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"Last couple of months have hit me hard. Thankfully I’ve lived a full life to now and experienced more thank most...travel, orgies, professionals, sports. Whatevs the point ? Best years care behind me so it’s now a slow decline into the crematorium. I’m blessed with 3 great kids. What’s the point of life ? Why continue? Can’t see the attraction. Is it better to enjoy life to the fullest and burn out an die or follow the slow painful 30 year decent into the grave....loosing physical and mental ability (and teeth and hair !!) and end up dribbling band pottering around an old folks home. Not sure what to do but the former seems much more logical. Discuss "I presume its a general discussion and not a cry for help. | |||
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"Last couple of months have hit me hard. Thankfully I’ve lived a full life to now and experienced more thank most...travel, orgies, professionals, sports. Whatevs the point ? Best years care behind me so it’s now a slow decline into the crematorium. I’m blessed with 3 great kids. What’s the point of life ? Why continue? Can’t see the attraction. Is it better to enjoy life to the fullest and burn out an die or follow the slow painful 30 year decent into the grave....loosing physical and mental ability (and teeth and hair !!) and end up dribbling band pottering around an old folks home. Not sure what to do but the former seems much more logical. Discuss "I think if youre feeling like "not continuing " with life, you should seek out some help. Life has ups and downs but there are always more good times to be had, you just have to stick around for them. | |||
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"Lots of typos and spelling mistakes above.Excuse the fat fingers" Go to the gym get a goal for yourself, it may help you out abit. Also this feeling if not wanting to be here is only a thought. Definitely seek a professional to speak to if your getting this feeling quite regular. OP lockdown has broke the cycle of life for everyone but we are slowly getting back on track. Just remember you are the only one in charge of your own happiness  | |||
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"Last couple of months have hit me hard. Thankfully I’ve lived a full life to now and experienced more thank most...travel, orgies, professionals, sports. Whatevs the point ? Best years care behind me so it’s now a slow decline into the crematorium. I’m blessed with 3 great kids. What’s the point of life ? Why continue? Can’t see the attraction. Is it better to enjoy life to the fullest and burn out an die or follow the slow painful 30 year decent into the grave....loosing physical and mental ability (and teeth and hair !!) and end up dribbling band pottering around an old folks home. Not sure what to do but the former seems much more logical. Discuss "I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling down OP! I can imagine that the restrictions put in place have brought up many a thought process with life falling out of routine and possibly more time for thought processes which may have been pushed to the back of the mind when things were different, or "better". You show gratitude in being thankful for the fulfilled life you have quite obviously lived to date. That shows a certain mindfulness and awareness! This is a great way to start tackling any issues you may have productively. It sounds like there's a fear of growing old, losing physical health, stamina, looks and deteriorating in general, yet you are obviously physically in great shape! And I'm sure that will stand to you! I doubt that your best years are behind you. Maybe this is a time to reflect, sit back, re-evaluate and set new goals. I do agree with other replies with seeking help from a professional, someone who can guide you through your fears of aging, which I am sure are perfectly normal at certain points in life! Also do remember that you have 3 beautiful children and obviously are a family man. Think about how devastated they would be at losing their father, never mind that I am sure you are also a great son, brother, cousin, friend, colleague etc... and I'm sure you would love to see your children growing to their full potential and moving through life with you as part of their support network! I'm not trying to guilt you into anything, but I do believe that, just because you have hit a certain age or point in life that there's nothing left to live for! Quite the opposite, the world is your oyster, explore it further, find new interests, hobbies and passions, with the help of a professional if need be! Reach out as you have done here as there are always options! You are very welcome to mail me anytime, for a listening ear. I have been at rock bottom and know what it's like to have the thoughts you are voicing! If it helps to chat, to feel heard, understood, valued and appreciated, please don't be a stranger! | |||
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"I'm pretty sure if the op was that upset a few spelling mistakes would not bother him." Hidden profile....wonder why | |||
