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I am defo late to the orgasm party.
Met my ex at 20 and I didnt sow my wild oats. He was selfish in bed too, didnt care if I came or not.
Been a difficult path for me opening up to a partner and achieving orgasm. No problem on my own.
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I spent 13 years faking orgasms when I was married. I've had more orgasms on my time on Fab than my entire marriage. I learnt to embrace my imperfections and love my body. Becoming more self confident has lead to better sex and more orgasms. I even started to squirt as well since joining Fab! |
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"I am defo late to the orgasm party.
Met my ex at 20 and I didnt sow my wild oats. He was selfish in bed too, didnt care if I came or not.
Been a difficult path for me opening up to a partner and achieving orgasm. No problem on my own.
MsD"
Very similar experience to my myself. I achieve one myself easily it takes more effort with a man. Definitely effected by early experiences |
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"When you say buck the trend... is the trend in general easy or hard? ID assume like anything its a mixed bag?"
Id assume you'd realise its a title and the question lies in the body of the text which poses a very open question to women? Sorry you missed that bit  |
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"When you say buck the trend... is the trend in general easy or hard? ID assume like anything its a mixed bag?
Id assume you'd realise its a title and the question lies in the body of the text which poses a very open question to women? Sorry you missed that bit "
I dont think I missed it no...
I was simply asking what people's perception of the commen trend was.
Maybe shutting down mens curiosity into the subject is slightly counter productive but anyway have a good one |
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"When you say buck the trend... is the trend in general easy or hard? ID assume like anything its a mixed bag?
Id assume you'd realise its a title and the question lies in the body of the text which poses a very open question to women? Sorry you missed that bit
I dont think I missed it no...
I was simply asking what people's perception of the commen trend was.
Maybe shutting down mens curiosity into the subject is slightly counter productive but anyway have a good one"
Always open to mens perception on this subject as any opportunity to learn from each other is positive. I just found your comment didn't really add to the debate. Of course its a mixed bag but the question is whats your experience. Your focus was the title as opposed to answering the actual question. I'll presume you've had many different experiences and can share some insight from a male perspective?? |
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Well rover nice to see you back on forums personally I find it very hard to cum from penitration but a couple of fingers or a tongue and I'm there one of the lucky ones |
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The only thing I can add from the male perspective is that I'm a very late starter and 90% of my sexual experience has been since turning 50.
What I've found during those 5 years is that anyone I've met may have much more experience than me but it hasn't always been positive and their desire or need to orgasm has been influenced by circumstances at that particular point in time.
So I'm far from an expert on the subject but I'm not sure what the"trend" actually is.
I've met some who have always been confident and never had any issues with orgasm either with a partner or by themselves and others who have been conditioned to feel that their sexual needs are something to be ashamed of and are just now discovering that they can express themselves.
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"Well rover nice to see you back on forums personally I find it very hard to cum from penitration but a couple of fingers or a tongue and I'm there one of the lucky ones "
Thought it was time to dip my toes in again. Indeed you are lucky. |
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"The only thing I can add from the male perspective is that I'm a very late starter and 90% of my sexual experience has been since turning 50.
What I've found during those 5 years is that anyone I've met may have much more experience than me but it hasn't always been positive and their desire or need to orgasm has been influenced by circumstances at that particular point in time.
So I'm far from an expert on the subject but I'm not sure what the"trend" actually is.
I've met some who have always been confident and never had any issues with orgasm either with a partner or by themselves and others who have been conditioned to feel that their sexual needs are something to be ashamed of and are just now discovering that they can express themselves.
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This is a great response. I definitely think alot of women women particularly those of us in our 40s and older have been negatively effected by early sexual experiences and attitudes towards body and sex. While the trend now is body positive and sex is something to be enjoyed it wasn't always. I was in my 30s before i discovered my orgasm through masterbation longer till i found it with a partner. Its not the holy grail but it is desired. I'll ask you do you think mens expectations far exceed ability by times ? |
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"The only thing I can add from the male perspective is that I'm a very late starter and 90% of my sexual experience has been since turning 50.
What I've found during those 5 years is that anyone I've met may have much more experience than me but it hasn't always been positive and their desire or need to orgasm has been influenced by circumstances at that particular point in time.
So I'm far from an expert on the subject but I'm not sure what the"trend" actually is.
I've met some who have always been confident and never had any issues with orgasm either with a partner or by themselves and others who have been conditioned to feel that their sexual needs are something to be ashamed of and are just now discovering that they can express themselves.
