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Understanding and accepting the word NO...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok so i try to be as nice as i can and not use the block button to often. It is so frustrating that people just dont get it when the word NO is used. Anyone want to add an experiences,ok vent over lol  . Enjoy the sun everyone. |
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Its a fair point... i know i can annoy lots of people if they take things a little to serious here. Im just having a giggle and seeing who is chatting on my wavelength. However no does always mean no, and i try my best to remember someones preference. Lets face it, they not going to suddenly change their minds because i gone “awwwwe gowan gowan gowan gowan gowan”  |
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"Ok so i try to be as nice as i can and not use the block button to often. It is so frustrating that people just dont get it when the word NO is used. Anyone want to add an experiences,ok vent over lol . Enjoy the sun everyone. "
I'm assuming in your case op that it's couples and single ladies who are frustrating you?
I very rarely get messages on here so I don't have to worry about the word no.
I've had to use it in the past when chatting to couples who send a list of play instructions long before we've even reached the point of arranging a social.
That tells me they haven't taken the time to read my profile so it's an instant no thank you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There would be no need to rant if you used the block button.that is what it's there for"
I did but i actually like the person and wouldn't mind playing only for this behaviour. I end up unblocking then and he stops annoying for some time lol. It's a vicious circle i think it will just stay blocked now,i am to forgiving especially if i like person in others ways |
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"There would be no need to rant if you used the block button.that is what it's there for
I did but i actually like the person and wouldn't mind playing only for this behaviour. I end up unblocking then and he stops annoying for some time lol. It's a vicious circle i think it will just stay blocked now,i am to forgiving especially if i like person in others ways "
Maybe your giving off mixed messages then......just my opinion.
When I say no thankyou I mean it. If they reply after I just ignore. |
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"Ok so i try to be as nice as i can and not use the block button to often. It is so frustrating that people just dont get it when the word NO is used. Anyone want to add an experiences,ok vent over lol . Enjoy the sun everyone. "
Have you tried reverse psychology just for laughs  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
Some people think they can wear you down if they keep messaging. It doesn't work. If someone keeps messaging after I've said no especially if I have has to say it a few times they get blocked. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok so i try to be as nice as i can and not use the block button to often. It is so frustrating that people just dont get it when the word NO is used. Anyone want to add an experiences,ok vent over lol . Enjoy the sun everyone.
Have you tried reverse psychology just for laughs "
Oh yes i did a little bit but he is stubborn aswell. Anyway not just him in general it's the acceptance and tolerance for it . I just keep working on this. How's the baking going honky ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some people think they can wear you down if they keep messaging. It doesn't work. If someone keeps messaging after I've said no especially if I have has to say it a few times they get blocked. "
Yes Bo this is what i mean aswell , i give so many chances then i get annoyed and it's not worthed the headspace so block button . But i wish i didn't have to block at all. |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
This really hot and sexy women message me the other day but my ego told me something better was what I deserved so I told her No I wasn't interested because I deserved better than what she could other me. Why would I want to drive a Honda civic when I advertise for a Aston Martin. |
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"Ok so i try to be as nice as i can and not use the block button to often. It is so frustrating that people just dont get it when the word NO is used. Anyone want to add an experiences,ok vent over lol . Enjoy the sun everyone.
Have you tried reverse psychology just for laughs
Oh yes i did a little bit but he is stubborn aswell. Anyway not just him in general it's the acceptance and tolerance for it . I just keep working on this. How's the baking going honky ?"
Baking is going grand but tbh I'm sorta getting bored of it now lol but I baked a good few things now all went fairly well apart from one thing but it's tricky to get right anyway
I've done
Carrot cake
Apple crumble
Cookies
Gypsy tart(went horribly wrong)
Swiss roll
Gingerbread
Might move on to cooked meals see what I can put together
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Meh just block. It's easy and works. Block and forget. If I don't block then I have to remember all the usernames of the men who don't take no for an answer.. which isn't gonna happen. Block block block. Simples |
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"There would be no need to rant if you used the block button.that is what it's there for
I did but i actually like the person and wouldn't mind playing only for this behaviour. I end up unblocking then and he stops annoying for some time lol. It's a vicious circle i think it will just stay blocked now,i am to forgiving especially if i like person in others ways "
The unblocking is the mistake you made there. No unblocking = no problem |
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Their logic goes thus..
