are like.
Verifications aren't really a protective measure they say you turned up but nothing more really
Thats not true at all. If someone has met a bunch of people who left nice comments about them then they are very unlikely to have abused them. Unverifieds are a complete unknown.
Point taken, I really mean from point of view of putting all your eggs in the verifications basket, they only make up part of a big picture.
Both the people I refer to had lots of very nice comments left about them, both turned out to be very different people in other circumstances
I read a post on here recently where a verified couple were meeting a verified guy until they saw who verified him. So though he was verified and they had decided to meet him. It all fell apart because he was verified by someone that they didn't like.
Personally its not how I would judge anyone. I'd base it on how we interact here. Chat a number of times and the picture becomes clear. The beauty about idiots and sleazebags is that they seem to strive hard to prove it people.
Its not rocket science to figure out if the person you are chatting to would be someone you would like to meet. I don't need to scroll to the end of your profile to see if people think you are ok."
Are you planning to "chat a number of times" with everyone who is going to attend one of your parties? |
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"I haven't read back too far but no woman in her right mind would attend. Peter succlofes cousin could be there
In defence of the op, it's not that long since a well verified user was found out to be an abuser and again a well verified couple hit the headlines within the last year too, in short you don't really know what people are like.
Verifications aren't really a protective measure they say you turned up but nothing more really
Thats not true at all. If someone has met a bunch of people who left nice comments about them then they are very unlikely to have abused them. Unverifieds are a complete unknown.
Point taken, I really mean from point of view of putting all your eggs in the verifications basket, they only make up part of a big picture.
Both the people I refer to had lots of very nice comments left about them, both turned out to be very different people in other circumstances"
Im here a long time and I'm not aware of either of the cases you're talking about. We have had well over 100 verifications in various guises over the years and we would always have used other people's verifications as part (and only part) of the decision making process when choosing who to meet. It's a system that hasn't let us down. Only a single no-show on a 1 to 1 meet in more than 10 years. The system doesn't always work, but it mostly works. |
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I'm aware of the single profile who was revealed to be an abuser in the last year. He was also a regular forum poster if I remember right.
While I tend to base my opinions on how they engage directly with me I do look at veris just as a reference point.
I have had a few social meets where veris weren't exchanged or even discussed as they weren't the reason for meeting.
I rarely if ever chat to anyone who isn't a forum poster so I'm more inclined to be put off by an entitled or up your arse attitude in here than I am by veris. |
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"I haven't read back too far but no woman in her right mind would attend. Peter succlofes cousin could be there
In defence of the op, it's not that long since a well verified user was found out to be an abuser and again a well verified couple hit the headlines within the last year too, in short you don't really know what people are like.
Verifications aren't really a protective measure they say you turned up but nothing more really
Thats not true at all. If someone has met a bunch of people who left nice comments about them then they are very unlikely to have abused them. Unverifieds are a complete unknown.
Point taken, I really mean from point of view of putting all your eggs in the verifications basket, they only make up part of a big picture.
Both the people I refer to had lots of very nice comments left about them, both turned out to be very different people in other circumstances
I read a post on here recently where a verified couple were meeting a verified guy until they saw who verified him. So though he was verified and they had decided to meet him. It all fell apart because he was verified by someone that they didn't like.
Personally its not how I would judge anyone. I'd base it on how we interact here. Chat a number of times and the picture becomes clear. The beauty about idiots and sleazebags is that they seem to strive hard to prove it people.
Its not rocket science to figure out if the person you are chatting to would be someone you would like to meet. I don't need to scroll to the end of your profile to see if people think you are ok.
Are you planning to "chat a number of times" with everyone who is going to attend one of your parties? "
I'll chat to anyone a number of times if they so wish. But the party will be treated like any other adult social event. Turn up d*unk and you won't be going in, act the idiot and you will be leaving faster than you arrived. I'm not sure that will will approve of this. I could maybe interrogate them under torture and make them take a lie detector test |
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over a year ago
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I've met a few people who haven't been veried I tend to judge people more on how we get on while chatting or how they interact on the forums.