This is a great response. I definitely think alot of women women particularly those of us in our 40s and older have been negatively effected by early sexual experiences and attitudes towards body and sex. While the trend now is body positive and sex is something to be enjoyed it wasn't always. I was in my 30s before i discovered my orgasm through masterbation longer till i found it with a partner. Its not the holy grail but it is desired. I'll ask you do you think mens expectations far exceed ability by times ? "
When you say expectations do you mean in their own ability to make a woman orgasm?
If that's what you mean then once again I'm no expert but I'm sure some men see it as a challenge.
A woman might say that she can't orgasm during penetration and some men might feel they are the one to buck that trend.
Speaking personally it's one of the reasons that I prefer to get to know someone before meeting and if and when we do actually meet its in an environment where both of us can relax and not be overly concerned with the endgame. |
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"The only thing I can add from the male perspective is that I'm a very late starter and 90% of my sexual experience has been since turning 50.
What I've found during those 5 years is that anyone I've met may have much more experience than me but it hasn't always been positive and their desire or need to orgasm has been influenced by circumstances at that particular point in time.
So I'm far from an expert on the subject but I'm not sure what the"trend" actually is.
I've met some who have always been confident and never had any issues with orgasm either with a partner or by themselves and others who have been conditioned to feel that their sexual needs are something to be ashamed of and are just now discovering that they can express themselves.
This is a great response. I definitely think alot of women women particularly those of us in our 40s and older have been negatively effected by early sexual experiences and attitudes towards body and sex. While the trend now is body positive and sex is something to be enjoyed it wasn't always. I was in my 30s before i discovered my orgasm through masterbation longer till i found it with a partner. Its not the holy grail but it is desired. I'll ask you do you think mens expectations far exceed ability by times ?
When you say expectations do you mean in their own ability to make a woman orgasm?
If that's what you mean then once again I'm no expert but I'm sure some men see it as a challenge.
A woman might say that she can't orgasm during penetration and some men might feel they are the one to buck that trend.
Speaking personally it's one of the reasons that I prefer to get to know someone before meeting and if and when we do actually meet its in an environment where both of us can relax and not be overly concerned with the endgame. "
This is my preference. Less emphasis on preformance provides a healthier more relaxed atmosphere which helps improve the quality of the sexual experience. Thank you for your imput. Very positive |
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"It took me a long time to be comfortable enough to orgasm with other people I usually stop .but now I'm more comfortable with myself and letting go but o dont always orgasm  "
I feel this is more common then we hear on here. No orgasm doesn't always mean a bad experience. Sometimes great satisfaction comes from touch and intamacy |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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I wouldn't call it hard work, I orgasm easy enough through penetration and do multiple times in the right setting but I normally need a bit of time to get going but also I want plenty of it. So the average 5 to 6 minute shag isn't working for me.
I discovered my body growing up, so it's with me a long time and I mastered the ladywank.
Peaking when having sex was a bit hit and miss - depending I was with - until I found fab. True treasures can be found here and sex gets better and better.
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I always found it difficult to orgasm especially when younger. Even with long term partners I very rarely ever reached an orgasm. In fact at one point I stayed celibate for years.
As I've gotten older I realised what I like and realised using toys helped as well. I guess kind of got to know my body better and found what works for me.
Finding guys who know what they are doing and who I can relax and have fun and be confidence with that they enjoy the same things and there's no judgement for enjoying sex. |
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"I wouldn't call it hard work, I orgasm easy enough through penetration and do multiple times in the right setting but I normally need a bit of time to get going but also I want plenty of it. So the average 5 to 6 minute shag isn't working for me.
I discovered my body growing up, so it's with me a long time and I mastered the ladywank.
Peaking when having sex was a bit hit and miss - depending I was with - until I found fab. True treasures can be found here and sex gets better and better.
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Its definitely improved with age. I suppose like fine wine. Theres been a couple of wonderful experiences found through here. Openminds definitely help. |
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I use to feel pressure to try make women i was with orgasm and it took away from the fun and enjoyment of sex. Now i just like to explore the ladies body, finding what she likes. I also like a lady who is comfortable enough to give direction and guidance. |
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By *etite_RosyWoman
over a year ago
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I add my 2 cents into this discussion.
It is not always about end game as previously stated. Im more concern to enjoy the meeting and it really doesn't matter which way we have had orgasms - on our own or with partner in crime help. Of course the best scenario is making everybody happy but it is about knowing the person, her/ his needs and how quick she or he can cum.
Its not about the timing for me. I prefer a long session where everyone has time to explore. And also its fine to me if the meets are regular - this is the opportunity to learn and satisfy each other.