"I'm pretty sure if the op was that upset a few spelling mistakes would not bother him. Hidden profile....wonder why " Reason my profile is hidden is because I'm not meeting anyone at the moment. But if it bothers you about hidden profiles you will find the o.p has his hidden as well. | |||
"I’ve never partied or anything, had a good career but never got to enjoy it, when I wanted to change things people always made me feel bad for wanting to do so, I’ve had so many chances to go to America for good jobs and careers. Another one has come up but I can’t say no this time. Life is for living!" Go for it. What's in the past is in the past. Im sure a lot of us have regrets about things we didn't do, I know I have but life takes us certain paths for whatever reason and it's up to us to change the path we are on. Life is short and covid has hopefully opened people's eyes to the important things. If you ask anyone you know what they missed during lockdown majority will say family and friends. Good luck with whatever decision you make | |||
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"Last couple of months have hit me hard. Thankfully I’ve lived a full life to now and experienced more thank most...travel, orgies, professionals, sports. Whatevs the point ? Best years care behind me so it’s now a slow decline into the crematorium. I’m blessed with 3 great kids. What’s the point of life ? Why continue? Can’t see the attraction. Is it better to enjoy life to the fullest and burn out an die or follow the slow painful 30 year decent into the grave....loosing physical and mental ability (and teeth and hair !!) and end up dribbling band pottering around an old folks home. Not sure what to do but the former seems much more logical. Discuss "OP this is pretty deepseated and has be simmering way before lockdown. I'm amazed at what you've written. You need professional help and you need to reassess pal. You come across as pretty shallow and self centred. No one is Peter Pan in this world. Clearly you're in great shape. What's not to look forward to? you say you have 3 wonderful kids, do they not come into it at all? Do you not want to be the dad that they want and need to have around when they have doubts about themselves or about life? To see and be there for any potential grandchildren? You seem to have packed a lot in to your life already and your life experience will be invaluable to them when they need a shoulder to lean on. I'm sorry but you really need to be realistic here and reassess what really matters in life. Orgies?? Really? Over your kids and being there for their future? I hope you seek professional help as soon as possible, if you get your act together you've go everything to look forward to. Grow old gracefully. | |||
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"Last couple of months have hit me hard. Thankfully I’ve lived a full life to now and experienced more thank most...travel, orgies, professionals, sports. Whatevs the point ? Best years care behind me so it’s now a slow decline into the crematorium. I’m blessed with 3 great kids. What’s the point of life ? Why continue? Can’t see the attraction. Is it better to enjoy life to the fullest and burn out an die or follow the slow painful 30 year decent into the grave....loosing physical and mental ability (and teeth and hair !!) and end up dribbling band pottering around an old folks home. Not sure what to do but the former seems much more logical. Discuss "Nostalgia and Pessimism, you will never meet a worse couple than those two on this site. Looking back how many of those days would you really like to relive without changing a single thing? Leaving out the birth of the kids(I'd hope) not that many. They would not be the once in a lifetime experiences that way. The reason for doing them is they were going to be once in a lifetime opportunities that you took. They may not even be ones you remember in 20years time because you had bigger and better ones since then. But you won't know that unless you give yourself the opportunity of possibly doing them. What makes you so sure you are going to go into decline from now? At 39 now I'm in the best shape since my 20's and training for my first ever MMA fight and absolutely living for that. I wouldnt have imagined that three years ago never mind nine years ago. All because I gave myself the opportunity to. Whats to say living life to the fullest does exactly the thing you want to avoid? What if burning out ends with you not dying but developing some problem that leaves your family having to take care of you for years to come as you slowly fade away and drag them with you. Have you thought that you could continue having a great life and experiences even as you get older? You are not were blessed with three kids. They were/are/always will be the greatest/worse/proudest/embarrassing/heartbreaking/loved like you could never explain experience of all. Those kids would do things they have never even heard of yet in their lives if it meant you would stay in theirs as long as possible. Since covid, I have left my partner of 14years, mother of my two kids, a house we both worked hard for years to get and I only spent two years in it. I changed jobs, a very good job I could have had for life. Took two weeks holidays before new job only for the country to shut down. I am now renting a small but nice place in a unreal surrounding for the