1)Girls here are sluts
2)Sluts will sleep with nearly anyone
3)I just got turned down by a slut
4)Fragile ego takes a hit
5)I'm a good catch I'm sure she simply doesn't understand
6)Ego propped up by hope
7)Message again and im sure this misunderstanding can be ironed out
8)Turned down again! Who does this slut think she is!
9)This filthy slut thinks she is too good for me!
10)These must be something wrong with her if she doesn't want me
11)I'm going to message her and tell her everything I think might be wrong with her.
Repeat with another girl |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"There would be no need to rant if you used the block button.that is what it's there for
I did but i actually like the person and wouldn't mind playing only for this behaviour. I end up unblocking then and he stops annoying for some time lol. It's a vicious circle i think it will just stay blocked now,i am to forgiving especially if i like person in others ways
Maybe your giving off mixed messages then......just my opinion.
When I say no thankyou I mean it. If they reply after I just ignore."
I think Toxic is spot on you're giving mixed messages and by doing so you're stringing him along. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Their logic goes thus..
1)Girls here are sluts
2)Sluts will sleep with nearly anyone
3)I just got turned down by a slut
4)Fragile ego takes a hit
5)I'm a good catch I'm sure she simply doesn't understand
6)Ego propped up by hope
7)Message again and im sure this misunderstanding can be ironed out
8)Turned down again! Who does this slut think she is!
9)This filthy slut thinks she is too good for me!
10)These must be something wrong with her if she doesn't want me
11)I'm going to message her and tell her everything I think might be wrong with her.
Repeat with another girl"
Never truer words were spoken. Block and keep them blocked. Don’t be giving someone false hope for a little ego boost. It’s not really fair on them. If you were going to meet them, you would have by now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Their logic goes thus..
1)Girls here are sluts
2)Sluts will sleep with nearly anyone
3)I just got turned down by a slut
4)Fragile ego takes a hit
5)I'm a good catch I'm sure she simply doesn't understand
6)Ego propped up by hope
7)Message again and im sure this misunderstanding can be ironed out
8)Turned down again! Who does this slut think she is!
9)This filthy slut thinks she is too good for me!
10)These must be something wrong with her if she doesn't want me
11)I'm going to message her and tell her everything I think might be wrong with her.
Repeat with another girl"
This is so so true. Some people mistake us as unpaid sex worker's as we are on this site. So they are baffled when we say no. I politely said not interested recently and they replied that they were probably better off as I must be riddled with everything going being on this site. |
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"Their logic goes thus..
1)Girls here are sluts
2)Sluts will sleep with nearly anyone
3)I just got turned down by a slut
4)Fragile ego takes a hit
5)I'm a good catch I'm sure she simply doesn't understand
6)Ego propped up by hope
7)Message again and im sure this misunderstanding can be ironed out
8)Turned down again! Who does this slut think she is!
9)This filthy slut thinks she is too good for me!
10)These must be something wrong with her if she doesn't want me
11)I'm going to message her and tell her everything I think might be wrong with her.
Repeat with another girl"
Good advice but as op has all men blocked the messages must be from couples or other ladies. |
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By *B 4099Man
over a year ago
North West, Outer Letterkenny area |
"Their logic goes thus..
1)Girls here are sluts
2)Sluts will sleep with nearly anyone
3)I just got turned down by a slut
4)Fragile ego takes a hit
5)I'm a good catch I'm sure she simply doesn't understand
6)Ego propped up by hope
7)Message again and im sure this misunderstanding can be ironed out
8)Turned down again! Who does this slut think she is!
9)This filthy slut thinks she is too good for me!
10)These must be something wrong with her if she doesn't want me
11)I'm going to message her and tell her everything I think might be wrong with her.
Repeat with another girl"
Applies to all sexes of course FN . Doesn't matter the gender, as is here, dating sites, FB ,some people have a huge sense of entitlement behind a screen. And think its OK to handle a polite rejection with being a complete arse. As you say they genuinely believe they deserve a yes every time. Happens on every form of Social Media.
Not putting down others unless others are entitled ball sacks then yes maybe I am.
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