No rush applies here.
Time to time it happened that it was once off meet and was amazing. Sometimes there is no guidance needed
Rely on 6th sense its totally fine. Yes, you can say what works to me possible wouldn't work to you, and vice versa, and exchanging the experiences by chatting online or meeting face to face in the cafeteria is definitely beneficial. |
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"I add my 2 cents into this discussion.
It is not always about end game as previously stated. Im more concern to enjoy the meeting and it really doesn't matter which way we have had orgasms - on our own or with partner in crime help. Of course the best scenario is making everybody happy but it is about knowing the person, her/ his needs and how quick she or he can cum.
Its not about the timing for me. I prefer a long session where everyone has time to explore. And also its fine to me if the meets are regular - this is the opportunity to learn and satisfy each other.
No rush applies here.
Time to time it happened that it was once off meet and was amazing. Sometimes there is no guidance needed
Rely on 6th sense its totally fine. Yes, you can say what works to me possible wouldn't work to you, and vice versa, and exchanging the experiences by chatting online or meeting face to face in the cafeteria is definitely beneficial. "
This is really good feedback. Definitely taking time with someone enjoying and letting the mind go all helps the situation, enhances it regardless of the outcome. Pleasure should always be what you seek orgasm is a bonus |
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It was early enough for me but not as intense as when I found the rampant rabbit first a few years ago when Ann summers came to cork, I was definitely one of the first through the door and i was first to hold a party and tied being a rep aswell.But
best of all my orgasms have seriously progressed when i found fab, i first discovered squirting, new toys, women, anal orgasm after lots of discovery and exploring but always evolving of course. Good topic Rosy you sexy minx |
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"It was early enough for me but not as intense as when I found the rampant rabbit first a few years ago when Ann summers came to cork, I was definitely one of the first through the door and i was first to hold a party and tied being a rep aswell.But
best of all my orgasms have seriously progressed when i found fab, i first discovered squirting, new toys, women, anal orgasm after lots of discovery and exploring but always evolving of course. Good topic Rosy you sexy minx "
My topic ( rover) but I'll take the compliment. |
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For guys, it matters whats being done to reach orgasm. For women, it matters who's doing it. Throw into the mix, early sexual experiences, trauma, sexual imprinting, intimacy (or lack of it), and you can see how difficult it can be for some people to relax deeply enough to have an orgasm. Women and men have different arousal and orgasmic responses, so the Fab date can be hit or miss. I remember my first orgasm, late enough, i didnt know what was happening, i thought i had burst something! Now, i enjoy the journey, staying in the pleasure zone, and not chasing my orgasm. |
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"For guys, it matters whats being done to reach orgasm. For women, it matters who's doing it. Throw into the mix, early sexual experiences, trauma, sexual imprinting, intimacy (or lack of it), and you can see how difficult it can be for some people to relax deeply enough to have an orgasm. Women and men have different arousal and orgasmic responses, so the Fab date can be hit or miss. I remember my first orgasm, late enough, i didnt know what was happening, i thought i had burst something! Now, i enjoy the journey, staying in the pleasure zone, and not chasing my orgasm. "
Women's orgasms are a very complex affair. So many men message with ill make you cum till you cant take it any more. This is a big ask and as any man with experience knows maybe not as easy as it seems. Not rushing, connecting with someone and not making cringeworthy predictions all help the "fab" experience. I enjoyed your input |
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"I spent 13 years faking orgasms when I was married. I've had more orgasms on my time on Fab than my entire marriage. I learnt to embrace my imperfections and love my body. Becoming more self confident has lead to better sex and more orgasms. I even started to squirt as well since joining Fab! "
Similar story with me. I've been having the best sex since my early thirties. At that point I learnt to embrace my body and just go with it. My sex drive has gone through the roof  |
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I firmly believe any woman could and should have an orgasm from 10 mins of penetrative sex.If they can't achieve orgasm in this time they probably have some issues that's effecting them mentally and physically. |
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"^^^^ and that above ladies is why is men have a bad name on here...."
I've rarely every hear of a man having trouble with reaching his goal. So if a woman can't achieve her goal it's down to her own inability.
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"^^^^ and that above ladies is why is men have a bad name on here...."
Profile hidden, think he needed to go buy a bigger spoon. Idiotic comment from him. I know ive more cop about me to think this is how men think |
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"^^^^ and that above ladies is why is men have a bad name on here....
Profile hidden, think he needed to go buy a bigger spoon. Idiotic comment from him. I know ive more cop about me to think this is how men think "
I think you will find that that's exactly how men feel about ladies wasting their time trying to make a woman orgasm when she has a mental of physical blockage. |
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"^^^^ and that above ladies is why is men have a bad name on here....