same amount as mortgage and all bills combined from last house, plus still paying the same things I was will living there. Here is the reason why. One smile or look from just one of my kids is enough to make every single problem in the world go away in that instant and nothing else you have done or will do can beat that, you even know this yourself already. I have gone through the loss of one of my best friends, a father himself to unnatural cause. It is not pleasant from anybodies perspective. I am of the mind set that they would have to bury me Ten times over because I'd keep coming back rather than leave my kids without their father. Hopefully this helped but more so I hope you may have taken the first proper steps to deal with it by posting like you have. Sometimes its better to talk to stranger or professional because there is no preconceived notions. You see just from here how many people who you may not know are offering their help. That includes me if you want to reach out. Whats the BEST that could happen my soon to be future friend? Park any ego or pride that's fucking useless anyway and send up the flare, people will come running I promise. S | |||
"Last couple of months have hit me hard. Thankfully I’ve lived a full life to now and experienced more thank most...travel, orgies, professionals, sports. Whatevs the point ? Best years care behind me so it’s now a slow decline into the crematorium. I’m blessed with 3 great kids. What’s the point of life ? Why continue? Can’t see the attraction. Is it better to enjoy life to the fullest and burn out an die or follow the slow painful 30 year decent into the grave....loosing physical and mental ability (and teeth and hair !!) and end up dribbling band pottering around an old folks home. Not sure what to do but the former seems much more logical. Discuss "another lost soul..have you considered religion as an escape ..millions of people use religion as a crutch as a way of giving their existance a meaning | |||
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"Last couple of months have hit me hard. Thankfully I’ve lived a full life to now and experienced more thank most...travel, orgies, professionals, sports. Whatevs the point ? Best years care behind me so it’s now a slow decline into the crematorium. I’m blessed with 3 great kids. What’s the point of life ? Why continue? Can’t see the attraction. Is it better to enjoy life to the fullest and burn out an die or follow the slow painful 30 year decent into the grave....loosing physical and mental ability (and teeth and hair !!) and end up dribbling band pottering around an old folks home. Not sure what to do but the former seems much more logical. Discuss
Nostalgia and Pessimism, you will never meet a worse couple than those two on this site. Looking back how many of those days would you really like to relive without changing a single thing? Leaving out the birth of the kids(I'd hope) not that many. They would not be the once in a lifetime experiences that way. The reason for doing them is they were going to be once in a lifetime opportunities that you took. They may not even be ones you remember in 20years time because you had bigger and better ones since then. But you won't know that unless you give yourself the opportunity of possibly doing them.
What makes you so sure you are going to go into decline from now? At 39 now I'm in the best shape since my 20's and training for my first ever MMA fight and absolutely living for that. I wouldnt have imagined that three years ago never mind nine years ago. All because I gave myself the opportunity to. Whats to say living life to the fullest does exactly the thing you want to avoid? What if burning out ends with you not dying but developing some problem that leaves your family having to take care of you for years to come as you slowly fade away and drag them with you.
Have you thought that you could continue having a great life and experiences even as you get older? You are not were blessed with three kids. They were/are/always will be the greatest/worse/proudest/embarrassing/heartbreaking/loved like you could never explain experience of all. Those kids would do things they have never even heard of yet in their lives if it meant you would stay in theirs as long as possible.
Since covid, I have left my partner of 14years, mother of my two kids, a house we both worked hard for years to get and I only spent two years in it. I changed jobs, a very good job I could have had for life. Took two weeks holidays before new job only for the country to shut down. I am now renting a small but nice place in a unreal surrounding for the same amount as mortgage and all bills combined from last house, plus still paying the same things I was will living there.
Here is the reason why. One smile or look from just one of my kids is enough to make every single problem in the world go away in that instant and nothing else you have done or will do can beat that, you even know this yourself already.
I have gone through the loss of one of my best friends, a father himself to unnatural cause. It is not pleasant from anybodies perspective. I am of the mind set that they would have to bury me Ten times over because I'd keep coming back rather than leave my kids without their father.