In saying that tho I don't think I'd attend a mng or party held by an unveried host or one that was mostly unveried attendees. While yes everyone deserves a chance there are still a few who are very indiscreet. Most of the hosts are well veried and well known and have attended mng before so they know the ins and outs of holding one. There are so many pitfalls. But good luck holding your night. |
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"I haven't read back too far but no woman in her right mind would attend. Peter succlofes cousin could be there
In defence of the op, it's not that long since a well verified user was found out to be an abuser and again a well verified couple hit the headlines within the last year too, in short you don't really know what people are like.
Verifications aren't really a protective measure they say you turned up but nothing more really
Thats not true at all. If someone has met a bunch of people who left nice comments about them then they are very unlikely to have abused them. Unverifieds are a complete unknown.
Point taken, I really mean from point of view of putting all your eggs in the verifications basket, they only make up part of a big picture.
Both the people I refer to had lots of very nice comments left about them, both turned out to be very different people in other circumstances
I read a post on here recently where a verified couple were meeting a verified guy until they saw who verified him. So though he was verified and they had decided to meet him. It all fell apart because he was verified by someone that they didn't like.
Personally its not how I would judge anyone. I'd base it on how we interact here. Chat a number of times and the picture becomes clear. The beauty about idiots and sleazebags is that they seem to strive hard to prove it people.
Its not rocket science to figure out if the person you are chatting to would be someone you would like to meet. I don't need to scroll to the end of your profile to see if people think you are ok.
Are you planning to "chat a number of times" with everyone who is going to attend one of your parties?
I'll chat to anyone a number of times if they so wish. But the party will be treated like any other adult social event. Turn up d*unk and you won't be going in, act the idiot and you will be leaving faster than you arrived. I'm not sure that will will approve of this. I could maybe interrogate them under torture and make them take a lie detector test "
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"I haven't read back too far but no woman in her right mind would attend. Peter succlofes cousin could be there
In defence of the op, it's not that long since a well verified user was found out to be an abuser and again a well verified couple hit the headlines within the last year too, in short you don't really know what people are like.
Verifications aren't really a protective measure they say you turned up but nothing more really
Thats not true at all. If someone has met a bunch of people who left nice comments about them then they are very unlikely to have abused them. Unverifieds are a complete unknown.
Point taken, I really mean from point of view of putting all your eggs in the verifications basket, they only make up part of a big picture.
Both the people I refer to had lots of very nice comments left about them, both turned out to be very different people in other circumstances
I read a post on here recently where a verified couple were meeting a verified guy until they saw who verified him. So though he was verified and they had decided to meet him. It all fell apart because he was verified by someone that they didn't like.
Personally its not how I would judge anyone. I'd base it on how we interact here. Chat a number of times and the picture becomes clear. The beauty about idiots and sleazebags is that they seem to strive hard to prove it people.
Its not rocket science to figure out if the person you are chatting to would be someone you would like to meet. I don't need to scroll to the end of your profile to see if people think you are ok.
Are you planning to "chat a number of times" with everyone who is going to attend one of your parties?
I'll chat to anyone a number of times if they so wish. But the party will be treated like any other adult social event. Turn up d*unk and you won't be going in, act the idiot and you will be leaving faster than you arrived. I'm not sure that will will approve of this. I could maybe interrogate them under torture and make them take a lie detector test
OK. So no vetting whatsoever of party guests. Got it. "
No vetting other than the fingerprints, blood sample, complete family history and a character reference from your local garda superintendent. Its not to much to ask for something so important |
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Maybe something similar to what the fetish community is doing? Mandatory meet&greet before the event for unverified attendees.
How about a pre-paid non-refundable entry fee, more incentive to show up
I think there is plenty of options to make it easier for unverified people while still meeting the safety/privacy requirements that this community has. Thumbs up to the OP for trying to shake things up a bit |
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