Profile hidden, think he needed to go buy a bigger spoon. Idiotic comment from him. I know ive more cop about me to think this is how men think I think you will find that that's exactly how men feel about ladies wasting their time trying to make a woman orgasm when she has a mental of physical blockage. "
Fair play to you child |
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"^^^^ and that above ladies is why is men have a bad name on here....
Profile hidden, think he needed to go buy a bigger spoon. Idiotic comment from him. I know ive more cop about me to think this is how men think I think you will find that that's exactly how men feel about ladies wasting their time trying to make a woman orgasm when she has a mental of physical blockage.
Fair play to you child "
It may sound harsh but it's better telling the truth than hiding behind a lie. |
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You are either on a wind up, d*unk or out of your head on something. No wonder your profile is hidden There used to be juan guy on here a while back. Think you are one a nd the same or related. |
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"Jaysos lads when do you ever learn to smell a wind up?  "
Bet you won't spend hours trying to get her over the line next time. 10 minutes and your job is done. |
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To bring it back to the actual point, excuse me for doing so.
I can now, due to CV19 restrictions, manage an orgasm with shower head in about a minute!
Probably not a good thing but needs must, in a house with kids and a celibate wife.
Can't remember first orgasm but im fairly sure it was in bed thinking about Linda Lusardi. Best tits ever on Page 3 |
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"To bring it back to the actual point, excuse me for doing so.
I can now, due to CV19 restrictions, manage an orgasm with shower head in about a minute!
Probably not a good thing but needs must, in a house with kids and a celibate wife.
Can't remember first orgasm but im fairly sure it was in bed thinking about Linda Lusardi. Best tits ever on Page 3 "
Goid man John, Linda was a legend and is still looking hot. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Whatever happened to Juan? Was he blocked?"
He's gone.
l'd say he got overwhelmed by more than one of his fbs/female friends wanting to move in with him when the lockdown started to ease. He is such a catch. L |
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"Whatever happened to Juan? Was he blocked?
He's gone.
l'd say he got overwhelmed by more than one of his fbs/female friends wanting to move in with him when the lockdown started to ease. He is such a catch. L "
What a shame as I enjoyed his egotistical, misogynistic rants. They made me laugh - Mrs |
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Guys are really lucky in the orgasm dept, they cum easy. I'm no expert on female orgasms but I do my best to ensure the lady I meet will achieve this, days before the meet I send a very teasing story, not all at once either,best deliver it in chapters, the naughty texts and teasing pics too, lots of kissing and foreplay and most of the time it achieves its goal.
You need to make the lady comfortable and relaxed in your company. Now despite my best efforts I have failed on a few occasions |
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As I've gotten older, I've got the confidence now to ask the woman what she likes.
If I'm doing something she likes let me know and to just say to me could you touch, rub etc here, or more over there... Not in a prescriptive way, but just guide my hands, fingers, mouth. I'm all open to learning improving and everyone woman is different (as are all men) so different things work for different people.
I think guys just need to let a woman know that they are ok with taking a bit of direction I guess...Not being the Lothero who knows everything while the woman isn't getting any pleasure from the experience. Cliched maybe but women are more complicated from a sex point of view....its ye who make people ffs. I mean complicated sexwise from a pure a biological point of view and from a mental point of view (sex wise) or at least that is what I think from my limited experience. |
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"As I've gotten older, I've got the confidence now to ask the woman what she likes...I think guys just need to let a woman know that they are ok with taking a bit of direction. "
Definitely agree with this, my best experiences for both parties have always been when there was frank and open communication, before and during. |
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"I firmly believe any woman could and should have an orgasm from 10 mins of penetrative sex.If they can't achieve orgasm in this time they probably have some issues that's effecting them mentally and physically.
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As you say, its your firmly held opinion, so i wont try to change your mind. And this opinion is based on your own experience , I'd imagine. Its possible that the mental and physical block that prevents you reaching your goal of "giving" her an orgasm in 10 minutes is you. There is a whole world of literature, u tube vids and other educational material on female orgasm. It differs from male orgasm, yes, for many reasons. Have a read of all the writers and sexologists, and broaden your mind, educate yourself. The women of Fab( a sexually soohisticated lot) expect this, and your next lover will appreciate you all the more. |
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I'm one of these women that finds it extremely hard to climax with a man. I'm well able bring myself to climax with the help of toys ect
I'd have my man wore out if I was to climax although it has happened on the odd occasion.
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