Hopefully this helped but more so I hope you may have taken the first proper steps to deal with it by posting like you have. Sometimes its better to talk to stranger or professional because there is no preconceived notions.
You see just from here how many people who you may not know are offering their help. That includes me if you want to reach out. Whats the BEST that could happen my soon to be future friend? Park any ego or pride that's fucking useless anyway and send up the flare, people will come running I promise.
S"Best of luck with the new job and the new path. Wise words | |||
"Last couple of months have hit me hard. Thankfully I’ve lived a full life to now and experienced more thank most...travel, orgies, professionals, sports. Whatevs the point ? Best years care behind me so it’s now a slow decline into the crematorium. I’m blessed with 3 great kids. What’s the point of life ? Why continue? Can’t see the attraction. Is it better to enjoy life to the fullest and burn out an die or follow the slow painful 30 year decent into the grave....loosing physical and mental ability (and teeth and hair !!) and end up dribbling band pottering around an old folks home. Not sure what to do but the former seems much more logical. Discuss "Hi dude.. go see a counsellor.. it will do you world of good to talk to someone impartial and non judgmental.. it helped me a lot a few years ago.. | |||
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"For me it would be ALL about those kids. Don't you want to see them grow up and see the people they become. To see them get married, to see them go through the trials that we all go through and be there for them throughout all that time. To see grandkids, and watch the whole cycle start again. To spread love and happiness in their lives and watch them blossom and spread love themselves. That's your legacy and the only real and lasting thing that will be left once you're gone. " Wise words from a solid person over there in Rast Cork. It's not always a rosy path all the slings and arrows that can come at you through life. It's when it becomes too much wisdom of others from another view point can help see the wood from a stress and be a idea spark to lift out of whatever the situation is. Surrounding oneself with positive people, a trusted friend or support from genuine caring support on this forum within the Fab world am sure helps. Take care, chin up be positive things can come right over time. | |||
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"My husband died at 39 I was only 31 we were married 18month. He missed the birth of his little girl. He had a double lung and heart transplant . And was told he wouldn’t live pass age 7 . When we met we went on holiday abroad which he had never done . We used to be gone to car shows every weekend . His health got worse but he didn’t let it stop him . O2 hooked up we went on our final road trip with our little boy to Disney on ice . That was 5 years ago . I found fab over a year ago I love my weekends away to meets . " I know u didn’t post that for sympathy and very very few things can touch me but ur post gave me a knot in my stomach and an ache in my head. That’s one of the saddest things I’ve heard in a long long time. | |||
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"Last couple of months have hit me hard. Thankfully I’ve lived a full life to now and experienced more thank most...travel, orgies, professionals, sports. Whatevs the point ? Best years care behind me so it’s now a slow decline into the crematorium. I’m blessed with 3 great kids. What’s the point of life ? Why continue? Can’t see the attraction. Is it better to enjoy life to the fullest and burn out an die or follow the slow painful 30 year decent into the grave....loosing physical and mental ability (and teeth and hair !!) and end up dribbling band pottering around an old folks home. Not sure what to do but the former seems much more logical. Discuss
another lost soul..have you considered religion as an escape ..millions of people use religion as a crutch as a way of giving their existance a meaning "Religion is a poison. | |||
"Last couple of months have hit me hard. Thankfully I’ve lived a full life to now and experienced more thank most...travel, orgies, professionals, sports. Whatevs the point ? Best years care behind me so it’s now a slow decline into the crematorium. I’m blessed with 3 great kids. What’s the point of life ? Why continue? Can’t see the attraction. Is it better to enjoy life to the fullest and burn out an die or follow the slow painful 30 year decent into the grave....loosing physical and mental ability (and teeth and hair !!) and end up dribbling band pottering around an old folks home. Not sure what to do but the former seems much more logical. Discuss "I would like to take this opportunity to apologise to you for a post where I made a comment about you not been to upset because you corrected spelling and grammar mistakes on your thread .It was inconsiderate of me and not very helpful again I apologise. As I have now apologised would the people sending those abusive pm please stop and let me get on with my fab experience thank you. | |||
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